Get free tips on life, love and sisterhood

Get free tips on life, love
and sisterhood

Join the Movement

How to ensure your mediocrity


There are days, there are times, there are actions that we inhabit that ensure our mediocrity.
You know this feeling. You drag yourself from bed, follow the deep grooves of the tracks you laid the day before, and the day before and the day before. Perhaps “rut” is a better word. You show up at your job, sit in your cube, and perform in the minimum daily way you are required to get the paycheck. Dinners are thawed, the remote control and the couch insulate you from change. Predictable days turn into predictable years, and thus another mediocre life has been spent.

There are ingredients that destroy a woman’s body and soul.
Mediocrity is one of them.
You can feel your life force draining from you when you make that choice.

So let me provoke you with this question: What part of you is eternal?
How do you create a playground, a foundation, a structure for that incandescent, eternal part of you to emerge and take her place in the galaxy?
We have just started to answer that question in Mastery, with the introduction of The Courtesan’s Journey curriculum. The Courtesan’s Journey is the feminine version of The Hero’s Journey—a map, a frame, a formula that a woman can follow when she wants to learn how to unleash her destiny and live her divinity as a way of life.
This journey is not for every woman.
It is only for a woman who wants to know and live her divinity.
It is only for a woman who wants to leave her mark upon the world.
It is only for a woman with a low tolerance for mediocrity and a huge appetite for adventure.

Every Courtesan knew and lived this design.
Coco Chanel was born in 1883, but her sense of fashion, sense of style, and vision for women lives on more powerfully today than when she was alive. A strand of pearls conjures her impact. Now that is a Courtesan’s Journey.
Sarah Bernhardt was raised in a convent, thrown out of three theatre troupes, slept in a coffin, yet lives on as the most iconic actress of all time. Unpredictable. Unstoppable. A force of nature in the body of a woman.
Perhaps you do not think you know of Marie Duplessis. But anyone who has thrilled to the “Violetta Aria” from Verdi’s La Traviata should know that the opera was inspired by her life. She was spotted begging for a cone filled with pommes frites on the Pont-Neuf, dressed in rags, and a short time later, she rose from poverty and obscurity to become “the divine Marie,” well dressed, wealthy and titled before her death at the age of 23.

Every woman has the potential for a piece of her internal fire to remain alive, long after her lifetime. As long as she springs it loose, cultivates it, and follows it like her guru, her roadmap, her pathway, with every breath.
In Mastery, we meet the Courtesan’s Journey.
In the Creation Course, we live it, every day.
And that is why we are going to Paris. To soak inside the beauty that gave rise to the women who allowed the eternal part of themselves to take hold and lead them to their dreams, as a way of fueling our own.

Come with us, right now.
In what way is your Inner Courtesan inspiring you, today?
Where in your life do you want to be living and breathing your eternity?
What piece of mediocrity are you going to cast aside today, and replace with divinity? Please post below so I can celebrate you.
And if you’d like to inspire another woman to live her everlasting fire, please share this post.

Your numinosity wants to take you by the hand and lead you to your destiny.
Will you say yes? Or no?

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. If you want to be the first to know details about Creation Course 2013-14 when registration opens, get on our “Desire List” here.

P.P.S. I’m officially on Pinterest! And I want to coax your Inner Courtesan to come out and play… Check out our first pinboard, inspired by our upcoming trip to Paris:


Want more of Mama in your inbox?
Subscribe to our newsletter to get free updates.
58 Comments / Leave a Comment

Comments on this entry are closed.

  • mcm 財布 店舗 August 6, 2013, 5:50 am


  • mcm ブラックシルバー August 6, 2013, 5:50 am


  • mcm visetos August 6, 2013, 5:48 am


  • mcm japan August 6, 2013, 5:48 am


  • 財布 mcm August 6, 2013, 5:47 am


  • mcm バッグ August 6, 2013, 5:36 am


  • mcm phenomenon August 6, 2013, 5:34 am


  • mcm リュック August 6, 2013, 5:33 am


  • mcm 財布 August 6, 2013, 5:32 am


  • mcm バッグ August 6, 2013, 5:30 am


  • mcm 日本 August 6, 2013, 5:27 am


  • mcm バック August 6, 2013, 5:20 am


  • mcm さいふ August 6, 2013, 5:18 am


  • mcm ハンドバッグ August 6, 2013, 5:16 am


  • mcm キーケース August 6, 2013, 5:10 am


  • mcm リュック 価格 August 6, 2013, 5:09 am


  • mcm クラッチ August 6, 2013, 5:09 am


  • mcm 新作 リュック August 6, 2013, 5:08 am


  • mcm バッグ August 6, 2013, 5:06 am


  • phenomenon mcm August 6, 2013, 5:05 am


  • mcm リュック 通販 August 6, 2013, 5:04 am


  • mcm 財布 August 6, 2013, 5:03 am


  • mcm リュック 日本 August 6, 2013, 5:02 am


  • mcm 日本 August 6, 2013, 5:00 am


  • mcm japan August 6, 2013, 4:58 am


  • リュック mcm August 6, 2013, 4:57 am


  • Val May 9, 2013, 7:03 am

    Wow, in the first paragraph I feel you have described exactly the way I have felt lately. Thankyou for a very inspiring post.

  • SG Marie the Dawn is Breaking May 5, 2013, 12:06 pm

    Aw yes! Mediocre is where I’ve been for quite a while. I think it was “safe,” but from what?? For some reason, I have been very sick (and I’m sure there’s a reason). I think maybe it was to appreciate my good health and what an awesome gift it is. I can walk, I can dance, I can do so many things that I wasn’t doing only because my mind was stuck in mediocre blah-dom! Today I’m going to paint. I have let my blah-dom keep me away from something that gives me so much joy and expression.

    Today I will paint!! Thank you, Mama Gena!! In goddess love…..

  • Miriam May 5, 2013, 9:42 am

    This came at a good time, after I swamped a lot and also miss my lover (who I left because of uncertainty) a lot. So I’m feeling lonely and sleeping long hours yet LONGING to regain my Mastery glow. I know I can and this question here brings me to question – what CAN I do to bring me out of mediocrity?
    1) follow through on a 12 hour lemon water cleanse I intuit that my body needs
    2) dance dance dance breaks to Edith Piaf – but publicly. Go on long walks and break them up with Edith Piaf.
    3) watch one film today to bring me back to Happy
    4) Do Barbara Stanny exercises
    5) Stop reading Seductress as it’s bringing me down
    6) Email two people I am scared to email, because it’s a business venture and I’ve never been a business person

    Thanks for letting me reflect on this. I trust that this pain/loneliness I feel will ebb away and sunshine will be in my heart before I know it.

    Can’t wait for Mastery weekend #3 but entretemps, bon voyage!!!

  • Lucinda April 26, 2013, 8:49 am

    Thank you Mama Gena and All Sistergodesses !! I am in rupture out of my mediocre life and able to swamp accordingly thanks to last week end in Mastery. What a relief; what a community. I quietly participate but my life is rapidly expanding. I am filled with such gratitude; I look forward to bursting. Merci !!!

  • Gianna Miceli April 24, 2013, 3:09 pm

    When I look at who I was the day I joined Mastery, I see mediocrity. Pathetic!! I so love myself to death six years later, as do others :), and can’t believe what I have created. Anyone considering Mastery, not only will you find your desires but have them “flamed” like you can’t even believe. Long live the Courtesans!

  • Adrienne April 23, 2013, 4:34 pm

    Thank you, Mama Gena, for making our spiritual journey so fun and juicy! “If I can’t dance, I don’t want your Revolution!” Emma Goldman

    So…WHEN are we going to Paris?

  • SG Jennifer April 23, 2013, 4:03 pm

    Ahhhh Mama,

    I am so jealous that I am not going to Paris with all the gorgeous goddesses…hex, hex.

    Today…I found and bought a beautiful red bra and matching panties (La Perla) from TJ Maxx in just my size. Score!! Now that’s not mediocre:) So sexy and I decided to enjoy my sexy more…

    PS. Enjoy the lingerie shopping in Paris!!! I read somewhere that Parisian women only wear bras and panties that match and that they spend all their money on lingerie. Sounds like the goddesses are heading to the right place.

    Princess Jennifer

  • Jennifer April 23, 2013, 3:14 pm

    Rejecting the mediocre! Wearing my sexy nightie in the middle of the day, listening to La Traviata on Rhapsody and channeling my cat’s love of pleasure, no matter the cost.

  • Deborah Smith April 23, 2013, 3:08 pm

    Umm. Loved this post, esp. as it comes right on top of my incredible free coaching session with SG Mel. She is AWESOME!!! I so love these Mastery Women.
    My IC has led me here and everything just keeps getting better and better! Today she is inspiring me to just be. It is now noon and I am back in my cashmere robe with glittered breasts and pussy and just relishing the divine act of creating my divinity’s “Break Out.”
    So right now the mediocrity of the mundane is what I have cast aside to be replaced by the divinity of being: right here, right now.
    Where in my life do I want to be living and breathing into my eternity? I am SO GREEDY! I want to live and breath into my eternity in every single aspect of my life.
    Thank you for the blog.
    Thank you for the questions.
    Thank you for the SWA.
    PS: Would you please be so kind as to tell Bubbe an SG that knows Florida way better than I says that last November’s cool weather was an anomaly. So I stand corrected and love the gentle message from GPS about making broad assumptions based on tiny facts!Yahoo!!! I am so looking forward to a warmer Miami this November.

  • Kristy April 23, 2013, 1:15 pm

    I SO needed these questions today! My Inner Courtesan moves with the pulsing clarity that HER path, her way through and with the world, is her own, not anyone else’s. She knows in her hips and in her heart that she entitles herself; she knows her very existence depends on self-validation.
    Today in my life I want to breathe more of my delicious eternity into my relationship, and cast off the mediocrity of “playing it safe” sexually, of “playing it small” because someone long ago was threatened or fearful or rejecting of my budding beauty.
    I don’t know what this will look like, but I know I will start with what feels good…
    So much gratitude to all the Sisters who keep drawing me closer, pulling me deeper into my own, eternal Beauty.

  • Elizabeth April 23, 2013, 1:08 pm

    I am in a rut! Thank you, Mama Gena, for helping me to see it. With that, I am picking myself up and heading out to capture the sunshine and the tulips with my camera, because celebrating beauty is part of my divinity, and there is so much beauty to be found in the world. Thank you, thank you.

  • Erika P. April 23, 2013, 11:24 am

    Thank you for this frame, Mama:

    Where in your life do you want to be living and breathing your eternity?
    What piece of mediocrity are you going to cast aside today, and replace with divinity?

    I don’t have an answer to that question yet but your post has prompted me to think about it! In fact, I’m not even worried about coming up with an answer, I’m committed to the pleasure research needed to live that answer!

  • Michaela April 23, 2013, 11:13 am

    I know I’ve been brought here to help others (as well as ME!) feel FREE! My long worn channel has been health, which I want to deepen it to educate & expand pols minds around how poss it is to “look better, feel younger, live longer”. Another reason I want to do this is b/c there’s a big payoff if I get through my self limiting beliefs & fears & I WANT TO FEEL FREE!! So by helping others free up their bodies & their lives, I get to step into being unbound & fearless as a result of getting them there. This shit has felt scary, but I’m not giving up. I was destined for greatness & I want to spread my wings fully & not have anything hold me back.

    SO(!!!!!) grateful for you Mama, Mastery, all the tools, & this amazing community. From the bottom of my heart. Life changed love. xoxox

  • Cornelia April 23, 2013, 10:11 am

    per usual you speak to my eternal self!!!!

    Yes, lately I’ve been sinking into mediocrity… or has it been resting. not entirely sure which… Either way, since your last fantastic post of your pilgrimage adventure, I’ve been thinking of you often.

    1. hiking in a crazy lightening storm is up there as one of the scariest things I can imagine!
    2. adventure is good
    3. time for change

    Interestingly, perfectly, since your last post and my latest discoveries, I’ve
    1. decided to move to Montana (aka. MONTANA???!!!) next. I mean me and cowboys??? ..okay, could be just the thing…
    2. started to write more, cuz it makes me feel good
    3. started a crazy work-out routine, cuz it makes me feel good.. and look good!
    4. been invited to spend some time in a wonderful vineyard in France, where I’ve wanted to go since childhood, FANTASTIC adventure… and I can bring my little dog too. Okay, dog not that little

    So, thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! for being your regular and TOTALLY INSPIRATIONAL SELF!!!!

    Have the most wonderful time in Paris!!!

    xoxox, Cornelia

  • Andie April 23, 2013, 10:10 am

    Just FYI, Mama. Coco Chanel was also a Nazi sympathizer who was reportedly “delighted” when the Jewish family that controlled her signature fragrance was rounded up by the Germans. So, she wasn’t really that awesome. I personally look up to Josephine Baker who, during the same period, was performing for Resistance fighters in North Africa despite her ongoing recovery from a life-threatening illness.

    • Mama Gena April 23, 2013, 10:57 am

      thank you for shedding light, sister goddess andie. josephine baker is one of my favorites, as well.

      • Andie April 23, 2013, 4:26 pm

        I actually learned these tidbits from a blog I love: the gloss. They do a series called “Shelved Dolls,” talking about historical female figures, lots of them courtesans! (But some of them serial killers and/or Nazis).

        • Martha May 1, 2013, 3:53 pm

          Thanks for this. My mother-in-law survived the concentration camps, and my father-in-law made it through the war by driving trucks for the Russian Army. Meanwhile: Yay Josephine Baker! (And the grand Marlene Dietrich, too.)

    • Sloopyonnaharlee April 23, 2013, 12:22 pm

      merci for pointing out that fact, Andie…….and La Baker went on to receive the Legion D’ Honneur for her resistance work.

      • Deborah Smith April 23, 2013, 2:55 pm

        Oh, and you must look to Loie Fuller!

  • Marie-Pierre April 23, 2013, 9:01 am

    Est-ce que l’événement à Paris à toujours lieu? I’ve applied for more info and no news so far … la Parisienne épicurienne que je suis est très curieuse à ce sujet ! 🙂 bise à toute l’équipe !

  • Crina April 23, 2013, 8:48 am

    I love not being afraid to be a woman. Not being afraid to be me. Celebrating both!

    • Monifa April 23, 2013, 11:22 am


  • Felice April 23, 2013, 8:33 am

    The courtesan journey is deep and free! Two months into Mastery, I am feeling it, living it, and LOVING my vision quest. I have been waiting for this type of liberation, the women’s model, the pussy’s journey of creation, intuition and love! Off with the “shoulds,” goodbye to letting the fear control my path. I feel so so so alive and light, grounded and fertile. Thank you Mama Gena and thank you to all the amazing Mastery women who inspire me every day! Love Felice

    • Mama Gena April 23, 2013, 10:51 am

      so wonderful to have you in mastery, felice!

  • RitaJC April 23, 2013, 7:49 am

    Great post, Mama Gena!

    As to me, I have scratched together all my savings and enrolled in the Avakening Your Unique Self course with Mark Gafni starting tomorrow: and started to paint about a year ago being in my fifties. Right now, 4 of my paintings/studies are exhibited in a collective show in my home town.

    • Monifa April 23, 2013, 11:21 am

      Wow very cool!

  • tara April 23, 2013, 7:41 am

    This past December I had a fire in my loft. My bedroom was destroyed by the fire, smoke and water. What is a courtesan to do? Rise from the ashes like a Phoenix. I brag that I have recreated my sanctuary as exactly that. One thing that I did was to follow a hunch when I saw the wood floor exposed when the wall to wall wool sisel had been carted away. I decided to have the floors painted lapis blue and I scattered tiny silver stars into the wet paint. (The painters were thrilled to be part of this project seeing how much delight they were a part of. It was such an example of men delighting in a woman’s delight!) I now have a celestial “chambre” where I am reminded of my connection to the heavens above and within each night before I go to bed and each morning when I wake up.
    On the Paris front, I am thrilled for you and all of the Creation Course. I am a “product” of the City of love and light. Truly. My parents were vacationing there in October of 1965 and nine months later I was born! Since my mom told me of this I have felt a special connection to this great city. I can’t wait to hear about all of your adventures. Amusez-vous bien et profitez, profitez, PROFITEZ!!! I am certain you will.

    much love and in gratitude-

    • S.G. 'little jo' April 23, 2013, 8:33 am

      bien dit! Je suis certaine qu’elles profiteront de la Ville-Lumiere comme il se doit…

    • Mama Gena April 23, 2013, 10:50 am

      well bragged, tara. you are truly a genius courtesan!

  • Mary April 23, 2013, 6:51 am

    Hi Mama Gena

    Wow, you’re so inspiring! After years of therapy, recovering from a very dysfunctional childhood I now feel ready to leave it all behind me. I now feel worthy of living my truth and feel more confident in my perfect imperfection with each day that passes. I no longer feel what I lived is weighing me down. It was just my life for a while. Now, I plan on living unencumbered and feel confident that I won’t do what was done unto me if I go on to have children myself! Thanks for letting your light shine in the world and encouraging others to do likewise. There is no other point to living.

    • Mama Gena April 23, 2013, 10:48 am

      thank you for shining YOUR light, sister goddess mary, the world requires it