I spent a few intense hours last Sunday with my daughter, trying on clothes, making sure she had the perfect thing to wear on her first day of school. The big question, as she tried on each different thing in her closet? “Mom, do I look fat?”
She is not fat.
And this is a girl who actually has a lot of confidence and a lot of style and was raised by a mother who loves her own body, who teaches women how to love their bodies.
I was concerned about this question, wondering how she got to feeling this way, until I was trying on clothes for the launch of Creation Course. I love clothes, and I change outfits a lot when I teach. And as I tried on each outfit, and then showed the outfit to my team for review, the big question I found myself asking was “Does this make me look fat?”
My apple, seems she did not fall far from the tree.
And I thought back to the video series we just completed, and all the Q’s I have received that I answered on Facebook. And I notice we are all apples falling from the great tree called DOUBT—doubt about our bodies, our beauty, our weight. It is epidemic amongst women to question our bodies, rather than enjoy or celebrate them.
How can I love my body, even though I’m 20 pounds overweight?
Am I too old and fat to find love?
Do men prefer women who are thin?
Do I have to lose 30 pounds before I can start dating?
Many of you also asked me who I know and trust in this area. Could I recommend someone for you?
Well, you asked and I’ve delivered. I am so proud to introduce you today to Sarah Jenks, the founder of Live More Weigh Less. She has just unveiled a free video training series and if you’re anything like me, you’re going to love it.
This week, I’ve invited her to guest blog for us because, in a sea of weight loss articles, shiny magazines and empty promises, she is a needed breath of fresh air.
She truly stands out to me as someone who has real, sane solutions for loving your body and creating your ideal weight naturally.
Sarah Jenks, of Live More Weigh Less
It feels so good to be here, to be in my tribe. Let me start out by telling you a bit about my story…
I’ve spent my whole life wondering, up until recently, why is it that I want to lose weight so badly, and I know that eating vegetables and not eating ice cream is key, but I still can’t stay away from the frickin’ candy bowl at work?
This question has haunted me for most of my life. I’ve watched friends, celebrities, and perfect strangers breeze through a 4-week stint of the South Beach Diet, or give up sugar without breaking a sweat and emerge 15 pounds lighter. But no matter how psyched I got to start a diet, or how much I desired to fit into my old jeans, I could barely make it through three days without polishing off an entire pint of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.
I believed there was something wrong and different about me, like God had forgotten to give me willpower when I was created. This pissed me off and made me feel really defeated. How could I, of all people, be the world’s worst dieter?
It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom, inhaling an entire bag of Dove Chocolate Promises while hiding in the supply closet of my ad agency on the third day of my seven-day juice cleanse, that I finally realized that if this diet thing was gonna work, it would’ve worked by now.
Without all my energy and attention being taken up by mastering the latest diet, I looked around and realized, my life totally sucks! I had no concrete plans for the future, no hobbies, no fun dates coming up, no trips planned, no dreams to fulfill. Could I be any more boring?
You see, I was waiting for my life to begin when I was thin. I was convinced that if I could just lose twenty pounds I would have the courage to start my own business, my relationship would finally feel passionate again, and I would stop hating myself for being so weak and ugly.
In the meantime, food was my only source of excitement, fun, connection, and relaxation. No wonder I could never stick to a diet; sugar was my lifeline.
These are the three key steps I took to get out of body hell, and now teach thousands of women worldwide to help them create the life and body they are meant to have.