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Conducting this orchestra of life

Darling,

I have just gotten the single mother break of the century.

My daughter has a whole weekend sleepover with a camp friend, in the country.  She gets fresh fall air, changing leaves, and giggling all night with friends, and I have time to ride my horse, catch up with friends, and sip a cup of hot tea in an outdoor cafe with one of the last warm rays of summerish sunshine blessing me.

This time is so precious to me I could weep. I get to catch up with myself. Stop conducting so many orchestras at once (school schedule, soccer schedule, therapy schedule, work schedule, writing schedule, friends schedule) and breathe into all that has happened.

I had an amazing summer.  I was away at the beach for the whole summer, and I lived a long-standing dream to own my own horse. Which turned out to be one of the smartest decisions I ever made.

Why?

Well, learning how to ride my 1,500-pound, insecure, emotionally unstable, smart, beautiful, loving, prickly, temperamental horse has instructed me, to my deepest body and soul, in how to even more effectively parent my teenager. And weirdly and wonderfully, the calmer my horse gets, the calmer my teenager gets.

It reminds me, yet again, to never ever doubt the power of a woman’s desire.

What seems like a purely selfish or self-serving desire, actually never fails to elevate everyone and everything in a woman’s life.

I am so grateful for the lessons.

What are you grateful for from this summer?  (Tell me, and let’s celebrate together in the comments below!)

Anyhow, as you might know, we created a special video series this summer, and I wanted to share all of them with you today. I know we all lead busy lives, but I didn’t want you to miss them. I’m really proud of the vulnerable stories and shares our course graduates offered. I appreciated their in-depth advice, and I know whatever you are going through in your life, you will be able to relate.

Are you going through a divorce? Recently had a loved one die? Have you just changed careers, or are otherwise going through a significant and complex change in your life? You’ll want to watch this segment:

Our next segment, which was one of our most popular, was on navigating and loving our bodies as women.  Think you’re fat?  Want smaller thighs, bigger breasts, higher cheekbones?  Waiting to lose 5 pounds to enjoy your life? See the video here or click the image below:

Wish you had a man? Want to change up the one you have? In the middle of a divorce? Want to better train the one you have? This segment is all about men and relationships, and tips and strategies that work:

And last but certainly not least, from this summer’s series is our video segment on sensuality and sensual pleasure. How do we truly enjoy enjoy these bodies, feel confident and sexy, and harness our natural power as women? Do not miss this segment:

I so hope you enjoyed this summer’s series as much as I did.  And thank you again to our graduates who volunteered to share their stories and wisdom with us.  Also, thank you to Monica McCarthy of Show and Tell Stories for her video directing and production genius–we couldn’t have done it without her.

Want to have us make more videos in the coming months? Tell us what you wish we’d make them about.  Share your questions, desires below.  We love your input!

With so much love and pleasure,

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Mama Gena

P.S. If you are interested in learning about our Worldwide Sister Goddess Weekend in Miami next month, click here to get all the information. We will not be offering this trip next year, so join us for our last, and best Miami conference!

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  • Ariel October 7, 2013, 9:31 am

    I’ve been dreaming about starting my own blog about art for a couple of years. Finally I took the plunge in August, and I love it!

    I’ve been a writer all my life, and a professional writer for years. And I just realized that this blog is the first published writing I’ve done……THE WAY I WANTED TO! It’s so satisfying.

    Now my desire is to have art-loving readers flock to my blog, collagevolupte.com. Thanks for asking, Mama G!

  • Meg October 2, 2013, 9:03 am

    Mama Gena, I need some advice. I have had my heart set on one man in particular for over 2 years now. He is in a loving relationship with a woman who just moved in with him. No matter what I do I can’t get him off my mind. I think about him every day. Those closest to him say they haven’t see him this happy in a long time, if ever! If he is that happy, should I just try to make myself move on? How do we take into consideration other people’s desires when trying to fullfill our own at the same time? I’m not sure what to do at this point. Is there ever a time when we should “give up” on our desires?

  • Anne October 1, 2013, 1:20 pm

    Mama Gena, thank you for sharing your summertime experience. Reading about the healing power of your horse with you and your daughter reminds me how horses are used to help troubled teens, addicts, abuse survivors. They are amazing creatures.

    Thank you for giving me an opportunity to remember what I’m grateful for this summer.

    I am so grateful that my family was able to visit and stay with my sister and her kids in Florida where we could bask in the sun poolside, go to the beach, shop, eat ice cream, and take an airboat ride in the Everglades where we saw 5 alligators and other beautiful, untouched flora and fauna. So utterly grateful for my sister and for that time with her. And grateful that we could give our kids the gift of a trip to see their auntie and cousins and the Everglades!

  • ayodele October 1, 2013, 12:59 pm

    Thanks, Regena for sharing you amazing summer and the work you accomplished with the learning from your horse. So inspiring.

    I had a fling of a summer on the road. I traveled to Mexico to a spa, San Fran to the OM conference, Seattle and then onto a cruise with my family to Alaska. Yes, it is the frontier and I did not see Russia but I was looking for it. What was this need to travel and explore. I felt as if I were breaking free of something – so I just went with it. I let this compelling need take me. Did not matter if I could afford these trips, i just went with the desire; could not stop the overwhelming need to GO. what did I learn: I am unbound, I am free, and I love travel. So as I return home to the next phase of my life and all the “oh shit” around money. I am choosing this as a new way to transform my life goddess style. I recall this summer, I am free, I can create, I can let go. Life is fun no matter what. So now, I am still traveling just in the territory of this money breakdown. I feel the summer travel has prepared me to be an explorer and go deep and high in this breakdown and let the healing, creative energy of the goddess flow. Loving and Living Life. ayo

    • mama gena October 1, 2013, 5:40 pm

      necessity.
      she is the mutha…
      of invention!!

  • Ruby Red October 1, 2013, 12:46 pm

    I’m so grateful for spending the entire first summer of my life with the love of my life. We had lots of seaside time, camping time, (mosquitos and all!), shiny-new-biking time, luxurious hotel room time ;), and we moved in together at the end of the summer. Life has never been better!
    Thanks to all the SGs on the boards at sistergoddess.com for helping me keep my desires front and center last year so I could meet my soulmate.

    • mama gena October 1, 2013, 5:39 pm

      rubbing your head, ruby red! so goooood!!!!

  • Marcy October 1, 2013, 11:07 am

    Mama Gena I smiled when I read that you got a horse! Horses have made a huge difference in my life. The freedom they embody and the incredible way they move their bodies is without measure. Please share pics with us!

    I’ve recently been called by horses to create guided meditations with them. It’s been a liberating exploration to move beyond riding to a deeper spiritual quest with my hooved teachers.

    • mama gena October 1, 2013, 5:39 pm

      oooh, i want to hear more about that, marcy!

      • Marcy October 1, 2013, 10:06 pm

        Horses are the mirror to the soul, Mama Gena! They have been in so many arenas..beast of burden, fancy show horses, ego-pleasers, therapeutic mounts..on and on. A couple of years ago I started thinking…Why are they willing to work with people? I mean they are big enough and strong enough to say no way (btw: zebras have never been domesticated).

        As I worked with my horse, Aspen, I changed it up. I spent more time hanging out with her and observing her behavior. I noticed that as soon as I calmed down and had no set agenda for my time with her, she chose to connect with me. Soon I was closing my eyes and asking her questions. From there, I started creating 5 minute horse meditations. In essence, they are a way to free the human mind from its loop (or monkey mind) and feel a moment of horse-ness!

        I’ve posted some on my site: http://bit.ly/1f7EpzD
        I would love to know what you think.

  • BSG Glitzy Cougar Karen October 1, 2013, 11:01 am

    This summer, I got to fulfill a desire I’ve had for over a year. As an actress/singer/writer I’ve had a vision to introduce this work to the world via entertainment, so that women can get a flavor. I’ve even written/produced/performed a solo show about it.

    This time, the vision was different. I wanted to do a cabaret variety show with 6 other goddesses, including my adorable daughter, SG Lauren (yes, that Lauren from the Palace:). I even envisioned the venue in NYC.

    But it was time to get a job, so when I saw a hostess job at the Metropolitan Room in NYC, I took it. A week later, the manager offered me a night at this adorable cabaret club to do a 70 minute show. I immediately knew that this was sent to me because this is the venue I’d envisioned:). So, I contacted the women in my vision – Lauren Abrami, Ricca Bryan, Julie Nelson, Omayra Rolon, Kelly Garone, and Mary McGinn and like adventuresome sister goddesses, they all said, “YES!” I hired a pianist, produced, directed and wrote the story, and at the end of August, we played to a sold out audience!
    Most in the audience were goddesses and their guys, but some were just other women. They loved the show, they loved the juice, and wondered where to get it, and we veered them right toward SWA:)

    So, back by popular demand, we will be doing it again on Thursday, Nov. 21st in NYC. Through song, dance and burlesque, I present “Karen Fitzgerald and The Goddess Revue – The Journey of Turned On Women” at the Metropolitan Room:). Let’s turn the world on!
    http://metropolitanroom.com/show.cfm?id=128047&cart

    • mama gena October 1, 2013, 5:38 pm

      who turns a simple bridge job into a musical career? you do, baby!!

  • Leslie October 1, 2013, 9:50 am

    I have rented a room over a garage all for myself. It’s near my son who lives with his father. It’s walking distance of a quaint New England village by the sea. It’s five minutes from the beach.
    Feeling guilty and giddy at the same time about getting back to myself, for myself. Nviting pleasure in…

    • mama gena October 1, 2013, 10:50 am

      anything by the sea is a necessity, not a luxury……….bring in the pleasure sister. it is the best thing you can do for your son and ex.