As you know, our Womanly Arts Mastery Program starts in a few weeks, and as we get closer and closer to filling our final seats, women are calling in, and asking the same question every day: Is it the right time to join Mastery? Is this course for me? Should I, could I, invest in myself, and take the leap?
It got me thinking about how this question “how do I know?” shows up so frequently amongst women.
We wonder everything, from “How do I know if this is the right guy for me?” to “How do I know if we should get divorced or not?” “How do I know if I should take this job, or that job?” “How do I know if I should offer my opinion now, or just hold back?” “How do I know if this is the right decision?”
We flip, we flop.
We doubt, we fret.
We judge, we disapprove.
We hate ourselves for our own indecision.
And then, we start the whole cycle over again.
Whaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!! (Me, roaring in frustration.)
The thing that drives me nuts, nuts, nuts about women is our tendency towards indecision. We flip and flop more that a fish out of water.
Those creatures are dying, and guess what? So are we.
We lose weeks, months, years, in indecision.
We feel like we don’t know, or can’t know.
And, reflecting on it, I think indecision is a huge part of us playing small.
We have all been doing it waaaay waaay way too long.
Losing years of life to self-doubt, and depriving the world of the best and most radiant aspects of ourselves.
The truth is that the ability to feel confident in our decisions, to feel like you “know how to know,” is key to living as the fully expressed, empowered women we are. (Click to tweet!)
So this week I want to dedicate the blog to helping you get out of indecision. First, let’s get uber-clear: it is very useful to distinguish uncertainty from indecision. Uncertainty is when you’ve got questions, concerns, and a need more information. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. In fact, I count on you to get to the bottom of your uncertainty by getting all your questions answered and taking the time to research fully.
What I’m talking about is indecision. When you’re actually fairly certain, when part of you knows; in fact, the deepest part of you just knows, but the rest of you is in conflict with yourself about it. At this point, the voices in your head are coming at you, fast and furious, with all kinds of wishy-washy reasons why that part that knows must be wrong, can’t be right, and makes no sense.
So how do we truly know that that part of us knows what is right? How do we really tap into it, and believe its answer? What is our compass, our north star as women? How do we start to trust our deepest, most powerful intuition? How do we connect with our divine truth, without all the cultural static?? continue reading…