About a week ago, I posted my profile on an online dating site.
Wow, what a wild new world.
I jump on my computer in the morning and wonder—who contacted me? Will I like him? Will anyone fun ask me out?
Will anyone respond to my post?
It has been fun to see who has responded to my profile.
I have had quite a few interesting guys write to me and ask to meet me.
So far, there appears to be some mo in my jo.
One guy who wrote to me had even been to our Men’s Night event at Mastery a few times, which was great, and we went out for a drink last night and had fun.
I have a question for you.
Is online dating a place where we can see the “law of attraction” at work?
Or is it NOT the law of attraction, since we have to actually put our profiles online?
And what actually IS the law of attraction?
And is it real?
Does it really work?
The law of attraction is a concept that was articulated by Jerry and Esther Hicks, who channel a spirit called Abraham, and they use this as the basis of their teaching:
“Within the seed of your desire is everything necessary for it to blossom to fulfillment. And Law of Attraction is the engine that does the work. Your work is just to give it a fertile growing place in order to expand.” –Abraham
“Law of Attraction says, ‘That which is like unto itself is drawn.’ Which means vibrations are always matched. So as you experience the contrast which inspires the new idea within you, this new idea—this desire—whether it is a strong one or a soft one, is summoning unto itself proportionately. And as it summons, it is always answered. It is the basis of our Universe: When it is asked, it is always given. The confusion that humans feel is that they think they are asking with their words—or even with their action—and sometimes you are. But the Universe is not responding to your words or your action. The Universe is responding to your vibrational calling.” –Abraham
Now, I love this concept. I think that when you are happy and thrilled with yourself, you actually do draw incredible experiences towards you.
The part that frustrates me about it is this: I watch so many women who attack themselves for not attracting exactly the right guy or exactly the right job opportunity.
And worse still, I watch women who read about this law, and are left feeling that all they have to do is sit in a quiet room and concentrate on their desire, and that if they do that enough, the desire will knock on the door, and come to them, and they won’t have to make even the smallest effort or take the tiniest step towards making their dreams come true—it will just happen on its own when the vibration is right.
While the law of attraction is true true true, it is not the whole story. The whole story is that you have to love wherever you are, whatever it looks like, right now, to even begin to attract anything. Additionally, it is really important to demonstrate your willingness to go for your desire by getting up off your butt, and taking deliberate baby steps in the direction of your desires.
Women were born creatrixes. We create life, wherever we shine our attention. And the creation of life starts with a desire that then attracts a response from the world. But each of us has to take an action to get up and move our butts right next to whatever it is that we desire. Creation is active, attraction is passive. And creation is so much fun—you are actually in the driver’s seat, taking pleasurable steps to close the distance between you and whatever it is you want, rather than simply sitting still and waiting for it to come to you.
For example, if I want to date, I can’t just sit home waiting for a wonderful guy to ring my bell. If I want to meet a wonderful guy, I have to put myself in the line of guy fire. Going online is a great step. There are many others, as well. Yesterday, I was walking through the park and I saw an elderly Chinese guy doing Tai Chi, shadowed by a younger man. I see them practicing together every day. It is beautiful. I stopped to talk to them, and the young man invited me to join them in the park tomorrow and do Tai Chi with them. Now, that was not an experience I attracted, it was an experience I created. I took the baby step, I said hello, I risked talking to these guys. It was the law of attraction, coupled with my action in the direction of my desires that led to the wonderful invitation.
What do you think?
How do you use the law of attraction in your own life?
Do you even believe it exists?
Respond below, and let me know what you think.
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With so much love and pleasure,
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