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My 3 Tips for When Your Desire Gets Real, Fast

Have you ever had a desire – a big, big desire –
that you’ve nurtured for months, years, even decades –

and then there comes a moment in time when you realize it is actually happening?
That it’s actually coming to you, with more velocity than you can even handle?

About a year ago, I started writing a book. It was a book I had been wanting to write for a decade, but I had only been able to work on in spurts and stops.

But finally, my schedule parted enough for me to plunge into the delicious waters of my desire, and the book has been pouring out of me like a fire hydrant in August.
Which is a really good feeling.
And kind of overwhelming.

It’s the overwhelming, scary part I want to talk about today.

Once a woman connects with desire, she gets plugged into an adventure like no other, where she gets broken open and remade by the very thing she longs for.

There comes a time – as you roll your desire forward, and continue to pedal in the direction of your dreams – that the very desire you had been nurturing along starts to sprout and bloom and burst forward in such a way that you no longer feel like you are creating it, but rather, like it is creating you.

Know what I mean?

It’s that moment when you are just learning to ski, and you hit a real slope (not on the bunny hill) and suddenly your skis seem to dart out from under you and speed you somewhere you are not sure you want to go, or you are ready to go.

Or, the guy you have been impatiently dating suddenly seems oh that much more in love with you, than you are with him.

I remember sobbing on the phone to my father, the night before I had Maggie, that I just was not ready to be a mom. She was in my arms 24 hours later.

This book is a big deal for me, because I am not writing it as Mama Gena. I am writing it as Regena.

It’s also big for me because of the title, which forces me to stand behind my truth in a more powerful way than I ever have. (Gonna leave you in suspense for now…)

The book isn’t coming out for over a year. But right now, an interesting, exhilarating and (let’s be honest) totally terrifying thing is happening:

I am finding that the world is pushing me, already, further and faster out of the closet than I might have wished to go.

Last week, I had the great fun of being on MarieTV with my bud, Marie Forleo.

In her intro to the episode, she described a moment of pussy truth and beauty that happens during one of my favorite sessions of Mastery. She pulled back the curtain on an experience I had previously held tightly protected, inside the sacred container of the classroom – because I thought it wouldn’t translate or be received in the right way. That the world isn’t ready. I loved what she wrote, and am so grateful she stood for me and for my work in that way.

Nudges like this are happening everywhere.
Invitations and opportunities are starting to fill my inbox.
Our courses consistently sell out and fill to capacity.
Sisterhood is spreading.

Whoah. Girlfriend has to catch her breath. This is really happening.

I want you to know that this moment – when your desire starts to rush forward on your behalf – it’s coming for you, and for all women who choose to live into the unfolding adventure of their desires. Maybe it already has.

Here are my go-to tips of how to handle those moments – when you feel like you have switched to a new gear, and your desire is dragging you forward, rather than the other way around.

The first, last, and always thing I reach for is a powerful dance break.
I dance my fear.
I dance my gratitude, and more gratitude.
I dance my “I deserve this-ness”.
I dance my ‘whee!’

{*Endless thanks to my trusted dj’s Ruth & Bernadette – they never fail me.}

Then, I spring clean. This is an exercise that allows you to dump dump dump all of your fears and concerns about growing into the woman you were destined to become. (This exercise is explained in my very first book.)

And finally – I brag.
Yes, I do.

So, here goes:

I brag I am a woman who celebrates and honors the construct of what it means to be a woman. I brag I had the ovaries to write this book. I brag I am a woman who loves her pussy. I brag I am doing my earthly best to make the world a place that can handle who and what a woman is. I brag I am brave. I brag that you are incredibly brave for reading this blog and subscribing to this newsletter. Pussy on, sisters …

Now, I want to hear from you.

Join me in the comments — tell me how you handle it when your desires start to overwhelm you by picking up steam and a velocity you could not have imagined.

What tools do you use? What are your favorite dance break songs? And yes, oh yes, please do give me a brag!


p.s. Speaking of your desires kicking into gear, we just opened the doors to our beloved back-to-school program, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp – which is designed to teach a woman how to live her desires, step-by-step, and week by week. Right now, there’s a sweet discount for the first 75 women who enroll – all the details are right here.

p.p.s. In celebration of Boot Camp, I’ve organized a special summer series to really bring the Womanly Arts and tools to life, and help you integrate them right away. I’m so excited to share these extraordinary stories and insights with you – if you’re not already, be sure to subscribe to my newsletter so you don’t miss out!

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  • Stacey August 7, 2015, 8:19 pm

    This is so perfectly timed as I have been desiring a beautiful retirement home in Arizona for as long as I can remember! Well in June I purchased a brand new construction home in Arizona! Yikes ! This week was the first trip downto AZ and I slept in my home for the first time. I was scared out of my mind hyperventilating and everything! But it is so amazing that this desire is a reality! Next July I retire from my career which I have been so blessed to have! I am so grateful!

  • robin~ August 7, 2015, 1:30 am

    Oh, Regena, I adored your talk with Marie last week. I’ve got a post-it note right here reminding me that Mama Gena herself is a shy introvert who had to create a persona big enough to be effective in the world. You sharing your truth made that big of a difference for me and I had to write it down to remind myself that *I* can be as magnificent as MamaGena herself =)

    So today, I brag that I am a down-to-earth fashion maven creating a game-changing fashion design and consulting company. I am selling the business that I have outgrown and stepping into my new groove.

    thank you for your inspiration, your teaching and your yummy, juicy gorgeousness!

  • Eva Papp August 6, 2015, 11:16 pm

    In the space of a couple of months, we bought a house, moved, got a puppy, and just last weekend got married in a big celebration; all part of a deep desire for our family. What I did to survive; try to be in the moment and meet each thing as it came. I am now five days past the wedding and the crazy cascading of events that bore us to our new home tidal-wave style. Feeling glorious!

  • Kendra August 6, 2015, 7:21 pm

    Wow. This TOTALLY resonated for me. It made me cry. I’m still crying. It affected me so much that I am writing a comment – something I NEVER do.

    I am on the verge of a life change – living my passion for raising good men. Saying this out loud is scary, but here goes.

    I am called to create sacred circles for women – a place where moms can go for support, nurturance and laughter while raising boys. Moms, grandmoms, step-moms, bonus moms, aunties … anyone involved in raising future men to be strong and sensitive and powerful and brave and honorable and respectful, so that the world for our children can be a better place.

    Things are moving forward and I am TOTALLY STOPPED and standing in my own way.

    I forgot that this is supposed to be FUN. That it’s good to DANCE.

    Ugh – still crying.

    And as I was reading, it hit me that my relationship with my pussy – my feminine essence – is toxic, and so I keep having problems with it. Yeast infections/bacterial vaginosis/yeast/BV/repeat. Reading this it hit me: how can I be a mom/woman/feminine fab chick if I’m not IN my feminine and instead am in fear?

    THANK YOU for this post. I strayed so far from the path that I couldn’t see it anymore. I think I can see it again…

  • Wild August 6, 2015, 11:55 am

    ****This book is a big deal for me, because I am not writing it as Mama Gena. I am writing it as Regena ***** RARRRRRR, FAN ME QUICK, fluff me down and spank me with a softened pink feather. Your words roared off the screen and into my soul. I’m delightedly screaming AWOMAN and waiting impatiently to devour your new book. Beautiful Regena, you’ve so got this.
    Love to you, wrapped in a gorgeously exotic boa
    Wild x’s

  • Laurie August 6, 2015, 7:34 am

    Thank you for all of your lovely thoughts and practices, Mama Gena. Out of all the practices that you and others have mentioned, I will always come back to spring cleaning. It is a privilege to listen to a sister and it is such an honor to be held and heard .

    In all of my life I never believed that I could speak my truth and that it would be so lovingly and honestly embraced and held by others It is the best practice ever for me and I thank you and all others who have held space for me and whose space I have been so fortunate to hold.

  • Edie Weinstein August 6, 2015, 6:36 am

    I am right there with you as I have called into my life so much that I have desired. I am delighted and terrified all at once. I wrote this article for Elephant Journal on that very subject. When Getting What You Want Scares the Crap Out of You. Regena, you rock~

    Blissings and Blessings from The Bliss Mistress <3

  • SG Santha August 6, 2015, 5:42 am

    Dear Regena,
    I await the birth into the world of your next Creation with eager anticipation. I am really looking forward to reading all you will share in your mysterious Next Book!
    And, I send so much gratitude for the way your life has touched mine, and for the mind-altering Gift Seeds which you have shared with me, in Mastery and at the Palace, which have fallen on fertile soil and germinated here in my world, in ways that influence the lives of my family and community without their even knowing it, in ways that have not yet borne fruit or even showed above the ground, in so many ways yet to be discovered.
    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
    wishing you many blessings,
    SG Santha

  • SG Wendy August 6, 2015, 5:09 am

    thank you, thank you, thank you Mama Gina for all that you bring to the world. I have often admired you dancing each morning, thinking it is a practice I would love to do, but have felt self conscious about doing it in my busy house where I would be looked on by others. Todays post came when I was in a hotel room by myself – traveling in Bali by myself, loving it and feeling quite nervous and alone at the same time. Oh what perfect timing, what divine timing to receive your email today. I danced each of those songs, I danced my fear, my gratitude, my deservingness, my wwhheee. And oh my, how amazing, how open, how sweaty, how fricken awesome I now feel. So thank you, thank you, thank you . I brag that I will claim my power, claim my awesomeness and do this every day for the rest of my travels, so when I go back home, it will be 2nd nature to continue doing it at home. I feel so good!

  • Sui August 6, 2015, 4:17 am

    Laying in bed last night…pondering how I am being broken to pieces and remoulded by my desires at the moment…only way forward was, evidentially, to break up the parameters I live by and remould me…it’s exhausting, scary, enlightening and god dam annoying at times….but forward I go….my desires are coming to fruition after a lifetime of dreaming and learning and planning….some days nothing goes to plan, other days flow is delicious….this post Mamma Gena was ‘oh so speaking to me’
    thank you for your honesty and allowing as always,

    my brag is that I am surrendering to it and moving foward and allowing myself to be and feel whatever it is I need to….dance breaks included, weird wardrobe choices to bend my appearance to the world that things …they are achangin’,

  • Elli Sparks August 6, 2015, 3:37 am

    I brag that I have received an organic farm for my birthday this week. I brag that I have been wanting to farm as long as I can remember. I brag that this desire has been big and juicy and delicious. I brag that I put that dream to bed twenty years ago and while taking Mastery six years ago I woke up the desire and started describing it again. I brag that my aunt bought a farm for me to farm three years ago and just yesterday she transferred the title to my name!!! I brag that this land is beautiful and I am helping to heal it with regenerative agriculture. I brag that the food we grow on our farm builds topsoil and provides important and healing nutrients for the people who eat our food. I brag that the animals are happy on our farm. I brag that my handsome hubby is my small business personal trainer and business partner in my farm business. I am so deliciously happy to have my beautiful farm and to given the opportunity to restore a right relationship between me and Mama Earth.

  • Steph August 6, 2015, 2:44 am

    This is just is what is happening to me! The momentum has been building for a while on my longtime dream to bring my authentic work into the world. Each week I felt less resistance and more flow. Last week I had a MAJOR energy shift, and suddenly my desire is pulling me forward so fast I feel like I need to hurry to catch up to it.

    The first thing I did when that happened was to give myself permission to pause, to take a breath and take it all in. Once I did that, I saw that I could slow it down just a tad and incorporate pleasure, slowness, and my other priorities without sacrificing the forward energy. It’s made the ride much more satisfying and delicious.

    My brag is that I am going for it! I am committing to play this game of life full-out.

  • SG Southern Sass August 6, 2015, 2:34 am

    Mama Gena… HOW do you do it?? How is it, that you can express so clearly what I struggle with so privately – everytime – you hit the nail on the head. THANK YOU!! Recently, I was faced with such a situation… A desire, so strong, that I had been nurturing for days, weeks, months, and years suddenly took on a life of it’s own. AND. I. PANICKED. WTF?!?! Thank you for speaking your truth, so that we as women can learn to speak our own, and by doing so embrace all of our desires as they take on a life all their own. You put words to my speechlessness, and in doing so, gives me strength to embrace the changes that come about as my desires come alive.

  • Roberta August 6, 2015, 1:00 am

    There are so many desires in my heart… finding the one that pops the most… now that’s my dilemma! All Is Well & In Good Time+ Thanks for your post.

  • Renée Suzanne August 6, 2015, 12:53 am

    I brag that the Goddess released me from the land of the cubicle after 19 years of corporate life and I am FINALLY launching my coaching business. I’m thrilled, terrified, exhausted and amazed, sometimes all in the space of an hour! This desire has been percolating in my heart of hearts for so long and I never would have done it without The School of Womanly Arts or the Sister Goddess Community. I bow in awe and gratitude for the work you do. Thank you so much for standing for women, for pleasure, for our dreams. I am forever grateful! xoxoxo

    SG Renée Suzanne (aka frodychick)

  • SG Tiara August 6, 2015, 12:52 am

    Thank you for reminder to use the tool of dance breaks and moving things through my body! I’ve just set up new playlists in my Spotify account for Dancebreak – Gratitude, and Dancebreak – I deserve this. Fear song added to my existing Swamp playlist. Thanks also to the Song Siren and Bernadette!

    I may be joining you in Boot Camp. Have sent an email to Lauren 🙂

  • Kate Poss August 6, 2015, 12:21 am

    Hey, Mama Gina! I came out as a queer parent Aug. 2 at our second annual Queer parade in Langley, WA. It is the most inclusive event I’ve ever witnessed in our village and perhaps in my life. We could feel the love, no matter whether we’re queer or straight or round or square. Our son is ecstatic that he has come out and his love for his partner is catching. I’ve hidden my quirks all my life to please others and at the parade I embraced my own queer self. Not that I’m into girls, but that I will no longer be ashamed of who I am. Thanks for being around to cheer us on.

  • SG Hedonia August 6, 2015, 12:02 am

    Hey Mama Gena~

    Thank you for sharing! I am so glad your book is going as well as it is and that you have caught up with your desire… and it’s leading you now. So freakin’ good!

    I brag that I did Mastery Spring 2009, and I have never looked back! It is truly one of the highlights of my life. I think of it as my re-birth and Mama Gena as the mother of my renaissance. I am incredibly appreciative to have been so incredibly blessed.

    With much love and appreciation.
    In pleasure.

  • carla August 5, 2015, 11:40 pm

    How do you do it Mama Gena?!?!? You always write about EXACTLY what’s going on for me in the moment. It’s uncanny how precisely you have your finger on the pulse. I am handling this moment of my desire coming to fruition by just living in the moment, step by step, being so grateful for all of it. Feeling detached, that I am co-creating with the Divine, and I don’t need to worry about a thing. Just doing my part on this earthly plane, and the rest is being facilitated. I BRAG that I have taken one brilliant step after the next to bring my dream home into fruition. I BRAG that I have used my intelligence, interpersonal skills, timing and intuition to bring this into reality. I BRAG that I haven’t given in to my old story of, “nothing works out for me.” I BRAG that I’m creating a new story. I brag my strength and courage and intelligence and pussy power! Hooray for Sister Goddess energy everywhere!

  • Ana Chajma August 5, 2015, 10:55 pm

    I brag I am a woman who has managed with something I needed to heal from 22 years ago. I am working with it and I know I can do it. It is about shame and feeling guilty for being a woman, it is about life and sex. Now I can respect myself for what I did even I know it was not a good thing. I can honour and respect myself and for me this is great! Thank you mamá gana, Thank you so much.

  • SG Suzi Banks Baum August 5, 2015, 10:37 pm

    Ohhhheeee, I feel the wind blowing past you from here.
    And it causes turbulence…NO! That is UPDRAFT for my own
    momentum. THANK You for living this loud and proud and out and real.
    You make room for me to do the same.
    Yes, my writing and art making and community building and teaching are happening more and more deeply and beautifully. And I am forever grateful for the years of being in and around Mastery and Inner Circle to cause me to know the dance of despair and ownership that has created the life I am living today. In every way, it is interesting, it is real and it is fully mine. Not always picture perfect, but what a dull life that would be.
    I brag working on my own book, making jam, swimming in cold rivers, loving my family, about to leave for a month of travel that includes teaching and a pop-up art exhibit in my hometown then a hiking trip with my hub and the brand new backpack-y thing I just bought so I can carry my journal, art kit and iPad to keep track of it all. I am sewn snugly with gratitude for every cell of my being, being me, being well and fortunate to wake up healthy and cared for today. I desire the next legs of my journey to be gob-smackingly gorgeous and tender and sweet, my workshops to be filled with the perfect people and to have surprising delights flutter around me as I adventure. I love that you asked me to brag today Sister. With much love, S

  • Shakaya Leone August 5, 2015, 10:34 pm

    We are the Creatrixes of Life…
    we’ve the power but not the permission…
    we’ve the pussy but not the permission…
    we’ve the bleeding but not the permission…
    we’ve the keys to the Queendom but not the permission…
    we’ve the sensual beauty but not the permission…
    we’ve the heartsong but not the permission…
    we’ve the seduction but not the permission…
    we’ve the ancient wisdom but not the permission…
    we’ve the artistry but not the permission…
    we’ve the genius but not the permission…
    we’ve the curves but not the permission…
    we’ve the softness but not the permission…
    we’ve the imagination of all Creation but not the permission…
    we’ve the powerful vulnerability but not the permission…
    we’ve the sacred heart but not the permission…
    we’ve the aroma of Heaven but not the permission….
    we’ve the hellion rage at injustice and cruelty but not the permission…
    we’ve the sass and sexiness but not the permission…
    we’ve the heartbreak that turned tears into petals at our feet but not the permission…
    we’ve the transformative alchemy but not the permission..
    we’ve the playful innocence but not the permission….
    we’ve the iconic presence that can light the spark of a thousand hearts but not the permission…
    we’ve the portal to Divine conjuring but not the permission…
    we’ve the magnetic desire but not the permission…
    we’ve the wounding that became the jewels in our crown but not the permission…
    we’ve the stars in our eyes that lights the path but not the permission…
    we’ve the internal compass that smells like sweetgrass to our heart but not the permission…
    we’ve the collective orgasmic Light that can shower this world like an oceanic wave but not the permission…
    we’ve the capacity to receive and birth and heal but not the permission…


    The world needs our magic…we’re the ones we’ve been waiting for.

    THANK YOU OUR FEARLESS ONE, REGENA, lavish with your love, for cultivating your pleasure and fanning our flames and giving the world a crystal clear lens to see the EXQUISITENESS OF WOMAN.


    • melanie miller August 5, 2015, 11:38 pm

      Shakaya…this is exactly it…granting myself permission to RECEIVE
      that which I desire. I was worried about how to ASK for what I want, until I realized it really is already GIVEN, and one does not have to beg for it or work for it. It is already so. One of my teachers says, “your deepest desires are
      God’s wish for you,” and another says, “desire is prayer”…I was the one
      keeping it away. I am grateful for finding Christiane Northrup as I was
      channel surfing a few years ago and her leading me to Mama Gena and the
      amazing marvelous woman here. Longing to learn Tango…outrageous love
      and Shalom blessings…melanie
      Granting myself PERMISSION. Lovely.

      • Shakaya Leone August 6, 2015, 3:01 am

        YES And so it is Melanie (my sister’s name!) this and so much MORE, yours for the Receiving when you allow yourself Permission!

  • SG Jalapeno Hotflash Tina August 5, 2015, 10:24 pm

    I brag, I brag, I brag….My outrageous desire in Miami 2012 was to have the name of my company in lights on top of a building. Today, I am reconstructing a 2000 sqft building my husband and I bought for Dwell Well Realty. It is going to be soooo cool. The name in lights, the vision clear, the business brand and values stated. Scary as shit ladies, I have what I desired and now to fill it with wonderful agents who see the mission of HOME=_______ the way I do, a feeling, not an address, selling and communicating with humanity to quote MF. Greatness lives outside the comfort zone and only with this community and connections, wisdom that I’ve found through it, have I had the inspiration, drive and magic to make it happen. Pussy Rules.

  • Ruby August 5, 2015, 10:05 pm

    why do we have to tear one another down? I am so sick and tired of living in a world where people tear people down, esp. the ones who have the courage to get out there and live. It has been my experience that the people who do this are too afraid to get out there and live their own life. so they shoot those who are out there living. I am proud that I have courage to live in this strange world. I am proud that I have the courage to be a woman in a world so full of hatred toward women. I love all the women (and men) that are stepping forward to work at making this world a safer place to be a woman. In truth I have been terrified to live here as a woman. Women like Regina, Maria give me courage to come out of hiding myself. I am deeply thankful for them. and sick and tired of women tearing one another down.

  • Nina (a.k.a SG Rage) August 5, 2015, 10:04 pm

    Oh, my favorite frame is “I am a woman who loves her pussy.” That speaks volumes.
    That ownership, self-love, knowing and trusting of your deepest, inner and outermost self is my biggest desire for myself. I love you, Regena!

  • Micki August 5, 2015, 9:58 pm

    This is hitting very close to home right now! I really appreciate your brag step at the end…it’s so easy as women to make our accomplishment small so that others can “handle” it. I was very conscious this time to let the weight of this accomplishment, this giant step sink in first with me and then for others to hopefully be inspired. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for being you!

  • Leelee August 5, 2015, 9:57 pm

    Thank you for the magic of this post today. I brag I am creating my own business of designing gardens. My pleasure research into this world has taken me way out of my comfort zone. Last week I found myself at 3 different lumber yards wearing work boots and at a landscape supply company selecting gravel. I was the only woman customer at any of these places! It’s a man’s world, but I’m bringing a focus on pleasure and beauty to the landscaping business. This is all new to me and scary, but also exhilarating. Thanks Regina for all the inspiration, support and connection you have created in your magnificent creation of the School of Womanly Arts.

    • SG Magical August 5, 2015, 10:58 pm

      I love it, Leeleethose guys must be so happy to meet you!! A real woman..

    • SG Erika August 5, 2015, 11:09 pm

      I love it! Build your garden, Darlin’. We all love more gardens in our lives. . . .

    • SG Erika August 5, 2015, 11:20 pm

      Thank you Mama Gena/ Regena, for that fresh sexy wind–so exhilarating as I am writing my novel and remembering how glorious I am to be a woman!
      I love your reminder to pussy on! What could be juicier?
      Exhilarating Wednesday to you, Sister Goddesses!

  • SG Magical August 5, 2015, 9:36 pm

    Oh this is soo familiar… my desire was to have a fantastic relationship, and to go live in nature and for my son to have a fullfilling life oh and for me a fabulous creative juicy life. Here we are, got the man, and he is a hero who is building a house for us so we can live in nature. When I say build, I mean with his own hands and some tools. We don’t have a lot of money so he turned into this fantastic discoverer of beautiful second hand building materials for 1/10th of the cost. Where it got scary it is such a big project to do this, just by ourselves, and how we will be able to move to another country and have the neccesities that come with a severly handicapped kid.. and also sometimes I get scared that my guy might one day change his mind, and prefer a woman more his age… I brag, I brag, that when my guy got this shipment of wood yesterday I managed to find/borrow a fork lift right next door, and then when we went to pick it up there happened to be a waiting customer with a fork lift license who was happy to help us off-load. I brag that there are amazing gifts form the universe coming our way, like finally finding an off-the-road wheelchair, sweet helpful people, I brag I am doing 12 week program the Artist Way, even though there are already not enough hours in the day, I brag my relationship and sensuality and sexuality is growing more and more beautiful. My desire is some fantastic help with the building so we will see amazing progress…. and that I am exploring creativity and becoming so free in expression and designing and ideas that it is way beyond my imagination. And a big BIG thank you to Mama Gena. I couldn’t have done this without you.

  • SG Divine Wisdom August 5, 2015, 9:15 pm

    I can’t shake the feeling that Hillary needs you on her campaign. That she is trying to compete and play this game of politics as a man, and is completely missing all the transmutative power that she has as a woman. It is my desire that when this book is finished it finds its way into her hands, and the reverberative power of your vision of reclaimed womanhood becomes so explicit that its momentum is totally and inescapably inevitable.

    And I love how Marie so playfully teased you about the ‘mama gena’ ‘character’ – it is totally time for you to dazzle us all with the greatness of your unadadulterated radiance.

  • Laura August 5, 2015, 8:49 pm

    Love it…. I’ve been “waiting” 10 years for this moment that I suddenly “find” myself in…thank you mama gena… This really helps; because-yes-I am scared… But yes… It’s Gonna happen-it’s been a long time since we talked-miss you-still connected ????

  • Sandy August 5, 2015, 8:46 pm

    When the universe is accelerating my desires I do three things 1. I Share my excitement/chaos/awe-ness. I share it like the finest wine to sip and enjoy. 2. I ask for MORE. More help, love and ideas. 3. I am SO grateful. I love grateful generosity. I give more than I have ever given.

    • Maria Stenvinkel August 5, 2015, 9:44 pm

      Awesome reply Sandy!

    • melanie miller August 5, 2015, 11:17 pm

      “I love grateful generosity” Sandy, I feel so grateful for that…thank you thank you
      thank you. Outrageous love and blessings for all of us…melanie

  • Yelimar August 5, 2015, 8:40 pm

    God, what a timely article. A few Sister Goddeses got together for a birthday blue moon bonfire ritual at the beach Friday night. As I stood calf deep in ocean water that was calf deep… I saw soft ripples of waves coming at me and encircling me… It was as if the ocean was whispering “all of your desires are coming at you at the speed of light “. My desire and vision for what I want to create have become so clear and energized that this message terrified me! Thank you for giving voice to this feeling.

    This past mastery, and Marie’s revelation of truly behind the scenes stuff is a testament to how ready the world is for your magnificence and message. Love you Regena the fierce, shy yet spunky woman behind MG.

    In sisterhood,

    • mama gena August 6, 2015, 1:34 am

      so you got your blue moon desire, and then some!! well done, sister. xo

  • Marika August 5, 2015, 8:38 pm

    This post really hit a (good/scary) nerve today; here’s my question: I’m in the process of applying for graduate studies in art, something I’ve been desiring for many years. I have the support of my partner, the financial support I need, and now I am faced with doubt, not doubt in myself or my skill but doubt in my desire. What if my desire to go to grad school is coming from a place of fear/wound of not being recognized by the world and seeking external affirmation? How to we clear our desires to know if they are truly in our highest purpose?
    I brag that I continually stand for myself within my life as a mother and partner, something that has taken years (and all of Mama’s tools) to put into practice. I brag that I had an art opening last week and stood for my work in the world and basked in the glow of my daughter’s admiration, and felt the shift at a cellular level as she watched the magnificence of a woman- her own mother- standing for her creative life and work. I am grateful to my family and husband for his support and encouragement to be in my pleasure (he, too, has been taught by Mama). I desire more unfolding of my creative life in the world, and more reckoning with the sacrificing it takes in a family system to support each member standing for their highest self unfolding in the world. I desire to move in perfect timing further into the public/professional aspect of my work. At the same time, I desire to stay rooted in the soulful and juicy life i/we continue to cultivate. Love and gratitude to Mama Gena and all the sister goddesses who have modeled this way of being in the world. Love, SG Marika

    • Jori August 5, 2015, 10:08 pm


    • SG Erika August 5, 2015, 11:03 pm

      Marika, I admire your ovaries and celebrate your art opening and your family! I am an artist and a writer writing MY book now. I say simplify. Don’t ever worry if you have the right kind of desire–if the reason for your desire is up to snuff. Just move forward, ALWAYS, into the greatest desire that you are actually feeling in this each and every moment–even if the greatest desire you feel in this moment is just a path of least resistance compared to the other paths you see. Always YOUR greatest desire, whatever it is, step by step, moment by moment, making the small choices, following the breadcrumbs of your excitement, allowing it to gain velocity. Would grad school create time/space for you to create the art you love in your life? Or do you currently feel drawn to some other path of your creation? Don’t doubt your choices. Just keep choosing the next greatest good feeling.
      Vajayjay on sister! Greatest pleasure will not let you down. Keep making that choice day by day moment by moment.
      In sisterly love,
      SG Erika

    • mama gena August 6, 2015, 1:33 am

      congratulations on creating this huge gorgeous expansive adventure!

    • Deborah Smith aka SG Divine Love August 8, 2015, 6:45 am

      SG Marika,

      I went for my MFA as a mother and a wife and it was the best three years of my life up to that time. I always tell my kids, “Do it. You might not get where you think you want to go, but this will be a big step on the way to the place that is exactly you.

  • alyssia August 5, 2015, 8:28 pm

    It is ridiculous that you have to use a word such as “pussy” to sell your message. Very degrading and so Madonna.

    • Sirenity August 5, 2015, 8:37 pm

      Who are you to judge? If you feel digraded that is not her responsibility.

    • Yelimar August 5, 2015, 8:46 pm

      Honoring you in your discomfort and anger with the “P” word. There is so much for us all to heal around this.

      • SG Sacred Sensual Songstress August 7, 2015, 7:32 pm

        Yes, Goddess. I honor you as well with all that you feel around the “P” word. I am grateful for my journey in embracing the “P” word as it has allowed me to stamd for HER when my male friends and colleagues MISuse her intention. Keep going with this…

    • SG Eva August 5, 2015, 8:51 pm

      I brag that I love my pussy! I’m grateful that Mama Gena has created a space for us all to love our pussies. My desire for you is for you to love your pussy; I hold space for you to process your discomfort and disdain.

    • Shakaya August 5, 2015, 10:47 pm

      I used to feel as you do Sister Goddess Alyssia (and I hope you aren’t offended by me calling you sister or goddess as this community sees all women as sisters and Divine)…I used to cringe at and couldn’t even say the word pussy and I too thought it denigrated women… but this is so NOT Mama Gena’s intent- quite the opposite! And to the degree that I now embrace it is the same degree I have come to embrace the whole of me and what it means to be a woman, to be sexual, to be spiritual AND physical…to live my life with less shame and more pleasure…to be sacred and carnal…to discover more of my truth and beauty and find freedom in an unfree world.

      • Shakaya August 5, 2015, 11:04 pm

        ps I invite you to read Mama Gena’s books and do a Spring Clean on the word pussy, which would assist you to release your charge on it so that you would actually receive the true message of this empowering post!
        And most of all I trust that you love and honour your ladyparts whatever you want to call them.

    • SGHedonia August 5, 2015, 11:56 pm

      Hey alyssia

      I’m guessing you haven’t read any of Mama Gena’s books. If you had, you would know that there is nothing degrading or “Madonna-like” (though I’m not sure I know what that means) about Mama’s use of the word “pussy.” They say “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Maybe you’re just not ready yet?

      In Pleasure,

      • mama gena August 6, 2015, 1:31 am

        thank you, alyssia, for even reading this pussy-friendly post, and responding. i love a woman who speaks her mind.
        and thanks sirenity, yelimar, eva, shakaya, and hedonia for your wonderful responses. sisterhood rules the day.

        • Shakaya August 6, 2015, 3:04 am

          with so much pleasure Mama!
          and a waterfall of inspiration and pleasure for your new book- I’m chomping at the thought of it x

    • Corneille August 7, 2015, 6:00 pm

      Dear Miss Alyssia…. I am older…many times a word evokes particular meanings of our own experience. To have someone else use a word, that is offensive in your world, can me most uncomfortable.
      Admittedly, the first time I read Regina’s term for her ‘private parts’ it snapped my head back because boys of my generation, years ago, used it as a course, vulgar, nasty slang word for something private (very private) in my young girl life….They were doing their best to make me feel embarrassed, ashamed, and afraid of them. They used this word to scare me. And it worked….. For years and years I was afraid. Afraid of my ‘secret parts’, afraid of what they were capable of, afraid of being touched there, of even cleaning myself properly in case I were to do something ‘wrong’ or nasty, or sinful….Years, and years, and years of shame and not feeling like I belonged to myself, that something was dirty about me, that ‘boys knew I was dirty somewhere on my body, and they wanted to laugh at me, touch me there, and laugh at me some more.’ And yes, as a young girl I was attacked by a group of boys, I still can feel their eyes upon me and my private parts…calling it pussy, laughing….”.
      Needless to say, all these many years later when I read Regina’s book and she used the term I was filled with angst. But I wanted change in my life, before I die I wanted to change the way I thought about myself, about all of me, my role as a woman, my place in the world, my right to claim my own ‘self’ for MYSELF. On my own terms, so I kept reading the book, bought the next book, read it, bought the 3rd, and have read it, and I will read any book Ms Regina writes, because she is helping me.
      For the first time in decades I am not ashamed of myself, all of myself, and she has helped me understand in a loving way that my body is beautiful, clean and bright, and it helps me feel good about myself.
      I am so sorry that you felt degraded in any way while reading or listening to Regina’s messages, because I have not felt as if she is ‘selling a product’, or using shock tactics to be outrageous as a means to her ends. From everything i have read or heard, she just wants to help women help themselves to reach what ever their personal goals are. She is a vibrant, joyful woman, who is breaking down barriers all over the world with her love.
      Sometimes we women can be our own worst enemy by degrading each other, like your reference to Madonna….who ,I am sure ,you do not know as a person and has done you no harm either….
      Nevertheless, I hope you will have a peaceful day, and may all your dreams come true…

      • Deborah Smith aka SG Divine Love August 8, 2015, 6:41 am

        SG Corneille,
        Your reply is so beautiful. You have brought me tears of joy, and relief and sadness (for what was for us and what still is for so much of the world). Yes, yes, yes. Thank you.