So many of us come to the relationship game with a huge checklist, looking for Mr. Perfect. If he’s not rich enough—off with his head! But he can’t fulfill you if he doesn’t know how. He can’t make your dreams come true if he doesn’t know what they are. He can’t knock your socks off in bed unless you show him the way.
Every man is a work in progress, a diamond in the rough or a raw hunk of marble waiting to be chiseled. “Man training” is really the art of teaching a woman to receive from a man—and it is something every woman can learn. It’s a skill set—and the Womanly Arts Mastery Program is the only place on earth to learn it.
I’ve investigated exactly how a woman can pleasurably include a man in her life. What a concept! Over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Out of the survivors, how many are happy? Do you have any girlfriends who are complaining about men? I say—”Quit complainin’ and start trainin’.”
How Are Your Relationships with Men?
How are you doing in your relationships with men? Proud? Happy? Fulfilled? Pleased with your womanly self? If so, GREAT! You are among a satisfied minority.
Most of the women I meet have a complaint list about men that’s longer than their desire list. Some suffer from see-men-ophobia. Scream-menitis. No-menomania. Others have just gone off the deep end and become raging lunatics who blame men for the lack of love, romance, respect, and great sex in their lives. Well, I’ll tell you, just as I tell them, don’t blame your man, ladies. Once again, the responsibility for your pleasure is yours— not theirs.
If you think that a man is going to lead you to your true happiness, you are all drunk—drunk, I tell you. Drunk on the legends of Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Snow White. Waiting for Mr. Right is gonna keep your life and happiness on hold as long as it exists. Get a grip, girls. Those fairy tales you were raised on were Grimm indeed.
For your desires to be met, they must have the power of you behind them. Sure, it’s great if your man is backing your action, but you have to lead the way. You and you alone!
The Secret to Men and a Great Relationship
The secret is that men really want to contribute to our happiness. Go ahead, read that sentence again. You got it right. Men want to join the crusade for an ecstatic you. They simply don’t know how.
Engaging these willing partners simply requires a shift in your approach. Once you start sharing your desires with men, you’ll see that not only are you on your way to creating an unprecedented partnership, but the guy is thrilled to be along for the ride.
Want to know the secret to man training and a great relationship? If you want to be treasured, you have to treasure yourself first and then show someone how to treasure you.
Remember, a man loves to see a woman enjoying herself, and he loves to be able to add to that enjoyment. But a man also knows, on some level, that he can’t possibly handle complete responsibility for a woman’s fulfillment. A shy woman who won’t fess up to her desires will never get a guy, whereas a shy woman who quietly exposes her desires can hook any guy in her path.
Exercise: A Quiz on Owning and Operating Your Men
Determine the level of your training skills and readiness with this survey:
1. How man-friendly is your life?
1. Do you have more than one towel in your bathroom?
2. Is there room in your closet?
3. Do you have two nightstands by your bed?
4. Is your bed a double or bigger?
If you answered No to any of these questions, be willing to make some changes. If you build it, he will come.
2. How do you respond to a man’s resistance? When he doesn’t call you within forty-eight hours after a date, you
1. Write him off and yell, “Next!”
2. Call him and tell him what a great time you had.
3. Happily await his call while you entertain yourself with other men and are genuinely excited when he finally calls.
If you chose A, you are letting the man run the show and not taking responsibility for your good time. If you chose B, there is hope for you. And you get extra credit if you picked C.
3. When a man says No to your request, you
1. Yell at him and get it for yourself.
2. Stop wanting it and forget about it.
3. See how you could have more fun seducing him into your great idea.
If you chose A or B, you are not using a guy for his maximum potential. If you give up that easily, you will never get what you want. Be willing to ask more than once. If you chose C, you are already an advanced man trainer.
4. The best way to make your guy happy is
1. Do whatever he wants.
2. Praise him for all the great things he does for you
3. Enjoy your life and get everything you want.
A may seem like the obvious answer, but actually, men live to serve women. He will lose interest in you if you don’t use him for your pleasure. B is a good start, but you can’t stop there. The most attractive thing a woman can do for a man is to give him a way to serve her. So think of things you want and tell him. If you chose C, you are probably already married or you have many boyfriends, and they are all crazy about you.
This is just a taste of what we cover—or un-cover—in the Womanly Arts Mastery Program. Are you ready to join us?
If you’d like even more, I’ve written an entire book on the subject: Mama Gena’s Owner’s and Operator’s Guide to Men.