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Desire: The Get Up Off Your Ass Game

I have been playing creation games with my daughter, Maggie.
She’s in high school and I think it’s time that she understood the power she, and all women, have.
It’s time she apprehends the visceral power of desire.
I want her to learn that she has the power to attract whatever she wants.

But I also want her to know that the act of living into your desire is not just a game of mind control or thought control. It’s a get up off your ass game, as well.

So, we start with simple stuff.

It’s raining. We need a cab. We live on the Upper West side, along with thousands of other late-for-school families who also need a cab.
So, before we even hit the sidewalk, I have her imagining a taxi. We imagine this taxi slides right up to the front of our building, and we jump inside.
We feel this cab.
We put our mojo on it.
And then, we head out in the rain.

I have shown her a few times how it’s done.
Now, it’s up to her.
She has to take her place, amidst the dozen or so other cab hailers and draw one in.
This is the moment of truth.

It’s colder than usual and we are running late.
She is out there, pelted by rain, in fierce competition.
She knows, deep inside, that her mom is more experienced at this, and she wavers, wanting me to take over.
I refuse, wanting her to build her own confidence and have more real-time experiences of creating small miracles, so she has traction for the bigger ones.

She watches other people get what should have been her cab.
The eyes roll, the heart sinks.
“No time for that,” my fierce gaze says.
(This is the moment doubt can derail you. Expect it. Don’t fold.)

Her arm shoots up higher. Intention stronger.
No cab action whatsoever.
“We so got this,” I tell her.
No action.
No traction.
No taxis anywhere.
We are wet. We are cold.
We so have no cab.
I begin to wonder if there is any juju in my mojo, if this is the one morning where there truly just are no taxis to be had. Really.

I especially want this to happen for her so she can start building her own inner confidence.
And I am feeling like my own inner Obi Wan is wavering.
I find myself wondering if we would make it to school on time had we ducked into the subway.
I hate myself instantly for that thought.
(Don’t leave the island of desire, just because there is no evidence of attainment.)

Then, I remember that it is fair to want the impossible.
Just as fair as wanting the possible.
And that fortune favors the bold.
And that especially when I forget, the GPS has a sense of humor.
And I look at wet, determined Maggie and beam love and pride and feel the fun of having the chance to start her off on the highway of desire at her young age.
And that I know she can do this.

Just then, a cab u-turns on West End avenue, dropping off its passenger at the building next door.
I think ‘we got this’ but someone from that building grabs it.
Maggie and I moan out loud at the same time.
“No way??!!! Can you believe it?!”

I think she is going to fold – that she won’t have the reserves to manage the disappointment.
But she is more determined and less prone to doubt that I had imagined she would be.
(The universe is generous. There is no shortage. There is more than enough for all of us.) I have taught her well.

maggie scoreJust then, we see a cab light from a block away.
She stands in the street, arm extended, as that sweet fat yellow taxi baby sails right up to us.
We climb in, high-fiving each other.
Lesson done for the day.
She can carve the taxi conjuring notch in her belt.

And I have opened her to experiencing a part of her innate power that she will never learn during her school day.
Want it. Stand for it. Brave the elements.
May the force of desire be with you….

In the comments below, tell me your best conjures, ever. I want to know what you are really good at attracting, and I also want to know where you are wavering. In this community, we stand for each other’s desires through witnessing, especially through a waver.

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  • Detox Diva Donna January 6, 2015, 8:53 am

    Well Bragged! Keep your eye on your desire and go for the ride!

  • SG Barbara December 24, 2014, 7:38 pm

    I read MG’s post and realized that I am doing it wrong. I set goals. I make a plan. I work hard to stick to my plan. But. . .I do not visualize/conjure myself having succeeded to achieve my goal /what I desire. Indeed the last time I conjured success a long time ago when I went to my first paid joy and decided to act and dress like the person who had been promoted well beyond my current status.
    MG’s blog plus the input of other SGs set me straight — I think, I hope.
    And …. the other improtant contribution (that I cannot locate at this moment) was the SG who revealed that her subconscious recognized that she had ambivalent/mixed feelings about her desires. Maybe it is the lawyer in me that looks at both sides of any issue. Maybe it is the fear taking a stand and not catching the brass ring. But I think that recognizing this trait will encourage me to go for it and not exuivicate/waffle.
    Thanks to all of you have been there for me.

  • Sherrie Huckelberry December 22, 2014, 3:15 am

    I know that when a desire is rightfully ripe that no matter what others think or say … the energy of desire acts like a grounding rod mind becomes single focused. ..every cell in my body relaxes and in the flow..the object of my desire is made tangible. …Thank You M.G. for passing this knowledge on to your daughter. And for the reminder that we owe it to our childeren these gifts of the universal love.

  • Magical December 18, 2014, 10:14 am

    Yeah, feels good to be reminded of my best conjures…. my beloved and the fantastic relationship we have, our house together, the house I live in now, my wheelchair accesible van, the great teachers on my path teaching me a different way of being with men, ooh now i see really how many really big things I have conjured. Now my stumbling block is being fully me, happy, free, joyful, creating, conjuring the most fantastic life. It is a bit of a duh, because I know, i feel I have ALL i need to create this….

  • davida kaner December 18, 2014, 9:26 am

    I brag silently thinking ” What is my desire and where do I want to spend the night? You see, I am known as the ” wandering Jew” as I frequently do not know EXACTLY what I desire until it is ACTUALLY THE ZERO HOUR!!! I accepted the label of PROCRASTINATOR many years ago……….but after Mastery discarded it ! Now I just admit, ” my pussy will decide in perfect and elegant timing!” You see, I had just arrived from Florida and was meeting my pod at the Mandarin Oriental for goddess time and drinks; So I made prior arrangements to go to my friend’s in Staten Island, ( just in case ) but knew in my heart, this truly was NOT my desire. Then I was invited to crash in Brooklyn………..hmmmmmm soooo nice, but still not IT!!! Oh dear Goddess. what is the IT and when would it come to me??? It was NOW going on 10 PM and I was now driving downtown on lower East side……. Had left Florida early that morning with little sleep, rented a car, drove into the city, and arrived at my destination ON TIME!!!! To those of you who know me, this alone is a FEAT!!! Then it happened !!!!! That cheerie melodious voice of a Sister Goddess saying” I am in a hotel on the upper West side; join me!!!” There it was!!!! The “IT”! I knew it in an instant, but looked to another sister goddess for approval. WE BOTH JUST LAUGHED , TURNED THE CAR AROUND AND BACK UPTOWN WE DROVE GIDDY WITH THE ANTICIPATION OF MORE TOGETHERNESS AND POSSIBLY PUPPY PILE!!! So the morale of this story is, even if we do not really know our desire…………….the pussy knows!!!!!! Thank you Mama Gena.

  • Kay December 17, 2014, 8:02 pm

    I have been trying to manifest my twin flame for my entire life. Although I am in my late fifties I believe he is still out there and we will meet but I must admit it gets harder and harder to believe

    • Pemagirl December 18, 2014, 9:08 am

      You are so right – I have given up trying to believe in anything – as a struggling single mom at the age of 55+ I am tired of being alone and living from hand to mouth – I think the mojo leaves you at a certain age and doesn’t come back….

      • Deborah Smith aka SG Divine Love December 18, 2014, 8:11 pm

        You two hang on! I turn 60 this coming Spring. My mate just showed up this fall. He is everything I could ever imagine and even more. And it could not have happened any sooner as he had lived an incredibly hard life until just two and a half years ago when he committed to totally turning his life around. The one thing I did beyond all that everyone else has written of here is that I heeded Shinn’s note re “if your desire continues to elude you look to things left undone. Too many things left undone may be telling your subconscious you do not want to finish things.?” I read this and immediately started reminding my subconscious of all the amazing projects I had already completed in my life. WaLa! My guy appeared within days.

        • Joie December 19, 2014, 3:20 pm

          S.G.’s I’m 56 and well . . . you’ve already read what happened to me. But it could have never happened if I had not first learned to love myself and treat myself as if I were my own lover. I bought myself fresh flowers, expensive lingerie and basically gave myself the full-goddess treatment. Once I had my goddess vibration up and running the love of my life was drawn by his own desires. It works!

  • Josefa December 17, 2014, 3:38 pm

    I can relate to it. Thank you, Mama Gena

  • SG Jophiel December 16, 2014, 10:11 pm

    I feel I am just beginning to hone my true conjuring skills, particularly with my boyfriend. After Miami, I am more fully pleasured, I have taken so much greater responsibility for my pleasure, and there fore I appreciate little things now, because I am not in a state of DEMAND. So, this is where I am at in my conjure journey – feeling that I can make myself happy, remembering to get all of my vitamins, including P, and appreciating sooo much what beautiful things in life that I hae had and already do have. I feel so much more satisfied, just loving and appreciating every little thing.
    Oh, and my bf seems to really be responding more than ever. If we work out it will be great now, and if we don’t, it will be great too! I just know that I will have something wonderful. Especially now that I have somehow released so much blame, and am taking my pleasure every moment I can. xoxo Thank you, Mama….

  • Allison Duhamel December 16, 2014, 4:33 pm

    I am a cashier/food runner /hostess for an extremely busy restaurant. I have a lot of rolls to fill at my job so it can get very tiring rather quickly. There have been days in the passed where I have given up and let the tiredness and the grumpy customers get to me, but surrendering myself and my core beliefs to this nonsense never seems to help me on a deeper level and my tips suffer as well. I noticed that when I walk to work staying in my high vibration and repeating to myself that it’s going to be a great day, and that I desire to receive great tips, I almost always have an awesome day. EVERYTHING AROUND ME SHIFTS, when I DO. Customers are happier, employees are happier, and I’m happier! Even when things start to get crazy and I am met with challenges, I just release what doesn’t serve, choose to disengage from negative energy and keep moving on with grace and flow through out my day. It is extremely rewarding by the end of my shift. I have more energy and the tips to match all the amazing work I have done for the day. : )

    • SG Jophiel December 16, 2014, 10:13 pm

      Amazing! Such great discipline!!

  • Lucy Beiler December 16, 2014, 1:31 pm

    Hello Sister Goddesses!
    I can already feel the tingles of creation as I remember every moment of that day. My daughter and I were in our hotel room in New York and we were to put our name on the blank card that would go in the draw box at the event we were attending that weekend. I sat at that little hotel desk, closed my eyes and envisioned winning. In my mind’s eye I could see myself jumping out of my seat, arms raised, cheering as I stood to say “that’s me”! In my body I felt that electricity of joy and exuberance at winning the prize! It was so real in every cell of my being that I sensed that I had already won! I wrote my name on the card, flipped it over, drew hearts and wrote words of appreciation: thanks so much for picking me! WOW! YES!
    As the event was coming to a close it was draw time and I was already smiling because I felt those same tingly’s of excitement. Two other names were picked, a third was chosen and that person had left so they picked another name, and……they picked me! I could see the back of my card before she even announced my name and I was already jumping our of my seat, arms raised, cheering as I stood to say, “That’s me!” It unfolded just as I had felt and envisioned in the hotel room. Little did I know that they would draw again and again from the three women until I won the Mastery course with Mama Gena for the summer of 2014. I still feel myself on stage, totally in pure joy and pleasure for the fun of creating this moment, this prize! This is my ‘go to’ memory, emotions and all, when I am conjuring my desires. And feeling those feelings ahead of winning sure makes conjuring my desires a blast of fun and excitement everyday of my life.
    WOW! YES!
    Thank you Mama Gena for your inspiration, your passion for living life from a place of pleasure. Merry Christmas to all!!
    Cheers! SG Lovingly Juicy Lucy

  • T. L. Cooper December 16, 2014, 12:45 pm

    I think I most waver when it comes to my book releases. I tell myself I’m just being realistic because I know the statistics. I know the market. I know the reality. Etc. Etc. But in reality I think there’s fear getting in the way of my intentions. Every time I release a book, I start with the what if? What if nobody likes it? What if nobody reviews it? What if nobody buys it? Etc. Etc. Then I start to pull back my publicity game making it a self-fulfilling prophecy. I think I should start countering my self-critic. What if everybody loves it? What if it’s inundated with reviews? What if it’s a best-seller?
    Thank you for this reminder of how our intentions affect our results in life.

  • SG Sensual Shakaya December 16, 2014, 12:33 pm

    LOVE this.
    Maggis is already a mistress of desire!

    I too am goood at the conjure…when I remember that 😉
    It’s really magical and so FUN.

    Grateful for this sweet reminder Xxo
    ps Time to shake my magic-maker

  • SG Creole Princess December 16, 2014, 12:11 pm

    Last summer I desired a wonderful romantic date in November, when I had some trips out of town planned. I desired them with a cute but flaky guy I’d known 24 years ago. They happened even after I didn’t hear from him for three months and had let the expectation go that it would happen with him. He apologized profusely for missing my last summer email until 2 weeks before my trip – my last email had arrived while he’d been on a 5-week vacation and was caught in that maelstrom. Fast forward to November at Grand Central for drinks. He remembered how fun and easy our relationship had been. I told him he was the best kisser I’d ever had. Fast forward to a second romantic date 48 hours later and three wonderful kisses – just like I’d wanted/imagined. He asked me if it was as good as I’d remembered – I said yes, what about you? He said, it’s even better than how I remember it… So stay tuned! And hold tight to your desires SG’s. I claim them for you!

  • Nubian Goddess December 16, 2014, 12:07 pm

    I LOVE THIS!! As the mama of a 12 yo girl, I am beginning to see how important it is to stoke her confidence reserves now. Our nemesis is math. We have struggled with it since second grade. After much wrangling with her elementary school 2 years of private tutoring she is now in middle school in an advanced math class. It’s still a struggle for her, but when she got a 100 on a recent quiz, the joy/amazement/accomplishment on her face was priceless! She now knows that she can do whatever she sets her mind to! It’s such a honor, pleasure and RESPONSIBILITY we have to give this to our girls. Thanks so much for sharing about Maggie.

    • SG Tíiu December 17, 2014, 9:42 am

      Oh yeah, the calling we have to mother our daughters to the greatness they are capable of! Sometimes I am bowled over by her (12yo) determination, creativity and divinity, and just pray I can be the guide to her she needs. All the best to moms!

  • Hedonia December 16, 2014, 12:00 pm

    It was early April (or late March) 2009. I’d had my first Mastery Spring2009 weekend. I came home and the next morning took my father to the hospital. His cancer had returned. One very chilly and horribly rainy night I was heading in to see him. As I turned onto the street the hospital was on, I had this thought, this desire, cruise through my head: I want the parking space right next to the parking space at the bottom of the stairs to the front entrance to the hospital; I want to be under the overhang but not have everyone walking by my car. Yeah, right. In this weather? “Good” parking space or not, I was going to visit a man I loved beyond words… and that mattered a lot to me. I forgot my desire. I got to the parking lot gate, pushed the button for my parking ticket, and lights caught my eye. I looked up. The person in the space I wanted was backing out. Seriously??!! Giddy, laughing like a fool, I parked, got out, and headed into the hospital to visit with a most amazing man. Damn! One weekend and I’m already getting this Goddess thing, which, by the way, is the complete antithesis of my life before Mastery.

    Asking for my desire was not my thing. I had a hard time before Mastery. I didn’t do that exercise when I first read Mama’s first book, School of Womanly Arts. I had a hard time doing my Desires List over the course of Mastery. With Mama Gena’s help, I learned to conjure the parking space of my dreams that night… and the life I am now living, which is the complete antithesis of my life before Mastery. Just ask my mother.

    With much love and appreciation.
    In pleasure.
    Loving you,

  • carolien December 16, 2014, 11:45 am

    My desire: Inspire women for soul sex. I wrote an article about it. But the newspaper isn’t going to place it. Instead of getting insecure, i see it as a sign that says…go and TALK baby!
    Get that yellow cab!

  • Joie December 16, 2014, 11:41 am

    I left a relationship with the love of my life (3 or 4 times). In the interim I traveled extensively and did therapeutic work to eradicate the fear and pain buried deep in my soul. He also was learning life lessons, being honed into something I believed in but saw only fleetingly. In the past year I began to allow myself to dream about what sort of man I wanted in my life. He would see me as and call me his goddess, he would care deeply about my feelings and my happiness would be important to him. He would appreciate all I do for him. With him I would always feel safe and know that we both had each others’ back. We would have long deep, philosophical conversations. Then there were the odd little things of passing the Chart House on the way home at night and saying, “I want to be with a guy that will take me to very nice places like that for cocktails and a view of the city at night twinkling below us.” (He did that our of the blue two weeks ago) I would imagine the dynamic between us, how we laughed together daily, were 100% faithful, how we supported each others’ dreams. Then it happened as if the Universe had carved a man just for me, according to my exact specifications. Six feet tall, body of an Adonis, a beautiful man with a beautiful soul. He waited for me and even though there was one relationship he had which he asked me how I felt about it and I said, “Go ahead, are time together is done.” Still our friendship (platonic then) continued. He knew, he always knew we would be ready some day. That all the obstacles would dissolve. That was something else I asked for, that the man meant for me would know it down to his bones and would pursue me no matter how difficult I made it. Admittedly, I have a thing for freedom and had a lack of trust. Now I have everything in this man I ever asked for and every day I am astounded at how our love evolves and lifts us both. Some days I can hardly believe we are the same two people. I use much of what I’ve learned from Mama Gena’s books and from the Queen’s Code (it’s written in a silly kind of way but the information is priceless-like Mama’s). Thank you Mama for reminding me of my power as a Sister Goddess and imbuing me with the courage to believe I can and should have it all!

    • SG Jophiel December 16, 2014, 10:04 pm

      So Inspiring SG Joie! So magical that your beautiful ever-loving vision attracted its self!
      Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • SG Tahera December 16, 2014, 11:25 am

    I conjure small things like parking spots. I dont even think i realize that I’m conjuring it, it just happens! I waver on the big things like attracting a certain celebrity to take interest in me. I guess that is to be expected since I’m knew at this.

  • Olivia Ellis December 16, 2014, 10:01 am

    I am a nurse, mother of 3 and I also sell (share) the opportunity of a health supplement called Plexus Slim. I have to conjure my inner goddess of pink power! When I remember that everyone wants their body to feel and look great and what if I know I can help them. I picture arteries unclogging, skin clearing, mind defogging! I got this I think, and that makes me special! I will experience skeptics, but my heart is true and I am changing lives one pink drink at a time!

  • Karin December 16, 2014, 9:57 am

    Oh yeah Mama. You so got this. And so do I. 🙂 Thank you for this.

  • Ebony Amazon December 16, 2014, 9:46 am

    I too, like Kimberly, have been stuck at a job and in a mindset that drained the very life out of me! I took a chance; have an interview tomorrow; and regardless of what happens, I will NOT let doubt of fear derail me! I loved this post and will be working on attracting more of what I want and need into my life. Miracles are everywhere, I just never noticed!! 🙂

    • SG Oyin December 16, 2014, 2:43 pm

      YOU’VE GOT THIS SG!!! Be sure to have FUN in your interview! I’m convinced that THAT is how i landed my last job and my current job…which i ADORE!


  • Angel of Belief December 16, 2014, 9:42 am

    It is true and I will not give up. I met my incredibly handsome 20 year younger boyfriend 9 months ago. After one month he got his 4th DWI. After 2 months he went to inpatient treatment. Now he has been sober and very engaged in emotional and spiritual growth for 7 months. I am “too old” for children – so they say. I say it is a world of possibility and that we need to see people, places and things in a brighter light than they appear to our all-too-human eyes. Just ask Victor Frankl. I am humble, but I am seeing the power of relentless positivity and the magic that love can bring to a couple. That kid is on her way to me too …..

    • Shannon Noble December 16, 2014, 9:54 am

      Stand for your baby! After my second child and divorce I always knew I was destined to have a third and spoke my desire aloud often. At 44 I became pregnant naturally without even consciously planning and gave birth at home after a blissfully easy pregnancy and had a perfect third baby goddess. I’m holding your baby desire with you.

      • Angel of Belief December 16, 2014, 10:24 am

        You have no idea how healing it is to hear this. I was a professional for decades and only now have the desire to help someone else (both partner and baby). I feel as though I have to give back. Soul mandate. Everyone talks about how hard it is to get pregnant after 40. I don’t want to prepare myself for “hard and impossible”. It feels like I’m defeated before even starting. I am 49. I do need a miraculous evolution but I kind of feel it coming. You give me hope. You really do!

      • SG C'mere Kitty December 16, 2014, 5:50 pm

        I will stand for my baby! Thank you for sharing your story, I am grateful. I feel and have always felt since I was a child myself that I am destined to have at least one child, to experience pregnancy, and the natural child birth, and to grow up with this child. I will stand for my baby! Thank you.

        • SG Tíiu December 17, 2014, 9:33 am

          So there with you, sister! Can I stand for your baby with you?

    • SG C'mere Kitty December 16, 2014, 5:55 pm

      Angel of Belief, so shall your desire be or even better. Yes to relentless positivity. I will also hold that space for your desire! Thank you for sharing your story. PS, I, too, am dating a significantly younger male.

      • Angel of Belief December 17, 2014, 2:04 pm

        Kitty –
        Thank you for your kind words and support. Here’s to “the long shot”. I desperately want to have a baby and finally have a family and be “located.” I am tired of being the Lone Ranger-ess Career Woman. Younger men, especially those who have a “lot of miles on them” either from this lifetime or other lifetimes, have a lot to offer to older women. I needed to learn how to give. He needed some help. Its perfect. We both want a family. I am trying to learn to balance this with self-care. This is the next chapter. I will hold you and your relationship in my heart. Much love ….

  • Kimberly busby December 16, 2014, 9:39 am

    I am/was sick and tired of bring sick and tired. Putting so much effort into jobs that just kept me alive. Had enough. Quit. Started writing and creating. Going into business for myself. May even move to Montreal. No matter what my time is now. It all begins with self determination.

    • Emily Shaules December 16, 2014, 12:00 pm

      Good for you, Kimberly- go for it!!!

    • Shalin December 16, 2014, 11:27 pm

      Woohoo! That is amazing Kimberly!