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Don’t Listen to Me

Who hears voices?
Do you?
Joan of Arc did.
But was she a heroine? Or just some misguided 15th century gangsta girl with a dream?
Howzabout Cassandra? Whom Apollo granted the gift of prophecy? She saw the future, but she was cursed so that no one would ever believe her.
Some of us hire psychics and soothsayers to tell us what our own voices say.
Because we can’t hear them so good on our own.
And what are those voices, anyway? Intuition? The future? Our divinity?
Or plain nonsense?

Then there is you.
And me.
The regular people of the 21st century.
We all have our version of voices, our version of intuition.
But can we believe ourselves when we hear our own voices?
Or not?
How do we benefit from this incredible, uncharted gift?
Is it possible to learn to really, really listen to our intuition—but more than listen, to actually trust it?
Because the raw truth is, the voice we should each trust the most is our own.
If we could only hear it, and connect with it.
Inside of each of us is all the soothsayer we would ever require. We have the ability to intuit exactly what it is we need. We can sense danger, sense adventure, sense goodness, sense opportunity.

And oddly, real intuition does not come from our head.
It is not a thinking thing.
It is a body thing.
In fact, it is not just any body thing—it is a consequence that is specifically a result of the body feminine. That is why it is so easily misunderstood. Especially by the masculine inside us, and outside of us.
If intuition is a specifically feminine attribute, it would make sense that guys don’t exactly understand it, and might feel threatened, and it would make sense that we all start to doubt our own intuitions, as well.
Not to mention that we do not have a lot of good role models to follow.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to go the way of Joan or Cassandra.
We also don’t have an understanding of what intuition is, or how to turn up the volume when we need it.
So let’s clarify.

See, the body woman is designed with 8,000 nerve endings dedicated to pleasure. 8,000. Yup. That is a huge concentration. Kind of like the control panel. The Mainframe. The Source. And that means that your 8,000 nerve ending-ed epicenter uses her ability to feel, spectacularly, to synthesize and integrate information from diverse sources, including the conscious, the unconscious, the cerebral cortex, the hypothalamus, and the peripheral nervous system. And all of that information, wrapped sealed and delivered—instantly—is what we call feminine intuition.
Can you see where I am going here?
The more you feel…is the more you feel.
The more you can surrender to your own 8,000 nerve endings, the more they will speak to you.
If you actually allow yourself to put your key in your own ignition, and take that baby for a ride, explore all her nooks and all her crannies, and let her unfurl to her full feeling potential, the louder you will hear her raw intuitive truth.
Who knew that pleasure was the secret to sharpening your intuitive skills?
But it sure works that way. The more we feel, the more we…feel.
And intuition is not a thought.
It is a feeling.
A feeling that must be cultivated.
A feeling that must be nurtured.
A feeling that is a key ingredient to a happy, healthy, balanced life.
As you know, feeling pain does not amp up your intuitive dial.
It is when you amp up your pleasure that you can really begin to take advantage of the privilege and power of that raw, strong voice inside you that has so much of your deep truth to offer you.

So, what are you going to do to amp up your pleasure today?
How can you pay tribute to your pleasure? To your Source?
What will you do to put your key in your own ignition?
Give me all your deep intuitive thoughts and feelings and responses about this blog, below.
I learn so much from every single post.
And if you learned something from this post, share it with your friends.

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. There’s an entire arsenal of Womanly Arts and tools designed to put you back in touch with your raw truth. Arm yourself in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp.

photo: lizlinder.com

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  • Wildcat August 17, 2012, 4:57 pm

    I woke up this morning to a beautiful text from a long distance friend. As soon as I replied, we were talking all morning and into the afternoon. And I literally stroked my 8,000 nerve endings to enliven them and bring me pleasure during our conversation. The conversation was very playful and flirty. And afterwards, we engaged in a game of chess online from our phones. The entire time was blissful. I derived so much pleasure from it–even moreso from knowing that my pleasure rubbed off on him.

    Thank you so much, Mama Gena, for sharing your wisdom. xo

  • Rebecca May 26, 2012, 10:00 am

    Seriously, Mama,

    May I write pleasure posts for your blog?

    Or, any posts!

  • The Mynx May 23, 2012, 4:31 am

    Hmmm… woman-hood. Fav frame: The more you feel…is the more you feel. Love it. And you. Thank you, as ever. xx

  • Tasha May 18, 2012, 4:54 pm

    I used to have my intuition ‘on’ only in regard of bad happenings. And they all have been really bad.
    And I became aware of my intuition and scared of it. And tried to shut it up.
    Now I found this new way of using this very ‘thing’ – the more -the better!
    What a revolution! I must now rewire all my previous fears and tune this rich and sensitive instrument into complete different existence – happiness! Pleasure! No Fear!
    How long this will take for the person like me?….
    I don’t care.
    I am starting now…..
    I feel that better now, then never….
    So much Love for this, Mama Gena!
    You make me brave and confident with your wisdom and love.
    Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Ally aka Tantric Dragon May 17, 2012, 12:11 pm

    Belly dance class with the girls then a nice hour long sauna before work. Sweet way to spend a morning. Thanks for your inspiration, mama!

  • BSG Glitzy Cougar Karen May 17, 2012, 10:15 am

    You hit the ball out of the park! They are all good, but this one? What a reminder! I have been running, then staring at my bookshelf, looking at the three books on “Intuition”…Cultivating Intuition, Finding Your Intuition, Intuition for Dummies (okay, I made that up:), but who knew I was literally sitting on her, and her 8,000 nerve endings!!!
    YES! I must go now, and stroke myself with my red feather, do a sexy dance break and tune into to what she has to say!

  • Rebecca May 17, 2012, 9:19 am

    I am feeling fearful about the future with a man that I’m seeing — worrying about problems that might develop and whatnot. Last night I remembered that someone once told me that what we fear happening in the future is often already happening right now – and that when we notice that, we also notice that’s it’s not such a terrible thing after all. That’s a good thing to remember – and still, I find myself needing and wanting to let go of that fear and live in the fullness of the wonder of the way this relationship is unfolding, moment to moment – and also in the fullness of the wonder of my life.

    This morning I went swimming at the pool with a friend. It was an excellent thing to do for myself. And then I went back into my email and read your post about why dating is so hard. Today I am going to focus on my pleasure. My mom is coming to visit, and I’m going to look for specific opportunities to have fun. I will flirt with myself in the mirror during bathroom breaks. I will drink tea and eat delicious, health-giving foods. I will call a friend just to say hello!! 🙂 I will enjoy my life in its fullness, without worrying about what might happen with this man – or what I fear is happening. Instead, I will let go and let myself enjoy all the greatness that surrounds me. Like the jazz that is playing at this coffee shop.

    Can I write blog posts for this blog regularly, please? All about pleasure, and pursuing it. Bathing in it. I can do a really good job, I promise.

  • Lola May 17, 2012, 8:35 am

    No rushing around, no flustered feelings. Today it’s excitement, an energetic flow, and the contemplation of my blessing as I go through my day.

  • Beth May 17, 2012, 6:04 am

    I’m all about the Pleasure-gasm! Funny how pleasure is sometimes only used when speaking on sexual experiences. When I think of real pleasure in my life I think of : Speaking my truth even when it feels new and all funky like!
    Sleeping soundly.
    Cranking some Grace Potter and singing as if I were her with my car windows down.
    Committing to myself and making a pact that I let my gut (intuition) lead the way more and more.
    Amplifying my YES! always!
    Thanks for the stage Mama Gena and all you luscious goddesses!

  • Kristen May 16, 2012, 10:20 am

    This totally illuminated the heart of the matter for me:

    “The more you feel…is the more you feel.”

    And will be what I remember every time I try to skip a daily dose of pleasure. I value my intuition so deeply. Thank you for this reminder.

  • Sherrie Huckelberry May 16, 2012, 12:31 am

    Decide today to allow simplicity to rule my day. Took every opportunity possible to bath in the senseuousness of springtime in the northwest. The result has been feelings of gratefulness to be more connected ,aware , of the power of natures attraction and knowing that I am in unity with this power. Yummy galore, managed to maintain this yummyness even as I took care of setting up buisness . Thank you Mama Gena for the reminder to lite up our pleasure dome.

  • Regina, Queen of the Desert May 15, 2012, 11:23 pm

    Amping up my self-pleasuring has literally re-created me! I decided to go for it and see what shook down. Besides the sass and sashay of a totally sensually (self-!) pleasured woman, I see it all now. Wow, all over the place. Some of it is not easy to see… That’s okay, because I know that I’m the greatest friend, lover, confidant, and SOURCE that I have ever had.
    Knew this in theory, for years.
    Now I walk it.
    Divine!
    Love to all of you,
    Regina Grande, Queen Of The Desert

  • irena kowalsky May 15, 2012, 2:09 pm

    Hi Mama, I am in Mastery 2012 and keep feI neeli L. Neverng anxious and been having trouble with “pleasure research” until today. I have been racing around, DOING, DOING, and not feeling I was getting it. Then today I re read your Blog and re-read the article by C. Northrup and OMG, the conn3ction finally…what she says about nitric oxide I knew. It was te mention of …when a women rests, when a woman enjoys a meal she is in her pleasure. I never thought of this as Pleasure….it was action, doing someting, NW I GET I. I love to rest, enjoy a leisurely meal and never thought of it as worthy or enough to be enough. Now I can expand my definition of pleasure to include passive pleasure, BY JUST BEING. NO NEED TO RUSH & WORRY IF ALL THE HOMEWORK IS NOT DONE.

    • regena May 15, 2012, 8:21 pm

      thank you for the reminder!!

  • Galina May 15, 2012, 1:26 pm

    Thank you so much Mama for this post. I had sex last night and the physical part was great. Then it ended and when he drove me home, he asked how it was for me. That voice inside me wasn’t happy, my inner Goddess wasn’t happy. I was up 1/2 the night wondering what to do about that voice inside me and now I know that if I don’t hear it I will only cause damage to myself. I am so very grateful to have received your email today and to have read this pos on your blog. It was perfect

  • Kat May 15, 2012, 1:03 pm

    Yes and Yes.

    Just today I was pointing out to someone who was suggesting a “teacher” (read: guru) to me that I really don’t require or want that kind of relationship in my life right now.

    Thank you for participating in the disassembling of the guru mentality. For the form of leadership through modeling a behavior, rather than teaching by coaching.

    kph

  • Cathrin May 15, 2012, 12:54 pm

    today my little pleasure trip was, driving very very fast on a short distance, with no other cars on the highway!!! I LOOOOVVVE driving fast when im in that moode. it ticles down my hole body, and I feel sooooo very free 😀
    big hugs and thanks for ur fabolous work!

  • Megan May 15, 2012, 11:04 am

    wow–thank you, Mama Gena, for the inspiration and for pulling me back to center again and again. Everyday I get swept up by the externals, and so it’s a lifesaver to be reminded of my powerful, sensual, rejuvenating core–meant literally and figuratively, of course! And so liberating to say as I unwind some of these old religious roots…
    with love and admiration to you—

    • regena May 15, 2012, 11:52 am

      those old roots are so grateful to be unwound….
      xo

  • Cyndy Bragg May 15, 2012, 9:12 am

    This line does it for me – “Because the raw truth is, the voice we should each trust the most is our own.” I asked you a few years ago how I would find my way, that I wanted a coach, that I didn’t know how to reinvent myself. You told me I didn’t need anyone but that I just needed to listen…because every woman instinctively knows what to do and how to do it by following the individual path of pleasure. It was a novel idea to look within and it worked! I love this post and I LOVE you G-luvr!

  • Steph May 15, 2012, 9:01 am

    YES! YES! YES!!!!!!!!!

  • Suzi Banks Baum May 15, 2012, 9:00 am

    This entirely quote-albe and intuitively inspired post settles in around each of my cells, who are singing a chorus of ‘YES’!

    Yesterday, I invited my intuitive connection to take a force I have previously quieted and it surprised me to feel how fiercely my passion to create, to be excellent and to express myself resides within me. I have been nice for so long that as I allow this passion to sound in me, I can question it’s validity or necessity.
    Somehow, yesterday, in preparing to read this post today, my body took up more space, made more sound and leapt in to action.
    I love feeling my own energy, at my own hand, connected to my voice.
    Thanks Mama Gena for the operating instructions.
    xo S

    • regena May 15, 2012, 11:51 am

      thanks, suze.
      xo

  • SG Elli of the Eternal Orgasm May 15, 2012, 8:37 am

    For 25 years, I quieted the voice in me that said, “Go make an organic sustainable farm for you and your family.” I lived in town and married a city boy. I got a job and had two lovely children. Three years ago, after graduating from 2 consecutive Mastery Programs, I opened up the little gilded box that had held my dream all these years. I dusted off the dream. I started polishing it. I wept as I wrote out my desires around this farm.

    A year later, hubby created an urban farm for me in my city yard. Raised beds. Hens. Ducks.

    A year after that, my uncle did the most wonderful thing as he struggled with cancer that is ending his life. He suggested to my aunt that she buy a farm and that she and I and my hubby live together on this farm! It would give him comfort, as his faced the thought of leaving my aunt, to know that she would get her dream of a small farm and have the love of her niece to carry her through life.

    So, her dream is my dream and our dream is coming true thanks to our intuition and the men who love us!

    We will be closing on our 30 acre farm on May 30th!!

    Oh, this is all so incredibly delicious!!! So very delicious.

    Love and pleasure,

    Sister Goddess Elli (of Richmond, VA)

    • regena May 15, 2012, 11:50 am

      i love the thought of you and your tribe in the country! so good!

    • Jane May 15, 2012, 4:57 pm

      well that ones makes me weep. You go SG Elli! Incredible, just incredible

    • Alicia Randisi-Hooker May 15, 2012, 7:57 pm

      Well this one made me cry… have been going through a period of some loss, and trying to find my bliss again. Reading this made me want to reconnect to myself and my dreams once again. Thank you for sharing.

    • Beth May 17, 2012, 5:56 am

      that is absolutely divine! Divine commitment, Divine authenticity and in the utmost divine timing- yes, yes, yes! our “guts” will always guide us, if we let them! Happy Farming! You’ve reminded me of the beautiful burning in my gut! Thank you siStar!

  • SG Sofia, Sof~ull of Joy May 15, 2012, 7:38 am

    Oh Mama, a simple thank you for the reminder of what I have been blessed with as a woman. Seems the more I know the more I need the reminder that I am enough and have all the knowing I need built into my womanhood!

    “Because the raw truth is, the voice we should each trust the most is our own.”

    Love how you love Us and teach us to Love Ourselves . . .

    With Deepest Gratitude
    SG Sofia

  • Louise Munck May 15, 2012, 7:29 am

    Mama Gena,
    Wanted to let you know that I have recently introduced your notion of “a pleasure break” to my fellow female colleagues – and it was very well received!! Intuitively, it just makes sense to us! Just came back from one of these pleasurable breaks, a conversation over a coffee and a brownie with one of my clever and funny colleagues.
    Thanks for reminding us to enjoy the hours and days we have in this life…

    Love,
    Louise

    • regena May 15, 2012, 11:49 am

      oooh, what lucky colleagues! well done, you pleasure revolutionary!

  • Wildcherry May 15, 2012, 7:25 am

    365 days of researching “feeling”… Almost hit the 1/3 marker. Am I feeling more – yeah Yeah YEAH!!! More clarity on life purposes, more feelings of great health, more sensitivity to the nuances of my love : giving and receiving, more compassion towards the Great State of Unfeelings, feeling hope for my future as I center and ground into my 8,000 nerve endings-ed center. Thank you for the chance to say so 😉 kisses beautiful Mama Gena