August 2011

Written by on August 30, 2011 · 18 Comments

Pop Quiz: Are You Fun?

Darlings,

I don’t know about your hurricane, but I got seriously Irene’d on Friday .
I was happily holed up on Fire Island, working on my book, hanging on the beach, sharing a house with friends, when I got evacuated.
My summer idyll was drawn quickly to a close, and I had to head back to the big bad city, facing a few days of concrete confinement.

Fortunately, I was preparing for this week’s phone call, and had opened the chapter in Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts called, “Having Fun, No Matter What.” (Love that book!)
And I knew I better turn the storm into my personal chance to party.
So I headed to Whole Foods, loaded up the larder, and invited my upstairs neighbors for dinner.
Which started a few days of renting movies, sharing dinners, and going on daily bike rides, in the rain, to the Statue of Liberty.

Which was fun, but yesterday, I found myself a little cranky, landlocked, and longing for adventure.
So I dipped into my School of Womanly Arts tool box, and spring cleaned, bragged, and did gratitudes and desires.
And decided to say yes to any offer that I received that day.
And the offer I got was a wild one.

A new friend of mine invited me to join him at the Russian baths.
And I said yes.
So I grabbed my bikini, jumped into a cab, and headed to the baths.
And proceeded to put myself utterly in his hands as we sat in heat, so scorching, I felt my skin would roll off.
And jumped into cold plunges that made my bones freeze in seconds.  And back to the heat again.
I felt lightheaded.
But no one was fainting.
The piece de resistance was when he and a friend of his (read: total stranger to me) offered to give me a full body scrub.
And sisters, you have not lived until you have been body scrubbed by two adorable men in nearly unbearable heat, and had them throw buckets of ice water over all your bits and pieces.
I felt so exhilarated, so alive, and so squeaky, squeaky clean.

The Womanly Art of Having Fun No Matter What is one of the most essential arts.
When you have this one down pat, you can guarantee your joy no matter what storm blows into your neighborhood. Let me ask you something: How much fun are you having, on a daily basis? Take this little quiz to find out (and post your answers in the comments below)…

Pop Quiz: Are You Fun?

1. When faced with news about the hurricane, you…

A)   Bought a 6-pack and picked up your remote control
B)   Obsessively watched CNN
C)   Threw a party for yourself
D)   Threw a party for others

2. When your date doesn’t show up on time, or blows you off, you…
A)    Lunge at his nuts or attack him verbally
B)    Call your girlfriends and complain about him and all the times this has happened to you in your life
C)    Start flirting with the guy next to you at the bar
D)    Take yourself out on an exquisite date, even more glamorous and fabulous than the one you were supposed to have with him

3. When waking up in the morning…

A)    You drag your ass out of bed, throw something on, and head for the subway with sweaters on your teeth
B)    You rue the day you were born, the expensive education you are still paying for, and the tedious job you are suiting up for
C)    Your alarm wakes you up with Beyonce’s “Love on Top,” you run through a naked Sun Salutation, shower with Jo Malone bodywash, and ride your bike to work in your miniskirt
D)    You roll over, grab your lover, take your pleasure, and head for work, soaked in ecstasy

4. You’re running a little chubby these days. Too much Fatty Cue and ice cream? Whatever.

A)    You hate your reflection and slip into your old, comfy, elastic waistband fat suit, for the third day in a row
B)    You head straight for the kitchen and open a bad of chips and French onion dip (who still eats that stuff, anyway?), followed by a freight load of Chips Ahoy. And then head for McDonald’s after that tidy snack
C)    You decide that no matter how chubsy-wubsy you are, you are the hottest thing that ever lived and you sprinkle stardust and fun everywhere you go
D)    You dress exquisitely, blow kisses to your hips, your belly, and your ass in the mirror, do a dance break, and flirt with every woman, man, and child you encounter during the day

5. You hate your boring, meaningless job…

A)    You punch the clock, and then proceed to watch the clock until you can escape at day’s end
B)    You complain about your boss to anyone who will listen, surfing the internet endlessly, and do as little as possible
C)    You decide to look hot, take pleasure breaks, put flowers on your desk, and make gourmet lunches for yourself to maintain your fun
D)    You decide to become the pleasure cheerleader for your office, bring homemade cupcakes to celebrate Monday, make your way around to everyone’s desk to give them a compliment, and organize a softball game after work.

Scoring:

Mostly A’s: You are a woman who takes zero responsibility for her pleasure and doesn’t even realize it.
Mostly B’s: You take little responsibility for your pleasure but know you could be having way more fun in life, you just don’t know how.
Mostly C’s: You know how to live life as a Pleasure Revolutionary and get yours by the day’s end!
Mostly D’s: You take such responsibility for your pleasure that you inspire others to do the same and spread your magic wherever you go, making the world an even more fun place to be!

I’ve said it time and time again. Pleasure is a discipline. Having fun doesn’t just happen to you, you’ve got to practice it, sisters, every single day. Need a refresher course in the Art of Having Fun No Matter What? Click here to register for my free tele-class this Thursday! I’ve got a juicy surprise that I’ll be announcing at the end of the call. And be sure to post your answers to the quiz in the comments section below, and I’ll check in with you next week to see how the call impacted you. And if you know you’re ready to become master of this and every other essential Womanly Art, join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

Written by on August 23, 2011 · 11 Comments

Top 5 Ways Women Blow It with Men and How to Triumph

Darlings,

First and foremost, to my sisters who love sisters: read “partner” when I write “men.”
I say “men” because it feels sassier to me.  But all this stuff works both ways; you can even pass it along to your gay guy friends.

Women, we are geniuses.  Brilliant.  Glorious. Powerful.
But if you want to bring a radiant powerhouse to her knees in no time flat, put her right dead across from a guy who she has a ginormous crush on. Or sit her next to her cell phone the day after a hot flirt and watch how many thousands of times she checks for messages.

Or watch what our married, glorious, genius powerhouse does when her well-meaning husband fails to remember her birthday. Or check out her response when she comes home from work, exhausted, to a messy house, no dinner, and her husband is sacked out on the sofa.

A CEO who runs her company with one hand tied behind her back, becomes utterly tongue-tied.
A world leader twitters and swoons like a tweenager at a Justin Bieber concert.
A perfectly reasonable social worker turns into a raging, nail-spitting shrew.
And many, many, many women feel so clueless they just pull themselves out of the game and sit on the sidelines, watching the rest of us make fools of ourselves.

And what you don’t know is this:  I wrote the Womanly Arts as a way of giving myself, and all women, a method to stay grounded and centered as we navigate the world of love, sex, and partnership–with the alien.

Because as soon as we give ourselves up and try with all our might to please our partner, the whole boat sinks.

Click here to listen to my audio guide to the top five ways women blow it with men and how to triumph:

Top 5 Ways Women Blow It with Men and How to Triumph

To recap, here are the top five ways women blow it with men:

1.  They try to stuff the guy into a husband suit way too fast
2.  They don’t tell him what they want, and expect him to read their minds
3.  They do not express their gratitude
4.  They expect him to turn them on, and they stop flirting
5.  They wait, rather than act

And here’s the Pleasure Revolution solution:

1.  Finding fun, no matter what
2.  Desire list
3.  Man-training cycle
4.  Flirtation
5.  Owning and Operating Men

Wanna really have your way with the world of men? Join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp.

Let me know what you thought of this audio and whether or not it was helpful. I love getting your feedback. Be sure to leave a comment below!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

Written by on August 18, 2011 · 16 Comments

Top 5 Ways Women Lose Their Pleasure and How to Find It Again

Darlings,

It is always hiding in the last place you look.
Yesterday, I was looking everywhere for my bracelet that I took off the previous day, just before my shower.
I remembered taking it off.
But I could not remember where I put it down.
And I looked everywhere, had my kid and my mom looking everywhere, on our hands and knees, but no bracelet.
It was like it vaporized.
But I did not stop looking.  And I became more and more hysterical inside, with every spin through the house.
Because I knew it was there, I just could not find it.

Neglected pleasure feels just like that.
Just like that.
You have done whatever you could to make good decisions.  You have worked hard.  You have hit the marks that everyone told you about.
And there is still something vital that is missing, that fills you with an uncomfortable upset inside, that intensifies the harder you try to find it.

So, I want to give you the roadmap to the top five ways that women lose their pleasure and how to find it again, so you can stop your search, and find yourself, in a whole new way. Click here to begin your audio lesson:

Top5WaysWomenLosePleasure

To recap, here are the top five ways women lose their pleasure:

1.  She is stuck in the misery of a long-term relationship where she feels stifled, undervalued, and ignored, or she is not dating because all the good ones are taken, and she is certain she will never find a great guy, even before she gets out of the starting gate.

2.  She hates her job and feels underpaid and under-appreciated.

3.  She feels fat, even though she’s not, she feels old, even though she’s not, and she feels like everyone else is sexier than she is.

4.  She has it together, and she has created a lot of what she wants, but there is still a nameless longing inside of her that leaves her sad and lonely at her core.

5.  She feels a deep sense of hopelessness and immobility as she looks at her options.

And here are the simple, proven methods you can implement right now to find your pleasure again:

1.  Start your day with the Daily Fluffs for a little morning pleasure inspiration.

2.  Every Thursday, create a new desire list and send your desires out into the twitterverse on #DesireThursdays with Mama Gena.

3.  Choose a theme song, for your day, every day, that speaks to your soul.  Give yourself a dance break and sing-along break every couple of hours.  Today, mine is “Manhattan” by Kings of Leon.

4.  Pretend that the streets are your runway, you are the hottest woman on the planet, and that everyone wants you, as you head for work, run a meeting, or do your supermarket supermom thang.  I have learned to rock this in flip flops, sneakers, or stilettos.

5.  Lip gloss.  Always lip gloss.  It never fails.  Current fave:  Laura Mercier’s Bellini.

Wanna really press your pleasure edge? Join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp!

What other tips do you have as a safeguard against the top five ways women lose their pleasure? Be sure to leave a comment below!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

Written by on August 16, 2011 · 6 Comments

The Move to Make When You Want to Make a Move

Darlings,

When I want something, I know how to get it.
How many women can say that?
Most of us were taught everything, but.
Learning how to fulfill someone else’s desires for us is a very different game than fulfilling our own.
Learning how to defer your dreams is a very different game than getting what you want, exactly how you want it, exactly when you want it.
Having a community of support for every twist and turn in your adventure, is very different than slogging it through, alone.

What happens when you are 67 years old, moving across the country to a town where you don’t know anyone, leaving your grown-up daughters to start a brand new life with your retired husband, and you just gotta have some fun, some community, and sink some strong, fast roots in your new life?

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Before joining Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp, I had just moved from upstate New York—my home of thirty years—to a small town in South Carolina. My husband is a horseback rider, and this particular town offered a variety of riding events, making it an ideal place to retire. But never in a million years did I think I would end up there, so far from everything I had ever known.

 

I couldn’t have stepped further outside my comfort zone. And it scared me. I knew not a single soul. Was this really worth the sacrifice of living near my friends and family, particularly my two daughters? Would I be missing more than I would gain? I had traded deep-seated comfort for pervasive uncertainty. I wanted something of my own…but what? How would I begin to create a new life, hundreds of miles away from the people I loved the most?

 

All I knew was that I needed to feel more alive again. Having been a two-time graduate of the Womanly Arts Mastery Program, I understood the difference between a Sister Goddess who consistently engages the Tools and Arts and one who does not. One is juicy, the other is…crusty. And I was feeling pretty crusty.

 

That’s the thing about crustiness—it can be so insidious. Before you know it, you wake up every morning with a general feeling of malaise. You don’t want to get dressed up anymore. You hold back. You stop putting yourself out there. It would be easier to just stay inside your own cocoon…

 

I found that I desperately needed a sense of connection, and on top of that I worried it would be harder to meet people, now that I was not working. So when I heard about Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to reconnect with the Sister Goddess community and get my emergency juice transfusion.

 

I hesitated signing up because I wasn’t sure it would be worth the money to try to interact with Sister Goddesses I had never met, just by computer and over the phone. But because I didn’t yet know anyone in my new hometown, I felt I needed the support to prevent myself from isolating and missing my daughters and friends and family so intensely. I knew I needed to reach outside myself and find my footing in community again. So despite my nervousness and doubt, I made the move.

 

As soon as I joined Boot Camp, I found myself opening up to many experiences in my new environment. I became more courageous at taking chances and reaching out to people. I created a Desire List (my favorite Tool), and during the program, two of my biggest desires came about simultaneously. I had wanted to meet strong, confident, open-minded women that I could relate to. I also wanted to ignite my passion for journaling. And it just so happened that I was invited to attend a lecture as part of a women’s group called “Sisterhood of the Spirit,” on the topic of journaling! I joined the group immediately and eventually formed my own journaling group with some of the women. These new friends added such dimension to my life. On top of that, I even started taking Tai Chi. And all of these new experiences stemmed from my decision to become disciplined about my pleasure, in community with my Sister Goddesses.

 

One of my favorite features of Boot Camp was the teleclasses with Mama Gena and Dr. Anne Davin. These two women really play off one another in a beautiful way. I loved how Anne was able to dissect the Arts and Tools on a technical level, and Mama Gena added her outrageous flair. Even though I had taken Mastery twice, I was amazed at how much I continued to learn. And because I tend to be a more logical person, I appreciated the technical breakdown of each Art and Tool. I began to understand the technology on a whole new level, and the best part was that I could do it at my own pace.

 

The practice calls were intoxicating. It was such a turn-on to hear women introduce themselves by their nicknames (mine was Pink Goddess of Peace). The leaders of the calls were all super coaches. It was just like working out. I got to practice brags, gratitudes, and desires with my sisters and participate at my own level. We also had breaks in between the calls, with time to practice the Tools and Arts in our day-to-day lives.

 

Traveling to Miami for the World Wide Sister Goddess Reunion was another highlight—when I could finally meet my sisters in person and put a face to a name. I was totally immersed in the Pleasure Revolution. The whole experience made me realize that I am always a Sister Goddess, even if I don’t feel like it at any given moment.

 

I now practice the Tools and Arts so frequently that I can share them even with other women who are not a part of the Sister Goddess community. I am constantly writing Desire Lists before every event, phone call, and family function. I used to tell myself, “I can’t have that,” or “It’s too much money.” I’ve now learned to hone my skills with the Womanly Arts and Tools to such a degree that when I want something, my mantra is “Go for it, girl!” My eyes are more open. I feel a greater sense of possibility. I go out more. I glow. I make much more of an effort to own my beauty, not because of what someone else will think but just because it makes me feel so much more alive and juicier.

 

It’s easy to revert to old ways of thinking, feeling, or acting when you are not in touch with women who are empowered to radiate their own divinity. My experience in Boot Camp reminded me how important it is to keep in touch with Sister Goddesses in order to feel the juice that gives me inspiration. Our enthusiasm is contagious!

 

–Sister Goddess Geri

Woman, it’s your time.
We have charted the course.
The Tools and Arts are in place.
All you have to do is show up, do the work of pleasure, and you will get results that will light your hanky pankies on fire. Join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

Written by on August 1, 2011 · 10 Comments

The Single Most Important Truth of Man-Training

Darlings,

Man-training.

When I say those words, does your heart sing?  Or sigh?

Do you feel a sweet “Oh, yeah, sister, I am so good for that!”

Or do you want to turn the page, change the channel, and cancel your subscription to Match.com?

Here is the pure truth:

SG Nicole: Read her story below...

Whether we like it or not, whether we take advantage of this opportunity or not, women are the source in the man-woman game.

The relationship lives or dies depending on your desires, and how good you are at training your man (partner). A man is not, nor has he ever been, in control of the relationship. Great partnership is up to you, me, us–not him. If you have the desire, and if you have the Tools and Arts, you can set the stage for an incredible relationship, when you get your hands on some really good raw material.

No man can say that. Just like a horse requires a great rider to become the champion he was born to be, a man requires a skilled, passionate woman to become the magnificent partner he was born to be. And deep down, every woman knows this, and longs for this kind of education.

Where to acquire it?

The School of Womanly Arts Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp is an incredible training ground for a woman to up-level her man-training skills, and learn how to take pleasurable control of her relationship life.

Read how Sister Goddess Nicole, aka Sorceress, totally turned her marriage around, in a matter of weeks…

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Picture this: living in Australia, newly married, purchased our first home, sold our family company, unemployable, new baby, from career woman to stay-at-home-mum, renovating a house with a six-month-old, moved in with my parents, etc.—all within a two-year period. Aghhh!

 

I felt like life had just chewed me up and spat me out. I was searching to find me again. It seemed that everything that I did, in those days, was about serving the men in my life (my husband and my little man). It was part agony and part ecstasy—like a pendulum swinging back and forth—and I wanted it to STOP. My marriage had really gone to the dogs. My husband Gavin went from being my best friend to just a guy that I occasionally shared a bed with. Our conversation had disintegrated to “How’s the baby? How did he sleep today? What did he eat?” I felt so alone.

 

I’d had enough of living this way, and one night I stumbled across Mama Gena while searching for YouTube clips that would help me get out of this rut. Mama spoke about Sistergoddess.com, and my heart began to beat again, my body tingled inside. I joined the online community without knowing one thing about her. The moment I entered the site I felt like my soul had found a home amongst the most amazing women on the globe, and I was fascinated. “Spring Cleaning,” “womantras,” “bragging”—what was this language? What the hell are “the tools?”

 

My journey of self-discovery had only just begun before I heard Mama Gena mention Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp (VPBC), and my soul screamed for more. I wanted to master my life, not just get it back on track. Back on track is no way to live, not when you are a Goddess, right, girls? One night when the boys were asleep, I flipped through my wedding photos. I stared for ages at a photo of Gav and I kissing on our wedding day. God, I wanted that back! I wanted the passion, I wanted the excitement, I wanted the love and lust. I wanted to be more than just a mum.

 

But I had one major hesitation about signing up: the price. At the time, we had only $2,000 to our name. Logically, there was no way I could afford the course, especially with a baby to take care of. But my whole body was telling me that I had to do it. I remember flipping through Doreen Virtue’s Goddess cards while on the phone with another Sister Goddess, asking myself the question, “Do I do this?” And I drew a card that read, “Leap of faith.” My husband even said, “F— it Nic, we’ll work it out.” So…I decided to jump into the great unknown and join Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp. Two days later the bank extended us a $200k secured credit—I had completely forgotten that might be coming! And that was just the beginning…

 

Honestly, to be drenched in Mama Gena and Dr. Anne Davin’s wisdom and to have the support of the Pleasure Revolutionaries on the Q&A boards and my VPBC sisters was nothing short of mind-blowing. Every time I listened to the Womanly Arts tele-classes or talked to my fellow sisters on the practice calls, I plunged further and further into the depths of knowing myself as a woman. When stuck, I would post a question to the Pleasure Revolutionaries (E.g., How does the Inner Bitch love the prick?) and receive the most profound answers that gave me so much clarity and direction.  It took me higher and higher.

 

The most exciting thing that happened was that while I soaked in my pleasure, my husband, who used to sit on the sidelines, decided to join in. He and I went from grunting at each other to spending candlelit nights “spring cleaning” together in a bath full of rose petals and milk. Yep, you read right, he was my spring cleaning partner on the topic of “what is right with our marriage?” At one point I said to him “My love for you is what’s right,” and he looked at me with tears in his eyes. We sat in connected stillness. Now that is Man-Training.

 

Our relationship turned into pure gold. We found a new kind of passion and respect for each other and the best thing about it was that it just organically unfolded because I finally respected me. I served myself first and my world changed. (I am going to let you in on a secret of mine: my ultimate weapon is the tool “Bitte et Chat.” I would do VPBC just to learn how to master this one!)

 

Since VPBC I have continued to study the Womanly Art of Owning Your Beauty. I got my colors done, re-learned how to apply makeup, joined a gym, studied the Nia movement practice, etc. I am continuing to master my Man-Training and am leading my husband and I into a relationship that I could have only dreamed of. We have now studied Tantra and Sheri Winston’s profound online seminars together and are taking our relationship to the most celebratory heights. He is in full service to me and we are both loving it.

 

Not to mention, on my one-year VPBC anniversary, we are going to receive a huge amount of money from the share in my husband’s grandfather’s home. In one year, we have gone from broke to living in a totally mortgage-free million-dollar home. I know I am being rewarded for my initial leap of faith. And on top of that, I am getting ready to launch my own business venture. So as you can see, I have also become highly adept in the Art of Inviting Abundance.

 

I now look at my wedding photo and no longer want that life back because girls, I have so so so much more, and honestly I could not have done this just by reading a book. So if you are considering joining VPBC, just jump in and get ready to have your life changed forever.

 

–SG Nicole, aka “Sorceress”

P.S.  Will I be doing VPBC again? Hell, yeah. Mastering my pleasure is now my way of life.

Sisters, you have been warned. This is what happens to a woman when she rigorously practices the Womanly Arts and Tools, in community: she raises her orbit to unimaginable heights. And through pursuing her own pleasure, she has the power to elevate everyone in her vicinity.

If you’re interested in creating juicy, delicious, incredible relationships in your life, we have a space for you in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp. Enroll online or call The Palace at 212-787-2411 x1.

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena