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Before we get into today’s post, I wanted to share a video feature on me that just came out in Best Self Magazine – one of my fave interviews ever! Our conversation went all over the map – it’s powerful, info-packed and so much fun.

Click here to access the full video interview.

Meanwhile, today, I want to explore a topic that is so very easy to miss, on the path to our big dreams and desires.

Driftwood. Heard of it?

At the School, driftwood is what we look for whenever a woman is in the process of conjuring or creating a desire, but the desire isn’t exactly here yet.
And – as far as I can tell – this is nearly all of the time. Because there are always desires, and there are always different desires moving towards us.
As women, we are always on our way to some new and perfect desire.

This period of time, in relationship with a particular desire – when you haven’t gotten what you want yet – can be treacherous. Mama wants what she wants, and she wants it now. Right?

How do you keep your enthusiasm?
How do you keep your trust and your belief in yourself that the desire you’ve been longing for is indeed coming toward you?

Driftwood appears as little clues that what you seek is indeed seeking you.
I look for driftwood like a scent hound on the trail.
And then I name it, and celebrate it, and magnify it, and glorify it as proof that I’m on the right track.

True Stories of Driftwood:

Sasha states her desire to be a world famous chef, and the very next day, she sees the host of her favorite cooking show biking in the West Village. Weird! It’s like a little wink from her future. Driftwood.

Jolene desires a man that can celebrate her most unleashed sensual self AND is open to a conscious, heart-centered connection. Soon after getting clear, she goes on a date where she is treated like a Queen – it’s flirty, it’s hot, and the conversation is deep. This is a first! And for that night, she had exactly what she wanted. Things don’t pan out, the guy disappears. Ouch. Jolene decides this date was a gift – driftwood – that gave her a taste what it’s gonna feel like when her guy shows up, while she grows her capacity to receive him.

Corinne wants so badly to move out of the city and buy a sweet cabin in the woods. But her career is going gangbusters, and completely dependent on her showing up in midtown Manhattan. Ugh. She’s starting to brainstorm ideas to make it happen, but her desire seems a million miles away. Out of nowhere, her friend’s cousin invites them both to stay for free at his mansion on Lake Tahoe for a week. Haley lunges at this driftwood, while she keeps chipping away at creating the life she wants.

Driftwood is being so in love with your desire that you’re willing to celebrate each small or big thing as it comes towards you on your way to creating whatever it is that you want.

But, here’s the catch:
Driftwood is in the eye of the beholder. You have to pay attention, or you’ll miss it. And when you do see it, driftwood demands celebration.

You can either decide that what you have is not enough, or you can decide that everything you see is a sign of your greatness coming towards you.

And I recommend the latter, because you know what?
It works.
Your greatness is just going to come rushing at you and bowl you over sooner than you think.

Let’s flood the comments below with our driftwood:

• What’s your desire, and what are the signs that it’s on its way to you?
• Or, in the past, did you ever experience a synchronistic or profound encounter with driftwood, before you got what you really wanted?

I can’t wait to hear from you, and celebrate every precious sign that your big desires are on their way to you!


Regena Thomashauer, Founder & CEO
The School of Womanly Arts

p.s. I think you’ll really enjoy this video interview with me, featured in Best Self Magazine this month. We covered so many topics – from sex, to power, to sisterhood, and back again. Bonus: My pals at Best Self are offering a free 6-month subscription for all of you: get your access code right here!

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  • Aubrey July 18, 2017, 3:55 pm

    My driftwood was part driftwood and part totally getting my desire.
    I waited until 20 years old to have sex because none of the men or women I met before then seemed right to me. I knew that I would know when it was time. I met this smokin hot guy that summer before my junior year in undergrad and I knew it was time. We weren’t in love, just having a summer fling. I bought some Victoria Secret lingerie and told him I wanted to do it. And I had the best three weeks of my sexual life so far. I feel so grateful that my first sexual experiences were absolutely mind blowing. I realized in my reading after that that many women never have orgasms during sex or at all with their partners, which breaks my heart terribly. Trusting my gut and desires all those years brought me someone I had exactly what I wanted — even better than i could have dreamed – with! I haven’t had such a time since, although other desires have come to fruition in subsequent partnerships… But I see my experience then as both a desire delivered and a promise from the universe that I will always get mine. I trust that what I want, a passion like what I had will come to me again. And that small taste at the beginning made me sure it’s possible!! — That man and I didn’t stay together. We weren’t relationship material. But I really am grateful he came my way!

  • LeeAnn June 8, 2017, 11:29 am

    I want to celebrate a new potential client that came to me while we were in Paris. It was SO easy – a good friend called, the client needs a facilitator for his executive team in just two weeks, and it’s only an hour’s drive from my new home in Massachusetts. And they’re a big firm that believes in leadership development, with money to spend. I MUST be on the right track, right??? I was so excited that my big break was finally coming, then heartbroken when – after spending an entire day getting ready for and attending a team intervie… which went REALLY WELL… I got word this week that they had picked another vendor. Yikes!!

    I was about to crash and burn, but I remembered a few sisters talking about this blog and though.. hey, maybe it’s the driftwood. It’s tough to not receive the gig, and would have made a big difference financially… but I know that I’m calling in the right stuff to have gotten that close. Thanks for your words of wisdom!

    Yes please. More please… or something better!!

  • Elektra Dekker June 1, 2017, 4:51 am

    YES! I always love when those synchronicities happen. Intuitively I always knew I am on my way, and have to simply enjoy every moment to the max. Without this desires wouldn’t even be as much fun! For before they manifest universe flirts with you, haha! :))

  • Tammy May 30, 2017, 6:23 am

    Thank you for this post and helping to give a name to the miracle blessings showing up in my life recently. This time last year, my desire grew stronger for a few things: 1) create a business to help/support women and mothers 2) generate income to replace the job income so I can live my life on my terms 3) have a man in my life who adores and supports me.

    Within a matter of months last year, I met a business coach/mentor who walked me through the steps of designing the business model of my dreams. I’m currently in a business development mastermind that’s all about execution and implementation. Last year, I met the owner of a book publishing and marketing team, who helped me publish a book that made the bestseller list! The book is directly related to the business model I’m creating. I guess you can say the book serves as a business card for the business. Also, I met a wonderful man who adores and supports me and we always have a great time enjoying each other. Our connection has been strong since the first time we met. He is also living the life I desire to create. He’s an entrepreneur who lives his life on his terms and he’s willing to help and support me on the journey of creating my business.

    Having these desires was one thing, but making a connection with the Universe to make my dreams a reality created the amazing driftwood I’m currently experiencing! I am blessed to be a blessing!!

  • Katja Bjergby May 29, 2017, 6:54 pm

    Thank you for this blog❤ It made me think of a really big driftwood experience. I was teaching art in an artschool, making art in my spare time at home. One day I had this feeling that now was the time for me to embrace my own creativity full time. I told my students that I was going to stop and one of them asked me if i was interested in sharing an amazing studio with her. I came down to see the studio and it was situated in the most amazing place in Copenhagen (Denmark) just next to the water canals and the rent was so low that it was almost free. It happened with in 24 hours. I Hope that my story inspires to remember to trust your inner wisdom because amazing things are coming to you if you let go❤❤❤

  • Kim May 27, 2017, 1:54 pm

    I’m a little late to this post but the timing is right for me. I am creating the career that I feel passionate about. I awoke one morning about two weeks ago and new how to take the next set in implementing my idea. Last week, I contacted the director of a hospital where I could best put my skills into action. This morning she told me she would be glad to meet with me. I know that I have the a unique perspective and that what I have to offer will help many women. I am delighted by this piece of driftwood as I create my future.

    • Claire May 28, 2017, 4:31 pm

      I’m a nurse too.. looking forward to a change in what I’m doing.. saw your post and it made me curious .. it’s great u feel supported & creativity is not a distant memory.

  • Helene May 26, 2017, 8:22 am

    This was an amazing post and I love the idea of driftwood! I’m currently building a business I love and I see driftwood everyday in the women around me who are succeeding in their businesses. I’ve never looked at it that way before but I know now that it means it’s on its way to me.

  • Kela May 26, 2017, 12:32 am

    There are some issues with my house.I had been struggling with the decision to sell ,or keep and fix up.One day as i was sitting in my doorway pondering this decision,I asked myself what my heart really wanted and what my heart already knew,but my mind was trying to skip away from.I knew i really wanted to keep it and fix it up because it is an inheritance,but quite a few issues surrounding it had me convinced i had to sell.Right after acknowledging my heart and accepting that this is the way forward,a truck loaded down with cement blocks goes pass!!!I laughed and said to myself “o.k.,that seals it for me”.

  • Grace May 25, 2017, 2:07 pm

    Last week I started training at a job that did not feel right to me because it was not in alignment with my needs and desires. I decided not to continue with it and then had a mini freak out that I made a mistake. The next day I received TWO emails – one that I was hired for a job that I really wanted and the other an interview for a really fantastic opportunity!
    Positive thoughts and intentions combined with trusting your gut works!!!

  • Monique May 24, 2017, 3:51 pm

    I have had the best most amazing driftwood this past week! I have been deeply desiring creating a big fat information book filled with data on different topics. I spent some time over the weekend looking at maps and reading through lists of organizations that supplied the data sources. Then out of the blue on Monday, I got a request to respond to a data query for an Info book! I got so excited about it!

    Another one is that I really desire a great president right NOW. I remembered my post-election promise to email president Trump a gratitude message, and I did it. A few days later, I saw that his budget blue print had been released and when I read it, I was very impressed with the balance of spending on domestic and foreign programs and the reasoning behind the tough choices he made. I have been eating it up. I have been telling my liberal friends to read this blueprint carefully and to suspend judgement about it in spite of their perceptions of him.

    And I desired friendship with my children’s father and peace in my home. I have had the best week so far. I’ve spent the evenings with my daughter while my son has had special time with his dad. At first they were nervous that my suggestion would lead to more separation, but I knew that there was an unmet need that was causing all of us pain. I celebrated the chance to take this time together in the evenings while we still saw the kids each day for at least a few moments to cuddle. I feels so good. My mind is more relaxed. My house feels like cotton candy. And I am doing so great. I cook all of our meals again. The kids and cats are eating like multiple people. We are laughing and talking again. AND I joined the school’s version of the PTA! AND my ex has been really helpful to me. We had a great chat and he is helping me to get the kids to school and back home as I try to adjust my work schedule. I am working fewer hours, sleeping better, and feeling generally blessed. YES!

  • SG Jules May 24, 2017, 8:09 am

    Thank you ! 🙂

  • Kanelli May 24, 2017, 3:17 am

    This has come at such perfect time! I have been on a huge wave of gratitude with everything coming to me and my one area that I really wanted a shift now was money flow and then yesterday went into fear and doubt for the first time in weeks! Thank you for confirming to keep celebrating and noticing the driftwood.
    SG Kanelli

  • Rapha May 24, 2017, 12:29 am

    My driftwood could be: I know I have to find a new job, earn more money. For the last 4 days I found money everywhere: on the street, it was basically lying on the floor every day a little coin somewhere. I’m not making more money at my current job. But today a friend of mine visited me at work and told me how she’s asked for a raise and gets now 50 cents more.. WTF she’s not amused. Still, driftwood- why not?! It’s my turn to look out for a better paid job!
    More driftwood: I really wanna study AND go into business. But it makes me wanna throw up if I look at ‘careers’ and classes on paper-I need personal connections & a rolw model!
    Few days ago I met a woman who gave me her business card, she’s been in business for long time and gives lectures on how to get funding so money is mot in the way to get the career you want.
    Now it’s my call to contact her..
    It showed me what I want: people I can relate to! A business person who gives out higs and wants to empower other women.

  • Andrea Scott May 23, 2017, 10:08 pm

    I have several health GOMPS (Growth Opportunities Masquerading as Problems) which lead to chronic pain and limited mobility. As a result up until now, I have been hating my body and dreading doing anything that causes pain.

    Recently I took a self-compassion and mindfulness where I focussed on my feelings about my body. I did a major shift and ended the program liking my body. This morning when I was showering I was thanking my body and appreciating it.

    That’s such a huge change for me. My intention is to manifest a strong healthy body where I can live out my passion and do the activities that I enjoy like dance and hiking. I see that the shift to loving my body instead of hating it is the driftwood that shows I’m in the right path.

    I’m excited.

  • Anka May 23, 2017, 9:47 pm

    I’ve decided a week ago that I want to do a yearly online health coaching program at IIN School. It’s a high quality training so it’s not cheap and I was wondering how to manifest all that money. TODAY I’ve received and email that I have 30%!!! discount. Sweet Baby Jesus I’m gonna do this 😃 BIG TIME!

  • Rachael Treasure May 23, 2017, 9:27 pm

    Ha! Hello Universe! I’m working on my seventh novel… and guess what my main character’s nickname is… ‘Drift’ Wood. Your email today Mama G is a sure sign my next novel, White Horses, is one for the sisterhood! Am recognising the driftwood that keeps arriving in my life. Thanks for the feminine leadership, the fun and the dancing!

  • Jill May 23, 2017, 8:51 pm

    I’ve been switching gears in my career this year and looking to create lots of financial abundance in my new biz…things have been going well but then I hit a bit of a rut! So, I got focused, started doing my Holy Trinities and all of a sudden….DRIFTWOOD! I went to get a cup of tea and the gal at the cash offered it “on the house”, I found 10 bucks in a pair of pants, I went out to get groceries, decided to grab a super luxurious dessert – which I rarely do and after paying and loading the groceries into my car I realized the dessert had been left in my cart and I hadn’t paid for it (oops! I felt a bit bad BUT DRIFTWOOD!!!). Lastly, I was in Ikea for 3 hours on the weekend and at some point I left my favourite S’well water bottle ….somewhere? I’d given up and figured it was long gone but after paying for all my stuff my husband suggested I run up to the first stop we’d made and guess what? It was there!!! The girl working there said she usually threw bottles out after an hour but she could tell this one was special:) Driftwood…..

  • CJ May 23, 2017, 5:20 pm

    Thank you, Mama Gena! I’m taking this post as “driftwood” – love this naming. Have been feeling challenged by few tangible results from my efforts, lately. I’ve been asking to be shown my path, along with the breadcrumbs along the way so I can “Hansel & Gretel” my way through my soul journey! This week, another “driftwood” that floated my way was being invited to speak at my alma mater this summer.

  • Lisa May 23, 2017, 4:20 pm

    OMG!! My driftwood is literal! I’ve wanted to start a jewelry business all my life and 4 years ago, at age 40, my dear friend and I descovered driftwood as a medium in jewelry design. It was my sign! I was finally ready to take the plunge. We started our company, Elle Jay Jewelry, with driftwood jewelry as our cornerstone in 2013 and are still going strong! I’ll share here what the driftwood has taught us… “The wood itself has become our teacher, delivering its spiritual lessons in the most unexpected and profound ways for each of us; ultimately igniting our desire for self-expression and the passion to create art. We share that meaning with our customers, creating an even deeper connection to the pieces they purchase. Much like the journey wood takes in order to BECOME driftwood, driftwood represents the letting go of roots and being organically tumbled by life. It is the purification that comes from surrendering to our truth. The stripping away layers of self and ego to reveal our vulnerable, soft, neutral core. It is knowing our self deeply, being in our light and allowing our self to truly be seen. ”

    Love what you’ve shared here, adds so much more depth and meaning to something so precious to me personally.

    In gratitude,

  • Dana May 23, 2017, 3:19 pm

    As I listed everything I want in a man, I realized I told myself that that man would have no interest in me. So my desire was to meet someone who had these qualities. I was at the airport returning home to NJ from a business trip and a man started talking to me. Then he asked me to join him in the United club until our flights (he is from Chicago). He has common interests, both in career and outside, and we had a wonderful discussion. I walked away saying to myself, “what a gift, if I never see him again, I now know that I am attractive to the type of man I want to attract”. My driftwood! P.S. He has a meeting in NY and we are meeting for dinner 🙂

  • SG Michelle May 23, 2017, 3:09 pm

    After weekend one of Mastery a fantastic man came into my life and treated me like a queen and then faded away a few weeks of passion and connection…. I am sure he was driftwood and am grateful he showed me how I want to be treated….

  • Sarah May 23, 2017, 3:05 pm

    I’ve been a long time collector of keys and locks. I adore how unique each one is and the metaphoric power they have to opening doors. Every time my life starts to get messy and I’m not sure of my path, I find keys EVERYWHERE! On the street, in stairwells, in taxis. Everywhere. They always tend to be found when I’m deep in though about my next path, Sometimes I find broken keys and see it as a sign of breaking ties with the path I’m on. Maybe I’m just looking for metaphors, but there’s something spiritual in it for me.

    Also, my grandmother was a huge inspiration for me. She was a very strong and independent woman. A few years ago, she died at 11:11 and I was with her the moment she took her last breath. During those months of grief I’d see 11’s everywhere! Every time I see them, wish her hello, I thank her for her guidance, and see it as proof that she’s got my back. Like she always did when she was alive.

  • Jennifer May 23, 2017, 2:40 pm

    This blog was driftwood….perfectly timed driftwood. Thank you.

  • Apr May 23, 2017, 2:32 pm

    I started pinup modeling a year ago (at 47!) , which led to me starting my long dreamt of business making retro clothing and accessories, but things weren’t flowing. It was like being in stop and go traffic. Last week, I walked away from two very unrewarding, creativity sucking things in my life, and the driftwood has been flowing in left and right! Two new commissions, a photoshoot I’ve been wanting to do for months became available, and the likes on my fan page soared! Oh, and let’s not forget this post!! I’m taking all this driftwood and making a raft to float home on!!! XO

  • Alexis Rae May 23, 2017, 1:56 pm

    This Blog Post ALONE was major Driftwood for me! As a Healer, working as an independent massage therapist I am often called back to focus on my own self healing. Business gets slow and being an entrepreneur is hard!! So many things in life pulling me in different directions and what feels like Away from my dreams of traveling the world cultivating my work… And then things like this blog post… pulling my focus right back in to feeding my Goddess power! All of you women are so inspiring and the stories of others becoming additional pieces of driftwood for me… “I’ll get that, and I’ll take that too!!” Taking the time to acknowledge recent driftwood (blessings) is healing in itself.


  • Monica May 23, 2017, 1:45 pm

    Mama Gena! Listening to your interview, a light bulb went off. The Hebrew name of God (Yahweh) was considered too sacred to be spoken aloud. Perhaps our “bits and pieces” have been nameless because, as the source of everything that is, it is also too sacred to be spoken! Where would the world be without Goddess Pussy? No where! The centuries of suppression and perversion of her has made her no less a Goddess, feared and adored equally.

  • Chantelle May 23, 2017, 1:40 pm

    My desire is to be in a harmonious, fulfilling, loving, healthy, abundant, happy, forever-lasting marriage with my dream and right man for me (I’ve learned to be very specific lol). The driftwood I’ve been seeing is: always seeing engagement ring commercials, seeing proposals on TV or in person, getting wedding emails from sites I don’t remember signing up for, seeing people that have been single for a long time get engaged and have kids, and going on a date with a guy that has many of the traits I would like in a man.

    In the past, I’ve wanted a specific car. Before I got the car; I saw the same make, model, and color I wanted everywhere.

  • Karen May 23, 2017, 1:20 pm

    For decades I’ve been dreaming of turning an old shed into a beautiful, sensual office/guest house, finally it decayed so badly we had to tear it down with no money or hope to rebuild.
    2yrs earlier I was rearended and had forgotten all about it until recently the insurance company contacted me with a settlement, CACHING! And then this month a neighbor hit our garage and the payout was above cost to repair…
    Needless to say I’m designing, collecting accessories and we build here in a few short weeks!!!!!

  • Jean May 23, 2017, 1:04 pm

    It happens to me ALL the time! It is so much fun. sometimes it scares me as I know when I put my desires out there I better be prepared because here they come!

  • Fran May 23, 2017, 12:14 pm

    My heart’s desire — to write. I’m starting with a blog and doing all that I can here and there to inform my effort and to inspire my work. But I haven’t arrived at the right “formula” — more personal info? Less? I was feeling frustrated that what I was posting was well-written, but not reflective of me. It wasn’t resonating. I started telling myself: “I’m just a letter-writer. I’m not brave enough to put myself out there like that.” So, my driftwood looked like this: I sent a good, zingy “me” letter to a dear friend. It was fun to write, she responded right away and added “Boy, you sure can write!” I’m saving the letter. Even if I don’t use it in a blog, it’s a reminder of what I love and why I’m going to keep chipping away at the blogging effort. I’ll find my voice. Thanks for this driftwood concept!

  • Shelly May 23, 2017, 12:09 pm

    Last year I wanted to go to Disneyland and California Adventure soo bad but my finances were looking slim. I was at the moment where I needed to book the place we were staying, still wondering if I should go. I asked for a sign that I should go. Within 15 minutes a TV show I was watching had a main character walk on and say ” oh my gosh, look at these cute Mickey Mouse shoes I just bought for your daughter!” I booked the place that day. Turns out enough money flowed in we actually got to go to 5 theme parks in 12 days! Most fun trip of my life.

  • L May 23, 2017, 12:00 pm

    For years I have been career-focused, and have enjoyed some success in that I’m now a reasonably successful attorney. Despite tough odds, I have accomplished a lot of what I set out to do. I still have a long way to go and a lot to learn to build a great practise… I’m really only at the beginning of this career. However, despite doing well to get this far, I find my desires changing. All of a sudden, the idea of being a stay at home wife and mother feels so appealing. I can’t afford to do that, we need two incomes, but the desire is there. My former career-driven self doesn’t even recognise this version of me. I never wanted to have a family (I motifyingly thought I had more “important” things to contribute to the world), but now I find myself dreaming of a big kitchen table surrounded by children. My children, and children that need a home. I feel a real pull to foster and adopt. After thinking this was crazy, I decided to put the idea to bed because I couldn’t afford to do it and I’d have to give up my legal career. While driving, I saw an advert for fostering on the car next to me. Driftwood?

  • Brittany May 23, 2017, 11:46 am

    My husband and I have been looking for a home that is closer to his work- he currently has over an hour drive each way- and we both want this home to be on or near a river. Today, I was outside landscaping around our deck with the rock we purchased yesterday.. river rock. I find it beautifully symbolic that we are, in our current home, literally surrounding our deck with the essence of the river. A dream come true! This heart is happy!

  • stacy May 23, 2017, 11:25 am

    I want more than anything to be a published writer. I want to write for a living, I want to bring people into my world for a short while then return them changed somehow. I’ve taken a few online courses over the years and I was just thinking to myself maybe I really don’t have what it takes. 24 hours later, I was invited back to retake a writing course I did last year for free to help and encourage new students taking the course this year. Maybe it is meant to be. ♡

  • Cheleen May 23, 2017, 11:21 am

    Perfect timing for this. I had my driftwood last night. After years & years of bad dates and relationships, I went on a first date with an absolutelty charming gentleman. It was so nice to be treated with respect!