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Did Mama Get Her Guy??

Have you ever let resistance stop you in your tracks?
Have you ever let the exterior circumstances block you from going for your desire?
Have you ever thrown your desires out the window when they weren’t met with a standing ovation?

I know I have.
2 weeks ago, I posted my desires.
I mean, c’mon, I went all unbound on ya.
I wrote an e-mail, asking you to fix me up with incredible guys, so I could fulfill my desire for partnership.
And it was so scary to think about telling you all what I wanted, that I left town!!
(Went to Montana, actually.)
And then–woohoo!! The responses started coming in.
Women suggested books for me to read.
And going on (I did.)
And telling me that they knew great guys in other states. (Thank you so much!)
But get this:
No one—not one single person of the thousands of you that received my e-mail—introduced me to a guy.
What a feeling.
(Makes me almost want to go back to Montana. :-))
Not one single date!!!!!!!
Not one!!
And I was planning on an avalanche!!

WHAT HAPPENED? After all, if I wasn’t ready for my 5-star guy, why else would I make such a big move?
I realized I was at a crossroads…
This is the point where most women give up on their desires.
I could choose to believe that my desire is wrong, I’m not meant to have it, and I’m doomed to live an unrequited love.
OR I can blaze down a different trail…the trail of throwing my saddle astride the unknown, and galloping in the direction of my dreams, with no horse in sight!

But let me warn you—it’s not for the faint of heart. Uh-uh. It requires you to stand for your pleasure. To trust yourself so deeply, to know that your pleasure, your desires, your longings are not wrong. And it is the practice of The Womanly Arts that prepares you for a moment like this.

Bottom line: I am simply unwilling to let no results stop me from going for and getting what I want. Because—as ever—I am utterly and completely in the game of a life unbound! And I want to teach you to do the same.

Join me next Thursday at my Intro Class: A Life Unbound on January 20th live in NYC!

In this LIVE event, we’re going to identify:
• Where it is YOU are stuck, settling and playing it safe.
• Exactly what it is that keeps you restrained and restricted.
• How pleasure and The Womanly Arts can slice right through those invisible slave chains that keep you bound.
• My NON-NEGOTIABLES to living a life UNBOUND.

You’ll not only get tips and tools to break those chains, you also get me unplugged, answering your Q’s for a fat 60 minutes.
And, of course I’ll update you on my next moves with my desire for a guy…

Don’t wait! THERE’S ONLY ONE WEEK LEFT TO REGISTER! Last year’s Intro SOLD OUT—so reserve your seat today!


A Life Unbound (open to all women 18 years and older)
Thursday, January 20th, 2011
7:00-10:00pm (doors open at 6:30pm)
Lighthouse International
111 E. 59th Street, NYC (between Park & Lexington Avenues)
Cost: $50.00

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

PS. And, if you DO think of some wonderful men for me, I am so open to meeting them (I am a really fun date), and would be so grateful!!! (Send ’em my way at

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  • SG Juicy Joy January 16, 2011, 7:33 pm

    Today as I read this recent blog post I felt so bad…..

    Last Thursday, the day before you were due to make your choice of men, I finally got around to sending you my Atlanta gentleman’s information. I feel so awful that you went without one single entry! Now I feel EXTRA bad about failing to create a submission. But I believe there are no mistakes. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you hadn’t re-checked your email to get my submission because you were meant to share this post with all of us? All your trials, tribulations, doubts and successes as an example to your Sister Goddess’ of how you walk your talk.

    So today I have resubmitted that original email to the address you gave us.
    There is so much good stuff about this man. If he’s not a keeper at least he’s a great guy to practice with =)

  • mamagena January 14, 2011, 2:06 pm

    sisters!!! whoo hoo!!! wow. i am breathing heavy!! i feel so overwhelmedly blessed by your incredible loving inspiring responses!! i cannot tell you how woven inside the magical web of sisterhood i feel right now. and guess what!! i got my first response from a guy!!!! thank you, sister goddess dara.
    i am not sure what to be more thrilled by- this incredible outpouring of sisterhood, which expands the wingspan of my desires, a thousand-fold….or the fact that one of my sisters sent me a wonderful guy!
    i am flat out overjoyed and so so so so so so so so so so so so grateful. i can’t wait to see you all on thursday night at the intro, to thank you in person.

  • SG Teresa January 14, 2011, 11:06 am

    Not one? hmmm…market is still way down?
    You are a hot IPO (initial public offering) seeking high-wealth investor who takes risks.
    Timing is everything!
    Sending you juice for right time and 5* guy.
    Try millionaire matchmaker – you are high profile – would be great PR

  • Natalia January 14, 2011, 8:28 am

    Dear Mama Gena,
    I love you. And wish you all the best
    But why dear you look so unsatisfied? Why don’t you stop running for some 5-star guy and start loving just a normal alife man? Aren’t men around so bad? But they are as they are. And I think they worth to be loved as well.

    With love,

  • Nicole Rowan Holt (Sorceress) January 14, 2011, 3:32 am

    I can see the flames of desire burning from here in Australia. Mama you rock. What courage and what an example of plugging in and going for it. I adore women who live BIG.

    Just one question – please Mama G –

    This one is for all the little globe trotters that can not attend these functions but I would love to purchase your summary notes! Do you think that would be possible??
    Same with Miami – unable to attend but would love to have the notes so that I can too rocket towards my big life.

    Your words, your passion, your conviction – inspire me to go higher.

    Thank you for being MY teacher

  • Theresa S. Valenzuela January 13, 2011, 11:39 pm

    Darling, I was oh so surprised at your post, and then not. I have a theory. Maybe you already know this, but here it is anyway.

    The beloved feminist movement swung the pendulum WAY one way. This needed to be done. However, when women tried to be like men, and men got slammed for being too masculine, they learned that in the romantic realm, they had better hold their power back or else they would be seen as too aggressive, i.e. wrong. Now, what has happened? There are a lot of enlightened 5-star men out there who may be making more per dollar than a woman with the same skills, but they don’t know how they are supposed to be around women romantically! Should they be powerful? Is that still enlightened? Should they be gentle? But women don’t like that either. They are oh so confused. And, I believe, scared of us.

    When a powerful woman comes along, they don’t know what to do. Should they be more masculine? More feminine? I think what they choose to do is shy away from powerful women, period. I for one, have made it my mission to uplift, honor and appreciate men wherever I go (I know you do, too). I watch my language about men, and I no longer tolerate those “men are dogs” conversations. As I uplift men from my place of juicy, juicy power and femininity, I uplift myself as well. No one loses here. Everyone wins. As I uplift myself, I uplift all women.

    So, Mama Gena, I have got your back! I used your 5-star man goals and modified them for me. I think of you all the time, and as I uplift myself and all men I come into contact with, I uplift you and all the Sister Goddesses.

    And in response to Agni, yes, Darling not only do I think I can have it all, I know I can have it all, therefore I DO have it all. I am Inanna, Queen of the Heavens. I create my own reality. So do you. Let’s make it great!

    Namaste. I see you. You are divine.

  • Lauren Harkness January 13, 2011, 8:24 pm

    Oh Regena! Thank you for inspiring me! I know you are so powerful and I can’t wait to read the giant well worth the wait brag when it happens. Because there is one thing you’ve taught me…our desires ALWAYS come…in their perfect time. Sometimes instantaneously, sometimes 3 years down the road! Here’s to you!

  • SG Steph January 13, 2011, 8:16 pm

    There is nothing I love more than having my heart seduced open by someone who models deep self-love. A big huge YES to your desire! Your man is on his way. . .


  • SG HotStuff January 13, 2011, 6:21 pm

    Ooooooh, I can’t wait for you to meet your five-star man!!! I love how open, transparent, vulnerable and powerful you are in this stand!!! You are SUCh an inspiration to all of us! I am curious about these men in the other states….maybe Mr. Five Star doesn’t live in New York YET, but would be willing to move to NYC for a woman like you??? Holding space for your powerful, beautiful desire…

  • Agni January 13, 2011, 6:14 pm

    Hi Mama and all Wonderful Women out there:)

    Nice to see you Mama hold on to your desire and at the same time… Is holding on to not the biggest trap? Do you all really believe you will HAVE IT ALL, just because you want to? Did any of the biggest spiritual teachers promise that this is possible? Nope. Just the other way round – the grace and the bliss comes when you accept what is being given and don’t assume that you can influence everything. Surrender might be the key, but don’t get me wrong, it’s all about sweet surrender, so hold a waving flag of your desires, knowing them is like knowing your boat if you are a fisherman, but hey, you cannot control the ocean, gal!
    With love,
    a self made SG (goddess by nature, sister to you all anyway)

  • Dancin Cowgirl January 13, 2011, 5:00 pm

    Dear Mama Gena,

    22 years ago I found myself at the end of a string of unsatisfying relationships. I kept picking the same kind of partner, creative, brilliant, intense, depressed, gorgeous, dramatic, passionately sexy and not really available emotionally to ROCK it in their life let alone a shared life. I recognized it as a ‘pattern’ and set about to break it. After some really great counseling to help me identify why I kept drawing in this kind of person, I was ready to make the internal change necessary. I literally installed a red alarm button and though I still, to this day, can attract this type of person, I keep them at an arm’s distance.

    Then I wrote a long list with everything MY Soulmate Lfe Partner would possess. I made it incredibly detailed! Afterwards I put it in my lingerie drawer.

    Three weeks later my Life Partner showed up! Though the initial meeting was very intense for both of us, it took some positive drama and courting. Within three months we knew. And 22 years later we are still together and have built an amazing, prosperous, creative, fun, and still very sexy life together. And the list is still in my lingerie drawer! And to boot, we have never gone to bed angry…it’s been a pact. We always have stayed up to work it out…our rule, to the point of laughter!

    To be honest, it was really about me. When I altered my magnetic force to attract what my Spirit REALLY wanted, I drew in my Soul Mate.

    I have no doubts that your man is looking for you, wondering where you are. I do wonder though, sensing that you are drawn to ‘rich positive drama’ if you really think he will show up from an, “Oy Honey, have I got a guy for you!” matchmaking?

    What kind of entrance wlll he make in your life? Remember, this will be your ‘story’ for years to come! Do you desire a rich, dramatic story? Will he have to work for it? Will you recognize each other immediately? Or will it stew in your juices, long and drawn out in a friendship that FINALLY turns sexy?

    On some level I am sure that your Spirit knows what you need to do to draw him in. Trust the voice of our Spirit.

    With love,
    Dancin Cowgirl

  • Ilovemamagena! January 13, 2011, 4:28 pm

    Mama Gena, Thank you for posting your desire. I share that desire for myself, but fear was holding me back. Once you posted I took a deep breath, sent my New Year’s Resolutions to my friends, one of which was to get out and met men, went online, and started flirting! It is SO FULFILLING! I want to flirt with someone every day! And two dates are in the works!

    What you gave me through the expression of your desires is coming back to you in spades. I am sending you love and energy and am looking for fabulous men for you! Love, love, love!

  • Anasha K Shakti January 13, 2011, 2:53 pm

    I have questions about the process. I’m going to email you. I can’t believe not one single person sent you someone. I had my reasons, but was just talking to my sister about it and now, I’m going to check out your older post on this and then see what I can do. I love you Mama Gena! See you on the 20th!

  • Wildcherry January 13, 2011, 2:45 pm

    OH YEAH, MAMA GENA’S PAARRTTTAAAYYYYIIINNN’ with her inner bI+CH. YES. She’s getting hot under her Mama Gena collar and wanting OUT. uF, uF.
    PUSSY ROARZ. Self induced PUSSY WARZ…
    I LOVE IT ALL…You are so juiced up and ready to take it all on / off for the sake of getting what you want. Pinkified Pinky Fives darling Mama Gena.
    Huge energy. Huge desires. Huge resultant HUNK in the offing. No lesser hunks will do. ONLY THE MOSTEST. YYYAAARRGGGHHH.

  • Sandra Lerga January 13, 2011, 2:26 pm

    Hello Beautiful & Scintillating Regena!

    I am at the EXACT same place. I am absolutely ready for my 5 STAR Partner. Oh i can just taste him how near he is!! But as you, i had my own set backs. I keep receiving 2 maybe 3 star ok 4 ish star 🙂 men and it started bumming me out.

    And i started feeling : Gosh where is he? It cannot be that impossible! Dear Lord if the same Creatrix who created me, in a wink blew open the oceans of this earth and with a sigh opened galaxies upon galaxies to celebrate her name…HOW COULD SHE NOT, WITH MY PARTICIPATION, GIFT ME WITH THE IDEAL DIVINE SELECTION OF HER SUMPTUOUS SELF AS ME AND AS HIM UNIFIED!!!!???? I want exactly what i want and you discussing this out loud is anchoring me firmly in my desire.

    I need to hold fast to my dreams. nothing is impossible and i am releasing the fear so i can welcome more wealth, grace & beauty in the form of me and in the form of him: my BELOVED KING.

    One suggestion i have i started doing 3 months ago: In a big black spiraled hard cover artist drawing book i started WRITING HIM LETTERS. I stick collages of our life together and speak to him around these images of BEAUTY.
    Last night i wrote him that i have 3 men interested in me right now and taking me out but that my heart is really LONGING FOR HIM, that i miss him and i am warming the bed for him until he comes home.
    “I am determined to choose YOU” i wrote not just any man because he is “here right now”. I want no one else but YOU!”

    it opened my heart. I wept like i never wept for a man before, so sweet, so deep, so hot we’re my tears…..and i know why. It is because he isnt just any man he is my BELOVED.
    i know im on the right track.
    AND SO ARE YOU!!!!!!!!

    We are raising each other higher.
    love always
    sister goddess
    sandra Lerga

  • SG Tiiu January 13, 2011, 2:21 pm

    I so agree with Empress Shakaya! 5-star guys might have projects to finish. There might have to be closures now that he has the inkling you might be interested in someone like him. Look at this from his perspective – no sex until you were willing to give him a fighting chance?!? C’mon, give the guy a break!

    And I so agree with another sister – give yourself a break. A breather. Sit still for just a moment, breathe, feel.. You don’t need to do anything, you are goregeous and fun and attractive and everything!

    Thank you so much for putting this up for us to read and learn from! This pushes me to hold on to my dreams, being true to my values, my deepest ME now and when I change by tomorrow. Love you!

    SG Tiiu

  • SG Allison January 13, 2011, 1:48 pm

    Mama, I have no doubt you will pull in the biggest, best love of your life.

    You could do what I just did, which is this 7 week workshop, “Calling in the One!” It was so deep, the work was internal, work that your Mastery program helped prep me for, that I have no doubt either that I, too, will call in ‘the one’ now, too. There’s a book of the same title, too. Another SG friend of mine did it , too, and has already called in her guy.

    Sending you love, support and standing for your desire,

  • SG Judy Adored January 13, 2011, 1:38 pm

    Mama Gena – You really ARE very inspiring!

    I’ve had my share of “bumps” in the road myself lately, and it really is so tempting to just give it up. But, we want what we want. (Whatever that is.) Why give up now?

    I stand for you receiving, accepting and having exactly the kind of 5 star guy you are looking for.

    I’m picturing you smiling, laughing and being FILLED with joy, pleasure and fun as you share amazing adventures with “Mr. 5 Star”.

    Keep us posted! 🙂


  • Eline January 13, 2011, 1:30 pm

    You are so Amazing Mama!!! Thank you for being so boldly honest and transparent, its so inspiring!!!

    May ALL your desires come to you!!!!!


  • SG SHERRY January 13, 2011, 1:17 pm

    Dear Mama,

    I love how brave and unabashedly fierce and fearless you are. I cry tears of joy thinking about you going forward with your desires. I thank you for giving me an example of playing it big and sticking to your pink guns. Thank you for being you, I appreciate all you do for womankind and I stand with you in your desire for a legendary love.

    Believe it or not I am in the same boat. I am desiring a legendary love, the heart of hearts, the Hope Diamond of all Love if you will. But unlike you I am stuck in fear, I have some work to do. I see how fear doesn’t stop you and it inspires me. I thank you.

    With so much appreciation and gratitude.


    P.S. You have the nicest staff in the world, the Pleasure Team and all who work for you are so amazing! I send big hugs and kisses to all of you.

  • Kristina January 13, 2011, 12:39 pm

    Love, LOVE You! My eyes are WIDE open for you!! I am standing in your desire you are amazing!! The word is out sister!

  • Empress Shakaya January 13, 2011, 11:59 am

    This just lit me up like the night time sky full of stars! AHHHHHHHH the fierce feminine rising in full bloom is something to behold!

    Holding space for you SiStar Goddess until Mr Magnificent is magnetized right to you!

    More determined than ever to hold space for my dreams…and to gush with a fireworks of appreciation for the A-MAE-ZING man of mine…When he was ready, he used to say ‘She is coming right to me’ and everyone thought he was crazy because he lived in the woods and worked passionately on his dreams 24/7 refusing the bar scene and hunting for his Queen…and through a series of everyday miracles, I literally was brought RIGHT TO HIM. That was 13 years ago, and now we create miracles together.

    Keep your particles flowing, stay juicy and excited about everything you have already manifested in your beautiful life my Gorgeous, and patiently relax now that you have asked, and called this relationship into your life…He is literally getting ready for you…xo

  • Liz January 13, 2011, 11:37 am

    Hey, Mama Gena, I have really benefited from your books (went through a late life divorce and now remarried to my 5 star guy). I met him unexpectedly through a friend. He is her brother. I didn’t even know she had a brother. Your desire is not wrong just because this method didn’t work. You will meet him. In my case, I had to believe I “deserved” him first. And your wisdom turned me around from serving to being served. It really works.

  • Vanessa January 13, 2011, 11:36 am

    It is really empowering to hear a woman, you, show all of her, her vulnerability, her strength. That’s truth and authenticity, something that allows us to really feel like we are being and living as ourselves! Thank you for sharing this!!!

  • Luxurious Laurie January 13, 2011, 11:06 am

    Regena!! I am ever on the lookout for a man worthy of your light…and he will appear to you, one way or another…you KNOW this…I do, too!!! I stand for your desire…or better!!!

    SG Laurie Mayer

  • SG Denva January 13, 2011, 10:59 am


    I love how you are still going forward, turning this into gold. What a skill! What determination! How fierce! And of course you aren’t giving up on us to produce. I have your cards in my wallet. If I find someone who is worthy of you, I’ll make sure to pass it along with glowing compliments.

    I stand for your desire.

    SG Denva