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My trip to the ER


Last week, I promised to give you the 5th and most important step in creating a pleasurable experience. To recap for those of you who are tuning in today for the first time, the creation of a pleasurable life is not easy. In fact, it is actually easy to live a miserable life — do nothing, and you will have a miserable life.

But pleasure requires discipline, it requires attention, it requires practice. We all want pleasure, but because we live in a world that celebrates you for how hard you work, how busy you are and how much multitasking you are capable of, pleasure is like a stepchild, kind of like Cinderella — she never really gets a proper invitation to the party. And just like the Stepsisters, everyone feels a little funny hanging out with her — kinda like they’re doing something a little bit wrong, which is assuredly frowned upon.

On the other hand, a life without pleasure is a life devoid of meaning, devoid of color, devoid of deep down soul satisfaction. (Click to tweet!) Pleasure makes the mundane magical. When I am faced with a sink full of dishes after a huge dinner party, if I open a bottle of champagne, crank up the music, grab a couple of friends to help, and get them to all sing along to the oldies, doing the dishes becomes Part II of the party. The mundane becomes magical.

The ingredients of every pleasurable experience are always the same:
1. Planning
2. Invitation
3. Anticipation
4. The Big Event
Bonus: If you have hit all your marks, and have done 1-4 really well, default pleasure will land in your lap.

(To review last week’s post, click here.)

The 5th and final step to creating pleasure is the most important step of all. It is also the most commonly overlooked part, and we have all paid the price for its absence. For example, last week, when Mastery completed, I was so happy and high. I had not only had the greatest teaching experience of my life, but I was working with my amazing new team who hit all their marks, and then some. And Mastery is complicated — there are over 300 students to register, 5 entrances to plan, slideshows, 25 Big Sisters, 40 volunteers, online support, lunch reservations, guest speakers, and Sisterhood to create. And the assemblage of women who have come together to form Spring Mastery 2014 is sublime — I feel so honored to meet them and excited to get to know them intimately over the next six months.
And we crushed it — hit it right out of the park!
And the very next day, after the curtain came down, I got hit with a huge honkin’ cold.

Two days later, I was in my office, celebrating Hannah’s birthday. We each do favorite frames of the person whose birthday it is, and then we dance. I demanded that we each take a solo runway, in honor of Hannah, and when it was my turn, I danced so crazy-like that I tripped on the carpet and fell backwards, catching myself with my wrist and spraining the schizz out of it.
Some people might call this an ‘upper limit’ problem, which is when you hit the upper limits of your ability to handle the goodness in your life, and you need to create some negative experience to bring yourself down, which is what happened to me. But more accurately, this was a digestion problem. The 5th and final step of creating a pleasurable experience is so powerful that it can blow the lid off of all of your upper limits.
What is this magic bullet?
This missing ingredient?
This cherry on the sundae?

What did I forget to do, which led to my cold and a fast trip to the ER?

Digestion. Otherwise known as Acknowledgment, Appreciation, Gratitude.

When we take the time to really and truly digest and ingest the goodness of the pleasurable experience we have just had, the digestion acts the same way your digestive experience works — it allows you to metabolize your experience of pleasure, truly take it in, and then, if you really digest well, you can make room for even more. Why would you want to do that? Well, it’s always fun to have a life that tops even your wildest imagination. And just like digesting a big meal creates room for another one, digesting your pleasurable experience makes room inside of you for more fun. (Click to tweet!)
I had not digested, adequately, the goodness of my weekend, which led to my cold and my unfortunate dance break.
How do you digest properly?
Well, in all my courses, we do something called ‘Favorite Frames.’ What are favorite frames? That’s when everyone goes around the room, and has a moment to describe an experience or an insight or an interaction that was meaningful to them. When you give voice to a pleasurable experience, you actually metabolize it and make it part of the fabric of who you are. We expand our capacity to receive pleasure with each bit of pleasure that we digest. If we don’t digest it, we can throw off our whole balance, and end up feeling cranky, irritated, or worse.

So, let’s take a moment, right now, to catch up on our good.
What have you been sitting on, rather than celebrating?
Whether you’re in Mastery right now or not, use the comments below to digest, acknowledge, appreciate and express gratitude for the goodness in your life. Acknowledging the pleasure you have makes room to receive even more pleasure.

In so much love and pleasure,

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  • SG Abisola April 19, 2014, 1:55 am

    I so adore how you, Mama Gena, wrap it and use your life to exemplify what you are saying. It makes it real. My life has been so fast since the first weekend. My Favorite Frame is reading all the brags! The Sister Goddesses elevate and lift me up to do more and more outrageous additional Spring cleanings on every topic in the book of my life! Thank you to all who have done Mastery in the past because I am sure that you all are the foundation I stand on in this journey — I am swimming in your Divine Ocean of Unconditional Love!

  • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 1:49 pm

    Thank you for your ever so inspiring posts Sister Goddesses and most of all, thank You Mama Genius for allowing me to find myself eventually…

  • GiGi April 17, 2014, 1:44 pm

    Mama Mia – I hope you’re wrist heals quickly. Thank you for this blog and for the reminder of how to relish pleasure on so many new levels … and the reminder to treat it always as a meal at the banquet table. I was paid a wonderful compliment by the husband of another SG – he said to me that when he met me four years ago I said I would lose weight, find love, ignite a new career and stand for myself no matter what – he said that I am an amazing and beautiful woman and I am welcome in his home anytime. Since taking Mastery in 2010 my SELF has approached life in such a pink boa way. I always remember – to Acknowledge, Appreciate and especially have and give gratitude at all cost. I now even say I am grateful for what I perceived to be the “not-so-great” things that made me who I am. So pop the cork and lets all drink to pleasure and the 5th ingredient of digestion … because I’m hungry for MORE, MORE, MORE …. Thank you MG – you rocked my old house down and gave me the space to build a new one. I love you!

  • Mary Lynne Johnson April 16, 2014, 10:31 pm

    I am sitting here in a quiet house “digesting” my favorite frames of the last three days.
    I just returned from a visit to see my 83-year-old uncle in northern New York. I decided ahead of the trip to practice the steps of a pleasurable experience. Now visiting an elderly relative in the dementia unit of a nursing home in the boonies of New York may not be everyone’s idea of a pleasurable outing. However, I decided this would be so. I planned to include a visit with two of my brothers who I don’t see that often. And one brother went with me on the visit. We had great conversations, shared photographs from recent vacation trips, and ate bowls of popcorn. We had lunch with my uncle, met some of his “lunch mates”, smiled a lot, and engaged people in heartfelt conversations as best we could. We left my uncle with the snow flying and the temperature plummeting, hearts heavy, and found a place for a hot drink. We talked about how full our lives have been and how blessed we felt for having an uncle who was such a big part of it. We took a “selfie” which will become a literal favorite frame for me. Thank you for this space to share.

    • SG little Joe April 18, 2014, 4:26 am

      What you did is a perfect example of the WAHFNMW, one of my very fave tools too. Well done Sister!

  • Deborah Smith April 16, 2014, 3:45 pm

    Ahh . . .
    Or should I write: Ahha!!! Regena, thank you SO much for this insight.I thought I had this digestion thing covered as after each Mastery class 2013 I would FF and SC the heck out of the weekends and the cold or headache that had threatened to creep in always went away!
    Yet with this blog I realize that the challenges in my life are getting more subtle. I did a major push-along with the entire rest of my Zoo Crew” team-to get us up and running and off to the big sale this month. We smoked it!!! Then on the very last day things kind of unraveled. It was because I hadn’t FFed and bragged and HTed on the weeks!
    I am SO grateful for this job that is so often so easy to stay in pleasure with and as frequently challenges me to go go even higher!!! I am grateful for a mentor whom knows the importance of growing rather than shrinking. I am grateful for the weeks of pushing hard for the numerous successes it gave all of us and for the lesson of how to grow and expand into even more pleasure. I am grateful for all of my wonderul SGs for all of the SCings everyday on my commute to work. I am grateful to know that even Mama gets tripped up (really, did you have to make it so literal?) on the challenge of digesting and going higher. Rapid rapid healing to you!!! I am grateful for MG and all these amazing tools she has given me to make my life SO MUCH better. I am also very grateful to the rapidly expanding world of local SGs!!!

    Get well quick. Thank you!!!

  • SG Anya April 16, 2014, 12:56 pm

    Wow Mama Gena thank you for that post…
    hope ur feeling wonderful, can’t wait to be back next weekend!!!
    my brain is having many little ah ha moments from thinking about upper limit
    and the digestion…
    I am so grateful for Mastery, the tools, the possibilities and the wonderful SG’s
    I am so grateful for all the opportunities for travel and fun coming up in these next two weeks for me. I am so grateful for reading this post and it inspiring me to make this tool of digestion and gratitude a priority as I venture out to travel! Im gonna get my boyfriend to FF with me as we spend a few days in Paris! I am grateful for this trip to Paris, its gonna be warm!!!! Im grateful Paris is only 3 and half hours away!! I am grateful for my life, thank you Goddess!! Thank you Mama Gena for all you have inspired in all of us, this community ROCKS!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Sister Goddess Nancy of Miraculous Joy April 16, 2014, 12:55 pm

    I’m grateful for all the SG reminders, for the brags, gratitudes, desires sharing and for doing a Spring Cleaning with SG Deborah regarding my frustration with the techy part of the MGSWA site! I’m grateful for the help I’ve gotten with all sorts of tech issues as upgrades are needed and new learning op’s emerge. Last night’s time at the Oakland Intertribal Center was amazing – Lakota Sioux Richard Moves Camp presented, then we all ate together and I’m grateful for the whole evening, especially the dinner time with “natural Sister Goddesses” who were fully expressing, having a blast and not holding back! I’m blessed with abundance in my life, wondrous family and friends in my community, and with SG support in having lots more FUN – and feeling so deserving! Spirit’s guidance and the love surrounding me/us is palpable. THANK YOU ALL!!

  • SG Fab April 16, 2014, 7:22 am

    Thank you Regena for being!!!!
    I’m so grateful to read your post, the posts of many SGs here that I am blessed to know personally. I’m grateful to have you and them, us, in my life every single day of my life. Via calls, emails, texts, blogs, classes, trips. My life is truly more special and fun because of SIsterhood!
    I’m grateful to be in Brazil seeing my family and friends, eating exquisite, tropical and comfort food, to be connected from here. I’m grateful for my brother and sis in law for hosting and taking care of my needs. I’m grateful for my sister and her desire to connect and her pregnancy. I’m grateful for my son, and how easy he is to travel and how much love, hugs and kisses we exchange.
    I’m grateful for SWA, creator, staff and volunteers for the magic created and how much my life has opened up and expanded since my first Mastery in 2008!
    Thank you!!!! <3
    SG Fab

  • SG Officer Stacey April 16, 2014, 7:00 am

    I am so incredibly grateful for my life and so amazing choices I have made. I live in the most awesome home in a a wonderful neighborhood surrounded by nature and kind people! I am grateful for my job, which will afford me the ability to retire in two years with a pension so that I can take some time to travel and maybe do Mastery # 2! I am grateful for the constant reminder of Mama Gena’s School which I have been away from physically but spiritually is always with me! Thank you!

  • Healing Sister Goddess April 16, 2014, 12:36 am

    I’m realizing I’ve been stocking up on undigested goodness for more than 20 years, since my teen years! And ended up feeling guilty for having so much in my life and doubting if it’s okay to go for even more… After reading this I feel so so much lighter in my shoulders and more at ease. I feel grateful for your post, Mama Gena!

  • SG Meredith April 16, 2014, 12:05 am

    Mama Gena – you are always so willing to learn AND to teach and I am so grateful for what you share with us! Digestion is the key to absorption and this what I am aiming to get out of Mastery 2014. I must digest to be enriched!!

    I am deeply grateful for the space you create for us to grow safely with each other and to experience our Pleasure Revolution unencumbered by convention and prejudice. It is the best gift of all and I will be paying it forward for the rest of my life!

    I vow to savor the experience of Mastery !

  • SG DETOX DIVA April 15, 2014, 11:35 pm

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS BLOG. I am so sorry for your sprain but I have been thinking a lot about savoring the moment or experience lately. This blog totally hits the nail on the head! LOL

  • SG j9 April 15, 2014, 10:02 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this blog. So grateful for Mastery and this articulation of digestion .
    Despite a very intense period of work pressure I am particularly grateful for the grounding feeling that all is right with the world because of the incredible sisterhood, community and tools from Mastery.

  • SG Frannie April 15, 2014, 9:57 pm

    Mama Gena, I hope your wrist is healing very nicely and without pain.
    The whole weekend was very special for me as I was there with my sister, SG Anne from San Antonio. We are renewing and building on our love for one another; what a priceless gift to me. I feel abundant gratitude for her every day.
    One of my favorite frames of the weekend, among many, was the responsive singing session – loved that.
    When I returned home I was so happy – a close friend said she had never seen me this happy. I have a ways to go to make that state more continuous, but I believe the tools I am learning, the encouraging new friends I am meeting, and the re-framing of my life & perspective will make it possible. Thank you.

  • Janelle Evans April 15, 2014, 9:54 pm

    Mama Gena, perfect timing! Today was my first day back from an EPIC weekend at the most amazing spa (Sundara Spa in the Wisconsin Dells) where I actually got paid to visit and enjoy!!! My colleague Paula Houlihan hired me to photograph her Purpose & Prosperity Women’s Retreat held at the spa in a private villa. I got to serve and connect with amazing women, sleep in a luxurious cloud-like bed, and indulge in the chocolate bath spa experience! My fiancé, whom I love SO MUCH, transported me to and from the airport and even has been investing joyfully in my business!

    As I mentioned, your article comes at the perfect time — because just last week I held an Upper Limit Dissolving Ceremony for myself. I have pictures on my Facebook page ( for anyone curious about it. Your exercise of digesting the good experiences is perfect for me to lock in my new level of abundance, purpose, and joy. Thank you Mama! Love you!

  • SG Mona April 15, 2014, 8:12 pm

    SG Regina, So sorry you are hurting. Hope you are feeling better…please do not stop dancing with abandon!!!!

    I am so grateful for Mama Gena and the school of the womanly arts where I learned the art of conjuring. I conjured up so much abundance and adventure and incredible desires last year and year to date thus far has been amazing. I have become the queen of conjuring. So far this year I have conjured up Mastery 2014,( my second mastery), a new furnace, money for my Real Estate taxes, a spring vacation, a full season ski pass, music, dinners, shows, expensive champagne (cristal) and wine. All paid for by the most amazing heroes in my life. Men who support me in my journey and who take care of all my needs and desires, I am ever so grateful to every one of them.

  • Tewa Ackerman April 15, 2014, 7:49 pm

    I love Acknowledgement Gratitude Appreciation.
    I love to accept any invitation to express what is going well and how happy I am in my life
    I am thankful for the beautiful place I have created to live in I so much appreciate my walks along the river with my old dog I love watching the river in all its different subtle shifts as my painter’s mind lines things up
    so my memory will paint them all easily when I am ready
    I appreciate the dogs and people who stop to greet my Old Mr Red
    I am so thankful to have brought him to such a delicious place in his last years
    I am thankful for the beautiful beings I know all around the world I so much appreciate Skype and talking to and seeing delightful likeminded souls around the globe
    to celebrate with
    I love how the internet brings MY KIND of WORLD to my door
    I am so thankful for my Life and my magnificent part in creating all of this
    thank-you love Tewa

  • Stephanie Marrone April 15, 2014, 6:30 pm

    SG Regena, I hope you are feeling better. I am grateful for much. For my family and friends and I have lots of gorgeous friends on FB mainly from the SG community which I would not have had I not done mastery in 2007 and volunteered in 2008. I am grateful for being alive after an attempt on my life. I appreciate the little things a lot more now. My boyfriend and I are rekindling our flame. I’m releasing unnecessary body weight and just finding all of the good that is around me.

  • BP April 15, 2014, 4:48 pm

    I am thankful for the friendship and confidences of a flirty coworker. We are both married and always respect that, but this is a beautiful and special friendship that allows us both to play in a very fun, healthy and safe way. It’s a relationship that makes me feel alive and grateful.

  • SG Karla April 15, 2014, 4:16 pm

    My favorite frame so far is reading the boards and finding out from other Sister Goddesses (now including you, Mama!) that they also got the flu/cold after the first mastery weekend. It felt good to know that I wasn’t alone in my process and that I was sharing the same energetic experience – releasing, acknowledging, healing and renewing – with a group of extra fabulous women. So, I am eternally grateful to have the support of this community…especially at this point in my life as I continue to stretch myself…because even though I am starting to feel uncomfortable about some circumstances in my life, I am inviting and anticipating the upcoming changes with love and pleasure…and what better way to go through it than to have a group of supportive friends and cheerleaders!

  • Crina April 15, 2014, 3:51 pm

    I am so very grateful for my family, my son, my parents and my sister, my husband, my in-laws. I am grateful for my friends, and for my colleagues. I am grateful for all the successes and recognition I received. I am grateful for my students and for my experiences. I am grateful for my spiritual growth, for my dance, for my moments of clarity. I am grateful for the new found courage to be my wonderful self! Life is pretty darn good!

  • Luxurious Laurie April 15, 2014, 1:50 pm

    Regena, I miss you!!

    I am so blessed!! Men have been serving me so lavishly, and I feel so adored and loved because of their attentions!!

    So many people I meet are noticing and complimenting my extremely bright soul energy…it is one of my favorite compliments!!

    I am bringing in so much financial abundance…and I am creating so much more of all types!!!

    Thank you, Goddess…I’ll gladly accept more, please!!!!!

  • SG Ti Sealstress April 15, 2014, 1:47 pm

    I brag that I subbed for the teacher in a painting class at the last minute and did my first demo for students. I brag that I rocked it and the students rocked their paintings. I brag that I had an answer for all their questions, all weekend, and even better, talked them through how I got to the answer so they could help themselves. I brag that I decided to assist at the last minute and broke plans with my sweetie and his son because my heart said YES. I brag I am assisting again in May. I brag I held space in the circle with ferocity and tenderness. Whew! That’s a LOT.
    I brag that I am ready to make a big change in my life and instead of looking outside to see what’s available, I’m looking inside first to see what I desire.

  • BSG Allison April 15, 2014, 1:28 pm

    My favorite frame is of weekend one: Big Sister Goddess Lysa who gave me a hug when I murmured that the intelligent and lovely “above the diaphragm Dr. Goddess” was not the only one whose first husband did not care about her achieving orgasm. She looked at me in surprise and hugged me. Tears came to my eyes. This sister did more for me in that understanding hug than my real sister ever did. I want to thank her with this acknowledgement. This community is magical.
    I was afraid to stand up and share when Mama Gena asked for favorite frames because it was a deeply personal moment not something that happened in the spotlights or big stage of the program. Here is praying this post helps me to digest all this good and make room for more.

    • Lysa Price April 16, 2014, 9:49 am

      BSG Allison,

      Thank you so much for mentioning me. I’m so happy that I touched you in some way. Please find me on the I would love to connect and Spring Clean…

    • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 12:36 pm

      Beautiful… I wish I’d be with you Sisters, I could have done with a hug too because we’re much too much of that kind. Time for the Pleasure Revolution!

  • SG Leslie April 15, 2014, 1:08 pm

    I am filled with so much gratitude and goodness, it can be overwhelming sometimes.

    First, I am grateful to you, Regena, for shocking me back into my life in 2007, for giving me tools that I could come back to when my self-assurance was waning. I am grateful, beyond words grateful to my boss, Jamie, who has gone from overseer, to peer, to fan, to friend, to shaman; he allows me to see my lifetime, all lifetimes, in a second, and the larger truths I am learning, bolstered by the tools I have and am creating, have given me an amazing life.
    And sweet Jesse, who I didn’t even know 3 months ago, my gratitude for him grows with every rehearsal and every day closer to the show. I asked the universe for something amazing, and beautiful, and something that would change me and my situation, and it provided in the most hilarious, lovely and right way. When he contacted me to star in his musical, I was unsure and immediately assumed the project would be unworthy because I had no hand in the writing. But in classic universe fashion, I was provided with insight into the human experience by something that could seem silly and trite: playing Tonya Harding in his show, Tonya Harding, The Musical. I shine! I feel it.

    And yes, Cat. Cat, who I met this weekend, who turned to me when I couldn’t give myself any gifts or clarity, and asked if she could hold the flame of desire for me, hold space for the belief in love when I couldn’t. I am still in process of transferring that near-extinguished pilot light to her-I’m terrified it won’t come back, that I’ll hear the empty clicking when I need it again, but I also am grateful for that fear–it makes me know love is important to me, belief is important to me, even when I can’t see it or feel it. And I also know that the fear is unfounded. I burn inside, we all do, with a million things, and letting her hold that space for me doesn’t mean it has to close within myself.

    God, there’s so much more. Life is so fucking abundant! Thank you. Thank you for it all.

  • Gwen April 15, 2014, 1:07 pm

    I am grateful that you women exist! I am hopeful that one day I can join you in your circle, but for now, I am appreciating your posts, and reminders that this life is for living Big. It helps me keep from settling, which might solve issues, but I want Joy, Passion, and Love, and Good Friends! I am grateful for my health, my children, and this wonderful world we live in, that gives me opportunities for change and growth every day!

    Until we meet, I am grateful you to know there are women who want to live life and strive!

    Blessings to us all, for we are the blessing!

  • Anne Wallace April 15, 2014, 12:48 pm

    Mama, Thank you for this timely blog! Wow, you took the term dance “break” a bit too literally. And a blog is a digest. I am thinking a lot about the body-mind and its use of metaphor because (the reason today’s blog resonates) the day after I got home from mastery weekend 1, I had a rash on both lower legs then an acute attack of inflammation in most of my joints: my knees swollen to nearly three times their size, hands like paws so swollen I couldn’t close my fingers, wrists, ankles, feet, stiff neck…

    When I finally acknowledged the systemic nature of it, I got scared. My PCP did a lot of blood tests and ordered xrays; I haven’t gotten the results or gotten to see a rheumatologist yet. So I’ve had to focus on self care: rest (asking a friend to walk my dog and water my garden; asking the man I’ve been dating to shop for me), acupuncture, lots of guided meditation asking my body what it’s trying to tell me. After all those dance breaks and BIFF crawling, I couldn’t dance, crawl, bends my knees, make my hands into fists, could barely wash my hair…

    I am grateful for my sister SG Frannie and the SisterGoddess community for sharing their own journeys and encouraging me in my journey toward loving myself. I am grateful to have witnessed Debbie Rosas’ quietly compassionate, loving interaction with the SG who lives in pain. I am grateful for their honesty on the boards of the SGs who are struggling with doubt and resistance. I’m grateful for the SGs with bodacious desires that come true; I desire to desire big and have faith in fulfillment, too! I am grateful for my beautiful house painted in sea greens and blues, my spirited playful dog, the close friends who call on me when they are in need and my ability to come through for them, everyone I have ever felt a deep connection to, my sense of humor and my creativity. I desire to find my soul’s true purpose and release all of my ancient shame, fear and pain.

    • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 12:31 pm

      I hope you’re feeling better now… Did you get to know what your body was trying to tell you eventually? I believe strongly in the mind-body connection as well…

  • Jennifer B. April 15, 2014, 12:17 pm

    I am sooo grateful for women who support other women in the smallest of ways from a hug of support or a card to the biggest of ways like making life-time sacrifices… As I sit here, I am recovering from kidney transplant surgery thanks to the love and overwhelming generosity of my kidney angel and sister, Janet. I have a fresh start because of her and a chance to thank her every day… At the same time my sister Lauren, has been my tireless caretaker along with my boyfriend, Jim…..and not to forget my mother who gave me the gift of my sisters, to her I will be forever be grateful!

    Be well… MG.. we all are grateful for your inspiration and support!

    • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 12:26 pm

      Healing vibes going your way Sister.

  • hilary alexanian April 15, 2014, 11:34 am

    This is your brilliance at it’s most inspiring, Mama Gena. I am deeply touched by this great wisdom and will begin applying it right now. I know in my bones and my blood how true it is, but your recounting of the kinesthetic consequence of omitting it brings it home in a whole new way. Thank you.

  • SG Joan Champion of Pleasure April 15, 2014, 11:25 am

    I am grateful to you, Regena, for your fantastic SWA and the way you keep expanding and bringing us higher. I am on Team Pleasure this year and am grateful for that experience. I am grateful to my good friend and neighbor, M, who created a beautiful Seder last night for 18 people. I am grateful for the love and support I felt last night from people who I have gotten to know well from attending Seders and other celebrations with them for many years. I am grateful I have such good friends. I am grateful that this morning my husband did FFs with me about the party so we could digest the goodness. I love the way FFs are such a positive way to process any event or experience. Thank you for teaching me this technique. I am grateful that this year Passover and Easter are the same week but not in conflict since we celebrate both. I am grateful for my beautiful church and Catholic community that creates such a spiritually satisfying Lent and Easter experience. I am so looking forward to plunging myself into the next few days of prayer and ceremonies that lead up to Easter. And grateful that I will be able to digest the experience by FFing! Regena, I hope your wrist and cold are healing and that they at least gave you a chance to pamper and pleasure yourself and give yourself exquisite and loving self care. Now I am going on to my yoga mat to release my own kinks, and I am grateful I know how to do that!

  • Lori Goldberg April 15, 2014, 11:18 am

    I am a sister from afar but deeply connected with the core of everyone of you.
    I could do with speaking my gratitude as I feel somewhat compressed… waking in the morning…. a BREATHE inhaled and out, thank you. another day I get to have and it awaits me with the unknown and the stability of knowing that I create my reality and take full responsibility of how it turns out. I practise being in the place of ‘satisfaction’. I connect to the quiet, serene place within and dissolve those parts of me that yell out for attention and need lots of love… fear is a big one… I am grateful to be able to connect to the LOVE that is abundant(somewhat quiet) and watch the spaces that open up inside of me. I am always so pleased to experience the results… I am grateful for this awareness and the willingness to up level this practise . I am on my way to being out of my way!! Thank you

  • SG Carolyne April 15, 2014, 10:51 am

    I am a 2009 Mastery Grad. This is so perfect as I need to digest one of the BEST weeks I’ve had since moving myself to California. I relocated myself to California last year to recreate and reinvent my life. I knew less than a handful of people here and was starting everything over from scratch pretty much. After months of being in and out of the swamp, I have jumped out and have really created a fabulous life here!!! My business is rockin’ and I’ve been meeting some fantastic people. Last week I desired to go to a VIP party sponsored by Bentley. I not only was gifted tickets and had a blast, I was also given VIP tickets to the event held on the next day. I wined and dined in style and had the pleasure of meeting even more wonderful people. Life is GREAT!!! I’m so grateful for the SWA tools.

  • Roberta April 15, 2014, 10:47 am

    Yesterday I bought a Stanley Plum tree to plant on a rental property I own. Last Saturday it was a thrill to plant a Pie Cherry and Seckel Pear tree on this same property. Last December I asked Santa for an orchard and now that wish is coming true! As I prepare emotionally to move out of the house I’m currently living in (and it is a hard thing as it closes several doors in my life), I can celebrate the new orchard that is forming.

    Your digestion analogy is similar to your book talking about a woman being “full” when she has not acknowledged the good in her life and there is no room for more to come in. Love it. Thanks again for the reminder. 🙂

  • Tara April 15, 2014, 10:40 am

    I can’t say enough about this post. THANK YOU!! Digestion is huge in so many areas of life. And as you say, we pass it up. Ah it brings it all together, makes it real so it lives in us. Beautiful, adept and oh so pleasure-inducing! Well wishes to you too.

  • Evgenia April 15, 2014, 10:15 am

    I am grateful for having a chance to heal relationship with a person who I thought I cannot stand and for myself for totally taking that chance and trusting the divine as opposed to the voice of my ego. I’m grateful for my new job search moving forward slowly but surely! I’m grateful for having time to explore what is it that I really want in professional life and for all the discoveries than come my way! I’m grateful for my current job that does pay my bills. I am grateful for my man making me my lemon/hot water drink that I take every morning!! And I am so grateful for all you sisters sharing the good and inspiring each other!! Thank you.

  • tara April 15, 2014, 10:10 am

    I am grateful for gratitude and my expression through paint. Through my schooling with you this essential quality of digestion, favorite framing and gratitude came pouring out of me in the Spring of 2010 when I processed the end of my eighteen year marriage by making forty “gratitude paintings” with the words “thank you” etched into the final layer of wet paint. I allowed the experience to move through my body and because of my intense training this tool of gratitude (which was in my tool belt) was allowed to come out into the world in these forms. Each painting was a meditation on a different aspect of my marriage and my journey…our trips to Machu Picchu, Kyoto, Beijing, Tuscany, Provence, Mykonos, Santorini, Tokyo, Hong Kong, London, Rome, Paris, and on and on….the fact that he had always believed in my as an artist and paid rent on my studio…my tuition at the School of Womanly Arts (5 Masteries, 3 Inner Circles and a Pleasure Intensive) and my ultimate reclamation and initition in to being a woman with a support system beyond what I could ever have dreamed…and lastly and most importantly the child that we had had together. In short, I was able to alchemize the grief into gratitude and celebrate all the good that was present. These paintings morphed there way into a business based on gratitude and out of that I started to give workshops on gratitude. Flash forward four years and I have my 501(c)3 in place and The Gratitude House is a recognized legitimate non profit! Thank you for being my mentor and teacher of this essential move….one that invites grace and keeps us all grounded.

    with love and in gratitude-

    ps- been there with the wrist injury…sending love and light. xx

    • S.G. Tisha April 17, 2014, 1:46 pm

      I’ve reread this SEVERAL times SG Tara!!!
      Beyond Thankful for your share here….I know this type of magical ‘Flash Forward’ is for me too!!!!! Thank YOU 🙂

  • S.G. Tisha April 15, 2014, 10:10 am

    I am so thankful for this Blog Post! I too was on a high after Mastery weekend one. I remember feeling blown away by the possibilities all around me and the speed of my conjuring. I remember accessing a level of Kindness and Caring that was beyond what I have ever been willing to receive…that was my ‘upper limit’! Instead of expanding out to soak in all this goodness, I solidified. I decided I could not handle, nor did I know how, to absorb and digest such intense yumminess. This was NOT my best choice! Just like Mama Gena described so vividly, I became agitated, irritable, sad and even slightly depressed. I’ve spent all of the last two days steering clear of judging myself and trying to figure out how I could go from having it all and knowing it, to the inability to conjure my slightest desire.
    Thank You Mama Gena and your Brilliant Staff! I forgot I can digest, I forgot how! No big deal right?!? Now I know! ~Gratitude!
    I’m thankful I am FAR more capable than I have been pretending, imagining and acting. I acknowledge that I can shift, change and transform anything in a moment, I am grateful it is my choice…a deliberate, conscious choice! I am soooo grateful for Mastery that make the tools so accessible, FUN and Outrageous!!! (Otherwise I’d get board and wouldn’t use them! He he)

    • S.G. Tisha April 15, 2014, 6:34 pm

      Ha ha…I get bored, not board!!! I’m a HOOT:)

  • SG Catherine, Goddess of Sex and Drums April 15, 2014, 9:53 am

    Not to be that guy…
    …but maybe you just sprained your wrist? Maybe it is not an indication that you didn’t acknowledge enough or you did something wrong? Maybe you just need to place your carpets more carefully next time?
    At any rate, I’m grateful that you’re okay.

    • Sister Goddess Bitchy Goddess of the Sea April 15, 2014, 2:56 pm

      Sister Goddess I miss you! I hope mastery is fitting well on you… and that you wear now only your greatness. <3

  • Simin Vaswani April 15, 2014, 9:49 am

    So very sorry for your trip to the ER, I am grateful you are doing well enough to post this. Sending you love for healing your wrist. Always so grateful by how you teach through your experiences in life and offer yourself in service and for you to acknowledge your own upper limit.

    I have been feeling a lot of grief since the Mastery Weekend and I don’t know if this is a upper limit problem or just a detoxification of emotions because something deep just opened up within me and my energy is being cleansed.

    However I am taking as much self care as I can and simply allowing for this energy to move and supporting its movement as much as I can. I have been spring cleaning with the BSGs and my regular partners, bragging on the boards, acknowledging a lot of good in my life, saying my gratitude in my mind and posting it on the boards. I am receiving so much love from the community in their uprides on my post, which is so healing in itself. I am doing dance breaks to unfreeze myself and keep those emotions moving. I am also reading other SGs trinities which is always so uplifting and posting uprides on their posts makes me very happy to support them.

    • Debra aka Nile Flowing River April 15, 2014, 10:53 am

      Darling Sister Goddess Simin
      I want to mention my favorite frame of your birthday party last month was sitting with your divine goddess mother and while she did not speak English very well, she communicated such love and pride and gratitude every time she glanced at you.

  • Caroline April 15, 2014, 9:45 am

    I am grateful for being able to back off of a compulsive relationship because i can now see there are other ways to obtain pleasure that are up to me. I am grateful for the dance breaks and that the party seems to have continued since weekend 1 in fits and starts and that i am bringing my high to others. I am grateful for my wonderful teacher, mama gena, and all the goddesses who have touched my life with a smile or kind word. I am grateful that i can feel again even when it hurts. Thank you.

  • Tahera April 15, 2014, 9:40 am

    I am grateful for my mother for helping me to gain experience in owning my home with her. I appreciate my job for providing me with the income to put together fantasy trips and pay my bills. I am grateful for all the old and new friends that I am in contact with. I am so grateful to have taken mastery in 2013. I am grateful for the feeling of a sense of I can do anything I want that makes me happy.

  • SG Taiza April 15, 2014, 9:40 am

    I think it’s freaking rad how SWA has taught me to love my whole, entire, incredible, sexy self. Even the unconventional parts that I mistook as the bane of my existence. I love how I have no idea where my life is going and I’m 87% totally okay with that. And I am also okay with that 13% fear-holdout. Because it’s all me, baby, & I’m a Goddess!

    • SG Deborah April 16, 2014, 11:29 am

      I applaud you embracing uncertainty, SG Taiza. It’s such an important reminder. Thank you for this beautiful frame!

  • Fiona April 15, 2014, 9:27 am

    Every day I realize how much has changed in my life. I come from a run-down marriage, working a stuffy job and being only the shadow of the mother my children deserve. Now I am vibrant, enjoying an exciting relationship with my boyfriend, holding down a challenging freelance mission and being a fun mum to my own kids, and creating trust with my boyfriend’s children. I’m loving every new dawn of my life.

  • Lysa Price April 15, 2014, 9:26 am

    What a beautiful reminder to use the tools to bring us higher. I brag that I am a Big Sister Goddess and I have been spring cleaning with my Mastery sisters and Creation-Sister Goddesses. I am so grateful for all the connections I have created through the School of Womanly Arts. I desire to continue learning, growing and becoming the goddess I know is inside me.

  • Tamara April 15, 2014, 9:19 am

    An amazing group of people who came together for me… worked hard all day through difficult circumstances and, with joy and laughter, helped me through the transition into a new place with a level of care that just blew me away! I was cared for and celebrated as well as was the transition itself! It was a pleasure! (yes, the move was a pleasure!!) I will have many more celebrations here and they are always on the guest list! They are treasures! Love them!

  • Allyson Schmidt April 15, 2014, 9:19 am

    My favourite frame since mastery started are the beautiful relationships that I am developing with my SG and myself. A lot is going on- a lot of pleasure, a lot of insight and a lot of big growth. It is delicious and very grounding.

    • mama gena April 15, 2014, 3:48 pm

      this is my fave frame, too, SG Allyson. i live for sisterhood.

  • SG Beautiful Lisa Unleashed April 15, 2014, 9:19 am

    I am grateful that I had 5 years with a man I truly adored, talking over breakfast every day, sex in the afternoon, gardening together, renovating, travelling and camping. I am grateful for the financial security he gave to me, and for holding me and telling me how beautiful and wonderful I am, a genius. I am grateful for all of my travel opportunities, visiting almost every country in Europe, central Canada to the west coast, and northeastern USA. I am grateful to have friends to digest those experiences with. I am grateful that my grandfather allowed me to make more than $10,000 in a few months as a young person by approving my business plan idea and using his sawmill to make lumber out of whole logs. I am grateful for the loving-kindness of the First Nations community I worked for, who taught me to open my heart and listen to my spirit. I am grateful to my dad for going with me to the bank to talk about mortgages, and quelling my anxiety about the “officialness” of it. I am grateful to my parents for their gift of $25,000 to purchase a house with. I am grateful to my mother for providing me with employment and income from age 12 – 15. I am grateful to my ex-partner’s children for teaching me love, grace, and patience. I am grateful to his ex-wife for the same.

    • Sister Goddess Bitchy Goddess of the Sea April 15, 2014, 2:55 pm

      And so shall it be or even better darling. I’m grateful for our first words and our first hug. I was truly grateful for feeling understood, comprehended, valued and seen. Thank you for every reply to my trinities, thank you for being part of my journey. Thank you for being so great. Tank you for thriving. Many many his and much love all the way from Colombia.


      • mama gena April 15, 2014, 3:48 pm

        that was a ravishing list of unleashed fave frames, SG lisa!

    • SG Kalyani April 15, 2014, 7:09 pm

      Well Framed, SG Beautiful Lisa Unleashed!
      These are gorgeous frames! I shared in your joy reading them, thank you!

    • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 12:07 pm

      Amazing and inspiring, you’re really thriving, bless!

  • Rose April 15, 2014, 9:14 am

    One of my favorite frames was on a Mastery call last night – I heard another woman describe a pleasurable experience that she desired and my entire body lit up just by hearing her description! I took so much pleasure just from listening to other women talk about the pleasure in their life! I am so grateful for the amazing women in my life – from my Master SGs, to my best friend, to my mother and sister and colleagues. They inspire me and hold space for me and for that I am so deeply grateful!

    • mama gena April 15, 2014, 3:46 pm

      i am thrilled you were on the call, SG Rose!
      and i am absolutely delighted with this outpouring of favorite frames from this post.

    • SG little Joe April 17, 2014, 12:03 pm

      I know the feeling… pleasure can be revitalised, revisited and shared to expand and re-bounce. That’s why bragging is so good.