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Sister love for Valentine’s Day?

This Valentine’s day I’m thinking a lot about sisterhood.
And the tender, irreplaceable, fierce love that’s possible and necessary between women.

I fly close with my flock.
There would be no way on earth I would be with my boyfriend, now, if not for my pal Nicole, who put me in a serious headlock when I was failing to see both the opportunity and the magnificence of what he and I have together.

And just this week alone, in my close group of girlfriends, my pal Sandra (who is a doctor) took Jess to the ER because she was too frightened by her symptoms to move, much less to go to the emergency room by herself. Shit got handled. All is well.

The week before, we all conspired to make sure that Ruth got her 50th surprise birthday party handed to her just as it was meant – as a surprise. No easy feat.

The week before that, we celebrated the pregnancy of Kassandra, who has wanted a family of her own for years.

That’s how we do.
Partners and lovers come and go.
But sisters weather the storms.
We will stay up all night for each other, we will stand fiercely for one another’s deepest desires, and we will never ever give up on each other, no matter how dark it might look.

So right now I want you to think about a woman in your life who you love and want more for.

If you could give her anything in the world what would it be? 

  • Would you want her to feel surrounded not only by your love, but by divine love?
  • Do you want her to feel held and loved and gotten?
  • What about having her feel sexier and more beautiful than she’s ever felt in her life? 
  • Rooted in who she is, and where she’s come from, and where she’s going?
  • Would you want her to feel surrounded by a sense of sisterhood, community and connection?


More confident and powerful than she even knew was possible?

I created the entire Mastery Program and wrote my latest New York Times Best Selling book, Pussy: A Reclamation, for the love of sisterhood.

I wanted to reach inside the body and soul of all women, and provide the roadmap of true connection. I want this for all the women I know, and for all the women I will never know.

As poet Adrienne Rich said, “The connections between and among women are the most feared, the most problematic, and the most potentially transforming force on the planet.”

We need ourselves and our sisters to have strong empowered voices – not only to assist the evolution of this planet as a whole, but, for each of us, individually, to feel inspired enough to continue to go for it – whatever it is – despite the obstacles.

Things are changing so quickly right now. Seemingly lurching both forward and backwards at the same time.

Sisterhood has us rise above, transform, and metastasize the darkness into hope.

I see a movement where wisdom and joy is passed woman to woman, instead of self-loathing and compromise.

Sisterhood is our salvation – we must stand for one another in order to become the heroines of our own lives.

We need each other. But it is not the neediness of old; it is not the neediness of dependence and desperation. It is not the neediness of mutual victimization.

I need you to be as big, blazing and radiant as you can possibly be. Because the more of your legendary light you step into, the more of mine I can inhabit and embody. By standing in my own sacred radiance, I open up room for you to stand in yours—way beyond the parameters of what you or I can imagine.

Step into this new paradigm with me.
Give the gift of sisterhood, connection, love.

By taking your sister higher, you set the stage for her to take you even higher.

And now, I want to hear from you:

Jump into the comments below to share what Sisterhood means to you. Tell me of the heroines in your life. Tell me of your longings for yourself, and the women you love.

Thank you so much for being a part of this community, and a part of this movement. I truly believe anything and everything is possible inside of Sisterhood.

Happy Valentines Day,

Regena Thomashauer, aka “Mama Gena”
The School of Womanly Arts

p.s. If you are longing for sisterhood – real, true, fierce community like I’m talking about here, I’d love to see you inside The School of Womanly Arts classroom this year. Mastery starts in just over one month, and it only happens once a year. Click here to learn more, or call 212.787.2411 X 1 to speak with a course graduate today.

p.p.s. Quick shout out to those of you who have already enrolled in Mastery! It is such a pleasure to begin getting to know you in our Online Community and I cannot wait to be live in the flesh so soon.

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  • Linda Harter DeVeau February 15, 2017, 12:27 pm

    Today your blog made me weep tears of joy. I would hear you speak about Sisterhood and did not get it like I am getting it now. The POTENTIAL for me and others with Sisterhood is so powerful ….am in awe on a new level!
    Love you, Regena!!!

  • sister goddess Janet February 14, 2017, 5:59 pm

    What a roller coaster day! I had planned yesterday that I was going to buy flowers for myself…I have no significant other at this time (and for a long time) so this ‘holiday’ is not always easy… I started by going to the gym, then going to trader joe’s to buy my flowers…it was packed with people buying flowers for their person…by the time I got home, I was a bit ‘off’ feeling sorry for myself.
    I am hosting at my home for the upcoming 2017 work shops beginning in March for an out of town young lady…we wound up talking today to firm up details and I happened to mention that I was sliding down in to sadness, and she was there for me (she is 23, I am 59)…then it turns out a male friend of mine stopped by, we talked , had affectionate hugging for a while, :-), and another prior man who I dated recently contacted me to wish happy valentines day
    (I figured he fell off planet earth )…so the day turned around….
    YAY for sister hood!

  • Lynn February 14, 2017, 1:59 pm

    Men come and men go, but my best Sister bff was always there and always will be. We keep each other anchored. It is unconditional love that I truly cherish. Happy Valentines Day to my Sister Cricket. And happy valentines day to all of my Sisters out there and to Regena, who has opened my eyes about how disconnected I was with my body.

  • TONYA Chambers February 14, 2017, 1:34 pm

    Unfortunately for me at this time in my life I am lacking that sisterhood. The women that are currently in my life have so much going on that there isn’t room for anything else, let alone nurturing a sister-friend relationship. However, I have always attempted to have that connection with women and make close friendships but seem to always be shut down. Why? I believe because I take friendship very seriously and because I wasn’t raised by my parents and felt kinda out of place growing up, that my sincerity is kind of scary and people in this day and age don’t trust that. Anyway, I love to hear these stories and see that this type friendship and sisterhood is a reality and not a myth. Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU ALL!!

  • Mary Duncan February 14, 2017, 1:25 pm

    Sisterhood means absolutely everything to me at this point in my life. All my best friends are women, my employers are women, my performing partners are women, my piano teacher and mentor is a woman, my dog is female (!). They are the ones who see me, who encourage me, who really care about me and listen (and they aren’t try to fix me). They are the ones whose experience enriches me, who I go to for advice about my dog, my son, my feelings about finding a man, my worth. They are the ones who have been inspired by my growth, my gifts, my kindness, my openness and my generosity. Some are my biological sisters (3 of them) who love me and celebrate with me. All my SGs care for stability, for patience, for sobriety, for togetherness, for fun. I love my sisters. And I am a good Sister.
    The SWA has given and continues to give me strength and perspective. Love to you all!

  • Nicole Penick February 14, 2017, 11:55 am

    sisterhood is shelter when you are homeless
    sisterhood is late night dinners and laughter, cheap wine cause you are broke and secret eye contact when the kids are being kids -single mama knowingness
    sisterhood is full moon magic, longing, spells and an eclipse all rolled together around chocolate and truth
    sisterhood is love steady, constant, showing up over and over again

  • Sister Goddess Jeanne February 14, 2017, 11:45 am

    It’s great knowing that there is so many other women who are trying to Thrive in this word. And who are joining together to work with each other to support and to give us new ideas on how to be happier and appreciate what we have.

  • Jen February 14, 2017, 11:38 am

    Perfect and oh so timely. I am starting a group for women where we can talk, connect and light each other up. I am calling these sacred meetings “Eva Chats” in honor of my angel baby who I lost almost eight years ago. Her name means life. And I want to inspire women to truly live their lives. We are creators and more powerful than we can imagine, especially when we boost each other up. I want to be this role model for my living babies, my boys, and my husband! I also started a group on faceook last yearcalled “Lift Her Higher” where women are encouraged to inspire one another instead of tearing each other down. Join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/LiftHerUpHigher/ Happy valentine’s day ladies!

  • Elisabeth February 14, 2017, 11:25 am

    Thank-you! I needed the encouragement from a sister today. I needed to be reminded of why I need to keep going despite the obstacles and fears. I’m with you!

  • Dana February 14, 2017, 11:18 am

    When Trump was elected in October, I started a women’s group (basically, eight friends) to discuss how we were feeling, and stay connected to what’s happening in politics so we could take action. Together.
    What I realized as that I wanted a women’s group to take action with in our lives. I didn’t realize how much personal connection was involved with that action I want, until I came to your intensive weekend in January.

    And what I want for my sister Goddesses (who have no idea what a ‘sister Goddess’ is) is for my wonderful friends to move through the crippling fear they have of loving someone after a bad breakup, or stop giving all of their sexual power to the random men they have sex with, or find real love in their lives, or find the job of their dreams, or just see that we have so much more we can dream of. I want a group that can discuss these things, and bring it into the forefront of their consciousness.

    So we started reading Pussy together. I bought craft paper for the group to cover it like a text book so they can comfortably read it on a subway ride or on a lunch break. I take it out on the train all of the time. Baby steps.

  • SG STILETTO YOGA aka Amy Elias February 14, 2017, 11:11 am

    Sisterhood is the reflection I see in the heart of the other. It is the glow from a halo of regality from deep self honor. Sisterhood is the topography we feel as we breathe the Divine in and return this life force back out. Sisterhood is the cocooning we revel in when we forget our brilliance. Sisterhood is an evolving design of technology that connects generations of bubbling frothy aspirations to this present moment where we can sip on one another’s greatness- Just. As. We. Are. Happy Valentine’s Day sister goddesses.

  • Annette February 14, 2017, 10:58 am

    SWA sisterhood means everything to me! My sisters love me upside, downside, left side and right side. There are no words… seriously. We are magic when we’re together and we inspire magic when we’re apart. And it doesn’t matter if we haven’t see each other in 5 minutes or 5 months, when we see each other we see, recognize and remember the beauty of our spirits and our souls. Our sisterhood goes deep.

  • Gayla Drake February 14, 2017, 10:51 am

    My soul-sister, soul-twin Laura is the sunshine to my moonshine. She has given me so much in a short space of time. We’ve known each other (in THIS life) less than a year, but it feels like we’ve always been part of each other. We cheer each other on, and cheer each other up, and everything is better and more fun when we are together. I’ve never had a girlfriend like her before, and I treasure every minute of my time with her. I’m so grateful to have her in my life. May all of the sisters in the world find their own Laura!