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Flab, Cellulite, and Dangling Arm Fat

Oh, Sisters. Why, why, why would you ever open this post with such a horrifying subject line? Flab. Cellulite. Dangling arm fat. I mean, which of us has not accused ourselves of having all of the above at one time or another? I mean, just last weekend, I went riding with my goddaughter and at lunch, all she wanted to do was play with my dangling arm fat. My daughter likes to do that, too, and has done it from the time she was a babe in my arms.

What is up with that? Feels good, I guess. All sorta soft and squooshie.

And we, as women, have spent thousands upon thousands upon thousands of dollars on fixing all these so-called problems. We go to endless workout classes, try Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, no wheat no dairy, or put ourselves in ketosis with all bacon, steak, and no vegetables, or fast on green juices, or one of my favorite heartburn-inducing beverages: lemon juice and cayenne. But at the end of the day, where are we?

As far as I can tell, flab, cellulite, and dangling arm fat can still be detected. Even if only microscopically.
As you know by now, I have worked with thousands upon thousands of women.
And I have found one thing to be irrefutably true.
I have witnessed it over a lifetime.
And there has never been a single deviation from this eternal verity.
Every woman on earth looks absolutely stunningly beautiful when she is naked.
That’s right.
You heard me.
And I have seen more women naked than a fleet of gynecologists.
Every horse if beautiful.
Every rock is beautiful.
Every tree is beautiful.
And every woman is a work of art.
When she thinks so.
Aye, and there’s the rub, oh sister mine.
She has to think so. Or she’s not.

A woman choosing beauty is the most incredible piece of practical magic I have ever witnessed. There is nothing more powerful or more moving than the sight of a woman granting herself her own beauty.
It is as if teams of angels assemble and sing madrigals in sheer gratitude that she has finally come to her senses. No kidding. It is that archetypal.
The interesting thing is that granting oneself one’s beauty is kind of like being your own fairy godmother and boinking yourself on your own head with your wand.
It works perfectly, but it expires at midnight and you have to cast the spell again when you wake up the next day.
Beauty is non-denominational. Old, young, fat, thin, we all have the same quotient of beauty within our grasp at any given moment. We all have it, or we all don’t, depending on our internal practice.

Now, don’t get crabby with me. You know this to be true. Some days you just wake up and you are stunning. We call this “having a good hair day.” Some call this the morning after a fabulous toss in the hay. (Getting tossed in the hay is a gorgeous visual, but actually very itchy. Don’t ask me how I know.)
And I do want to mention something else.
Men are not nearly as fussy about women’s bodies as women are.
Men were simply built to love women.
If she has 8,000 nerve endings, they love her.
If she smiles at him, knowing she is the queen beauty of all time, in her own mind, it is as if he was hypnotized, eternally captivated by her spell.
For more reinforcement of this point, Google the Courtesan, Ninon de Lenclos, who was courted and longed for well past her 70th birthday. Or talk to my very own mother who recently got engaged.

I can still feel your doubt and hesitation, my treasure. Therefore, I am going to have to prove this to you with a bit of homework. But, just like Beauty herself, you are going to have to get up off your proverbial arse and actually take these steps, which all appear in my book, Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. And after you complete these steps, don’t forget to do it again tomorrow.
See, right now, I am slim, strong, taut, and gorgeous. But, if I forget these practices, then I, too, will succumb to a bad case of flab, cellulite, and dangling arm fat.
Shhh…….listen……can you hear the madrigal?

Exercise One: How to Talk to Yourself

At least three times a day, every day, say out loud to yourself, “I am beautiful.” You can say this life-changing little phrase as you walk down the street, as you pass a mirror, at your desk. You can quietly think “I am beautiful” as many times a day as you wish, but you must say it out loud no less than three times. For extra credit, do it in front of a mirror and give yourself a little wink as you do. This exercise totally changes your body chemistry from self-negation to self-adoration in one second flat. If you do it before an important meeting or dinner with your boyfriend, you are a genius! You don’t need to worry about changing the unconscious messages you send yourself every day; they’ll start changing on their own once you convince yourself of your gorgeousness. Just add on this little ditty and you will be giving yourself a three-second beauty treatment every time you do.

Exercise Two: Sister Goddess Activism

Tell three different women, three times today, that they are beautiful. See how that makes you feel.

What are you doing on a daily basis to make yourself feel beautiful? Tell me in the comments below. And if you want to enhance another woman’s beauty, please share this post on Facebook, Twitter, email, etc.

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. Mastery Graduation kicks off this Sunday, June 24th, and you’re invited! Get the details here.


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  • ferdouse May 17, 2016, 1:52 am

    Most of us regular women have cellulite, that is why sometimes its hard to look at celebrities and wonder how do they “get rid of cellulite”? Here are some of our favorite stunning moms who also look beautiful, even with cellulite.
    – read more..

  • jimmy jack September 26, 2012, 9:05 am

    what a great idea.

  • Rachael August 22, 2012, 4:26 pm

    I totally needed to read this article today. I’m just having one of those ‘down’ days and not feeling so great about myself so this is just what I needed to hear. I will chant the “I am beautiful” 3 times starting today. Thanks for the pick me up!

  • Carol July 13, 2012, 1:13 am

    Ohmygosh….. Fucking A!!!!! LOL!!!!! Okay let me tell you what happened. I was getting down on myself for arm fat, “getting old”, etc… Meanwhile, I am an incredibly hot 53 year old chick who meets (and pulls) men of all ages, but there was no end to my habit of picking myself apart, arms, breasts, teeth, calves…. Well, you get the idea… I decided to use the S.G. method… I would pick body parts and say to myself… “I have the most beautiful —— in the world.” When I decide to do something, I go big :))))) So I started to say I have the most beautiful titties (or sometimes I would use the word breasts) in the world… Lo and behold, exactly one week apart, with two different dates, each of whom I was engaged in a major (fun!!!!!!!) make out session, etc, etc, post date…. effusively complimented my gorgeous titties…. So much more fun than hating my parts!!!

    Much love to all my S.G.s!!!!!!

  • LiZa June 23, 2012, 1:42 am

    How does it get any better than this? I have some sticky hearts on my mirror above and to the left of my face and as I affirm my beautiful and wonderful self the little hearts seem to boost it. Funny, the little hearts are Valentine’s Day leftovers from an old lover, we decided to become good friends only and I thought of removing them however I kept the hearts for me as if they are from me and to me, they don’t remind me of him but just of LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Carol July 13, 2012, 1:30 am

      I want to decorate my apartment in Valentine’s Day motif/colors 🙂

  • regena June 21, 2012, 11:23 am

    yo, ellie! you are funny 🙂
    how do you feel beautiful with red spots all over? easy. you are ALIVE, baby!!!!!
    if you want to go deeper – and learn how to use of the tools and arts to really get your stove crankin’ – sign up for boot camp.
    the reason my grads use so many exclamation points is that, because of using the tools and arts- they finally FEEL beautiful and fabulous, after a lifetime of doubt. it is sweet friggin’ relief….i want that for you.

  • ellis crawford June 21, 2012, 10:09 am

    so, riddle me this.
    how do i feel “FABULOUS!!!” and “Beautiful” and “HOT!” with 1 inch red spots all over my body (Psoriasis). i don’t feel any of those things. i feel “UGLY!!!!” and “Unattractive!!”

    also, what is it with “fabulous” women (aka goddesses) and the overuse of the exclamation point? too much focus on body and not enough on character? just askin’


  • Julia Speer June 20, 2012, 2:03 pm

    I have a t-shirt that reminds me of my beauty. On the front of the t-shirt it says in big red capital letters, “YES, I AM!” On the back it says, “Vibrant, Radiant, Magnificent, Passionate, Glorious, Brave-Hearted, Adventurous, Free-Spirited, Playful, Creative, Determined, Pulsating With Life!” I love to wear it and have people ask me, “Yes, you are WHAT?” To which I smile and turn around showing them the back of my t-shirt and say with gusto and enthusiasm, “ALL of these FABULOUS things!”

  • Missie Sue June 20, 2012, 2:11 am

    Love, love, love this post. These are things I know in the back of my heart, but forget from time to time. When I need a reminder that beauty exists outside of the mainstream spectrum, I head on over to The beautiful photos there never cease to inspire me.

  • SG Steph June 19, 2012, 10:20 pm


    After finding you a couple of months ago, I got your School of Womanly Arts book two days ago… And, my gosh. Divine timing or what?! I have been realising, truly, just how amazingly, gorgeously, fabulously beautiful I am, and reading your inspired and energised words has just made me step into that.

    I AM Beautiful, naked! And I am beautiful at all other times, too. But, I tell you, over the past few days I’ve just been so excited whenever I get naked and in front of the mirror, and see my wonderful body and face looking back to me. I OWN my features now, and I look forward to pulling their grace and sex ever closer to me, through your inspiration, and my own empowered energy.


    With eternal love and blessings and divine sisterhood,

    Steph xox

  • Laura June 19, 2012, 10:03 pm

    This year I lost 35lbs. I am strong ,sexy,and sassy.I workout with an outstanding trainer
    3 daqys a week and at 61 I am in better health than I was when I was 50. Aging is a BEAUTIFUL THING

  • Sarah June 19, 2012, 4:08 pm

    I am on the tail end (I hope!) of a self-publishing venture. Yesterday I spent most of the day working on the front cover, and it is FABULOUS! I have it front & center on my computer screen today, and every time I see it, I feel absolutely GORGEOUS!, because I have finally developed the power to make my own dreams reality. Every time I see that amazing cover, I see my own unstoppable beauty.

  • Bobbie June 19, 2012, 3:38 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful blog, Mama Gena! I am new to your blog (just started reading it very recently) and love how it brightens my day and week. I just recently started doing an affirmation daily that is already making a difference, which is “I am a happy, healthy, sexy, spiritual, international millionaire!” Now, I am also adding saying out loud that I am beautiful at least 3 times per day. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!

  • robin~ June 19, 2012, 2:45 pm

    oh, Mama, THANK YOU! Today is my 41st birthday and I just had skin cancer surgery so I have stitches all down the middle of my nose – the nose I never loved and now I miss. (I got your book to read in the waiting room at the surgeon’s office!) I’m a single momma, scared that love has passed me by now that I’m over 40 and will have a scarred face and I need so many reminders that I AM BEAUTIFUL and YOUNG and HOT! thanx for the birthday gift =)

  • Lynnette June 19, 2012, 2:41 pm

    I was the one receiving a “you are beautiful” the other day from my SIL and it made be feel radiant!

  • Rebecca June 19, 2012, 2:27 pm

    Dear Mama,

    I Looooooove the advice to tell different women that they are beautiful. Not only does telling women they are beautiful make me feel sexy, playful and happy, it also combats any feelings of jealousy I might harbor. I like to tell a woman she is gorgeous before whatever man I’m with even notices. Then, we can appreciate her together, and all three of us are in on the fun of being attractive and attractable. The experience becomes more about our shared humanity and capacity to love what is pleasurable, and less about who has a thinner waist, tighter thighs, or clearer skin. When I tell a woman she is beautiful, I feel that I am receiving a part of her beauty for myself, and it feels great!

    I appreciate, too, the comment you make about the need to recast the spell every single day. It’s so important to remember that, as living, changing beings, we need to continue to practice that which we want to remain constant within us. As I’m sure you’ve already noticed, Wikipedia attributes this quote to Ninon: “We should take care to lay in a stock of provisions, but not of pleasures: these should be gathered day by day.” Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, says that only our egos are concerned with what we have already done, while our higher Selves are concerned with what we are doing NOW. All of these reminders say the same thing to me — that we need to make sure to fill our pleasure/creativity/beauty cups over and over and over again.

    Thanks again, Mama.

    And I’m still itching to write blog posts, too! 😉

  • Rebecca June 19, 2012, 2:18 pm

    This posting couldn’t have come on a better day-I was charged with running a workshop this morning and reading this first helped to boost my confidence!

    I am also reading the owners and operators guide to men right now and I am going to suggest it to everyone I know. It is fantastic and it makes me feel fantastic. Thank you!

  • Bernadette June 19, 2012, 1:49 pm

    Hello Beautiful Woman!
    This is how I greet all my sisters! The smile on their faces is priceless. You can even see them smile on the phone! Sometimes I get really big about it and say “Hey gorgeous!” You must know my back story that I was emotionally abused for years (didn’t even know about this kind of abuse). Our family car was repossessed and I was on my own with two little ones under the age of 7. I got what I needed, a car. I also got a marker and wrote around the visor mirror , “Hello Beautiful”. One day my daughter looked in the mirror and asked what it said. “The mirror tells you that you are beautiful”. Her smile was a treasure. To this day (she is now 8) she continues to inspire me with her joyfulness and beauty. I needed to believe that I was beautiful first…. and yes, even LOVE my beautiful naked naked naked body…. yummmmy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    PS- I am in year three with the man that I literally dreamed up through playing with the idea of how it would feel walking, playing, snuggling etc with him. It was fun manifesting him. From the beginning he has called me beautiful woman and reminds me when I forget….. especially when I am NAKED!!!!!!
    PSS- Thank you so very much for the Daily Fluff and for your incredible presence on this Earth oh most GORGEOUS woman! I look forward to meeting you someday. We are going laugh our heads off….. I can just feel it…..

  • Kelly June 19, 2012, 1:25 pm

    I love my rolls. I love my dimples. I love my big, full hips and my round squishy belly. I’m soft and I have curves. I am a woman. That is how I’m made. I don’t want 6-pack abs. I’m not hard and straight like a man. But I love how my man gets hard when he digs his hands deep into my flesh. Being soft is feminine. And I know on every level that my power is in my softness.

    • Rebecca June 19, 2012, 2:29 pm

      fuck YEAH!!!!! you go girl!!!

  • Emmylicious June 19, 2012, 1:16 pm

    I had “who will you blow away with your beauty today?” written on my bathroom mirror in bright pink lipstick, until I didn’t even need the question; I just woke up thinking “the world! the world! the whole, wide world!”

  • Diana June 19, 2012, 12:54 pm

    Recently, for the first time in a long time, someone told me I was magnificent in my beauty. When I, in my well-trained self-denigration mode, asked how he could say such a thing given my shape and scars, he said those were what made me magnificent because they show I LIVED. I damned near cried. No one has ever told me that before. I’ve never said that to myself. All I notice are my perceived flaws.

  • Sherrie Huckelberry June 19, 2012, 12:51 pm

    Yes,yes,Yes, to all beautiful women . Love it,see it,be it ! Thank you Mama Gena for showing up to share and remind us of our truth and rightful HER-itage .

  • Renee June 19, 2012, 12:26 pm

    I am an artist and I attend life drawing sessions (drawing the nude human figure). I am often stunned by the absolute beauty of women. I have yet to see a nude model that didn’t give me a feeling of awe. It is all beautiful. The models come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. Yes, I draw men too. They have a different kind of beauty.

  • Daisy Spiegelman June 19, 2012, 12:18 pm

    From time to time I visit a website of real people engaging in real sex acts in real time. Some are exhibitionists; some are doing it for cash. But this is not pornography in it’s truest sense — it is not produced for distribution with made-up scenarios. These are unadorned people, in every size and shape who have put themselves on display with no shame. I look for women whose body type resembles my own — and those with more to grab onto — and yes, they really are beautiful. Their beauty resides in their unharnessed sexuality, sensuality, and self-acceptance.

  • Ruby Red June 19, 2012, 12:12 pm

    On my best days of appreciating my gorgeousness, I sometimes believe I have to dial it down so as not to fluster and distract my clients. I feel I can be that sexy! So I’ll pass by my most beautiful clothes and wear something more neutral so that my clients can concentrate on the task at hand without being overly distracted by sexy, gorgeous me. 😉 And, by the way, I’m gonna be 54 soon and I’m full-bodied curvaceous.

    • Carol July 13, 2012, 1:21 am

      LOVE this…. I am 53, too…. Holla!!!!!

  • Rachel June 19, 2012, 11:36 am

    I take baths and use thick, creamy coconut hair conditioner to shave my legs (it’s organic and smells amazing). I marvel in how soft and silky my legs feel and smell, it’s a complete turn on (I also lather organic oils all over in the tub and rinse then pat dry, it’s like a pampering spa treatment just for me. My skin is stays youthful and soft without chemicals and I feel like I’m giving myself the best care possible, which to me, is beautiful.) I use flower essence and essential oil misters throughout the day for healing and for pampering–a two in one–and being in the moment with such sensual scents, taking time out for me, makes me feel like a goddess. I walk by the mirror and wink, or toss my long strawberry blonde waves, and think of how I’m a goddess connected to women throughout the ages; sometimes I watch myself dance gracefully and imagine my husband is watching. 😉 I take walks with coconut oil which I use for sunscreen. I smell amazing and protect my skin; when I get home, I look tan and dewy…gorgeous. I like to thank my body parts for all the wonderful things they do for me; this keeps me connected to my body and how beautiful and wondrous life is. I could go on and on…we are all such beautiful, sensual, delicious beings; men and women, inside and out…we’re all incredible and delicious <3

  • Valerie Reine June 19, 2012, 11:30 am

    Wow! This was exactly what I needed to hear today! I am sneaking up on my 50th birthday and having a little more trouble with the idea than I’d like to admit. Last week I recommitted to love my 50 year old face/body and then BAM! Here was this great little LOVE bomb in my email. Thanks Mama Gena!

    • Beth June 20, 2012, 5:51 am

      Ahhh Valerie;
      I can assure you that you will sizzle even more as you get into year 50! The raw, ripeness of this age is delightful and so so so so HOT! Something, and I’m not sure exactly what {and frankly…I recommend not trying to figure it out} happens at this blossoming age …..all I can say is hang on cause you loves you even harder with so much style, grace and ease-
      The world is your oyster sweet sister!
      I can feel you all the way up here in Vermont! Light it up Girl!

  • Veronica June 19, 2012, 11:22 am

    I look into the mirror and say hello gorgeous, or I love you! wink* I’d like to do more for myself as I think I deserve more <3 you Regena thank you! ^_^

  • Shakaya June 19, 2012, 11:19 am

    This post is lush with love and beauty!
    I grew up feeling like a Plane Jane Ugly Duckling and have transformed into a Swan by becoming the Goddess I always dreamed of being by cultivating my wellness and developing an Empress mindset.

    My definition of beauty is embodying our essence.

    There is nothing more powerful than a women connected to her own unique beauty.
    I wrote a book called Naked Beauty about the mindset and practical things a woman can do to own her beauty, and Regena’s words ring true as it all comes down to claiming it!

    When we feel beautiful and walk in our goddess bodies we inspire others to do the same, we are the spark that can ignite another woman or heal a thousand men.

    I am beautiful.
    You are beautiful.
    Not the way others are beautiful. The way We are beautiful.
    We are born of beauty, surrounded by beauty.
    Beauty is another name for what we are.

    Xxo Shakaya

    • Shakaya June 19, 2012, 11:20 am

      Regena blissed me with permission to quote her in my book Naked Beauty 😀

  • Monick Halm June 19, 2012, 11:19 am

    I walk around frequently saying in my head “you are a gorgeous goddess,” but I haven’t said it aloud and I haven’t been complimenting the beautiful women around me lately. I’m taking on your homework. I love how you’re always here to take us higher. Thanks Mama! I’m grateful for you. And have I told you lately, you’re absolutely beautiful? You are!

    • Rebecca June 19, 2012, 2:34 pm

      nice work!

  • Donna Marie June 19, 2012, 11:01 am

    Thanks mama….I’ve been sitting in front of the mirror for about 2 weeks 10 minutes a day letting myself know how much I love myself and now I will add this to the practice. Love you!

  • Lori June 19, 2012, 10:54 am

    Thank you for including telling others they are beautiful. I work for a plastic surgeon and it amazes me every day the women that have low self esteem. I can honestly tell you that I think every single woman is beautiful. A unique piece of art. I make it a point to tell every woman what I see in her that makes her beautiful. So many times I have women break down and cry after I compliment them. Sad that they don’t hear it more often every day. To give a sincere compliment and see the smile that transpires gives me a high like nothing else. I may not have the talent of an artist, a songwriter, or a vocalist but I am blessed with the talent of appreciation. I am grateful every day that I can see the beauty in others even if they cannot. Keep cheering women on Mama Gena!

    • Shakaya June 19, 2012, 11:22 am

      This is truly beautiful, Lori!

    • little jo July 10, 2012, 7:23 pm

      I’m nurse in OT and had same experience with the patients’ frightening low self-esteem -often induced by the surgeons themselves, working on their wish to become sexier by magic.
      For what concerns complimenting, I dare celebrate other women’s beauty everywhere I am and in any circumstances, at work with collegues, in the streets when I see elegance, or charm, or nice clothings… and feeling more beautiful myself for being a woman too. Wonderful feeling indeed, I’m glad we share it Lori.

  • Colleen Hannegan June 19, 2012, 10:31 am

    It’s true. I know this! We all own a beauty wellspring that only needs to be acknowledged daily for it to keep flowing. Thanks Mama Gena for your reminder today.

  • Tara June 19, 2012, 10:20 am

    I have been waiting for someone in the ‘goddess’ world to say this. Beauty image such a great way to lose a lot of power, and here you are, handing it back to us, should we choose to accept and carry it proudly.
    THANK YOU, deeply. Tara

  • Stacey June 19, 2012, 9:57 am

    Thank you Mama for that beautiful kick in the butt. I recently got asked out and though I said yes, immediately after I started doubting myself, my beauty and my body. Your post brought me back to my tools and reminded me that I am already beautiful and the man just wants to serve all of my sexy 8000 nerve endings! To keep myself feeling beautiful, I set 3 daily alarms on my phone as a reminder to keep up my beauty practice.

  • Becky June 19, 2012, 9:52 am

    I have two things to say.
    Mama Gena, I Absolutely Love You for what you bring to the world.
    What you’ve said here is all SO true!!! I came home from Fall Mastery 07 stunningly beautiful, for this exact reason you’ve spelled out just here. My daughter is a breath taking beauty, from watching me shine and from my light beaming on her. Everyone that walks out of my front door sparkles a little more because of this truth.
    The last few days I have actually been dialing up this magic. When I find myself feeling a bit longing or doubtful, I turn it around to appreciation and then I go right up to excited about being me.
    Another good one I do sometimes is to imagine that bubbling feeling you have when you’re first in love, call it up and see how long I can hold it. Last time I did this within 5 minutes this cute guy I’ve been flirting with texted me out of the blue, “hey pretty girl..”
    This Works! and it is sincerely my Pleasure to cheer about it and share it.
    X O

  • Barbara June 19, 2012, 9:47 am

    My bedroom makes me feel beautiful. Let me explain. I love old western outlaws, and the interior decor of my bedroom is one that an stud on horseback would feel oh so comfortable in. Authentic antique brass bed, dark claret and gold bedspread, braided leather thongs to hold back the matching drapes, huge Victorian dresser with mirror that reaches to the ceiling, Mexican woven throw rug, cowboy hats hanging on the wall, old San Francisco style fringed and beaded lampshades, teal accents, and a pair of steer horns over the door (I’m not kidding). It feels like the elegant private trains in old Western movies. Every morning I wake up so happy in this Western man cave. I know the man of my dreams is nearby or riding in soon – how could he resist this room? Or the woman who feels so at home in it?


    • Ruby Red June 19, 2012, 12:04 pm

      Barbara, I want pictures. This is so overthetop fabulous! I have no doubt you look gorgeous there!

    • Diana June 19, 2012, 12:44 pm

      I second the request for photos! Your bedroom sounds magnificent!

      I’ve always wanted an over-the-top bedroom, one where I smiled every time I walked through the doorway. One reason or another-the spouse doesn’t want it, we don’t have the money, etc. ad nauseum-I haven’t ever created that space. This past year has been me working on myself, that I’m worth attaining every dream I dream so maybe it’s time…even if the house is on the market and re-doing the bedroom will give our agent palpitations!

  • Neerja June 19, 2012, 9:46 am

    I tell myself I’m beautiful each night after I wash my makeup off. It is one of my favorite times of the day. I love the way I look with a freshly washed face. I don’t know when that first happened, but I know it is because of telling myself I’m beautiful at that time. It became a true belief at some point. I also love applying makeup in the morning. It is my second favorite time when I tell myself I’m beautiful. Falling in love with yourself nourishes you regardless of any men in your life. True love is ageless, so loving your reflection in the mirror at every age, is a gift only you can give yourself. When we truly believe that beauty (and sexiness!!) is ageless and not reserved for a certain age range, we will celebrate big time!! Have a great day all you beautiful women out there. Smile!
    Peace and Love,

  • Janet June 19, 2012, 9:45 am

    Joy, Beauty, feeling tall and worthy, believing in myself, believing in others. Great to get constant reminders. Why does it fade overnight and have to be renewed constantly?

    • mama gena June 19, 2012, 1:23 pm

      why do you have to eat 3 meals a day? body needs fuel….

  • Kate Goldsborough June 19, 2012, 9:40 am

    Oh, Regena,
    Thank you again for your fun! I live here in Northern New Hampshire where sometimes I want to succumb and wear my sweater buttoned to the neck at concerts as the other ladies of the town do. Then I remember, and I stand up straight, wear my fringe with bon vivant flair and let my beauty loose.
    Now I am adding to the pleasure by noticing others noticing me. Something I never did before. Glorious affirmation!
    I do get exhausted by women deflecting me telling them they are beautiful in the salon. Any new words you can give me with this uphill task would be greatly appreciated.
    You are the bomb.

  • Suzi Banks Baum June 19, 2012, 9:40 am

    Smoochieessssssss for this gorgeous post. Tears and grins and a wry wink at my soft, strong, pliable, hug wrapping arms in honor of you. Passing the wink today. Love, Suzi

  • SG Janie June 19, 2012, 9:31 am

    Thanks, Mama! I can attest to the fact that this works! I haven’t been in front of a mirror for awhile, but today I will do it for sure! Gearing up for graduation with so much anticipation of fun and pleasure!

  • SG Alia June 19, 2012, 9:17 am

    I put a timer on my phone 3x a day for the next 2 weeks to remind me!

    I am sooooo hot and luscious!!!

    • Valerie Reine June 19, 2012, 11:48 am


      • mama gena June 19, 2012, 1:22 pm

        i love it when you share how you take it higher!!

  • Imperatrix June 19, 2012, 8:41 am



    I BRAG

    I KNOW IT!!!

    • SG Alia June 19, 2012, 9:17 am

      haha imperatrix!!! you are SO much fun to witness all the time!

  • Foxy June 19, 2012, 8:40 am

    Regina, this is such a wonderful reminder. I love it when you are on FIRE!! You BURN up the blogosphere with your PASSION!!
    See you on Sunday. Yeah, baby!!

  • Felicia Shulman June 19, 2012, 8:36 am

    Mama G, You Rock! I tell my participants, my friends, the earth~ They are beautiful, all the time.
    Mostly, especially in my life right now, I am off my own list!
    I start my affirmations today for ME! No matter how I FEEL.
    Thank you for being my Goddess Angel and Happy Graduation!

    • mama gena June 19, 2012, 9:01 am

      i hope you will come to graduation!!

  • Ellen Levin or SG WARRIOR June 19, 2012, 7:46 am

    thank you mama gena for bringing this up
    yes……… every woman is a piece of art
    As an artist I have felt this way since leaving highschool and refuse to diet, get cosmetic surgeries or do anything……. no make up, no nothing (this is just my view for me) ……. in fact, i love my underarm hair which was inspired by patti smith on her easter album…….. her gorgeous underarm hair……… she is one of my heroines
    yes ……. my favorite first model to draw was a very obese/fat whatever friend and her folds were gorgeous
    i drew every one of them
    she was a magnificent woman
    beautiful in body and mind

    • Ruby Red June 19, 2012, 12:01 pm

      I love this post so much! Phenomenal! I’m an artist too and I totally agree!!! All naked women of all sizes are stunning.

  • Donna June 19, 2012, 7:29 am

    Mama Gena – Thanks for the reminder, and for creating the experience for me first hand in the days of Trust your Pussy class at the Palace. In that moment, 20 years of bad body image vanished!!! But as you know, we all need reminders of it.

    For all my Sisters, out there, I wanted to share a great anthem, Bette Middler’s I’M BEAUTIFUL is a fun song for a dance break :D. Today and every morning for the rest of the month, I will dance to Bette to start my day! Love – Court MC

  • Kat June 19, 2012, 7:08 am

    I brag I am a guest star on Big Brooklyn Style today on TLC. That is, a fashion reality TV show about a plus size boutique in Brooklyn. The show is very affirming on how to dress a plus sized body until we can all walk around naked in public ;). . Come watch and see beauty in a non-culturally condoned package!

  • Genevieve June 19, 2012, 6:43 am

    Thank you for this post, I have been doing this in front of the miror especially on good hair days, but now I will make a conscious effort to say it before a roll in the hay or any other event where I might not feel and see my beauty.

    Thank you and you are beautiful!

  • Denise Duffield-Thomas June 19, 2012, 6:21 am

    I LOVE THIS ARTICLE – I’ve been doing the “I am beautiful” affirmation recently and it makes SUCH a difference.

    Love you Mama Gena – you beautiful woman!

  • Robin June 19, 2012, 6:18 am

    Oh, thank you for lifting me up this morning! I woke up in such a swamp and as I was sitting here, I suddenly thought — today is Tuesday! Yes! Regena will be sending out her blog and I know that will cheer me up.

    I haven’t been doing anything to make myself feel beautiful on a daily basis, but I have been dancing and that gives me joy, which lights me up…but in between, I feel old and tired and sad. And yet…people tell me I’ve never looked better! So I’m adopting their opinion and I will tell myself three times today: “I am beautiful” and I will tell three women they are beautiful and I’ll get back to you. Thank you, Regena!

    You are beautiful!

    • mama gena June 19, 2012, 9:00 am

      oh yes i am, sister!! thank you

      • SG luscious robin June 20, 2012, 10:31 am

        Thank YOU! I had the most fabulous day…I spring cleaned, used my tools, showed up, remembered I am beautiful, went dancing and flirted! Thank you for the reminder!

  • Lisa June 19, 2012, 6:17 am

    The day I moved into my apartment, I took my lipstick and wrote on top of the mirror:
    This was a year ago.
    And it still makes me smile (and feeling approval) every time I look at it – not only in the mornings.