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Dance your darkness with this playlist

MG_PressureDarlings,

Last week, we talked about the epidemic of “fine” in women. Actually, we didn’t just talk about it, we detonated “fine.” In case you missed it, you can read it and join the conversation here.

This week, I want to take you deeper into the gold that lurks underneath “fine.” After a lifetime of being taught to cut ourselves off from the full spectrum of our emotions, we need some help sinking into them and moving them through.

Fortunately, we have music to transport us to a place of connection. You know how a piece of music — a lyric, a phrase, a note — can unexpectedly connect you to a deep emotion? Well, that is the perfect place to start feeling more, and unpacking “fine.”

I have a carefully curated playlist that will yank your fine chain and allow you to connect with the gold inside.

Play the list loud, and see what comes up as you dance, move, roll around, throw pillows, stomp, moan, and connect with your dark side. I suggest you click on one and play it right now. (And when you’re done, tell us about it in the comments below!)

Dance Your Darkness Playlist:

If you have a different favorite song for dancing it out, share it below. I can’t wait to hear your stories and learn what lies beneath your “fine.”

In so much love and pleasure,
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  • SG LAIKA July 8, 2014, 2:21 pm

    I recently realized that I am broken hearted and have not grieved losses and disappointments I’ve had. These past couple of weeks I’ve been swamping a lot and celebrating as well… But I think tonight I’ll fully swamp to really let go of it all, to stare at it and be with it all… Thanks for the play list!

  • carla June 18, 2014, 2:00 pm

    hahahahaha i just have to laugh after clicking on this dance your darkness playlist.
    i am coming out of a somewhat jet lag induced/lost bags/exhaustion/post birthday mini swamp and i thought let me get some juicy ideas from Mama Gena and see what’s on her “Dance Your Darkness” playlist and voila…there i am at the top of the list…. ain’t the GPS so cute!?!!
    *haha….cue tears of gratitude*
    then before i could finish typing this comment i receive a text from my guy saying “let’s get you that pole!” love how the darkness is already dancing away just by me reaching for my tools….
    LOVE THE GENIUS AND THE GPS thank you MAMA for always guiding me to the light!
    XXXO

  • Mélissa Mayer June 16, 2014, 1:59 pm

    Oh I loooooove Wine-O Fight! Such a playful way to feel anger.

    When I saw your post, I was right in the middle of preparing a workshop where I wanted to let people feel their emotions through dancing. Perfect timing!

  • Yelimar June 12, 2014, 9:06 am

    Bless you for this playlist!!! I finally found my rage and grief yesterday. I went through a rupture this weekend and I didn’t know how to process it. It felt so good to own it and let it move through me. I had no idea how to access my anger: I just kept being snappy and cranky with my husband when I didn’t want to be. I had no idea what I was stuffing down. The first couple of times I tried during mastery weekend I couldn’t connect with it but finally I did. I felt so much relief. Thank you for showing us a way to do this. Its such a valuable tool. I am moving my way through this rupture and I am allowing it to be a sensuous empowering experience. I could of never imagined it.

  • Sue Z Q June 5, 2014, 7:29 pm

    Love a good swamp song…. One that i love to belt out is…Fuck You by Lilly Allen and if I’m particularly in a swampy randy kind of a mood ~ check put HWC by Liz Phair.. If you don’t know what HWC stands for … check out the song, it could be your secret beauty routine 😀

  • SG Rampage Rachel June 5, 2014, 1:56 pm

    Yesterday, I swamped to “Boulevard of Broken Dreams” by Green Day. I never thought of it as a good swamp song until I swamped to it and it worked! It was the only thing that made me feel better after a really crappy day!

    After the swamp, I danced to “The Way You Are” by Bruno Mars to celebrate my own beauty and perfection!

  • SG (Spanx-FREE) Shakaya June 5, 2014, 10:36 am

    and this one:

    And I’m here to remind you
    Of the mess you left when you went away
    It’s not fair to deny me
    Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
    You, you, you oughta know

    ’cause the joke that you laid on the bed that was me
    And I’m not gonna fade
    As soon as you close your eyes and you know it
    And every time I scratch my nails down someone else’s back
    I hope you feel it…well can you feel it’

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPcyTyilmYY&feature=kp

  • Isa June 5, 2014, 1:11 am

    danny elfman “the little things”

  • SG MathaDawn June 4, 2014, 11:06 pm

    Amazing list it helped me dance and get energy out that was locked up

  • SG (Spanx-FREE) Shakaya June 4, 2014, 10:07 pm

    I’m new to swamping…

    When I was just an innocent girl of 16, my single mother died suddenly of a heart attack and I was left to the streets with nothing but the clothes on my back, all alone…

    I learned how to stay awake all night long so I could keep watch over myself and stay safe…I brag that I am a genius for ensuring my own safety and for creating it in such a beautiful and feminine way.

    I manifested the exact circumstances I needed to keep me alert and to hold my attention…

    I saw and experienced many wild adventures, most untold…I keep those mysteries sacred as the brilliant Courtesan of the Night that I am…

    Some that no teenage girl should have had to endure, but I DID.

    And I now have the strength and power that comes from such Initiations…

    But I didn’t dare cry
    In the psyche ward, I didn’t dare cry
    In jail, I didn’t dare cry

    I cried in your mama’s arms, MG
    It was beautiful
    Just thinking about that makes me want to cry now

    My swamp song:

    ‘I’m just so f-n depressed,
    I just can’t seem to get out of this slump
    If I could just get over this hump
    But I need something to pull me out of this dump

    And I know some shit’s so hard to swallow
    But I just can’t sit back and wallow
    In my own sorrow
    But I know I’ll be one tough act to follow

    Don’t let ’em say you ain’t beautiful,
    they all can all get f-k-d,
    just stay true to you’

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pfvKH5lIoQ&list=PLJxPnAP8RagVqPDj79crWY4BrF2lw-i2t&index=4

    I appreciate you MG
    and my SGs

    Xxo Shakaya

  • Wildcherry June 4, 2014, 5:02 pm

    DAAAAAMN, been seeking a list and here I’ve got a WORLD OF SWAMPS-OFFs.
    Coolio.
    Thanks y’all.

  • Nikki June 4, 2014, 4:12 pm

    “Miss World” from Hole. Such a good bitchy pissed off song.

    I am the girl you know
    Can’t look you in the eye
    I am the girl you know
    So sick I can not try
    I am the one you want
    Can’t look you in the eye
    I am the girl you know
    I lie and lie and lie

    I’m Miss World
    Somebody kill me
    Kill me pills
    No one cares, my friend
    My friend

    I’m Miss World
    Watch me break and
    Watch me burn
    No one is listening, my friend
    Yeah

    And I’ve made my bed
    I’ll lie in it
    I’ve made my bed
    I’ll die in it
    I’ve made my bed
    I’ll lie in it
    I’ve made my bed
    I’ll die in it

    Kill girls watch
    When I eat ether
    Suck me under
    Maybe forever, my friend
    Yeah

  • Kass June 4, 2014, 3:10 pm

    Whatever by Godsmack

    It doesn’t hurt that the lead singer is sexy in a bad boy way either!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ME3Ahe8z16k&feature=kp

    And I wonder day to day
    I don’t like you anyway
    I don’t need your shit today
    You’re pathetic in your own way

    I feel for you
    (better fuckin go away)
    I will behave
    Better fuckin go away
    I’m doing the best I ever did
    I’m doing the best that I can
    I’m doing the best I ever did

  • Marlyn Cazeau June 4, 2014, 10:00 am

    My ‘fine’ lies in the fear of letting others see me, judge me, hate me. The following song helps to detonate the ‘fine’.

    Koko Taylor – I’m A Woman

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_fygyQiHoA

    (Lyrics)
    Oh, yeah, oh, yeah
    Everything, everything
    Everything gone be alright
    Oh, yeah

    When I was a little girl, only twelve years old
    I couldn’t do nothing to save my dog gone soul
    My mama told me the day I was grown
    She says, “Sing the blues child, sing it from now on”

    I’m a woman, oh, yeah
    I’m a woman, I’m a ball of fire
    I’m a woman, I can make love to a crocodile
    I’m a woman, I can sing the blues
    I’m a woman, I can change old to new

    Spell W O M A N, oh, yeah

    That means I’m grown
    I’m a woman, I’m a rushing wind
    I’m a woman, I can cut stone with a pin
    I’m a woman, I’m a love maker
    I’m a woman, you know I’m an earth shaker

    I’m a woman, I’m a rushing wind
    I’m a woman, I can cut stone with a pin
    I’m a woman, I know my stuff
    I’m a woman, I ain’t never had enough

    I’m goin’ down yonder, behind the sun
    Gonna do some for you, ain’t never been done
    I’ma hold back the lightning, with the palm of my hand
    Shake hands with the devil, make him crawl in the sand

    I’m a woman, oh, yeah
    I’m a woman, I’m a ball of fire
    I’m a woman, I can make love to a crocodile
    I’m a woman, I’m a love maker
    I’m a woman, you know I’m an earth shaker
    Oh, oh, oh, oh, I’m a woman

    • Janell Lundgren June 22, 2014, 1:59 am

      Wow, thanks, Marlyn. LOVE this.

      I’m a woman, I can make love to a crocodile, I can sing the blues, I can change old to new.

      I’m a woman, I can cut stone with a pin, I. Know. My. Stuff., I ain’t never had enough.

      I’m a woman, I’m a ball of fire, a love maker, an earth shaker.

      Yes, yes, yes!! I needed this reminder today.

  • Michaela June 4, 2014, 8:18 am

    I brag I fucking did it. I swamped on my bed to almost all the songs. I actaully felt sadness, anger, nothing, something… I’m committed to just fucking doing it now (Mastery homework, any suggestion) instead of thinking I know what it will be like. FUCK. I actually feel more now, and for that I’m grateful. This seems like a great morning ritual. Thank you for the push and a vehicle again and again. xoxo

  • Regina June 4, 2014, 1:00 am

    Do you know what FINE really is……F…en Insecure Neurotic Emotional…don’t do fine 🙂
    when I am tempted I always get a good laugh at this.

  • Kate June 3, 2014, 11:20 pm

    “I am Stretched on Your Grave” by Sinead O’Connor and “Love Will Tear Us Apart” by Joy Division.

  • Erika June 3, 2014, 11:11 pm

    No light no light by florence and the machine does it for me. So do both versions of over the love

  • Coral June 3, 2014, 9:38 pm

    Here Come the Rain Again–

    This was speaking in a way I hadn’t wanted to notice was neede…
    Love her slowed down style and edgy sensual production. I am playing more the list right now..

    Coral

  • SG Vixen Veronica June 3, 2014, 3:35 pm

    My songs are Cosmic Love and Spectrum by Florence and the Machine as well as Kali Ma by Kelliana (loooove that one!) and We Will Rock You by Queen, Thanks Mama!

  • Sg Ti June 3, 2014, 3:24 pm

    Last week I screamed, writhed, cried, and got it aaaaaallll out with NIN’s The Becoming. There’s such catharsis in that song. It got me from closed down to wide open and raw. Then, after thrashing to it five or six times, I felt the weight lift and I sang and danced to Cyndi Lauper’s acoustic version of All Through the Night.

  • Nissa June 3, 2014, 2:14 pm

    Just love “Killing in the name” – feels so good shouting 😉

    Another favorite is The thing things “Thats not my name” and several songs from Pink.

    Uhhh… have to go looking in my albums!

  • Anastasia Alston June 3, 2014, 1:52 pm

    Ooh! Been doing this since I was a teen! I call it “dancing out my demons”. Some of my favorites: The Hurting, Mad World, Ideas As Opiates, Pale Shelter & Memories Fade by Tears For Fears; Breaking the Law, You’ve Got Another Thing Comin’ & Turbo Lover by Judas Priest; Head Like A Hole by Nine Inch Nails; This Is the New Sh*t, Personal Jesus & The Beautiful People by Marilyn Manson; Beyonce’s version of Back to Black; Hearts A Mess by Gotye…. I could go on. I have a LOT of them! lol Talking is lovely, yoga & meditation are good, too but NOTHING wrings me out of “I’m fine” like dancing out my demons! There’s just something about full body embodiment of “hell no I’m NOT fine!” 😀 <3 <3 <3

  • Deborah Smith aka SG Wicked June 3, 2014, 1:35 pm

    Ostrich” and “Fight” work for me. Also pretty much any Annie Lenox, Sarah Bareilles has some powerful swamp songs too. Also saw MALIFICENT the other night. That worked too.

  • Gina June 3, 2014, 1:20 pm

    Amy McDonald “Run” inspires, uplifts and explodes:
    But I will run until my feet no longer run no more
    And I will kiss until my lips no longer feel no more
    And I will love until my heart it aches
    And I will love until my heart it breaks
    And I will love until there’s nothing more to live for.

  • Thea June 3, 2014, 12:41 pm

    I LOVE swampy music. ThankI am putting myself on a weeklong swamp-a-day regimen!

    Day One “Everybody Knows That You’re Insane” – Queens of the Stone Age
    Day Two “Long Snake Moan” – PJ Harvey
    Day Three “Hey” – The Pixes
    Day Four “Black Coffee” – I like Tricky’s gritty electronic cover version
    Day Five “Black Swan” – Atoms for Peace (Thom York of Radiohead)
    Day Six “Hymn to Her” – The Pretenders
    Day Seven “Dry” -PJ Harvey, again! She’s my swamp queen genius.

    • Thea June 3, 2014, 12:43 pm

      I meant to type “Thank you for this tool, MG!” in that middle sentence.

  • Kimberly Van June 3, 2014, 12:34 pm

    Oh, how I love how the Universe works! I so needed this. Pretty much danced (actually was shadow boxing), cried, and let go. Life has been bringing me a whole lot of new/change and didn’t quite realize how pent up it was. Thank you, Mama Gena! Hope to get to your workshops one of these days!

  • Madeline June 3, 2014, 10:38 am

    Did not realize I was wallowing in “fine.” These 2 posts caused me some pain — but I am hoping the release will be forthcoming!! I am a little afraid to jump further in.. (listening to the music..) I have to go and read about swamping..I am pretty sure it’s what I have been doing lately.. but maybe not enough???? I am hoping that release and passion are on the other side of this..somewhere I got disconnected from my authentic self lately…

    Am considering what life could be like if I own up to what I want, what I feel I deserve, and if I simply demand it for a change. Have been letting “fine” define me for way too long– letting others tell me what “enough” is and what I SHOULD be happy with..

    Uh-uh..time for a change…. thanks Mama Gena!!!!!!

  • SG Deborah June 3, 2014, 10:31 am

    Mama, thank you for showing us that swamping doesn’t need to take up your whole day or even morning. That was one of the most useful things I learned this weekend and I so appreciate the reminder today. I am one of those who never has time for this sort of thing (that I need SO badly!). So, I put on the same song as Hot Mess Michelle and set the timer for 15 minutes (while my toast cooked). And I actually felt pretty complete in 8 minutes. And it hit reset for me for the day ahead. Re-entry is so challenging after a Mastery weekend and my demons were already taunting me at the edges… and I was able to move ’em through just now. I’m inspired to start my day this way for the next week. I am so grateful for you for these tools. Words cannot express. With huge love and reverence I thank you.

  • SG Shera, Princess of Power June 3, 2014, 10:27 am

    Anything by Joan Jett (“Do You Wanna Touch” and “I Hate Myself for Loving You are both awesome”)
    “Going to Hell” The Pretty Reckless
    “Make Me Wanna Die” The Pretty Reckless
    “Breathe” Prodigy
    “Song 2” Blur
    “Seven Nation Army” The White Stripes
    “In One Ear” Cage The Elephant
    “Sabotage” Beastie Boys
    “PainKiller” Freestylers ft. Pendulum

  • SG Hot Mess Michelle June 3, 2014, 10:03 am

    I was feeling drawn to “My Body Is a Cage” which turns out it absolutely perfect for doing undercover swamping in my cubicle. I was feeling every bit of tension that’s be held hostage in my back, shoulders, and neck. Not a single co-worker got up and saw me circling my hips, swaying my shoulders, rolling my shoulders, extending my arms out, massaging my thighs. MAMA I NEEDED THAT. I was feeling so full of pleasure all day yesterday and then had two very humbling experiences. I was reminded of the rupture I am in and so I got cranky. Bigger swamps are coming today. My favorites so far are “Welcome to the Jungle” Guns N Roses, “Dark Horse” Katy Perry, and “Blow” Ke$ha, “Hysteria” Muse, “Helena” My Chemical Romance

  • Simin Vaswani June 3, 2014, 10:02 am

    Oooooo I so love this!! Now I can add these songs to my Dark Pleasures Playlist.

    Some other songs I love are

    Missed Me – The Dressden Dolls
    Pretty – Kidneythieves
    Stand By Me – Ki:Theory (Really dark and juicy version)

    Thank you! <3

  • SG Ninna June 3, 2014, 9:33 am

    Ohhhhhhh, I really like this post and your songs! Thank you for sharing! Here are some of my favorite swampy songs on my playlist:
    Counting Bodies Like Sheep to Rhythm of the War Drums by A Perfect Circle
    Angel by Massive Attack
    I Put a Spell on You by Marilyn Manson
    Under Your Skin by Aesthetic Perfection

  • SG Taiza June 3, 2014, 9:32 am

    Pretty much everything on Jagged Little Pill.