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Are You Beautiful?

When was the last time you felt beautiful?
Are you beautiful?

I am beautiful.
Are you?
I am soft, slim, sleek, and sensual. I take time, every day, to appreciate, exercise, stretch, and celebrate my body.
Do you?
My hair is either a mess of curls, or swept into a soft straight swing, at my pleasure.
I take a hot bath, every night in Epsom salts, with a Rose scented candle, while reading an inspiring book. (This week: Shades of Grey and The Unlikely Peace at Cuchamaquic.)  How do you celebrate the end of your day?

I start every morning at my altar, with prayers of thanks and adoration. The first thing to touch my lips is a huge glass of lemon water, followed by a fantastic workout at either Soul Cycle, with my icon and rock star, Danny Kopel, or the Y with my workout buddy. Then home to shower, and slather myself with Jo Malone’s Grapefruit and Basil body lotion. I slip on a pink terrycloth robe, and head to the kitchen to make a gorgeous fresh green smoothie with kale, sprouts, spinach and banana. And a toasted slice of fruit and nut mana bread.
Does your morning ritual feed your heart, body, mind and soul?

I choose something from my closet that presses me further into my beauty. I like being barefoot as I work, so jeans with a flowing top, or a dress that can be enhanced by bare legs and a fresh pedicure is what is required to allow me to jump from folded knees into a dance break at a moment’s notice. Not much makeup, a touch of jewelry, always lip gloss.
How about you? Do you dress for you? Or for someone else’s standards?
I have the tiniest commute in the world. I walk through a large metal door from my living room to my office, and hit my leopard faux fur covered chair and take the reigns of the wild filly called The School of Womanly Arts.
How do you begin your day?

I am 55 years old.
55 can be a time of a woman’s life where she begins to question her own beauty. Hellswheels, darlings, who are we kidding, here? Any age can be a time in a woman’s–or a girl’s–life where she starts to question her own beauty. We have all been ill informed by a culture that teaches us to doubt ourselves with way more certainty than it takes to trust ourselves. And when a woman doubts herself, even a shred, even a drop, her beauty is diminished. Eventually, vanquished.

But, you will be relieved to learn, beauty is always right there.
Right exactly here.
Just by your side.
It is just a reach, a stretch, a spiritual practice away.
Really, Mama?
Are you sure it is not doled out at birth?

Hells no, my Symphony.
Beauty, She is a spiritual practice.
She must be courted, tended to, and served. Like the queen she is.
And every woman, yes, every woman, whether she is 15, 55, or barely alive, can invite Beauty into her court and have her cast her magic spell.
I was standing in line at a Starbucks this morning, just behind a woman in her late 70s. Who was gazing up adoringly at the man she was with. Wearing shocking red lipstick and a brightly colored coat, cutting through the rainy day doldrums with her adorable adoration and charm.
I want what she’s having.
What is she having?
A serving of beauty so wide, so large, so rapturous, it melted centuries, not just years, and took me to an eternal place of iconic feminine rapture which is available to all of us, all the time, when we are diligent about the spiritual practice of Owning our Beauty.

Here is a small serving of homework from page 110 of my gorgeous book, Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. This exercise is called, “You Are Cinderella and Her Fairy Godmother.” Each of us has areas of our life and experiences that we want but hold back on, often telling ourselves we can’t have it because we are not “beautiful” enough. It’s time to blast through that barrier, my lovelies. And with this exercise you can do just that. Answer this question, on paper: “How would my life be different if I were beautiful?” Make your list and, perhaps, share it with a girlfriend. Have at least five to twenty things on your list. You will be surprised at the revelations that surface for you. One Sister Goddess said that if she were beautiful, she would be nicer to her husband. Another single Sister Goddess said she could pick up any guy she wanted. Perhaps for you it’s a raise, or a new apartment, or great sex. See what’s on the list, and then you can decide if you want to move on any of those goals now.

Please post your favorite ways of celebrating The Womanly Art of Owning Your Beauty below. Each of us can learn so much from each other’s practices. (Pssst, did you know that when you become a fan of our Facebook page, you receive a free audio lesson in this Art? Click the “Like” button on this page to get the lesson.)

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. If you really wanna hone your skills in the Womanly Art of Owning Your Beauty, check out Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp.


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  • Tiffany Hope January 22, 2013, 9:36 pm

    Dearest Mama,

    I’m sure you told us to write this “How would I be different if I was beautiful” thing because you knew halfway through we’d crumple it up (at least that’s what I did.) As I was writing it I just felt as if I was sulking and writing things that were absolutely unrealistic and condemning the natural gifts God gave me. Midway through I said “what the hell are you talking about, you are beautiful!” You planned that didn’t you! Even if its just for a little while until I reach my next bout of insecurity because that’s just real, but for now you just pushed that back a little further, I’m sad I won’t be able to attend the seminar the 26th I can’t get off of work but I will be following you religiously online. I love you and all you represent. Your friend Tifa.

  • Barbara Mauldin May 18, 2012, 1:09 am

    I love being with God and listening to His voice. Soaking in music that lifts me spiritually and opens my heart to Him. Waiting for His Glory Light to bring healing to my body and restoring my soul. Angels swirling around the room, singing and praising God to the music. I gave my heart and life to Him and now I want more and more of Him. I kiss His feet with my lips and He takes my tears, not letting one go to waste. Awesome feeling, wanting to be lifted higher and higher. Goodness and Mercy waiting for the Shekinah Glory to leave our presence so they can follow me the rest of my life……..

  • Jo April 30, 2012, 7:31 pm

    I know this post is weeks after the initial posting but this is the first time that I have ever posted to a blog … hopefully its not too late to respond! Beautiful is never a word that I would use to describe myself. Even as a very young child, I remember adults pointing out my dark circles asking me if I was sick or tired. At 51, I am still self-conscience to this day.
    A couple of days after reading your post, I visited my beautiful daughter at college for a mother-daughter weekend. As we were shopping for her, she made the comment ‘I am in a fatty stage because my butt is so big.’ I then told her to get something that highlights her butt and reminded her of her beauty. A few minutes later she asked me if I had found anything to buy and when I said ‘No’, she said, ‘Why are you in a fatty stage?’ . My response was ‘No, I am in a beautiful stage.’ She smiled and said ‘Yes, you are.’

    It has taken 51 years to be able to say that. A couple of weeks later, I remind myself that I am beautiful though somes days the words don’t come with the same ease and conviction as on other days.

    Thank you for reminding women each and every day, that we matter and that we are a priority and most of all that we are beautiful.

  • Jasmine Burems April 23, 2012, 11:26 am

    Wow, my life’s work is about exactly this! -Women’s Daily Self-Love Rituals…I enjoy meditation each morning before shifting my attention to my desires.. I pour fresh water from my beautiful glass carafe into a wine glass (I love the to drink from glass)..I shower by CANDLELIGHT with my own HONEY & GOLD brand Honey Wash, massaging and lathering my scalp and body with the energizing, vintage bergamot-mint fragranced honey wash…then I carry the candles into my bedroom, plop down into a comfy seat, insert my beloved ‘Rose Quartz Yoni Egg’ and start to engage my feminine muscles in an energizing sensual strength/kegel/taoist practice as I massage my entire body with ‘Body Nectar Ritual’, an organic lymphatic drainage and circulation treatment…I use the ‘Nectar’ to do a daily lymphatic breast massage (instead of a nerve-wracking monthly exam for breast cancer).
    Then I’ll boil water to infuse a cup of ’24K Glistening Womb Wellness Tea’, I love to drink pure gold!.. or ‘Beauty Minerals Tea’ for a delicious raw-chocolate chai..
    If I’m REALLY IN THE MOOD FOR DEEP FEMININE PAMPERING…I take the rest of the boiled water and pour it over my HONEY & GOLD ‘Yoni Steam Treatment’, a beautiful blend of organic herbs, like a facial for my vagina! soothing, moisturizing, toning to vaginal tissues and DEEPLY relaxing…When I’m not pampering with my own organic products, I’m working on developing my business, HONEY & GOLD (, eating inspiring, energizing, healthy foods, caring for the plants in my home and garden, dreaming…or finding ways and reasons to laugh and sweat, two things I think all women should do each day.

  • Nelda April 16, 2012, 6:21 pm

    Thank you SG’s! I guess I do have rituals, splash of lavender oil on a beautiful shard, on to a warm bath with a cold rinse. I too enjoy coconut oil all over…all over!! Need to incorporate more green smoothies! You are an inspiration, Mama Gena!! Cheers!

  • Shann April 16, 2012, 5:04 pm

    Your post made me think of one of my favorite quotes. Thank you.

    “The moment a woman comes home to herself, the moment she knows she has become a person of influence, an artist of her life, a sculptor of her universe, a person with rights and responsibilities who is respected and recognized, the resurrection of the world begins.” 
    – Sister Chittister

  • Cathy April 12, 2012, 7:44 am

    Well, ladies, it never occurred to me that I could just decide that I am beautiful and treat myself as such! What an eye opener, I am so excited to apply this new outlook to life. Thank you all for the inspiration!

  • Neeshan April 11, 2012, 4:27 pm

    If I were more beautiful….
    I would take out all the anxiety of getting dressed
    and celebrate every inch of me..instead of hiding the parts of me I don’t care for…
    I’d wear gorgeous athletic clothing…and loose, flowing dresses and skirts with comfortable open shoes and gorgeous polished toes!
    My skin would glow with vibrant health..
    I would be way more daring… wear strapless tops and high heels when I felt like it and shorter dresses and wilder, bigger curly hair!
    I wouldn’t try to wear clothes that showed no cleavage..I’d celebrate my sexiness…
    Maybe if i was more beautiful…
    i’d live somewhere that was more cosmopolitan, urban, chic and flamboyant!
    If I were more beautiful I’d walk with a prince of a partner by my side…gorgeous, peaceful and soulful.
    i’d step out into the world 100%

  • Neeshan April 11, 2012, 2:12 pm

    what pleasure I will take tonight as I celebrate the ending of my day…
    A bath,
    writing in my journal,
    kissing my precious sons,
    reading a delicious book
    brushing my teeth and flossing with love…
    surrounding myself with a clean, orderly, beautiful bedroom.
    thank you to all of you for sharing.
    what an inspiration to start and end my day off with pleasure!!

  • Kate Goldsborough April 11, 2012, 11:05 am


    Thank you for this! And for the upride in having my picture here doing your styling.

    My rituals include feeling my luscious body all over when I first wake up as taught to me by you and Davin that first day in Inner Circle.

    I have tea and read something inspiring (intelligent pussy turned on by ideas!) and then I hit the trail and hike my property often spring cleaning as I go. I never neglect lipstick ever. Whether I run into a moose in the woods or my landlord repairing stone walls, I want to look cute.

    Often I stop on on my perching rock and meditate for long enough to make thoughts disappear. I pass my tree where I do my bashing you taught me to do. This reminds me I have tools and all is well whether life is feeling fun or intense.

    I come back and bathe, put rose or coconut all over my body feeling all my curves as I go and head back to make the bed, AFTER I DO MY SELF PLEASURING.

    Then I tidy up listening to Grace Potter or if in another mood, Krishna Das or Vivaldi.

    For extra points to juice up my day, I stop at the tire place or the deli and flirt my ass off to remind myself that it’s all vibrations, MINE, that make my world fun.

    I upride and teach women about their styling and inner beauty all day long and try to practice what I preach.

    I hit the gym every night I don’t go to yoga and lift heavy weights for 30 to 40 minutes then play basketball to amuse myself.

    I attempt to go to bed in the hour that has a 10 in it. Anywhere from 10 to 10:59.

    Love all I continue to learn from you.
    Thank you.
    Kate G

    • mama gena April 12, 2012, 9:15 am

      thank you for your amazing styling!!

  • Kate April 11, 2012, 9:03 am

    “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,
    deserve your love and affection.”
    — Buddha
    A pretty good source to listen to…..wouldn’t you agree?

  • Francine Bettencourt April 10, 2012, 11:46 pm

    Thank you so much for this lovely post. Honoring our beauty is an amazing love letter to our selves.

  • Liliana April 10, 2012, 9:08 pm

    How inspiring – Regena – I love every single step of your day- and now aspire to create my own – and own and adore my beauty which for so many years I doubted. This is the right time and place in my life to learn and explore pleasure and beauty and all that I can desire attract with this new experience and attitude. THANK YOU!

  • Katie April 10, 2012, 7:57 pm

    Mama Gena, thank you!!!!!!! You are such an inspiration. I just printed this blog post, and am putting it on my bathroom mirror to remind me EVERYDAY. xo

  • tasha April 10, 2012, 4:34 pm

    I am trying so hard to love myself
    So hard, after bad words have been said about me being old by my husband of more than 20 years, when he practically dropped me for an exotic women, 25 years his junior…
    Hard to start to love yourself on your own, when his words are always present deep in my mind.
    But when I open my eyes in the morning, I try to enjoy the view from my bed through the window, looking at the huge cypress trees moving their branches on the wind. They are so sensitive to even slightest air movement, so elegant, so gracile. So beautiful and poetic, they make me think about far away countries and art and whole world’s beauty.
    This gives me peace and I feel relaxed and able to start my day in this beautiful world.
    With me being grateful for the ability to see it and to be part of it….
    If I would be young (which automatically means beautiful!) – that will be different story from mine.
    For me now to be elegant and relaxed, and wise and confident, and friendly, and open minded means to be beautiful. With all these one can have so many friends (and not just women) and one can help to so many to see/find the light….

    • mama gena April 12, 2012, 9:13 am

      you are more beautiful than you know…

  • T. L. Cooper April 10, 2012, 2:31 pm

    I am beautiful, and most days I know it, feel, it, and cherish it! Beauty is about seeing yourself with your flaws and knowing your flaws make you unique rather than ugly. My body isn’t perfect, but it’s healthy. I’m healthy. As for morning rituals: I do yoga 5 days a week. I drink green tea immediately after my yoga routine. I have a yogurt smoothie most weekdays for breakfast. Weekends I have eggs or oatmeal, and I allow myself the occasional indulgence of pancakes or waffles without ever feeling guilty. I don’t wear makeup. I do a gratitude meditation every morning. I look in the mirror at least once during the morning just to smile at myself and remember the importance of smiling.
    When I have a down day as I’m having today, I give myself permission to feel exactly what I’m feeling so I can release it.
    When I feel take care of myself, I smile more easily, laugh more heartily, and my facial muscles relax. All of which contribute to beauty.

  • Michelle Medina April 10, 2012, 1:43 pm

    I to walk/dance on the treadmill, love that one!

  • Claudia April 10, 2012, 1:01 pm

    First my one of my rituals is that I always curl my eyelashes and wear mascara. I love to highlight my eyes. After all they are the window to the soul. I don’t do it if I am hOme, but when going out it is a must. But I must admit, I don’t have many rituals for myself :0(. I am inspired by this blog.

    Now how would my life be different if I were beautiful?
    Well to be honest, I secretly think that I am beautiful, but I don’t understand why others don’t see it. Well at best I am cute. My weight kind of goes up and down and my face is puffy, so when that happens I am not quite as cute, but I am not ugly.

    Well if I were more beautiful my life would be better. My husband wouldn’t want to look at other women. My kids might pay me a compliment. I would be more feminine. I would dress more lovely. I would care more about my appearance. I would make better first impressions. I might get my way more often. I might have a better job. My mom would love me more and not criticize me so much. My parents would have been more Proust of me. I’d have more friends. Maybe I’d be famous. I wouldn’t be so insecure. People would be nicer to me. I would exercise more. I would feel more loved.

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:17 pm

      i see your beauty- and i have not even had the privilege of meeting you!

  • Annabel -- Goddess of Wetness April 10, 2012, 11:58 am

    8,978 people LIKE Facebook’s School of Womanly Arts page! Now THAT’s encouraging! Oh, Regena, I love that you are sharing your morning rituals. Mine is a simple, very basic, every day for decades event: a hot bath soak. While in the bath I eat my morning fruit: either papaya or pineapple, because those are the very high digestive enzymes foods, with my daily algae (immune booster, protein, vitamin and trace mineral source–my foundational food. Then it’s all a matter of what’s next whether I just lay back and listen to the news or read a magazine or a book or write down dreams that come percolating up. What I do NOT do in the tub is try to manage my day with lists of TO-DO and NOT-TO-DO. That’s for later. Sometimes, if I’m starved, I’ll bring a nice bowl of granola into the bathroom with me for that soak because I’m usually in the tub for between half an hour and an hour. On an easy breezy day I’ll be in there, reheating the water, for an hour and a half. I learned to do this from my orthopedist who suggested I start my day stress free. I’ve got a malformed disc and haven’t had a lick of trouble with it for ages. The hot soak relaxes me to prepare to meet the roughness of daily life with an easy swish of my hips. Those high enzymes break my fast and prepare my digestive tract to handle whatever suits my pleasure all day long!

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:15 pm

      self love is so very revolutionary!

  • SG Michelle April 10, 2012, 11:33 am

    “How would my life be different if I were beautiful?”
    -I would wear outrageously beautiful clothes every day: clothes that scared me a bit, that challenge the part of me that is afraid to inspire jealousy or shock in others (I already am rocking this most days and loving it as a way of getting out of my comfort zone!!).
    -I would wear less make-up. I would relish the lines around my eyes and the wisdom they hold. I might wear no makeup except lipstick or gloss most days…and then go full-drama with the smoky liner for special occasions! Like creating a character, wearing a costume, changing roles to suit my pleasure.
    -I would only do my pleasure: I wouldn’t feel as much like I had to compromise (this is already getting much better anyway, thanks to your work!!).
    -I would dance like no one was watching…as the saying goes.
    -I wouldn’t second guess myself.
    -I would be an all-loving, generous, humble yet universal DIVA.
    -I wouldn’t care what anyone else thought about me.
    -I wouldn’t care if I was doing the “right” thing, as long as I felt like I was living life to the absolute fullest and doing all I could to manifest the most beautiful expression of my truest self!

    How do I bring beauty into my life? With amazing music that makes me feel so joyful, powerful, like a shooting star. With hot baths, full-body massages with sensuously scented oil, with warm blankets and comfortable clothes, with exercise that fills me with joy like dance, yoga, Nia, long hikes in the woods.
    With time spent in MOTHER NATURE.
    Those are my favourites. Thank you for this utterly fabulous post, I have passed it on to the women I love most! xxxxx

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:13 pm

      this is inspiring- i love the idea of wearing clothes that scare me@!!

  • Nancy Bevers April 10, 2012, 11:00 am

    Oh Regena this post is a waking dream into the reality of our beauty. Your rituals are vivid, inspiring, thank you for sharing them. The consistency with which you embrace your beauty rituals calls me into a greater embracing of my own. I love that they are “rituals” rather than “routines”, they are sacred. One of my rituals is similar to Claire’s– a playlist I created on iTunes called morning love songs that I listen to every morning. I am serenaded with songs of adoration as I start my day. And there is a body butter that I so far have only found when I go to SF at the Whole Foods there, by Pacifica, they have the most delicious flavors. My current is Tuscan Blood Orange. Mmmmm.

  • Ru April 10, 2012, 10:25 am

    I adore this post. Thank you so much for sharing your daily rituals. I know executing these daily ain’t easy. I am inspired by your gratitudes by your altar and evening epsom salt baths with rose candles…. My body is soothed and settles down just hearing about this.

    I embody my beauty by surrounding myself with the beauty of nature. I put myself outside as often as I can. I love using natural soaps and lotions…. I love looking cute in some leggings and soft fabrics. I walk at the beach – even when its cold.

  • Shakaya Leone April 10, 2012, 9:43 am

    This is wonderful Mama!
    I have dozens of sensual beauty rituals in my Beauty Cleanse…here’s one for you to try:

    Strip down to nothing but your raw skin and stand in front of a mirror. No one is looking. I promise.

    Let your eyes dance over your curves. Whisper hello to every inch of you.

    There might be bruises or stretch marks, but I am telling you it’s all perfect. Trust me on this. You are a perfect and drop-dead gorgeous powerful goddess. I know you’re going to roll your eyes and feel imperfect. Your thighs are too big, your chest not big enough…I know, I know. I’ve felt it all, too. But you should be loving yourself more.

    Start right now, right here.

    Take a lipstick and write on every part of your body that makes you blush. Make sure it’s washable and non-toxic, even though what you’ll write is forever permanent. Cover your body in hearts and kisses.

    Any and every time you feel unworthy or anything but beautiful, remember this moment and know deep down that you are a temple of perfection, a holy place of love, and a perfect, strong, warrior girl.

    Now run a bath with abundant drops of rose oil. You’re worth the scent of this most intricate flower, her petals soft and the bud opening like our hearts, reminding us to love first ourselves, and then each other. Slip in the tub and wash away the words you wrote; their meaning won’t go away now that you’ve tattooed them on your soul.

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:11 pm

      wow- what a recipe! thank you so much for posting!

      • Shakaya June 19, 2012, 3:05 pm

        With pleasure, Gorgeous!

        In-joy xo Shakaya

    • Liliana April 10, 2012, 9:15 pm

      This is supper cool and sensual for body and soul ! Thank you for posting, I feel the power of this magic ritual solely by reading it – so doing it must be even more intrinsic.

    • Nelda April 16, 2012, 6:09 pm

      o! I have to try this…just threw out a lipstick this morning, now I know how to get the best of it! You are gorgeous!

  • BSG Glitzy Cougar Karen April 10, 2012, 9:43 am

    Ahhhh, I LOVE this and so needed it. This morning, in the shower, I soaped myself with gentle soap and slowly caressed my skin, my face, my breasts, my body. Then, I fashioned my flowing hair, put on new sassy dangling earrings and I went to my closet to play dress up….something hot, and comfy and sensuous, as is my off the shoulder soft berry shirt, a color which looks gorgeous on me. And I admire myself in the mirror, with the sexy little specks of grey at the temples. Now I think I will put on some slow music and move my hips!

  • SG Hellcat Anastasia April 10, 2012, 9:40 am

    Thank you for the beautiful article this morning. I desire to have a morning as you describe; part of my morning ritual is to slow down and pamper myself as much as I want. Have a meditative prayer, read brags and up-rides to and drink a cup of wonderful hot coffee in my room under the covers. To look in the mirror at least a hundred times and blow kisses and state how beautiful I am, I leaving dressing to the last bit of time. I love the feel of my bare body in the coolness of the morning. I refuse to be upset with my drive and leave the radio off and speak to myself how beautiful, sexy and luscious I am. I walk into work filled with joy and delight, have a knowing I have bigger and better desired things coming my way in the meantime everything is good because I am awesome!! I am 53 years old, mother of six and widowed….life is grand and totally as I desire it to be!!!
    Kisses and higher blissings to you,
    SG Anastasia

  • Bonny April 10, 2012, 9:38 am

    I am 62 and LOVED your post, Mama!!!!! On Easter Sunday, I joined my son and grandsons in Connecticut at their church service. I wore a hot skirt, nice top, jewelry and sexy black boots. I was so proud of myself! And, I guess it showed because my son called yesterday to tell me that several women came up to him after the service and told him how pretty his mom was! One of them said I look about 40! Wow!! Guess I’ll keep up with the fashion even when my negative voices say I’m too old for such things!

  • Suzi Banks Baum April 10, 2012, 9:36 am

    I LOVE this post. As I read the great comments ahead of me here, I turned on Aretha singing ‘Say a Little Prayer’ . This morning, my earliest moments include lighting a candle and offering gratitude for all the people in my life who love and support me with their original expressions of amazing. My most important beauty ritual is laughing, loud, big, muscle moving laughing with my family. I get so serious, often, as happy as I am, there are moments when I feel my lips tighten. So, laughing- whether it comes from watching my gold fish in his little fish tank on the kitchen counter when my teens are too grumpy to laugh with me or sharing a moment with my husband, often my laughter is borne of humility and admitting my adorable missteps. What a relief to let laughter ease my face and my day. xoxox Thanks Mama. P.S. Yesterday my dermatologist (yes, another beauty ritual is to get a yearly check-up of my skin) commented on the yellow glow of my skin- he said “It’s good to see you are eating your vegetables”. Go green smoothies! Love, Suzi

  • SG RICA April 10, 2012, 9:23 am

    What a gorgeous exposure of self-love and adoration you’ve offered Mama! I am so grateful for this post today to affirm the recent intention I’ve infused into my life toward owning my ridiculously hot sensuous self.

    The juiciest way I celebrate this womanly art is to cook naked! I’ll prepare myself a perfect meal, slowing often to affirm both the taste of the dish and the deliciousness of my own body. Then I’ll throw on some jazzy tunage of Ella Fitzgerald or Billie Holiday, light a few candles, and slowly savor every bite….NAKED….just me in my cozy NYC apartment.

    • Mama Gena April 16, 2012, 10:30 am

      oh rica, you are SO ridiculously hot and sensuous

  • Laurel Holland April 10, 2012, 9:20 am

    I listen to my heart everyday, this requires silence and inner stillness. Then I follow it’s advice. This is how I live. My life is beautiful in every way because of this. And I am in touch with my inner beauty that radiates – always…

  • Roo April 10, 2012, 8:48 am

    I love this article. It is true that we hold back and think we are only beautiful at certain times or if we’ve reached a certain weight or fitness level. There is so much more to beauty than that. I love your morning ritual. I am striving to make my morning ritual a routine. I am very good at it for a while and then it slides and I don’t take as good care of myself as I’d like. I am suffering from a terrible cold right now. Any tips on how to feel beautiful when you are sick and feel like poo?

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:09 pm

      how about popping on a fabulous negligee, a sexy nighties, or a warm snuggley bathrobe? clothes make the cold….

  • Holli April 10, 2012, 8:20 am

    Gena, this is an amazing post. Thank you for sharing this with us. Many women doubt their beauty, and I find it at the core of weight, health, success, and even romantic issues in women I work with. Your work is so important, and you are FABULOUS, honey!!

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:07 pm

      thank you, holli!!

  • Luxurious Laurie April 10, 2012, 7:48 am

    I own my beauty and love myself in so many ways…I revel in the miracle that is my precious self…dancing is one of my favorites, as is dance walking on the treadmill at the gym to music that inspires me…being an inspiration to others also makes me feel even more beautiful…knowing that my presence is a privilege allows me to feel my beauty…and I am so grateful for all the wonderful blessings in my beautiful life!!!

  • Andrea April 10, 2012, 7:46 am

    I am 58 years old and the quickest way for me to feel beautiful is to DANCE! I look for every opportunity: local salsa socials, ballet (at our local college with college kids), going out to hear great live music. And of course in my kitchen or living room. I love to watch dance performances and I also participate in our local Nutcracker as a first act party lady (rock on in a victorian dress and stage makeup!). Inhabiting my body while dancing is pure bliss.

    • Vivianne April 10, 2012, 8:25 am

      Dance and nature are my constant lovers……I am 56…..and feel beautiful and sensual in their arms.

    • regena April 10, 2012, 3:07 pm

      no better beauty treatment on earth!

  • BSG Dr. Al April 10, 2012, 7:42 am

    Thank you, Regena!!!! Receiving this hit of your loveliness this morning was such a beautiful gift. I loved the imagery of you celebrating the end of your day and am inspired to think up the way that I would like to do so.

    I AM BEAUTIFUL and I am overwhelmed with gratitude for the women who help me hang on to that truth. God(dess) Bless my Sisters!!! xoxox

  • Claire Fay April 10, 2012, 7:41 am

    Part of my morning re-invention ritual (I reinvent myself every day) is to listen to my “Pussy Up” playlist as I do what I do. I started this when I was in Mastery and I’ve kept it up ever since – wherever I go. My list is all over the place – tunes I love for getting my juices flowing. Many of the songs are love songs, but I listen to them as if I’m singing them to myself. It puts s totally different spin on the song. My favorite is “I Say a Little Prayer” by Aretha Franklin. Try it. xo Claire