September 16, 2014

Why you should absolutely AVOID this …

mama gena speaking at boot camp

Okay, let’s be honest: there is no woman alive who does not resist pleasure. I very nearly did not make it to a birthday party I was invited to last weekend because I really, really thought I had to unpack. The boxes in my bedroom were talkin’ to me. I had to shut those bad […]

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September 9, 2014

I waited five decades for this.

Mama Gena riding Bellagio

What an extraordinary week! We had Ayodele Moore officiate our sacred office blessing, at the new uptown Palace in Harlem, yesterday, followed by an extraordinary Womanly Arts Unplugged Q and A Call with nearly 1,000 women registered! And today, I stand, closet spilling everywhere, trying to decide what this courtesan will wear to the opening […]

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September 2, 2014

I’m BACK and I’m on fire!

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Darlings!! Hi! Hello! Ohmigoddess, I am so happy to be back here! I’ve missed you so much over the past eight weeks! Wow. My summer has been incredible. I have been riding, writing, swimming, and cooking (yes, you heard me, cooking!) dinners with friends. Meanwhile, I have been following along, the biggest fan ever, with […]

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August 26, 2014

Inviting Abundance

satya at work

Welcome to the final installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Satya, a Mastery Grad from New York City, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Inviting Abundance! Satya, Age 31 – Fashion Entrepreneur & Creative Director This […]

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August 19, 2014

Owning and Operating Men

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Welcome to the seventh installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Jane, a Mastery and Creation Grad from Connecticut, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Owning and Operating Men! Jane, Age 78 – Soon-to-be-Author, Retired Family Counselor […]

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Okay, let’s be honest: there is no woman alive who does not resist pleasure. I very nearly did not make it to a birthday party I was invited to last weekend because I really, really thought I had to unpack. The boxes in my bedroom were talkin’ to me. I had to shut those bad boys up and shake out the one that contained my dancing shoes.

Good times are way scarier and more unpredictable than good old reliable Hard Work and her best friend, Complaining About Stuff.

But, my darlings, in this crazy unpredictable world, there are so very many reasons to open a new box, and say yes. Yes to yourself. Yes to your womanhood. Yes to sisterhood. Yes to your own becoming. Yes to p l e a s u r e.

But, as usual, there are also, always, so many many reasons to say no, aren’t there?

In the spirit of fun, here’s my quick list of all the reasons you should definitely stay far, far away from me and Boot Camp this week! : )

You’re already full of:

flow
freedom
spaciousness
connection
groundedness
fulfilling relationships
sensuality
love for your body
success
abundance
radiance
energy
life force

Your body totally feels:

confident
connected
radiant
fully alive
beautiful
sensuous
proud
turned on
lit up

Your love relationship is:

satisfying
fulfilling
extraordinary
juicy
incredible
hot
a source of pride

Your work life is:

on fire
in flow
dreamy
satisfying
successful
just like you want it

Your community life is:

big
connected
supportive
rich
rewarding
encouraging
inspiring
ass-kicking
loving
intimate
transparent

Your feminine energy is:

strong
in flow
consistent
well-balanced
inspiring
deep
in surplus

Your inner state is:

abundant
excited
thrilled to be alive
available to connect
skilled
appreciative
loving
nourished

Now, if you’ve totally got all these down, then I truly DO NOT want you to join me in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp. Who likes a show off anyway??! Though, that said, I do want you to tell me your secrets in the comments section.  : )

For the rest of us, I invite you to join me as we plunge headlong into the eight Womanly Arts, and work on applying them together, week by week, to create spectacular and extraordinary lives.

This course will completely recreate and recharge every cell in your body as you step into the Fall – whether you’re new to this work, or a grad looking for a refresh. Every year, we get the best stories and extraordinary brags about their breakthroughs as a result.

Boot Camp starts THIS THURSDAY! Now is the time. Will you say YES to you? Hope so.

Love,

I waited five decades for this.

What an extraordinary week! We had Ayodele Moore officiate our sacred office blessing, at the new uptown Palace in Harlem, yesterday, followed by an extraordinary Womanly Arts Unplugged Q and A Call with nearly 1,000 women registered! And today, I stand, closet spilling everywhere, trying to decide what this courtesan will wear to the opening session of The Creation Course on Friday night. My secret delight is knowing there are women all over the country, all over the world, heading to NYC this weekend, with a similarly delicious dilemma.

All of this creation has inspired me to talk about passion with you, today.

I sat on my first horse when I was 2, and I never fully recovered.

Sometimes we have experiences of things that we know are our nature. We can feel that these are encounters that draw us closer and closer to the divine creature that we are, closer still to the woman we were born to become.

I love everything about horses. The way they smell. Their unpredictability. The fact that they let us sit on their backs and ride them.

They are filled with contradiction:
Wild/Collaborative. Powerful/Gentle. Dangerous/Responsive.
I am desperately attracted to contradiction.

And all my life, I wanted to become one of those horsewomen who rides as naturally as she walks, who jumps over fences, and gallops over the countryside.

Growing up in the middle class suburbs of Philadelphia, I never had the opportunity to surrender to my passion. I read books about horses. Played with horse dolls. And told everyone I would be a cowgirl when I grew up.

And up I grew, having close brushes with horses now and then, but never really living my expensive out-of-reach longing. Fortunately, and wonderfully, passions don’t go away. They can’t go away – they are who we are. We can bury them. Banish them. Run from them. When we do that, nothing but suffering ensues.

But, if we are willing to yearn, perfectly, allowing the desire to burn inside of us, feeding it with the joy of simply being a human being, conscious of holding and having a passion – then the gift of that passion will light every corner of our unfolding storylines.

Sometimes this can be frustrating. Hurtful. Sad.
A girl can wonder if her train is ever coming in.
If she will ever get her spin on the dance floor.
If she will ever be the one in the saddle, rather than the spectator.

For many years, I lived on 88th Street, too broke to ever ride the horses that rode in the park on 89th Street. But I loved the sound of their hooves on the pavement. That sound would transport me to another time, another place, a part of me that was poetry and history and privilege and opportunity.
Horseless years passed. Decades, actually.

Then, a few years ago, my goddaughter, Coco, invited me to come with her to the barn, where she rode. I loved watching her. She was fearless on horseback. One day, she talked me into taking a lesson. Then, another. And another. Soon, we were going together, every weekend. We went from one teacher to another. One barn to another. One horse to another. I began to learn how to ride, and to jump, not so high or as fearlessly as she did, but I was doing it – I was finally the rider, not the spectator. The next summer, I went to visit her in England, and she took me galloping across the countryside, me hanging on for dear life, as she gracefully soared. It was amazing.

The more I rode, the more I wanted to ride. On the back of a horse, I was no one’s mother, no one’s teacher, I was Regena, raw, wild, free, child of nature.

Learning how to take control of a 1,500-pound animal, learning to steady him, calm him, and collaborate with him, changed me in ways I could not have predicted. My parenting improved – I was more willing to steer, to guide, to hold a frame, to create specific expectations. I became even more decisive and intuitive as a business owner. I could not just go with the flow- I learned to trust myself to lead, because when I was on horseback, I saw, I felt with my whole being that that was what my horse wanted and needed from me. When I was solid, he could relax. When I left it up to him, we were both lost.

If I had learned to ride one second earlier, I would have never had such valuable insights. Desires are realized in perfect timing. Trust it. {Tweet this!}

This past summer I leased a gorgeous horse called Bellagio. I love this animal. He brings his “A Game,” no matter what. He is all heart, pure love, pure service. I had the summer of my life, getting to ride him every day.

Just for fun, here’s a quick video of the two of us:

Is it embarrassing to be the oldest barn rat at the barn? Kind of. Most of the horse crazy girls are over it by the time they are out of high school. I am just getting started.

But, last week, my teacher told me something I have been longing to hear my whole life. He told me I was ready to show in a horse show.
Do you know what that means?
He thinks I am a good enough rider. To compete with other good enough riders. He thinks I have gained mastery of a sport that I have longed to become accomplished at for 5 decades.
He thinks I have a shot. Whoa. What a feeling. I am so overwhelmed and proud that I have been walking around telling everybody.
All of those years of longing, all of those years of taking the jitney to the barn to take lesson after lesson, and now I realize I can do this.

And now I have to decide if I am going to say yes and actually do it. I have to decide if I can manage the demands of showing a horse – amidst the demands of motherhood, teaching, running a company.
I have to decide if I can step over the line and actually live the fulfillment of this part of my dream, and see what the experience of actually competing in a horse show brings me.

I am on a precipice.
Which is where so many of us find ourselves, in relationship to a desire.
Is it possible to actually take our dream, and live it?
Even when it seems impossible?
Do we have the courage to step over the line?
And go for it, no matter what our age, or our ability, or our inexperience?
Will we allow our yearning to remake us into the women we were born to become?

In the comments below, let me know where you are in the unfolding adventure of your desires.

Have you held a deep unfulfilled longing inside for one, two, five or more decades, like I did?
Are you on the precipice of a part of your own greatness that you could not have ever imagined?
Are you stuck?
Do you feel like your ship will never ever come in?
Or worse – have you given up on a dream?
Do you feel like you are being pressed to go higher?
Have you navigated a similar knothole successfully?

xo,

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p.s. I had an absolute blast taking your Q’s LIVE last night, in our culmination celebration of The Womanly Arts Unplugged. We covered a lot of ground – from men, to orgasm, to unfulfilled desires . . . all over the map and back again. We’ll be sending out the recording later today, and if you didn’t RSVP, you can still get access to the recording, right here.

I’m BACK and I’m on fire!

Darlings!! Hi! Hello!

Ohmigoddess, I am so happy to be back here! I’ve missed you so much over the past eight weeks! Wow. My summer has been incredible. I have been riding, writing, swimming, and cooking (yes, you heard me, cooking!) dinners with friends.

beach_gathering

Meanwhile, I have been following along, the biggest fan ever, with The Womanly Arts Unplugged series on the blog — I’ve read every drop of the posts and each of your beautiful comments. I’m so grateful to Holly, Maurya, Simin, Laurie, Mercedes, Jocelyn, Jane, and Satya for taking such good care of you while I was away, and for provoking such incredible conversations. Aren’t they wonderful?

Let me tell you, darlings, Yo Mama is back, and Yo Mama’s on fire.

I missed you terribly and all I want to do is connect with you, touch you, feel you, and hear what’s up with you. So I have an idea to keep the momentum going, and reconnect with you, LIVE. But first, a brag or two to catch you up! (In a hurry? Get all the info here.)

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Inviting Abundance

Welcome to the final installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Satya, a Mastery Grad from New York City, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Inviting Abundance!

Satya, Age 31 – Fashion Entrepreneur & Creative Director

satyaThis has single handedly been the hardest thing for me to grasp and practice. For a long time, I actually thought I was practicing it. I was raised in a progressive spiritual thinking family, and my Dad taught us to visualize as kids. My understanding was to get what you desired, you just need to see it, smell it exactly as you want it…then it will show up as planned.

The limitation with this approach to Abundance insinuates that I have 100% control and I can get anything I want, as long as I know exactly what it is and go after it. I had many successes thanks to this strategy.

At Mama Gena’s, when a woman states a desire, the response is, “And so it shall be, or something even better.”

As I see it, The Art of Inviting Abundance lies in the “or something even better”. For me, the “even better” has been about letting go, listening and receiving. This goes for every area of my life, not just money.

I’ve learned that The Art of Inviting Abundance is actually about allowing the divine to take the lead. Practicing this Art allows me to experience all that comes to me with love, gratitude, and of course (in my case) a PARTY HAT.

I came to the School of Womanly Arts feeling just fine (thank you very much), but deep down knowing there could be so much MORE. I actually didn’t sign up because I felt I needed to change my life. I came in skeptical, ready to network, and learn a few tricks. I thought I would meet some great gals who’d love what I do (hats & hosiery).

Feathers boas? No thank you. That’s for that girl over there… Anger, resentment? me? No. Thank you. Desires? Yes but I’m really focused on being grateful for what I have, so thank you but I’m okay and perfectly happy where I am. And Men? Well I already have a great guy, and I adore men, thanks!

The things that have shifted since I began the program have rocked me to my core. Little did I know my studies at SWA would shake up my foundation so profoundly, and bring me things that I didn’t even know I desired.

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Owning and Operating Men

Welcome to the seventh installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Jane, a Mastery and Creation Grad from Connecticut, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Owning and Operating Men!

Jane, Age 78 – Soon-to-be-Author, Retired Family Counselor

jane_wykerWhen I first heard of this Art, I remember thinking, “That sounds a bit manipulative…” — but I learned that couldn’t be farther from the truth! This Art is actually a profound practice in intimacy and connection, stemming from a deep love and respect for men. Mama Gena teaches us how to live into our highest expression, inviting the men in our lives to be their best.

I think of The Art of Owning and Operating Men more like, “The Art of Relating to Men,” or “The Art of Loving and Receiving from Men,” or “The Art of Staying in My Pleasure, Receiving My Desires, and Taking Him Higher”!

You can’t separate your relationships with men from your own personal practice of pleasure. In fact, the crux of the practice is becoming aware of what’s in your pleasure, keeping yourself juicy and happy, and then bringing that to your partner and everyone in your life. The first step in this Art is taking exquisite care of your beauty, sensuality, pleasure and creativity.

That is the way to lead your man and your relationship. In modeling that, you gradually teach him to look for his own pleasure and share that with you. It becomes an upward spiral of joy, connection, and intimacy.

Nearly 7 years ago, when I began my studies at the school, I had one question I wanted answered: “Should I stay in this marriage?”

At the time, my marriage was not working and we were very stuck. Recently retired from a successful business career, my husband, Bob, had little sense of who he was, feeling lost and less. We were not having fun, I was unsatisfied with my sex life, and I was beginning to doubt whether that would ever change.

Through my practice in The Art of Owning and Operating Men, and my coursework at the school, I can now say that at age 78, I’ve never felt more happy, beautiful, sexy and sensual, or deeply connected to my husband than I do right now. Yes, 78! At a time of life when most women of my generation have retired their sensuality, I am proof that there is so much more that’s possible.

Bob and I have been married 28 years, and it’s better than ever. I’m so honored to share some of the most powerful lessons we’ve learned along the way with you today.

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