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Trying to be hero? Uh-uh.

How do we know that we’re successful in the world?

One of the aspects of a patriarchal culture, like the one we live in, is that we’ve all been taught a definition of what success is. We’ve been trained to go for certain markers that demonstrate success – external events, or circumstances that our culture adores and elevates.
You know the ones–
The guy. The baby. The job. The salary. The waist size.

But how do you ever feel that you’re really there? What is there? I mean, really, when does the little pixie fairy in the sky arrive, ready to serenade with her tabernacle choir, and sing the “You’re there!” hallelujah chorus? I am still waiting for mine. What does it take to feel successful, to approve…

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I got what I wanted.
Exactly what I longed for.
At the precise moment that I wanted it.
Wow.
Life is amazing.
I am amazing.

Who has ever had the opportunity to say those…

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There are so many ways for a woman to ‘go for it’. From bold and blazing balls of public fire, like Hillary Clinton or Beyoncé, to quieter but…

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Do you know what it feels like at the precipice of a huge sea change in your life? Ever been there?…

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Ugh, Indecision.

It is so easy to make the same choice over and over and over again.
Making a bold decision and stepping into something new is almost impossibly difficult.

Usually we have…

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Has anyone ever told you to just get out there and FEEL?
FEEL loudly?
WEEP uncontrollably?
RAGE like an angry lioness?
HOWL like a bitch in heat?
Cry MORE?
SCREAM your head off?

What women…

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Running on empty?

Have you ever felt so done in?
That you just could not.
Not even.
One more step.
I mean, really.

See if you can find yourself here:

  • “I am utterly depleted. How…

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This Valentine’s day I’m thinking a lot about sisterhood.
And the tender, irreplaceable, fierce love that’s possible and necessary between women.

I fly close with my flock.
There would be no…

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Are you dimming your light?

Is your light on or off?
Right now.
Take a quick test: Do you feel flush with enthusiasm? Beautiful? Strong? Confident?
Good. Then your light is on.

And, ummmm….
If you are annoyed…

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I’m not that woman!

I ran into a girlhood friend, Nancy.
We had not seen one another in more than 40 years.
She has a quiet life in the country, married to her childhood…

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Do you put yourself last?

Where do you fall on the scale of priorities in your life?
Do you put yourself first?
Or last?

Would you cancel your plans with friends if your boss asked you…

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Whew. Wow. We did it.  
Welcome to a brand New Year, my darlings. 2017 is here. And so many of us are thinking– perhaps now, more than ever—about what…

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Leadership is an inside game.

If I were to drill down to the very bluest part of the flame, the hottest truest mission of The School of Womanly Arts, it’s about feminine leadership.

It…

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This is not a time to run away

My first response was “I can’t.”

It was November 9th, the results of our election were incredibly fresh, and just three days later, I was to lead the Fall session…

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My 3-Part Burn-Out Cure

What does it mean to be a success? In your own eyes?
How do you know when enough is enough? 

A couple months ago, I was watching…

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I am at a big transitional time of my life. My baby left for college. My nest is empty. 

And I want to welcome in a hot, fun, sexy, smart,…

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Taking back the word.

Pussy.

Don’t mess with her.
Or she will take you out.
Which is exactly what we are witnessing right now, on the world’s stage, in this election year.
Pussy has taken out the…

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Whew. Wowza.
Last week’s book launch was seriously and no kidding the total highlight of my career, my life.

What do you do…

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This is the day.

Oh, sisters, mine.

I have been pawing the ground like a racehorse.
Pacing back and forth in the wings, for a dozen years, waiting for this moment.

My brand new book, Pussy:…

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So, just a couple weeks ago, I packed my little pumpkin off to college.
Now, as you probably know, or might suspect,…

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