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Finding freedom inside obligation.


Right about now, I get to thinking.
It’s about to be the 4th of July here in the States.
The holiday where we celebrate our freedom.

And I am just about to chain myself to my desk for the next 8 weeks and bang out the final draft of my new book. 

I want it to be brilliant and perfect. I want it to weave a web of magnificent seduction into an unimaginable new world that impacts women all over the world.
I want it to express every drop of the woman I have become. I want it to awaken women to the potential of living the legends that they were born to be, and connect with their radiance in a new and powerful way.
I want it to be a sexy, fun, deep, soulful, penetrating page-turner.
I want the pages to drip woman, in her rich, ripe, irresistible fullness.

And I have to do all of this while being chained to my desk.
For 8 weeks.
Everyone will be drinking chardonnay, partying and staying up too late and I will be carefully conserving my energy in order to pour it all on to the page.
Which could frustrate me. 
And frustration is not a healthy environment for poetry to flow.

And then, I remember my truth: I actually love being enslaved to something greater than myself.
I have chosen this.
I wanted this.

It is only when I am utterly enslaved to something or someone I love that I feel most free.
I don’t have to wonder what to do with my day. I don’t have to worry about where to pour my attention or what to prioritize. I know who I am and what structures my day, my time, my energy flow.  
I love feeling the pure open channels in which I can let my soul song sing.
I can relax when I am enslaved.

All of us have to make choices that could appear to limit us and chain us to obligations or restrictions.

When we choose a relationship, we give up being single.
When we choose parenthood, we give up free time.
When we choose higher education, we choose to be forced to grow.

It’s when we don’t choose what we most love, and our attention is scattershot, flying everywhere, that we don’t gain any traction.  

I gladly take up these chains. I like knowing what is a priority and what isn’t.
When I have a strong frame around me, I can really sing.
I am free.

Free to enjoy sunrise at the beach, laptop in tow, to collect the morning magic with my keyboard.

I’m so curious about your thoughts on this —

How do you find your freedom inside your obligations?
What are you doing to celebrate the opportunity to choose to live our deepest passions?
What does freedom look like, and feel like, for you? 

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!


p.s. If you have a chance to check out the fireworks this weekend (and even if you don’t), know this: those sparklers are for YOU, celebrating radiant, ravishing, YOU.  

p.p.s. We just opened enrollment for our introductory weekend event this Fall, called The Immersion! It’s happening November 13th – 15th, in Miami, and you’re invited. Click here for all the registration details!


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  • Meagan Murphy July 6, 2015, 8:01 am

    Quite helpful, actually. Three years ago I relinquished most of what was ‘established’ in my life in order to pursue a documentary project that deeply compelled me. Like you, I want to awaken women to their potential, and to an original wisdom that is signature. And yes, I have inspired and enrolled a small crowd. But it’s taken a long time for this wave to rise. I am depleted and often feel imprisoned by the demands and protocol associated with crafting a film for today’s marketplace. There is so much I didn’t know; so much I couldn’t have even imagined… And even as the project has taken magnificent form, my vessel has started to list in the water. I’ve become stiff and somewhat disoriented, and am (too often) “too busy” for play and fun and pleasure. But your words; they’ve re-framed my context. I have loved being pummeled by this project and have never been happier or felt more actualized. This is the path I have chosen, managed, funded and executed – and as paths go, it’s been fucking awesome. I will complete this project’s final draft in September. And in the meantime, I relish my desires… desires for a powerful and beautiful outcome, for abundant financial returns, for gaiety and celebration for my beloved team, and for transformative healing and inspired celebration for the film’s viewers. You heard it here! xoxxSGMeagan

  • SG Officer Stacey July 5, 2015, 12:28 pm

    Wow Mama, what a mind blowing concept “when I am enslaved I am most free” the little light bulb went off in my head! I think of my job and know where I have to be and what I have to be doing and then I realize that this time next year I will be retiring!
    Oh and I must brag…I did something crazy and scary, i purchased a second home more than half way across the country! Yikes! I love to plan trips there and create my new living space which will be my retirement home. I will have the freedom to stay in NYC and take a “refresher” course with you and to see all the lovely goddesses again!
    Thank you, SG Officer (now Detective) Stacey 🙂

  • Emily July 4, 2015, 5:19 pm

    I love this perspective! What a gorgeous way to look at our priorities- you make chains sexy. Why does this not surprise me? 😉 I’m new to the Mama Gena world and I just cracked open your School of Womanly Arts last night. I already feel thrilled to my toes reading it. Thank you!

  • Queen Anne July 4, 2015, 3:00 pm

    Such a great reminder to embrace the decisions I’ve made that shape my daily life. Rather than hate my morning commute (resistance), remember that I CHOSE to work in the big city. Rather than resent my husband for his sense of order (disorder?) that is different from my own, relax and remember that I chose him gladly, and it’s his house, too. Rather than bemoan the extra long hours it takes to work a job that takes me away from whatever else I could be doing… be SO grateful for the possibilities it creates and the amazing memories it has woven into my life. Um, okay, recipe for INSTANT HAPPINESS. Good one, Regena!!!

  • Sister Goddess Dazzling Debra July 4, 2015, 12:16 pm

    Ahhh, the sheer joy and freedom of expression that washes over this community is blissful.

    What I find so valuable about this post is that it is all perspective. There is no enslavement of expression. We are all free within the gorgeous support that we insure each other to express ourselves.

    I have heard many teachers say that there is no freedom without discipline but Regena, your comment about where there is no discipline we live scattershot rings so true.

    Matrika Shakti, the original primordial words that create the universe. It feels to me that you are tapping into this source.

    I eagerly anticipate the fruits of your labor!!!!! Let freedom ring!!!

  • SG Garden Goddess Leelee Diamond July 4, 2015, 8:37 am

    I love this post! I am getting ready to sink my teeth into starting a business, and it scares me to lose my free time and freedom to the project. I get scared if I am picking the right thing, if I am going to succeed or if I should be doing something else. I love this reminder that if I choose my passion, where my soul wants to go, working is freedom. Thank you for this fabulous July 4th reminder!

  • SG Kyra-Ahhhh-city July 4, 2015, 8:09 am

    My favorite frame was:
    “It’s when we don’t choose what we most love, and our attention is scattershot, flying everywhere, that we don’t gain any traction.

    I gladly take up these chains. I like knowing what is a priority and what isn’t.
    When I have a strong frame around me, I can really sing.
    I am free.”

    Before that I got triggered when I read “obligation” and I read “enslaved”. It’s always good to look up the definitions of the words the trouble me most. The obvious meaning that comes to mind for slave is:
    intransitive verb
    1 :to work like a slave
    Of course given the history of African slavery I automatic think I don’t want to use that word!! I don’t want any part of that! But… I love dictionaries. So I decided to dig deeper into the research.
    So here’s what I learned and choose to think about followed by a desire .

    ob•li•ga•tion (ŏbˌlĭ-gāˈshən)►
    n. The act of binding oneself by a social…or moral tie. [Something bigger than one’s self!!]
    n. A … duty, contract, or promise [to one’s self or to the world) that compels one to follow or avoid a particular course of action.]
    n. A course of action imposed by … conscience by which one is bound or restricted.

    v. Simple past tense and past participle of enslave.

    en•slave (ĕn-slāvˈ)►
    v. To make into or as if into a slave.

    Two different sources for slave:

    slave (slāv)►
    n. One bound in servitude as the property of a person or household [including one’s own desire as a person seeking their highest power].
    n. One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence: “I was still the slave of education and prejudice” ( Edward Gibbon). [as in a slave to individualistic, patriarchal or white supremacist thinking]
    n. One who works extremely hard. [with pleasure]

    bang away, beaver (away), dig (away), endeavor, hump, hustle, labor, strive, travail, work

    : someone who is legally owned by another person and is forced to work for that person without pay (VS)
    : a person who is strongly influenced and controlled by something ( which could be oneself or one’s desire )

    Slave and thrall are synonyms as are enslaved and enthralled.

    en·thrall in-ˈthrȯl, en-
    : to hold the attention of (someone) by being very exciting, interesting, or beautiful
    en·thralled en·thrall·ing

    transitive verb
    2 :to hold spellbound :charm

    So the examples could be revised to:
    I slaved all morning to get the work done on time. [with pleasure; saying YES!!]
    She’s been slaving away at her homework. [enslaved or enthralled with Mama Gena’s homework; to werk it or t’werk]

    By digging deeper, enslaving myself to the research with pleasure, to structure with pleasure, to my deepest desire with pleasure everything even being a slave or rather being enslaved or enthralled to something I desire will be a pleasure. This is my desire

    To be enthralled by my writing, my teaching, dating, making everything I do about pleasure. Mine and others. Thank you Mama Gena!!

  • Deb Castellano July 3, 2015, 12:13 pm

    Your timing is perfect and elegant as usual, Mama Gena. I have been fighting chaining myself to my computer and getting my environmental career off the ground. The fears can be so gripping–they’ll do ANYTHING to take me away from that scary keyboard. I will think of you sitting there and know I’m not alone. Sisterhood… xo

  • SG Alice July 2, 2015, 11:50 pm

    Freedom and Obligations makes me think of love.
    The love of oneself and the obligation to take care of ourselves.
    As a single mother of a struggling 13 year old daughter, I have a huge amount of love in my heart for her, in some ways she completed me when she was born and that gave me a great feeling of freedom. The obligations as she grows up has profoundly changed;first it’s just breast feeding and changing diapers and now it’s about the complexity of her development as she is smack in the middle of child and teen so I am chained or committed to making sure she gets what she needs to keep her on track or she might already be off track. Either way, we are chained to each other. I used to love my career, it was creative and challenging but the business world has changed so I find myself completely free but have no idea where I am headed so that I can start earning money again and give back to the universe… This is a huge dilemma that I feel shackled with and not sure how to break free or which road to travel down and maybe right now I am just supposed to really focus on my girl and make sure she knows how important she is and that her life and soul really matters. The more I think about it, I realize I am exactly where I am supposed to be. Careers and jobs come and go but my struggling little Goddess needs help now and I need to be there for her 100% at the moment. She is my baby and is becoming out of touch with reality and my commitment is clear. Thank you Mama Gena! Words can never express my gratitude to you for helping me find my freedom and what is really important to commit to. Good luck with your book. I can’t wait to read what you have learned and discovered since your previous books. Have an amazing summer writing and loving this commitment to share your wisdom with the rest of this glorious community you created for us. Sending love and sunshine xoSG Alice

  • Santha July 2, 2015, 11:15 pm

    Thank you — I really like what you say here.

    This is a reminder I need to hear, and to land in fully and be clear in, as I take up the work of caring for what I really love.
    It is too easy to forget that I am doing it out of choice, out of love.
    It is too easy to fall into feeling burdened by the huge work before me
    It is too easy to forget that I choose this work, because it gives meaning to my life.
    It is too easy to forget that it is MY WORK, that only I can do.
    When I remember that, it lifts me and makes the work easier.
    When I accomplish the work, it lifts the whole situation and opens the door to what’s next:
    more work, more work I love, more work that is mine to do, more work that gives meaning and value to my life, more work that allows for my creativity and perfect self-expression in these moments, days, years that I am given to live.
    A richer, fuller life.
    More joy!

    What a source of gratitude, if only I remember!
    Thank you.

  • Yaj July 2, 2015, 10:40 pm

    Mama Gena, Your words spoke to my heart, body, and soul in this blogpost. I feel you, Mama! Rock ON with chaining yourself to your desk/laptop to get that fucking book OUT!!! I can’t wait to read it! But I will. I’ll enjoy the wait. Like being lusciously teased until you scream and you finally COME!!! Wouldn’t have been that intense without the teasing, the waiting, the discipline, the taking one breath at a time and one step at a time, focusing, and just fucking DOING IT. I feel this freedom you talk about in my passionate enslavement to my calling, my purpose, my sacred work. Which is deep, rich, and joyous. The structure, the road map, the knowing what the next right step is that I need to do to further my travels on my path. To stay the course in my newly re-opened journey of sexuality/dating/MEN. To feel the risk of the open heartedness I walk with, to allow myself to be open, to allow myself to be heartbroken at times, to stay open to LOVE, to keep believing in love. My enslavement to passion and not standing for anything less that what feels pleasurable and meets me in my intensity. To not shrink myself to what others think is possible, realistic, or “healthy.” Yes, Yes! YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • SG Barbara July 2, 2015, 10:01 pm

    My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2001 as we celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. I promised myself and my family that I would do my best for him without going down with the ship. At every decision point when a change was needed, I felt ruptured. What is the right thing to do, now?
    I swamped my way through each decision and consulted the Alzheimer’s Association’s support line, sometimes in the middle of the night. I was working full time and had a 45 minute commute. When it got to a point when he couldn’t be left alone, I managed to find 4 caregivers to work 3 shifts to be with him. I left the house at 8 am and returned at 6 pm and couldn’t leave him alone after I got home. When that no longer worked, I managed to find an amazing full-time caregiver. We set up a bed for her in our living room and put vertical blinds across the entry way to that room so she would have privacy.
    She took care of both of us. She prepared our meals, did the laundry, kept the house while giving him the attention he needed. I managed his finances to pay for our wonderful caregivers so that he would be eligible for Medicaid.
    By 2004, his disease left him unaware who I was, who he was and where he was. He would ask me to take him home when he was home. Because he had long term care insurance (LTC) with a 90 day deductible and several years of LTC, I decided he would be ok if I placed him in an assisted living residence on the Alzheimer’s floor. After paying the deductible and when the LTC payments were supposed to begin, there was a complication and LTC was no longer available. I needed to find a Medicaid facility for him.
    About that time, my job was eliminated. I was 64. My guiding angel stepped in and found me a job and a room for my husband in the nursing home on the campus where I worked. I was able to see him every day and spend my lunch hours with him. I also had a life. I even went to Israel during this time and visited the national parks.
    Regena’s blog and her questions encouraged me to share this part of my life’s journey. “All of us have to make choices that could appear to limit us and chain us to obligations or restrictions.” … my story tells how I found my freedom inside my obligations. I am a writer and during this time I wrote several Personal Essays which were published in the Well Spouse Newsletter. One was titled, “Sex and the Sacrificial Spouse”.
    “What are you doing to celebrate the opportunity to choose to live our deepest passions?” I felt proud of the way I dealt with this rupture in our lives. At one point I fought for his right to die, according to his wishes, written in his living will. Something in me knew that he would die on the anniversary of a meaningful event in our lives. We met on New Year’s Eve; he passed away on December 30, 2010, 3 months shy of our 50th wedding anniversary.

    I met the worst period of my life, grounded in my faith in Spirit, with unconditional love, compassion, and patience for my husband and with the support of my friends and family. The decision I made at the beginning of this journey to do the best I could for my husband without going down with the ship was made consciously and I have no regrets. As Regena says, “It is only when I am utterly enslaved to something or someone I love that I feel most free.”

    • SG Abisola July 4, 2015, 6:22 pm

      SG Barbara,

      So well said, thank you for sharing, your story moved me.

  • Dawn July 2, 2015, 8:54 pm

    My self mastery in all areas of my life, physical, spiritual, loving family and friends, work, and finance give me the freedom to benefit and chose what I let into my world and my obligations. Every day I journal … I am doing, what I need to pay attention to more, and where I am striding to go….My passions pump lifes enthusiasm into my soul Painting, writing, doing my bucket list challenges keep this 68 years old young hearted and full of sass.

  • Moira July 2, 2015, 5:21 pm

    Finding freedom in obligation means releasing my mind and imagination. I currently work in a ‘job’ while I do my real work inside myself. The job is in a store filling tubs with beautiful and nourishing organic foods; the work is in relating to each and every customer (soul) who walks in the door and in the quiet moments it is jumping into my imagination where I play with ideas for the children’s book I’m writing or I practice envisioning a journey I want to take, or by blessing every pinto bean that I pour into the tub so that it blesses the body and soul of the person who will end up eating it from their plate. My freedom also lies in the hours before I head to the shop; I get up early and spend time doing the things I love like writing and reading and listening to inspiring ideas and people’s stories and getting out into the morning sunshine or mist and saying hello to the sky and sun and to the river that flows past our door.

  • SG Pallavi July 2, 2015, 2:25 pm

    Obligations are interesting, there are some that you should do( such as work) but hopefully with some joy! The others as you said include family, lovers, and children. These are ones that you make choices for and that in itself negates the obligation for me because they bring you the most joy in life.

  • SG Anastasia July 2, 2015, 1:57 pm

    Wow! Freedom in the obligation. It confused me for the long time. I long for freedom. Yet I often find myself lost in my obligations, especially the ones I’m the most passionate about. I can easily enslave myself and still feel happy in that place. It was confusing and contradictory to my longing for freedom. You set me free with your example and allowed to truly enjoy my passionate slavery without any judgment of it. Liberating. I can enslave myself to my desires and thus still remain free.

  • SG Tracy July 2, 2015, 1:15 pm

    Living with a full and loving heart does come with obligations.
    At home, my enormous love for my husband (and my dog!) shape my day to day life. All the little things I do for them, for us, each day are my joyful part in the commitment of marriage.

    At work, my duty is to give my students my best self as a teacher. Teaching is a calling, a passion, for me, and I am so blessed to create a classroom community of about 23 third graders each year. My obligation is not only to teach them and stretch their minds, but also to nurture their spirits. I pour so much of my heart out to them each day, that I often come home wrung out, depleted. (That’s why the attention to PLEASURE and nurturing my DESIRES is so so important!)
    It’s ironic that I became a teacher because my parents instilled me with the sense that I had the FREEDOM to be ANYTHING I wanted to be, whereas my mother was once a teacher because it was a “nice thing for a woman to do.” My mom ultimately became liberated from that idea and went back to school to become a lawyer when I was in elementary school. She later became a judge. And she and my dad, another lawyer, raised two children who had the freedom to follow our bliss.
    Teaching, for me is also a good fit because my upbringing, and the strong sense of ethics I was instilled with made me choose a career that always me to help “be the change I’d like to see in the world.” I feel an obligation to give back, but it is a joyful obligation. I know that even if I won Lotto and struck it rich, teaching would still be part of my life.
    And now, as a newly graduated Mastery student, my family has extended to the Sister Goddess community, I feel that same sense of love and gratitude and a desire to give back to our sisters, support them, see and hear them. Love brings with it obligation. That obligation connects us to each other in such a pure and profound way, because it is one we choose, and therefore given freely.

  • Alexi Karuna July 2, 2015, 1:03 pm

    Wow! This is perfect for me today. Last night in going to bed I was getting text messages and felt so overwhelmed. I also had re-joined Facebook this week. They were both stressing me out and scattering-fragmenting my focus. So I remembered who I am and what I am about and decided like Kali to kill off what I must so I can thrive. I cant multitask and I feel dead when I get lost to my inner space and connection to my emotions.

    Thanks for the post, it reaffirms my own commitment to whats biggest and most important in my life.

  • SG Dancing Dark Angel July 2, 2015, 12:50 pm

    That was so beautifully written and spot-on, Mama Gena- thank you! I can completely relate to that and the timing is perfect! First, I brag I have been given some awesome opportunities at work to have a leadership role in op planning which runs now through the next 4-5 months and impacts all activities in the following year for my team. This means quite a bit of work from July through November, and much of my summer will be spent in my office (while others sip chardonnay on the beach!:-) ).

    Second, I brag money obligations. Due to a family catastrophe (bad financial decisions of my father), my brother and I are now obligated to care for our aging (and now poor) parents. I am grateful to have the means to do so- the money is going towards supporting their lives, a small return compared to the love and support they have given to me from the minute I was born until I left home. This is easier and more fulfilling on the long-term than the short-term satisfaction of choosing the luxury brand bag I would like to purchase….

    I desire that both of these experiences will greatly expand my container to receive and attract even more love, success and affluence.

    Have a wonderful holiday weekend and I am so excited to read your next book!

  • GuruNischan July 2, 2015, 12:12 pm

    Oh Mama Gena! How is it that in a few sentences you have become an exact illumination of my very inner workings, the wild wonder of my Soul’s calling. It wasn’t until I read your blog today, and specifically these lines
    “It is only when I am utterly enslaved to something or someone I love that I feel most free.
    I don’t have to wonder what to do with my day. I don’t have to worry about where to pour my attention or what to prioritize. I know who I am and what structures my day, my time, my energy flow.
    I love feeling the pure open channels in which I can let my soul song sing.
    I can relax when I am enslaved.”

    I have wondered about myself for so long…wishing that I didn’t get lost in the time of space of no boundaries, no obligations, no set schedule. And yet, if I have get to focus on something that I love, teaching, speaking, pouring my heart into the lives of a Soul longing to connect with the depths of their juiciness, I can work for hours and get lost in the loveliness helping others turn themselves on from within!…Your words describing you encapsulate me so powerfully! I feel so free within a frame, within a container in which I can focus all of my love and attention. I love the freedom of the structure. I love the dance within the walls of a time frame! Thank you Mama Gena. I am so grateful! I love you! I honor you. I celebrate you! Muaaah!

  • SG C'mere Kitty July 2, 2015, 12:01 pm

    Yes, yes, and yes! I feel that too. The freedom within a structure, it’s as if the microscopic world opens up that looks awfully similar to the feeling of looking deep into vast and infinitely expansive space. The architecture, structure, or framework, becomes a portal into entire new rich world. I do love experienceing this when I get to. Thank you for my opportunity to recommit to what I love the most. For me, it’s dynamic loving connected relationship. And what stands out the most for me now, is to create the best kind of relationship with ME. And right here, is where I stand with full on resistance everywhere, scattered, like what’s the point, overwhelmed. I choose integrity, commitment, power. “In the end, it’s the little things shared that matter most” as my father was quoted, which has a new significance for me today. I recommit and choose to share little things I love with me, and not be a time drunk, or be indifferent of myself. I am important. I matter. I’m frustrated at being unsure what’s holding me back. I know what to do next. And yet I see myself crumble under a sense of surmountable pressure. Perhaps I begin by embracing what I perceive as my flaws. Or breathing meditation? I get into my head like this, when I ought to simply jump in or lunge! What is it that I love the most? The big answer is ME. It’s always been, and it’s the most starving. With that, where do I begin? Breathing? I desire a romantic partnership with a giving connected powerful man who adores me and is ready and wants to start a family with me. That means, I get to demonstrate what it’s looks like to be giving to me, connected to me, powerful to me, and in partnership with me, and adore me, and I get to celebrate me, and my family. Logical. Right? One moment at a time.

    You asked:

    How do you find your freedom inside your obligations? TRUSTING, that I created this, that I wanted this, that there’s wisdom and joy for me in my obligations, that I get to do this.

    What are you doing to celebrate the opportunity to choose to live your deepest passions? Ohhhh, you are good to ask this. I swamp my resistance to celebrate. I yes the reemergence of the Queen of Disapprival. I need a trampoline, stat! Back to basics, I get to be in integrity with my desires. I shall dance break, and jump up and yes! I think I haven’t celebrated because in m mind I haven’t been taking action to celebrate about. I swamp feeling undeserving. Perhaps I’ll conjure a celebration action partner!

    What does freedom look like, and feel like, for you? It looks like all the nessasities are cared for, and that creates and supports abundance of play time. Freedom looks to be things are orderly, and there’s refined quality in my belongings. Now I want to do a vision board on freedom.

  • SG Abisola July 2, 2015, 11:54 am

    This touches a core inside me. Freedom is a commitment. Once I commit to anything already there is responsibility. Responsibility to show up as my word. And that unleashes a whole drum roll of choices to make and still keep my eye on my word and my commitment to myself and others to show up. I am beginning to see that the way to freedom is choosing to live from my deepest desires. You know, the ones that make me leap for joy when I visualize how I am going to feel when they finally land in my life. So for me when I have to choose between equally desirable activities, I go forward to that big picture. Freedom is a space, not a thing and nobody gives you freedom.
    I celebrate the freedom to choose and to say yes and no. I recently chose to take baths rather than showers in the mornings because I desire to spend more time with myself. (Thanks for the Inspiration!) Self care is my commitment to me. So it is a 20 minutes bath and that includes the prep time of running the water, putting in all the luxurious elements, ambiance, etc. and clean up. The discipline of my timing in the mornings is now of up most importance to me as I still have to honor my work commitment in the world. It means really structuring my time so that I can have my cake and eat it too. So Liberating!

    • SG C'mere Kitty July 2, 2015, 12:24 pm

      Freedom indeed is a choice. And any choice a responsibility to show up as my word. Thank you for that.

  • Erin July 2, 2015, 11:54 am

    It’s said well from a woman to a woman. As a woman who has many titles to obtain the one I continue to miss is being a daughter. My mom died 24 years ago, on the eve of my 25 birthday. I consciously as well as unconsciously hear your words as advice in a “mothers tone”. Your words spoke to me for the greater good of me- ” get your shit together” “stop being the somebody that your not” “be the somebody that you are” …the quotes are endless.
    Thank you for the swift kick. If I need to I’ll reread your words everyday, if I have too, because I am going to make a difference!
    Love, life, ladybug

  • Paige July 2, 2015, 11:51 am

    Hello Mama Gena, Freedom Diva!
    “Enslaved” has so many negative, cruel connotations, for me.
    It’s very difficult for me to imagine you, Mama Gena, using that word….
    You are all about freedom, woman.
    My vibe from your work is that you are devoted, focused, impassioned, highly self-disciplined, committed, inspired and enlivened by your path.
    You are a freedom trailblazer!
    You could choose to write your book from a place of enlivened, inspired freedom!
    Eight weeks is an eternity. Time will expand for you to allow you to write from inspiration, and not from obligation or enslavement.
    Your words will flow easily from your soul and in perfect right order.
    Your book will be a New York Times best seller!
    You are such a tremendous leader.
    Thank you so much for writing to us from a place of powerful freedom.
    with great respect,

  • Foxy July 2, 2015, 11:35 am

    Yes, yes and yes! That’s why I love deadlines so much. A framework, a boundary is so essential to hold our blossoming. After all, our body is the framework or boundary for our spirit, right? And look at all the pleasure she brings.
    Love, love, love you.

    • SG C'mere Kitty July 2, 2015, 12:15 pm

      Oh, indeed! Body is framework for our spirit 🙂

    • GuruNischan July 2, 2015, 12:16 pm

      Oh yes Foxy! Love this!

  • Magical July 2, 2015, 11:29 am

    It can so different indeed, freedom versus enslavement. I have a son of 15 years who is, as drs call it, severely handicapped. Of course we call him just by his name 🙂 He needs full support and cannot talk. So I am taking care of him all day long since we took him out of school and the beauty is that in the Netherlands you just get a budget and you decide how you spend it on care, so this is my job and I get paid for it. Yes, sometimes it feels like it is too much and I have to make sure to go away for a weekend or so, but I have conjured a fantastic extra father for him to help take care and we can do all kind of stuff and go places and have a salary, and it is always fun. Barely puberty stress, no fighting over a computer, no asking for devices… he asks to go to bed early , and in many ways there is soo much more freedom for me, for us. I have no boss, no fear of being layed off, my dead-lines I create myself if any …. 🙂 soo many blessings

    • mama gena July 2, 2015, 11:35 am

      wow- what exceptional blessings!! you are such a magical goddess.

      • Magical July 2, 2015, 12:17 pm

        thank you!! I had a great teacher 🙂

    • GuruNischan July 2, 2015, 12:16 pm

      Beautiful Magical!… Thank you for sharing that! The gift in the garbage…that turns into the gifts of our lives!!! Love it!

  • SG Eva July 2, 2015, 11:29 am

    I FF: “When we choose parenthood, we give up free time.”

    While in Mastery this past year, I struggled with how to balance motherhood with being a goddess. Thankfully, I now realize that through giving birth to my boys, I gave birth to the person (and the goddess!) I was meant to be. The obligations that accompany motherhood also provide the freedom to truly love unconditionally, and have enabled me to become a kinder, more patient, more compassionate person.

    And as for celebrating my passions? Bring on Miami!

  • Barbara July 2, 2015, 11:11 am

    I love you so much, Mama Gena. Thank you <3

  • Sister Goddess Mmmmarilyn July 2, 2015, 11:07 am

    I have never commented on any of your blogs before, but this one really hit home for me! I have been walking around in a fog of misdirection, wondering what’a next in my line of priorities each day, while dripping with passion for what I do and what I want! I love the ‘chain myself to the desk’ idea in order to do what I love effectively & efficiently, which will make a great impact on others. From reading your blog today, I am now able to see that focusing my energy toward my truth and passion is exactly what my path is calling for! I’ll be right there with you Mama, as we both surrender to our highest & best good, so we can shine that much brighter! Thank you for the validation, for shining bright, and in return, for giving me permission to do the same.

  • SG Scheherazade July 2, 2015, 11:01 am

    Also, the fact that you say you’re going to bang it out, makes you a Banging Book Babe. And how hot is that? So hot!

    • mama gena July 2, 2015, 11:33 am

      whoa! bangin’ book babe? that is so seriously hot…

  • SG Scheherazade July 2, 2015, 10:59 am

    “Freedom inside obligation” sounds as confusing as “pleasure is a discipline”. Like saying , “oh, look, there’s the ugly Beauty Twins”. LOL. For me an obligation arises out of a sense of duty, a promise, some type of contract, usually unwritten. The freedom inside my obligations is that I am creating this myself, usually for what I perceive to be a greater purpose. That contract is with myself, my sense of integrity with myself increases when I fulfill contracts with myself. I honour me. The freedom lies in knowing that I could chuck it, but instead I choose it.
    I could slack off (this is a sunny place ), but I take the higher road inside myself.
    Freedom always feels like choice to me. When there is a choice, there is freedom. No matter the consequence of that choice. Enjoy your summer beautiful. I like the thought of you totally chained to that desk so I can get my hands on that book soon. You really are moving higher and I sense this one is going to be so YOU. X’s and O’s from down here by the equator.

  • mama gena July 2, 2015, 10:29 am

    thank you–you are pretty entertaining (and brilliant and complex) yourself, sister!!

  • timespaceone July 2, 2015, 10:25 am

    Freedom, like everything else in this life, is an illusion. If exploring what makes you free or not free or free within you’re not being free is what does it for you then great….enjoy! Or don’t. I can see how one could tie freedom in with obligation and explore the connection but my thoughts about what freedom looks and feels like don’t align in any way with my sense of obligation, because I don’t feel obliged to anyone but myself and what feels good to me…and freedom isn’t a part of that. That being said, obligations are illusions too 🙂

    As far as celebrating opportunities in choosing to live my deepest passions….well, one would have to believe they chose to begin with and I don’t believe I chose anything, I have been a goddess though out many lifetimes including this one and my destiny is such that celebrating my divinity happens every day with everything I say and do, and that is where my choosing does factor in, but only with the cards that my fate has dealt me….because we’re never alone in our choosing, it’s not about us as individuals, rather an infinitely connected, living breathing love energy that transforms with every minute, whether we like it or not, “choose” it or not.

    Thanks for your thoughts, always entertaining!

    • karen July 2, 2015, 9:28 pm

      Oh Mama Gena; I love you so! Those words speak so to my soul. The way I see it if obligation is your passion and your joy then being obligated is blissful as it should be. Creating a book is a specifically daunting task even though it is a labor of love. I think the word obligation means more than just committing to something not only for yourself but for the good of others, and you will certainly do that!
      Sometimes writing isn’t easy; after all the word writer’s block hasn’t hung around for nothing. I myself just rec’d my first draft from the editor and am down in Mexico committing to writing and great health and recovery. I will be thinking of you soul sister with your chardonnay and a beach blanket and laptop. Write on.