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Pop Quiz: Are You Fun?

Darlings,

I don’t know about your hurricane, but I got seriously Irene’d on Friday .
I was happily holed up on Fire Island, working on my book, hanging on the beach, sharing a house with friends, when I got evacuated.
My summer idyll was drawn quickly to a close, and I had to head back to the big bad city, facing a few days of concrete confinement.

Fortunately, I was preparing for this week’s phone call, and had opened the chapter in Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts called, “Having Fun, No Matter What.” (Love that book!)
And I knew I better turn the storm into my personal chance to party.
So I headed to Whole Foods, loaded up the larder, and invited my upstairs neighbors for dinner.
Which started a few days of renting movies, sharing dinners, and going on daily bike rides, in the rain, to the Statue of Liberty.

Which was fun, but yesterday, I found myself a little cranky, landlocked, and longing for adventure.
So I dipped into my School of Womanly Arts tool box, and spring cleaned, bragged, and did gratitudes and desires.
And decided to say yes to any offer that I received that day.
And the offer I got was a wild one.

A new friend of mine invited me to join him at the Russian baths.
And I said yes.
So I grabbed my bikini, jumped into a cab, and headed to the baths.
And proceeded to put myself utterly in his hands as we sat in heat, so scorching, I felt my skin would roll off.
And jumped into cold plunges that made my bones freeze in seconds.  And back to the heat again.
I felt lightheaded.
But no one was fainting.
The piece de resistance was when he and a friend of his (read: total stranger to me) offered to give me a full body scrub.
And sisters, you have not lived until you have been body scrubbed by two adorable men in nearly unbearable heat, and had them throw buckets of ice water over all your bits and pieces.
I felt so exhilarated, so alive, and so squeaky, squeaky clean.

The Womanly Art of Having Fun No Matter What is one of the most essential arts.
When you have this one down pat, you can guarantee your joy no matter what storm blows into your neighborhood. Let me ask you something: How much fun are you having, on a daily basis? Take this little quiz to find out (and post your answers in the comments below)…

Pop Quiz: Are You Fun?

1. When faced with news about the hurricane, you…

A)   Bought a 6-pack and picked up your remote control
B)   Obsessively watched CNN
C)   Threw a party for yourself
D)   Threw a party for others

2. When your date doesn’t show up on time, or blows you off, you…
A)    Lunge at his nuts or attack him verbally
B)    Call your girlfriends and complain about him and all the times this has happened to you in your life
C)    Start flirting with the guy next to you at the bar
D)    Take yourself out on an exquisite date, even more glamorous and fabulous than the one you were supposed to have with him

3. When waking up in the morning…

A)    You drag your ass out of bed, throw something on, and head for the subway with sweaters on your teeth
B)    You rue the day you were born, the expensive education you are still paying for, and the tedious job you are suiting up for
C)    Your alarm wakes you up with Beyonce’s “Love on Top,” you run through a naked Sun Salutation, shower with Jo Malone bodywash, and ride your bike to work in your miniskirt
D)    You roll over, grab your lover, take your pleasure, and head for work, soaked in ecstasy

4. You’re running a little chubby these days. Too much Fatty Cue and ice cream? Whatever.

A)    You hate your reflection and slip into your old, comfy, elastic waistband fat suit, for the third day in a row
B)    You head straight for the kitchen and open a bad of chips and French onion dip (who still eats that stuff, anyway?), followed by a freight load of Chips Ahoy. And then head for McDonald’s after that tidy snack
C)    You decide that no matter how chubsy-wubsy you are, you are the hottest thing that ever lived and you sprinkle stardust and fun everywhere you go
D)    You dress exquisitely, blow kisses to your hips, your belly, and your ass in the mirror, do a dance break, and flirt with every woman, man, and child you encounter during the day

5. You hate your boring, meaningless job…

A)    You punch the clock, and then proceed to watch the clock until you can escape at day’s end
B)    You complain about your boss to anyone who will listen, surfing the internet endlessly, and do as little as possible
C)    You decide to look hot, take pleasure breaks, put flowers on your desk, and make gourmet lunches for yourself to maintain your fun
D)    You decide to become the pleasure cheerleader for your office, bring homemade cupcakes to celebrate Monday, make your way around to everyone’s desk to give them a compliment, and organize a softball game after work.

Scoring:

Mostly A’s: You are a woman who takes zero responsibility for her pleasure and doesn’t even realize it.
Mostly B’s: You take little responsibility for your pleasure but know you could be having way more fun in life, you just don’t know how.
Mostly C’s: You know how to live life as a Pleasure Revolutionary and get yours by the day’s end!
Mostly D’s: You take such responsibility for your pleasure that you inspire others to do the same and spread your magic wherever you go, making the world an even more fun place to be!

I’ve said it time and time again. Pleasure is a discipline. Having fun doesn’t just happen to you, you’ve got to practice it, sisters, every single day. Need a refresher course in the Art of Having Fun No Matter What? Click here to register for my free tele-class this Thursday! I’ve got a juicy surprise that I’ll be announcing at the end of the call. And be sure to post your answers to the quiz in the comments section below, and I’ll check in with you next week to see how the call impacted you. And if you know you’re ready to become master of this and every other essential Womanly Art, join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

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  • SG Fiona September 8, 2011, 6:05 pm

    I BRAG that getting mostly D’s in a pop quiz is an amazing awesome way to live life!!! Thank you Mama…always a pleasure

  • SG Vixen September 3, 2011, 12:38 pm

    I was mostly C’s but aspire for D’s. I’ll keep ‘working’ on it, haha

  • Michelle Medina August 31, 2011, 10:39 pm

    Hm. . . I was a definite A’s girl back in the day! I can still pull up A’s or B’s, but I’m landing more and more in the C’s category and am sure that by the time I finishe VPBC I’ll be landing in the D’s!!! Thank you Mama!!

  • Ade August 31, 2011, 9:09 pm

    I figure, if life is boring and a drag…it isn’t worth living. I only have today and tomorrow may never show itself to me. If you don’t like you job, find a way to like it. If you don’t like your body, it is what it is and love it. It’s beautiful and ever so capable giving pleasure to yourself and those around you.

    This was a hard lesson to learn but I learned…and I’m a much happier woman for it.

  • Nelda August 31, 2011, 6:00 pm

    I’m C’s…learning from you, MG! I got my flirt on Friday at a back yard BBQ, never minding the heat, just having a great time! Gracias!!

  • SG D August 31, 2011, 4:46 pm

    Holy Shit Snacks,

    I needed that little reminder. I was on the verge of NOT having fun. How could that be? Me not taking responsibility of my pleasure? Thanks for the reminder, Mama G. Time to get on the fun wagon for this weekend.

  • Wildcherry August 31, 2011, 1:26 pm

    Hmm, C overall BUT when I get my sexy bootz on and my hair fluffed even MORE outrageously than usual, my D persona comes out to play in the land of Wildcherry World.
    (Fess up Wild Woman !!!… I do have A / B days now and again, then Mama’s Pink Bible sobers me up and I end my drunken foray into my past drudgeries!)
    THANK YOU, MAMA GEEEEEENNNNNAAAAA..

  • Lisa August 31, 2011, 12:03 pm

    some b’s mostly c’s…yay for me!!! Not bad for a newbie to having fun!!! Can’t wait for tomorrow’s call.

  • Cynthia August 31, 2011, 10:52 am

    Dear Mama,

    Thank you for this delightful reminder…fun is always at hand! Yes please, I’ll have some of that!

  • SG Lovely Rita August 31, 2011, 8:37 am

    Mostly C’s and some D’s-and enjoying the D’s inspiration! I keep one pink boa in my car (more at home!), to help me be hot and flirty during my commute. Re-reading the books, especially on man-training. I have a most wonderful guy in my life and I can see pretty quickly how my fun affects “us”. Wish I could be live on the call tomorrow-but duty calls.

  • Tara Dixon August 31, 2011, 1:29 am

    All D’s…woohoo! Checking emails in the Amsterdam airport enroute to Barcelona for a day of sightseeing. will catch a late afternoon flight to Mallorca. Thank you for teaching me to take responsibility for my pleasure…my life has turned into a magical and wonderous ride!
    much love-
    SG Tara

  • Jennifer Posada August 30, 2011, 10:59 pm

    Mostly Ds!!! Oh yeah!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Pleasure Vik August 30, 2011, 10:35 pm

    OMG what has happened to me! I’m mostly B’s! nooooooo, I’m going to do something fun at lunch time and I’m going to re-read Mama’s book!

  • Diane August 30, 2011, 10:32 pm

    I’m in between B’s and C’s, so I’m on my way to having more fun but right now am just catching up on pampering myself after over two years of working almost non-stop without a break!

  • Holly Haupt August 30, 2011, 8:24 pm

    I hummingbird am most definitely d’s!! I love my life! I love to mantrain i love scing and i love the tools!

  • Donna aka Court MC August 30, 2011, 5:15 pm

    Ladies, for those of you who have NOT done Mama Gena’s work, get your gorgeous juicy butts in the seats … Besides the value that you get from having a pleasure filled life at your disposal (this coming from a woman with more men after me than I can shake a stick at, and all as a result of what I deem is pleasure filled for me, if not, then NOT – and I don’t look like a model on most magazines, unless you are talking about Emme (google her)). In addition you meet the most exquisite women on the planet who will cheer you along, and make sure you stay true to yourself, your pleasure and the journey …

    IT’s so worth it!!!

  • Haley August 30, 2011, 4:37 pm

    I am mostly B’s and C’s. I’ve been reading and re-reading Mama Gena’s School of Womenly Arts since the day I purchased it. If I took this quiz before I read this book I would have been all A’s. Every time I re-read it I understand more and I’m falling in love with everything and become more inspired! I want to be C’s and D’s and can’t wait to get to that point! So excited for the conference call. I’m so thankful for all of this knowledge! !! <3

  • Matha August 30, 2011, 4:13 pm

    I am mostly in charge of my pleasure and very seldom can I not pull myself up… I take my swamp time and move on to fun and pleasure again… My queue that I have not been following Mama Gena my body physically makes my shoulders lock up so I to get better I have to do a dance break or get a massage I usually do both.