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Is your light ON or OFF?


Is your light on or off?
Right now.
Take a quick test: Do you feel flush with enthusiasm? Beautiful? Strong? Confident?
Good.  Then your light is on.

Light is everything. No light, no life.  It’s that simple.

Do you notice women’s light? I am sure you do. You can tell right away whether it is on – or off.
When a woman’s light is on, she is approachable. You can connect with her.  She is open, beautiful, filled with life. She ignites you and takes you higher.

When her light is off, it is another story. The approach is different. You regard cautiously, wondering what kind of darkness you might be encountering.
Will she snap at you? Ignore you? Resent you? Bring you down? Find you irritating?
How do we handle darkness when we have to relate with someone who has no light?
We all have so many unspoken ways of navigating light, or the lack thereof.
Do you become ultra chirpy, like I do, when navigating the interminable lines at the DMV? Or do you dial your light down to zero so as not to stick out too much?

I do a daily check-in call with my Mom and I can tell from her first word whether her light is on or not.  It’s been on more than not since her fiancé Ted came into her life.
Huge relief for me. I tend to feel a lot of responsibility to make sure the lights of my nearest and dearest is lit.

This issue of light is a real game changer for a woman.

MEOLA-66When a woman’s light is on, she attracts.
Love.  Sex.  Job offers.  Promotions.  Friends.  Miracles.
When her light is off, she repels.
Love.  Sex.  Job offers.  Promotions.  Friends.  Miracles.
The interesting thing about light is that it is not dependent on outside circumstances.
We all know the most overprivileged, overindulged women who have slammed the door on their light.
And we all know the most humble women of modest means whose lights are blazing strong.

Light is an inside job.  Not an outside one.

Nothing can live without light. Including a woman. And yet so many women do.

Women live with a steady diet of depression, self-doubt, self-hatred, self-criticism, self-sabotage.
The moment doubt creeps in to a woman’s head, her light dials down a bit.
Add a dose of disapproval, her light is down to a flicker.
She can completely extinguish her life-giving power in the time it takes to have a sabotaging thought of self-loathing.
How do you turn it on if it’s off?

In order to turn on, you must turn on.
Yes, that turn-on.
The kind of turn-on where your whole body is engaged in the hot throbbing experience of merely being you.
Turned on is tuned in.
Tuned in to your magnificence, your beauty, your savage sensuality, your ability to ravish the world with a glance.
The sensual is our savior. Our messiah, our transformer, our magic kingdom.

Light is heat.
Yes, that kind of heat.
A woman engaging her sensual core is a woman engaging with life.
Sensual connection is the only way to turn her light on.
To become like the sun.
Generating life with every encounter.

Let’s jump to the comments section below and explore this topic even more.
Which kind of woman are you?  A generator?  Or a power sucker?
How do you handle women whose light is dimmer than yours?
Run? Or take her higher?
How do you flip the switch when your light is off?
I can’t wait to hear your shares!

With so much love and pleasure,


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  • Michaela October 8, 2013, 9:25 am

    Blah! I feel like my light has been extinguished!! Dead, dark, dormant, silent. El-sucko! I can see how “hands off” & untouchable I am to myself & the world in this state. Boo hiss! Thank you so much for writing about this today, & reconnecting being lit up w being turned on. I’m focusing in my Gorgeous Pussy right now (FOR ME!!!), & I actually feel better. Thank you for the road map back. xox

    • mama gena October 8, 2013, 11:11 am

      it happens, fast, huh, michaela? :-)

    • little jo October 9, 2013, 1:36 pm

      the way to go Michaela… orgasms enhance your self-confidence thus your your creativity, they boost your energy, give you enthusiasm and strenghten your defenses but more: they make you happy for the 1st thing we know from the SWA is that pleasure generates happiness and happiness makes us glow and ignite the other ones around us…

      Read about orgasm and positive energy, visit Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross’ website or Carlin Ross’ facebook page and check out the Bodysex workshop they just did last w-e, so inspiring! So keep on rocking (your pelvis) Sista, and it’s all come to you by itself 😎

  • Pam October 8, 2013, 9:36 am

    Today … today … I am feeling the light. How did I get there today? I got out of bed when I awoke earlier than I would otherwise have wanted to, and made the choice to make that extra time be about ME. I washed my face and gazed at my reflection with approval. I put on music and watched myself dance … I swayed my hips like a GODDESS!! I worked out on the elliptical for a half hour and appreciated all my working parts. I dressed in a way that feels super cute. I smiled to other drivers on my way to work. And I engaged with other women in the office with the intention of bringing them higher. All that before 9:00 am. A good start to a light filled day!

    • mama gena October 8, 2013, 11:12 am

      what a way to celebrate the gift of life!

  • D.B. Lichtstrahl October 8, 2013, 9:42 am

    I love that post…and would like to add that “your light” is something that’s “brought with you” 24/7. It’s built-in. And, it seems it’s radiance, “for each of us uniquely” is dependent on being aware of it! Go Mama for bringing this awareness to light!

    • little jo October 9, 2013, 1:38 pm

      indeed… Amazing how being aware changes it all. Bless Mama and her infinite wisdom.

  • Jia Ni October 8, 2013, 9:53 am

    Definitely a generator. And this is also something I’ve always intuitively practiced since I was a child. I would crank up my light dial to full on and BRIGHT … and I would feel so FREE and aligned. What a great reminder… Thank you Mama Gena! Great reminder to check my light switch – it’s turned ON!!! 😉

    • little jo October 9, 2013, 1:42 pm

      Nice to know some women around the planet were aware since childhood, you’re lucky Sister. Do you think it’s due to your upbringing, were other people around you like that or was it a genuine attitude?

  • SG Debra October 8, 2013, 9:53 am

    I was so sorry to miss the call last night but I was at an event being a million watt light bulb and seeing the beauty in every woman there. I thought that was a better use of my time.
    What was fun was watching the woman react to being seen as something spectacular. Some were mistrusting, some were nervous, a couple started to glow like the sun.
    AND I flirted with the men. But it was the same tool. I just cast my glowing light at them and they were like moths but this candle did not burn them, it uplifted them.
    When I got home I read another chapter in MGSofWA…That book and the other one we use in the course about passion are my lifelines. Even now as I sit in my jammies without make up or audience, I am so so grateful for my life, for my passion and for Mama Gena who is my inspiration to let my light shine

    • mama gena October 8, 2013, 11:14 am

      awwww……..thanks for the shout out! back atcha!

  • Simin Vaswani October 8, 2013, 11:06 am

    Thank you Mama Gena for bringing this to light :) This is exactly where I am struggling right now. I am a generator, I receive so many compliments from people that when I walk into a room I bring light. However, I become a complete 360 degree bitch if another woman is a bitch with me. If someone is pushing my buttons I attack back at her but in reality I would love to bring out the Goddess in her. But most importantly I do not have clarity on what happens to me and why I lose my light when a woman is bitchy with me.

    • mama gena October 8, 2013, 11:17 am

      well, lucky for YOU and the rest of virtual pleasure boot camp, we are getting to ‘the womanly art of partying with your inner bitch’ in a week or so!!

    • Melanie October 8, 2013, 2:47 pm


      I have the same problem and am especially struggling with this issue with a bitchy co-worker. My light is on for sure, but she can quickly drag me down with her rudeness and then I start doubting myself, which is easy to do as I’m fairly new at the job and she has been there for awhile. Would love any insight from other goddesses here on this issue.

      • little jo October 9, 2013, 1:53 pm

        Avoid bitches. Avoid them like plague because they’re only bringing negative energy around. On top, some of them like ‘trolling’, so in this case better just change space before they turn you off. When you’ll have mastered the way to use those angry feelings as a fuel and transmute negativity into brightness, you’ll be able to turn them into Goddesses. Have faith, Mama is on our side 😉

        • Melanie October 9, 2013, 2:35 pm

          Thank you, Little Jo. Awesome reply!

  • Suzanne October 8, 2013, 12:15 pm

    Good encouragement! Another thought, I get droopy/blah when I get a bad night’s sleep. Then I feel drawn/inclined to feel guilty about me, then I “want” to think this new way (womanly arts) is too hard for me and I won’t do it right. NOW I am saying to myself, “Relax, be sweet & patient with me because I need it. Perfect is not my goal nor is it a worthy goal for anyone. I will take really nice care of myself today, rest/nap, eat nice, yummy food, be peaceful & kind to me, read and practice some of the specific womanly arts for me today.

  • Sister SpiritGoddess October 8, 2013, 5:40 pm

    Question MG:
    “Sensual connection is the only way to turn her light on…”
    Wondering and curious–isn’t there also a spiritual path/exploration that leads to a bright and blazing light that manifests as energy that is a huge turn on, too.

    • s.g. little jo October 9, 2013, 2:53 pm

      of course. Both work together, but to be able to become flirtatuous as a S.G. should be, one has to be sensually connected first of all, mind you.

  • Sister Goddess Double Delicious Diane October 8, 2013, 9:47 pm

    Good Goddess! This might be my favorite thing you have ever written! Let your light shine, let my light shine, let our lights shine! So simple, yet soooooooo powerful. Loooooove this!

  • Ann Moller October 8, 2013, 10:31 pm

    Whew, thanks for the reminder, Mama! Generally speaking my light is on but of course it wavers from time to time, especially if I’m worrying or stressed out, which I was when I opened this email/blog from you! To your Qs, I’m a generator most of the time. Can be a power-suck, too. When I’m around someone whose light is dimmer, I take her higher but if she’s really resistant, I let it go and shine my light elsewhere. If I notice my light is off, some of my go-to turn-on tools are: paying another woman a sincere compliment, putting on red lipstick, a dance brag, brags or gratitudes, sensual pleasure, singing, or bringing my attention to my senses in the present moment.

  • little jo October 9, 2013, 2:45 pm

    ON and forever on now. I’d like to thank you Mama for that first of all naturally, for you are the best thing that ever happened to me. But I’d like to thank as well the people that allowed me to discover you and then practice the WA on a daily basis because practice makes it work perfect 😎

    Now I’ve been lucky, for I knew about the power of glowing already, but I wasn’t aware of the rest of the story and my light was most of the time stopped by the darkness around and my own lack of trust. Fortunately, my I.B. caught my attention, I was craving for pleasure to find my identity, my confidence, my strenght, my inner-guidance that I never dared following, all those goodies us women naturally have but don’t use because we don’t know about it or are ‘de-clit-ed’ by shame and limitating beliefs, as Lawrence Lanoff would say…

    After meeting my I.B. (at 53, it was almost time!), all went much easier: I had the time to search into the net and found your TEDex speech that freed me – it worked like magic – so I immediately ordered your books. A week later, I discovered Betty Dodson, another cunt-positive person, and a couple of months after I stumbled on ‘The Secret’ (the Law of Attraction’): ‘Whatever you focus on, expands’, it helped me to get rid of my ‘Saboteur’, the negative part of us that makes us doubt and believe we’re not worthy/we cannot make it. Now, there’s plenty room for light and happiness :)

    Bless you Mama, you rock my world and let the Pleasure Revolution roll!

    • s.g. little jo October 9, 2013, 2:50 pm

      Oh and thank you, all my virtual S.G. that I relish the testimonies, you’re so inspiring on the path to enlightment…

      • Marilu May 1, 2016, 6:25 am

        Der Ehemann war in der ersten Jaruwnaoche zu Hause (und ich im Stressjob) – und hat GEPUTZT!So, und jetzt will ich mal von euch allen beneidet werden. ;DGrüße! N.

  • Goddess from Oz October 10, 2013, 6:51 pm

    Oh Mama, I love your philosophies. I live in a town that is gossipy and negative and full of “trolls”. Reading the comments from all the lovely SG’s out there makes me pine for more!! I find it hard to keep my light on when there is so much negativity & nastiness around me.
    Come to Oz Mama!!!

  • Earth Empress Shakaya October 15, 2013, 9:49 am

    Having lived in both realms …
    … from a sick kid orphaned & living on the streets as a suicidal teen to turning ON my RADIANCE and living that Transformation and now guiding others, I agree it’s a Game Changer!

    And a choice 😉

    This community is a beautiful Light and Mama Gena, your passionate FIRELIGHT could outshine the Sun!

  • Roberta October 29, 2013, 3:45 pm

    Lovely post. Have been working on noticing when my vibration is high and low. I guess that is pretty close to the “light” you talk about. Yes, when it is ON, much more approachable and OFF, not so. Will watch this and notice. Pleasure is good. Am reading your two books. Thanks for the post!

  • Julie November 7, 2013, 3:37 pm

    You know, I can be both at times – a generator and a power sucker! My intention is to be a generator more and most of the time, and to spread that light.

    Great article – thank you!

  • MARGE GOTTLIEB September 9, 2015, 5:17 pm

    my new mantra embrace holy selfishness I must first be a blessing to myself
    before I can be a blessing to anyone else I am dedicated from this day forward
    to get a new story and be the best I can be no longer being the queen of codependency believing I cant be happy until everyone I love is happy I am
    sick of soul sucking suffering !!!!

    • MARGE GOTTLIEB September 9, 2015, 5:29 pm

      My HUGE DESIRES and ASPIRATIONS are my strengths All I want is
      EVERYTHING !!! Hey you never know the impossible is ALWAYS possible
      in love in light in blessings I am a wise juicy woman dedicated to sharing my light
      as I live every moment with passion on purpose

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