Sensuality is power.
Not domination. Not force.
It is something different. It is both more practical and more numinous.
Yesterday, I was traveling seven hours with my daughter, to have a weekend visit with my college chums on Cape Cod. The day before, I had packed up our beach house and moved us back to the city, after a week of hosting guests, and preparing for all the back-to-school activities at The School of Womanly Arts.
Maggie and I were exhausted. And I knew the only way to get through the day of planes and trains and automobiles would be to connect with my eternal power source—my sensuality.
I put on these ankle boots that make me feel hot. Tight white pants that make my legs looong. A scarf I got in Paris, and a shrunken jean jacket. The slightly tight clothes made me super aware of my body. I walked differently, knowing I was hot. And the focus of the day completely changed—it was not about the trains and planes and automobiles, it was about the pure privilege of being me (and Maggie being Maggie) and enjoying the challenging, ever changing experiences, as we travelled through New York, New Jersey, and Massachusetts.
We ended up having a great day. Laughing a lot. Flirting with everyone, and getting offered a ride on a motorcycle when we reached Cape Cod (which we did not accept—too dangerous… :-))
This is something that I want for all women.
Each of us has the propensity and the ability to connect to a deep, interior strength in pure service to ourselves. That is the gift of 8,000 nerve endings. The gift of being a woman.
Most women do not have any idea how to find that switch and keep it on.
The connection to our core fire is often tattered and torn.
We all have had such varied and difficult relationships with our sensuality. Abuse. Violence. Ignorance. Lack of education. No validation. Poor role models.
In today’s video, you are going to meet 3 women who have completely turned around their lives, by turning around their relationship to their sensuality. You will see what happens to a woman when her core power is used for her, rather than against her. The elixir of sensuality powers not only the woman, but her entire world.
It is our 4th and final video of this summer’s series, and we’ve saved the best for last.
Join me, Mirna, Sade and Bernadette in the video below, find their answers to your questions below that, and then join us all in the comments at the bottom…
What steps can you take to fall in love with your own power after a lifetime of feeling guilty/selfish…?
First I would suggest taking a look at how not owning your power and feeling small has served you. Pretty disappointing, huh? Make the choice—right now—to change your old habits and beliefs around power. My guess is you are so damn powerful you scare yourself. Create affirming mantras like “I am powerful and brilliant,” or “I can and will make a difference.” Being an active member in the Sister Goddess community has afforded me the opportunity to be in the company of great women who, with all of life’s challenges, are positive and affirming, egging all towards reaching their goals and desires. Find yourself right.
How do we own and worship the Goddess and have a man in our life that “sees” us and honors us?
The Goddess dwells inside each of us. A way of being that reminds us what a privilege it is to be WOMAN. Owning and honoring all the faces of the Goddess within allows us to accept ourselves wholeheartedly. Self-love is impossible without this complete acceptance. This is not lost on our men. A woman who fully owns herself is the most amazing sight to behold, and her man knows it. He in turn worships her and desires to honor all of her.
How do I maintain the mindset to be FAB everyday and keep the inner light bulb lit?
Awesome question! It’s work…it does not come easily. However, it’s crucial to stay FAB, so I suggest a “Diet of Juiciness”! With regularity you must brag about your successes and greatness (both small and large), do what makes you feel good daily (e.g., have green juice, exercise, flirt, go for a walk, meditate, laugh, watch a good movie, dance…whatever!); you are so worth it. Make a date with yourself often and go get a massage or take your Baddass out for dinner. Know that great self-care is priceless!
I want to feel confident asking for what I want! Even exploring my daily desires for life is difficult. I don’t think it should be.
The number one confidence booster for asking for what you want is getting crystal clear about what that is. My go-to tool is a desire journal: a beautiful book dedicated to all the small and large wishes my heart is beating for. I write down everything I am desiring, no matter how dreamy or future-based it is. This alone can feel like an act of courage because sometimes I find myself thinking, “Do I deserve that?” I write it all down. Find yourself right for wanting and loving all that you are longing for, whether it is heart based or materialistic.
Begin with baby steps. Ask yourself: what do I desire to eat for breakfast that would nourish my body? What do I desire to wear to work that would evoke a sense of confidence in me? What do I desire to do after work that will inject a sense of play into my day? Asking and answering questions like these will get your exploration started. Remember to tune in to your feelings when your desires manifest. This will help you articulate even more of your desires, and the clarity will help you focus on what to ask for next.
How do I overcome and get myself to stay on the “good track” in improving all the things that I want to get done and be successful?
Make yourself a Desire List of your burning desires, post it somewhere where others can see it. This will make you feel accountable. Don’t be afraid to state your desires out loud. It makes them real. Set realistic goals and be in the company of people who are goal oriented and aren’t stagnant. Know that “baby steps” are steps forward. Reward yourself for any progress you make. Vision boards are wonderful tools as well.
It’s not a BAD life, I just want more. Why can’t I find the energy to go for more?
Your vitality is part of your charm, and the best way I know how to maintain amazing energy levels is through self-care. Self-care is self-love. And this is not negotiable. Mama Gena always says self-care is self-protection. Want to go for more? Try EXQUISITE self-care today. That is a Goddess’s way of taking revolution into her own hands. Through self-care you will not only increase your energy levels but change the world, too.
Inspired? I want you to tell your stories in the comments section below, and hear the ways in which you live your sensual truth (or not), and have a chance to answer whatever questions you have. Let’s keep the conversation going!
With so much love and pleasure,