November 18, 2014

Miami magic.


Do you know that feeling when every drop of you is spent, washed, wiped and savored — like the last bit of gravy soaked into a crust of the bread at the end of the most extraordinary meal — ever? My team and I are awash in all the brilliance, beauty, sisterhood, magic, depth, breadth, […]

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November 11, 2014

Desire is a verb – go on and wallow, darling.


There’s one thing I teach women from all over the planet that is probably the biggest game changer of all: TRUST. YOUR. DESIRES. Let me say that one again. t r u s t   .   y o u r   .   d e s i r e s   . That impulse, that vision, […]

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November 4, 2014

7 Tips to Turn On your Work Life


Darling, “How am I supposed to feel turned on and in love with my life, when I spend so much time at a job I hate?” I received this question from a reader recently, and wanted to address it today because I know this sister is not alone in her frustration. Who amongst us hasn’t […]

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October 28, 2014

The world was created for this.


You know that feeling. You can feel it right now if you choose. It is a sensation that feels very good inside, like you are sunshine; you are the ripple of wind across the water. It feels sacred. It feels sensual. It feels pleasurable. It feels like the best possible truth. It feels like rapture. […]

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October 21, 2014

It’s worth the risk to FEEL.

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Hi. How ya feeling? How many times a day do we get asked that question? And how many times a day do we actually sink into the question, sense, discern and become conscious of the actual way we feel – and then, risk the truth of transparency in our answer? I get to feeling kind […]

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I waited five decades for this.

What an extraordinary week! We had Ayodele Moore officiate our sacred office blessing, at the new uptown Palace in Harlem, yesterday, followed by an extraordinary Womanly Arts Unplugged Q and A Call with nearly 1,000 women registered! And today, I stand, closet spilling everywhere, trying to decide what this courtesan will wear to the opening session of The Creation Course on Friday night. My secret delight is knowing there are women all over the country, all over the world, heading to NYC this weekend, with a similarly delicious dilemma.

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I’m BACK and I’m on fire!

Darlings!! Hi! Hello!

Ohmigoddess, I am so happy to be back here! I’ve missed you so much over the past eight weeks! Wow. My summer has been incredible. I have been riding, writing, swimming, and cooking (yes, you heard me, cooking!) dinners with friends.


Meanwhile, I have been following along, the biggest fan ever, with The Womanly Arts Unplugged series on the blog — I’ve read every drop of the posts and each of your beautiful comments. I’m so grateful to Holly, Maurya, Simin, Laurie, Mercedes, Jocelyn, Jane, and Satya for taking such good care of you while I was away, and for provoking such incredible conversations. Aren’t they wonderful?

Let me tell you, darlings, Yo Mama is back, and Yo Mama’s on fire.

I missed you terribly and all I want to do is connect with you, touch you, feel you, and hear what’s up with you. So I have an idea to keep the momentum going, and reconnect with you, LIVE. But first, a brag or two to catch you up! (In a hurry? Get all the info here.)

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Inviting Abundance

Welcome to the final installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Satya, a Mastery Grad from New York City, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Inviting Abundance!

Satya, Age 31 – Fashion Entrepreneur & Creative Director

satyaThis has single handedly been the hardest thing for me to grasp and practice. For a long time, I actually thought I was practicing it. I was raised in a progressive spiritual thinking family, and my Dad taught us to visualize as kids. My understanding was to get what you desired, you just need to see it, smell it exactly as you want it…then it will show up as planned.

The limitation with this approach to Abundance insinuates that I have 100% control and I can get anything I want, as long as I know exactly what it is and go after it. I had many successes thanks to this strategy.

At Mama Gena’s, when a woman states a desire, the response is, “And so it shall be, or something even better.”

As I see it, The Art of Inviting Abundance lies in the “or something even better”. For me, the “even better” has been about letting go, listening and receiving. This goes for every area of my life, not just money.

I’ve learned that The Art of Inviting Abundance is actually about allowing the divine to take the lead. Practicing this Art allows me to experience all that comes to me with love, gratitude, and of course (in my case) a PARTY HAT.

I came to the School of Womanly Arts feeling just fine (thank you very much), but deep down knowing there could be so much MORE. I actually didn’t sign up because I felt I needed to change my life. I came in skeptical, ready to network, and learn a few tricks. I thought I would meet some great gals who’d love what I do (hats & hosiery).

Feathers boas? No thank you. That’s for that girl over there… Anger, resentment? me? No. Thank you. Desires? Yes but I’m really focused on being grateful for what I have, so thank you but I’m okay and perfectly happy where I am. And Men? Well I already have a great guy, and I adore men, thanks!

The things that have shifted since I began the program have rocked me to my core. Little did I know my studies at SWA would shake up my foundation so profoundly, and bring me things that I didn’t even know I desired.

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Owning and Operating Men

Welcome to the seventh installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Jane, a Mastery and Creation Grad from Connecticut, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Owning and Operating Men!

Jane, Age 78 – Soon-to-be-Author, Retired Family Counselor

jane_wykerWhen I first heard of this Art, I remember thinking, “That sounds a bit manipulative…” — but I learned that couldn’t be farther from the truth! This Art is actually a profound practice in intimacy and connection, stemming from a deep love and respect for men. Mama Gena teaches us how to live into our highest expression, inviting the men in our lives to be their best.

I think of The Art of Owning and Operating Men more like, “The Art of Relating to Men,” or “The Art of Loving and Receiving from Men,” or “The Art of Staying in My Pleasure, Receiving My Desires, and Taking Him Higher”!

You can’t separate your relationships with men from your own personal practice of pleasure. In fact, the crux of the practice is becoming aware of what’s in your pleasure, keeping yourself juicy and happy, and then bringing that to your partner and everyone in your life. The first step in this Art is taking exquisite care of your beauty, sensuality, pleasure and creativity.

That is the way to lead your man and your relationship. In modeling that, you gradually teach him to look for his own pleasure and share that with you. It becomes an upward spiral of joy, connection, and intimacy.

Nearly 7 years ago, when I began my studies at the school, I had one question I wanted answered: “Should I stay in this marriage?”

At the time, my marriage was not working and we were very stuck. Recently retired from a successful business career, my husband, Bob, had little sense of who he was, feeling lost and less. We were not having fun, I was unsatisfied with my sex life, and I was beginning to doubt whether that would ever change.

Through my practice in The Art of Owning and Operating Men, and my coursework at the school, I can now say that at age 78, I’ve never felt more happy, beautiful, sexy and sensual, or deeply connected to my husband than I do right now. Yes, 78! At a time of life when most women of my generation have retired their sensuality, I am proof that there is so much more that’s possible.

Bob and I have been married 28 years, and it’s better than ever. I’m so honored to share some of the most powerful lessons we’ve learned along the way with you today.

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Partying with Your Inner Bitch

Welcome to the sixth installment of our 8-week summer series, The Womanly Arts Unplugged, in honor of our upcoming course, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp! This week, Jocelyn, a Mastery Grad from New York City, joins us to teach about the Womanly Art of Partying with your Inner Bitch!

Jocelyn, Age 35 – Comedian & Director of Corporate Events

jocelyn_photo_-_editedTo me, The Art of Partying with Your Inner Bitch is the practice of nurturing your inner authority. Your Inner Bitch is the strong person in you that knows what’s best for you and wants you to stand for what will make you happy, and bring out your highest possible self.

We have so many external authorities that tell us who we should be and what we should do. Partying With Your Inner Bitch means you are in touch with your inner boss, who trumps all the “shoulds” imposed upon you. She is one smart cookie, and she deserves to be listened to. She is your higher power, your self-respect, your truth.

Before I go any further, let’s talk about the word “Bitch,” because it can be misleading, to say the least. It’s an insult, the one thing women are taught to avoid being called. However, the Art of Partying with your Inner Bitch gives this taboo word a whole new meaning — a word that can also be read as “Babe in Total Control of Herself.”

Your Inner Bitch is not rude, or cruel at all. She is the antithesis of being a self-sacrificing doormat. Practicing this Art is about feeling in control of your experience, rooted in self-respect; knowing what you want and being unwilling to compromise your standards. In fact, when you truly party with your Inner Bitch, you and everyone around you benefits.

When I came to the School of Womanly Arts in 2008, my Inner Bitch and I were not friends. I was a busy, stressed out lawyer — I was not having a lot of fun, and I was certainly not making room in my life to just let loose and rage. When I found Mama Gena, I devoured her book, went for an orientation session and signed up for her class on the spot. It was such a wakeup call, learning that a woman can own all of herself, and that pleasure can be her modus operandi.

Out of all of the tools and the arts, Partying with Your Inner Bitch is definitely one of my favorites — I can’t wait until we cover it in Boot Camp this Fall. It gives me such freedom and power, and I think the world would be a more peaceful and fun place if everyone mastered this Art!

What happens when a woman is not Partying with her Inner Bitch?

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