Yo sisters,
Here is a question I get asked a lot:
Help.
How can I handle the holidays?
How can I not just handle the holidays, but actually have an incredible time?
Even when I am facing scads of family?
And the pressure of everyone’s expectations?
And the break from my routine?
And today I want to give you a solution.
A Radical Act of Pleasure.
There is nothing more balancing, more restorative, more enlivening, more uplifting to a woman, than a Radical Act of Pleasure.
What is a Radical Act of Pleasure?
It is an action you take—in the direction of pleasure—when you least feel like it.
Instead of being cranky when you are cranky.
And angry when you are angry.
And frustrated when you are frustrated.
You lob a grenade in the direction of your doldrums, by reaching for a Radical Act of Pleasure.
SG Cyndy Sizzle rocking out
This may mean that in the middle of cooking for your extended gang—just when exhaustion and crankiness are about to overtake you—you blast some music and declare a dance break and make everyone dance like furies with you.
It might mean that you come down to breakfast wearing a tiara and your pink feather boa, to make sure everyone remembers you are royalty.
It may mean that you sneak out to a cheap motel for a little sex break with your partner.
You can brush your teeth naked, wearing only high heels. Compliment a complete stranger. Go to a park and sing a Christmas carol out loud, for no reason.
You are the radical. You get to choose.
Here are some of my recent radical acts of pleasure to inspire you:
-We rented a karaoke machine for Christmas here at The Palace and took random singing breaks during the day.
-I grabbed my goddaughter, went to the barn and kissed and hugged all the horses.
-Feeling exhausted, I checked into the spa for a few hours: after steam, a mani-pedi and a massage, I was ready for my dinner date with a fantastic new guy later!!
Cranky is cool. But a Radical Act of Pleasure is revolutionary.
What Radical Acts of Pleasure do you have up your sleeve? Post them in the comments below, to inspire your sisters.
Sister Goddess Johanna singing in Sara D. Roosevelt Park, NYC
And as you move through this holiday season, I would love for you to keep me updated on Facebook and Twitterof all your latest Radical Acts of Pleasure. Be sure to mention “@mamagena” and use the “#RadicalPleasure” hashtag. For example:
@mamagena I brag I gave myself one uninterrupted hour with a stack of my favorite magazines #RadicalPleasure
Here’s to being on the front lines of the Pleasure Revolution and squeezing every drop of joy from this holiday season!
Mama Gena
P.S. For a post-holiday juice infusion, join me at my latest Intro Course, The Radical Step That Changes Everything, LIVE in NYC, February 9th, 2012.
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Oh Mama, your words came at just the right time, I have been so stressed out with it all this year (despite starting early). I love the idea of a dance break, now that would just freak out my in-laws so I really wanna do that!
I love ya Mama!
Festive Blessings to you and yours
and a sparklingly fabulous 2012
With love from one Goddess to another
Elly x
Was feeling tired, frustrated, overworked. Just read your email- linked your blog page. Saw the smiles and joy and said, ok I remember I can feel that way too. Stopped everything turned on my iTunes playlist titled “move” and pulled up all my blinds so the world can see and I took a crazy dance break.
Now- I feel great. Yep a little joy and pleasure goes a long way. Thanks for the reminder. Without it I fear I would have sat here the rest of the day feeling worse and worse.
You are such a gift to my life!!! Thanks
Absolutely right on — I would hug a horse if I could. Instead I hugged my Starbucks barista who greets me every morning with a huge smile and a line or two of conversation. Hugs and kisses on both cheeks. Cutie.
I have planned 8 days of pleasure between Christmas and New Year’s. Each day has a theme and a radical pleasurable activity. I have 50 candles ready to be lit for the 25th. 200 flowers set for delivery on the 26th. A different body work treatment for each day. And oh did I mention the scrumptious spa meals planned, including lemongrass soup, roasted garlic and asparagus, wild caught salmon, hand picked morels and the choicest beef that my hottie butcher insists on hand selecting for me from only the finest grass fed collection. And of course, it’s true, I am the visiting dignitary!
I have to add two more radical pleasures that showed up. My brother is having his convertible Porsche carrera delivered so I can have it for Christmas and out of the blue yesterday a girlfriend just gifted me with one of my greatest heart’s desires–the pick of the litter of her champion standard poodle stock to be my dog and mate for for my gorgeous poodle Princess Jade Estrella. He will be here on Christmas eve. A creamy dreamy stud for christmas for my sassy girl! Miracles abound in radical pleasure.
I love hearing about people promoting pleasure, even though I may not be your core audience
Rock on!
I would like to brag that I just won a microphone that turns my iPad into a karaoke machine…just in time for RadicalPleasureMasKah!
My radical act of Pleasure is napping napping napping! I’m so sick I can bearly speak, so not much celebrating for me!
THANK YOU!!!! Just when I was entertaining nursing my wounds around a heavy discussion around next steps towards discovering my purpose/work I’m excited about w/ my boyfriend – I read this! THANK YOU! Why be miserable when you can be joyous instead?!? Indeed. You Rule this Yule!
Haven’t finished Christmas shopping, packed, or bought a ticket for tomorrow to Boston…but I made it to Pole Dancing at Sacred!
Thank you Mama! I am so grateful to you!!
Yesterday I worked with my cleaning woman to get my apartment nice and clean then rewarded myself with a massage from my favorite spa. Afterwards I decorated my Christmas tree just as I like it to be and also got help from my son and his friend and had my husband videotape us. Today I had my hair cut, and went to the gym to do my one hour work out. tomorrow is mani/pedi day and I’m going to include some nice foot reflexology. Every day I make time for my one hour yoga practice, relaxation and meditation. I am pleasuring myself every day with special treats and not running around with crazy holiday shopping. And I also bought new gorgeous 600 thread count sheets for my husband and me at the macy’s one day sale. Great sheets at a great price. And a great guy to share them with.
Wearing spiked heels whilst sitting at home on my couch reading
Taking time to craze out my always wild hair because it reminds me to be me
My Hunk of Love for break-fast is the only right way to start my day
BreakIng fast for real with a sensible breakfast of hot cocoa spiked with eggnog and a cinnamon swizzler!
Playing Rennaissance Carols LOUD
BEING ME
Thank you so much…I needed this!!!! Happy Holidays to you and the staff…MUAH!!!!
MMMmmmm! I love these!
Even though I am estranged form my blood relations, I have wonderful chosen family at Xmas.
I had hours of incredible sex with my hot lover at 5 am.
Then a dinner date at a luxurious restaurant with another lovely sweetheart.
Spontaneous breakfast with my close friend.
Baileys in my chai right now.
Making a fire in the fireplace for the 1st time in over a year.
Dressing in sequins for my casual vegetarian Xmas eve dinner with some buddies.
Screw the to-do list……celebrate!
xoxoxo
I had a lovely christmas surrounded by friends and family but by the time people were getting ready to leave I was more then ready to have them gone and feeling more then a little frazzled. So I said screw cleaning and just spent the last two hours locked in the bathroom with all the yummy bath goodies my wonderful husband bought me. Now I feel fantastic and like I could move mountains (aka. Clean up the after math of christmas). Thank you Mama.
XOXOXO
When I need a break — or a friend or partner visiting is angry or upset — I grab their hands and spin around the space in between us — Do you remember as a kid playing ” Motor boat, motor boat –go so slow. Motor boat, motor boat –go so fast. Motor boat, motor boat –step on the gas” and you spin as fast as you can stand it for as long as you can stay standing. Really, by the time you stop, whatever seemed bad isn’t — you are just laughing!
My boyfriend and I sailed through the holidays like this: cooked exquisite meals for ourselves, got massages, bought ourselves and each other tons of gifts, forwent all family obligations, created more of our own private traditions and did exactly what we wanted. Best yet, he proposed to me on Christmas Eve after an incredible four star dinner at one of the best restaurants around with a big, gorgeous, sparkling ring under the 60′ Christmas tree in the downtown plaza. My boyfriend is now my fiance!
Mmmm the aroma of women scented in pleasure is an intoxicating TREAT that makes the whole world swoon…
I love you all.
Thank you beautiful Mama x
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