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Sisterhood to the Rescue

Darlings,

So, next week, my daughter Maggie leaves for camp. It’s a big deal, leaving for camp.  She and I won’t be together for 7 weeks, except for one visiting day. And guess when her departure is? Yup. You guessed it. It is the morning of the Graduation of Mastery 2013. I have to be on site at 7:30 a.m., and Maggie leaves for camp at 8:30. Meaning, I will not get to send her off. Meaning, my wee one will have no tearful goodbyes, no one waving her off. Disappointing. Heartbreaking. For both of us.

Until, Sisterhood to the rescue.

My best chum Lyddie, from college, who is a full-fledged Sister Goddess, heard my difficult spot and had so much compassion for me and Maggie, that she offered to drive in from the Berkshires, pick Maggie up, and take her to camp. Better still, she offered to take my Mom, too, so Maggie would have her Grandma there. We are so covered. I was so touched, blown away, and filled with gratitude, tears poured down my face. To be that loved, that supported, that stood for. Sisterhood.

This weekend, I watched another outpouring of Sisterhood, as two women from my Creation Course organized a full-on party to celebrate the completion of the course, with a DJ, live performance art, personalized custom-designed roasts and ceremonies, vegan food, partying nonstop til 3 a.m. The love and attention that they have for and with one another is like nothing I have ever seen or experienced. Each woman’s contribution was seen and celebrated.

Sisterhood.
Sisterliness.
What does that mean exactly?

It means we turn out for each other’s charitable endeavors. We open our homes for travelling Sister Goddesses, no matter where we are in the world. If a Sister is having a bad day, a heartbreak, a health crisis, we rally. We stand. She is not alone. We are not alone.

It means that the country—the world—is loaded with women who can be counted on to laugh their panties off with one another. Women who can cry with wild abandon in each other’s arms, share their outrageous dreams, encourage and expand the dreams of one another. Women who insist on each other’s beauty, passion, and full-throttle joy.

In a world where light, passion, desire, outrageousness, and pleasure are not understood or revered, there exists an ever-expanding community of women who value all of the aspects of womanhood—both in themselves and in each other.

Why does this thrill me to my tiny toes?

Because for the last 5,000 years or so, women have woven their sense of community with one another by sharing their problems, their complaints, their suffering, their disappointments, their betrayals. There is no woman alive who does not have a story of profound abuse, of being misunderstood, ignored, or overlooked.

The triumph here, in this, the State of the Pleasure Revolution Address, is that there is an ever-expanding culture of women whose experience of joy has overtaken their experience of sorrow. Whose experience of community has overtaken their sense of isolation.  Whose experience of the celebration of the opportunity of being a woman has overtaken and transformed her personal tragedy.

Sisterhood.
Sisterliness.

I am filled with such deep gratitude to have lived to see the community of women redefining itself in my lifetime. Realigning a woman through the experience of pleasure changes everything. The way she loves her children, her husband, her girlfriends, the privilege of living her life. Why? Because in a community of deep, rich multi-dimensional relationships with women, if your Mama is not present for you, there is a Sister who gives you some “mama.” If the love of your life has not appeared yet, there are so many flavors of Sisterly love and affection to keep you sleek and shining with appreciation and fun as you move towards finding partnership. When a deep crisis occurs, it is your Sisters who hold you up and keep you close while you find your footing again.

Sisterhood centers us.  Reminds us of who we are, teaches us so that we can locate our joy no matter what the circumstances, takes us back to ourselves as source, when we have blown off course and given our power away.  It means that no matter the legacy of our childhood, the circumstances of our relationships, who our mother was, our husband, our boyfriend, our job, or lack of job, we are each pure, raw potential, capable of replanting ourselves in the fertile soil of Sisterhood, and reinventing ourselves, surrounded by love.  I am so filled with gratitude to you for supporting and participating in the growth of this Revolutionary Community. A Revolution of Sisterhood, sourced by love, joy, and the Divine Feminine.

Got a Sister you’d like to shout out here, someone you’d like to share gratitude for? Celebrate her here by leaving her a love note here in the blog comments.

And if you’ve got a woman in your life that you know could use a Sister (or 1,000s of sisters), pass this blog along to her.

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

photos: lizlinder.com

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  • Flamingo Flame M June 20, 2013, 5:11 am

    Dear Sisters from far far away,

    I need a kick in the new direction and I’m seeking it now from you.

    I, 30 now and it’s been 6 years since I’ve had to face some serious health issues and diagnosis and though I have made peace with most of it now I feel like I havent had Sisters in my life at that time to ask me “how are you ” regarding my bla and bla. Im trying to understand that people get scared, and that there were giving their support in the best possible way, but I dont want to settle. There was always fun and laughter, but never ever EVER EVER addressing The issue of what was going on with me and they new the story. I walked through this period with a smile on my face just like my friends, ignoring the fact that I was broken apart both physically and mentally. And sometimes saying to myself that I’m selfish and self absorbed, that they have their own lives, and so on, and even giving them support while I was desperate for help. I,am healthy now 🙂
    however I feel deep disappointment that I cant shake off. Resentment and feel all my energy been depleted.

    I’m reaching out to you Sisters I have never met to encourage me to believe that it is possible to find consolation, a shoulder to cry on, and that I deserve to be recognized in my joy as well as in my pain.
    Thank you!
    Much love from M.

    • Mama Gena June 24, 2013, 11:16 am

      SG Flamingo Flame-
      First of all so glad to hear you are healthy (physically).
      as for the disappointment and resentment you’re carrying- it’s time to honor those feelings sister. A woman needs to own her darkside as well as her light and strength.
      Check out my blog about it here: http://www.mamagenas.com/partying-with-your-inner-bitch/

      As for the sisterhood- oh it’s soooooooooooo available to you my sweet. Sisterhood is at the core of the School of Womanly Arts. You deserve to be recognized in your joy and pain. You need to believe that it’s ok to be sad, angry, frustrated, depleted, all of it. Every facet of a woman is good. We’ve never been taught that. You’ve never been taught that.
      Check out SG Elvira’s story in this video: http://www.mamagenas.com/someone-i-want-you-to-meet/

      We’re ready for you SG Flamingo Flame!
      Arms wide open….

      • Flamingo Flame M July 2, 2013, 9:15 am

        Thank you Mama Gena!
        Love and blessings,
        M

  • Kiria Vandekamp June 19, 2013, 1:48 am

    Dear Sisters,

    even though I haven´t yet been able to participate in any of Mama´s programs I see me as a part of this sisterhood community and the worldwide sisterhood. I love your work, Mama. I think you´re so right on!
    I have been living sisterhood since 1997, where we started our sisterhood circle “The red Roots” here in the Blackforest, Germany. It was inspired through our spiritual path at that time, which encouraged sisterhood very much and had lots of women´s teachings. Since then we have shared lots of joy and tears, visions and failures, good times and hard times, celebrated beautiful wedding ceremonies, birthed babies, said good-bye to a sister dying of cancer, celebrated first blood initiation ceremonies for our daughters and crone ceremonies for those who entered menopause, celebrated the seasons, shared our knowledge and wisdom…. I love these 8 women. They give me thrength from behind, even when we are not together. I left this circle for 2 yrs. once, because I had moved away and only after that I noticed how strong the power of this circle was for me. And I really missed it. So now I rather drive 3 hrs back and forth to be at our gatherings every 4-6 wks than not to be part of this wonderful circle.
    Sisterhood rocks!
    Sending love to all of you sisters!
    Kiria

    • little jo July 20, 2013, 3:24 pm

      way to go, I wish I’d had S.G.’s around here…

  • Deborah Smith June 19, 2013, 12:23 am

    Yay MG on such a beautiful solution for getting your one and only to camp! So sweet.
    Thank you also for this opportunity. When you posted that we should write a letter to an SG that might be shared at graduation I thought, but there are so many. I cannot just do one!
    To BSG Warrior for being on me every day to SC.
    For BlissNAloha, Delicious Diva Denis, Dancing Jenny and Peli for showing up that very first Thursday night in Miami and continue with me all the way to here.
    For Rockstar: from the opportunity to offer a new piece of clothing when she was up on that Miami stage to her unwavering commitment to our tango ensemble.
    To RedChili for her total support and help with the tango ensemble.
    For Rising Lotus for her power to stand in her truth and being such an awesome 1st SB.
    For Mel for her free phone consult.
    For Dancing Tiger and Laurie’s requests to teach them tango.
    For SBs Johanna and Anne.
    For my “Homie” SG Kathleen who has stood by me through this, been a mirror marking my change, will be in VPBC this Fall and will join us in Miami!
    To BSG Paula for our lovely lodgings last month.
    To Fierce Grace, Naughty Angel, Badass Nadase, Lusciously Loving My Lavish Life Candace, Karla, Shadae (sp?) and Alicia for your presence, support and basic awesomeness.
    To our amazing PRs for their wonderful guidance.
    To the Palace staff and volunteers fro making such huge weekends work and feathering me every time we come in to a session.
    To each and every SG in “our” room for all the powerful transparency and love you have allowed me to see, feel and bask in.
    To Mam(Re)Gena: I came to be healed and I am!
    To my BSG daughter SG Kathleen aka High Heeled Queen for more than I can list: without her I would not be here now!!!
    Because of all of you I stand on the edge of a new and MOST WONDROUS life!
    xxx

  • BSG Glitzy Cougar Karen June 19, 2013, 12:16 am

    I started this course to open my heart to men, since it had been shut for so long. Through this beautiful process (and Regena’s nudging), that has been happening. But what surprised me most is the sisterhood. I wrote and performed my solo show, Hot Mama Mahatma, during my first year in Mastery. Hardly anyone knew me, and yet they showed up in droves and I could FEEL the love pour from that audience.

    And they have filled me ever since. It is the first community EVER that I felt a part of…that I wanted to be a part of. And it’s why I brought my adorable daughter, Lauren, into it. The support is palpable as we all shoot up like, “Tall Poppies”…and if you want to know that story, you’ll have to talk to adorable SG Elizabeth Johnson, my daughter’s partner.

    Much love to you all, my beloved sisters…may we take this revolution to the far corners of the earth.
    xo
    Glitzy

    • joan June 21, 2013, 11:53 am

      You have been such an inspiration to me. I loved spending time with you during Playing Ground courses, and I love, love, love your fabulous daughter. Thanks for being you in all your glory.

  • Denis Karda June 18, 2013, 1:50 pm

    To SG Blissn’ Aloha, to your transparency and gentle loving enlightenment that you kindly offered as I created negative emotions between us. What a safe and loving environment to learn and explore this together. To ask for forgiveness and to know that all has been resolved with no guilt or reservations.
    To SG Miriam for reaching out to me in your darkest of dark times. For spontaneously joining me for a lunchtime walk with less than an hours notice. (Of which I was acting out our Daily Fluff)
    To SG Tru Angel for gathering us together like lost souls after VPBC at our first World Wide Sister Goddess Weekend.
    To SG Victoria for SC about being small and allowing me to step out into the glorious being that I truly am
    To SG Peggy, who spontaneously came to visit me at my Florida home, pleasurably SC and then delightfully and ever so slowly dined on strawberries and whip cream
    To SG Swandala for all the SC especially when I lost my husband and was is such a tither
    To SG Kathleen for blessing me with such beautiful music
    To SG Katheryn who mailed me a beautiful sympathy card after my girlfriend hung herself and I dove so deeply into the swamp
    To SG Karmic Kitty, Michelle, who has stood by me weekly, listened to my deepest fears, chatted about men, life, choices, OMing, courtesan journey, Biff crawling, YESing, talent show, My goddessess this list is so long.

    AND there are so many others to share. Joan, Joanne, Candice, Alice, Alice, Deb, Oh I’m embarassing myself as I should just say everyone of the women in VPBC and particularly MASTRY 2013. We were all bound together as a sacred tribe after experiencing the things we shared, listened to and witnessed. Bliss-cipline, HipHop, get rid of my flabby ASK. Focus found through engagement not thought. My PUSSY !!! yes my pussy education. You were all part of this and much much more. Thanks to all of my dear sister goddesses.

  • Kerrie Blazek | Pleasure Catalyst June 18, 2013, 11:52 am

    For a disenfranchised only-child to find Sisterhood is like a dream come true. Everything I’ve always earned for in my life has been found in the warm, comforting embrace of my sisters. The love, support, understanding, and witnessing — beyond compare!

    I am forever grateful to Regena for creating the SWA. My life is changed, completely!

    Since 2011 Mastery, I quit my job in public education and have traveled the country for 23 months. I had the supreme pleasure of being invited into numerous SGs homes. I’ve leaned into their support when times got hard (my mom died March 2012) and was able to honor all facets of my emotions. I’ve celebrated, danced, cried, stormed, and performed all under their watchful gaze. Thank you lovely SGs — who remain nameless here, yet whose initials are forever etched on my heart.

    And NOW, I’m living with my best friend — the beloved SG Hillary Lake. My “That’s Right!” partner from Mastery.

    Honestly: the better it gets, the better it gets!!!

    Thanks for showing me the way, Mama — xoxo

    • little jo July 20, 2013, 3:16 pm

      can’t wait to experience the same…

  • SG Lucinda June 18, 2013, 11:28 am

    Reading this wonderful reminder instantly brought tears to me, each one melting away a bit more of my resistance and sparking my desires.
    I truly am grateful for all Sister Goddesses and want to express gratitude for my courageous study buddy SG Michelle. I am so blessed to have found her in line the first day in NYC ! She has encountered so much unexpected life events during Mastery and we have been able to adjust our time together and be available to share the journey. Thank you for being so strong SG Michelle XO

  • SG Alexandra Pearl June 18, 2013, 10:19 am

    Hello,
    I am a current Mastery student and I just wanted to give a shout out to my lovely fellow student SG Sparkling Fiesta. When I started Mastery I agreed to host some out of town SGs and she was the first person who posted on the message board, so I wrote to her. I was a little nervous about hosting a total stranger but the GPS was on my side when I got her as my guest. She is the most amazing goddess! She has the most infectious and wonderful personality and has helped me so much to focus on my pleasure. The first Mastery Weekend we had so much fun shopping for bath scents and jewelry and just talking about our lives. She encouraged me to SC from the beginning and to use the tools, which was a major act of SG Activism. I had surgery two months ago and she made sure to check in with me, sending texts and calling, to make sure I had an SG there to support me. Thank you SG Sparkling Fiesta for being there for me and for getting me involved in the Mama Gena community right away! I am so grateful.

    • SG Sparkling Fiesta June 19, 2013, 11:30 pm

      Thank you, SG Alexandra Pearl. Your kindness and hospitality have meant so very much to me. Love how the GPS matched the two of us together. Watching the both of us unfold and develop during these past few months has been a breathtaking and life changing experience. #iheartyou so very mucho!

      • little jo July 20, 2013, 3:13 pm

        inspiring story… I hope to find a S.G. doing Mastery who’d like to host me, I’m living in Europe and wouldn’t want to fly back and forth even if I could afford it…

    • SG C'mere Kitty June 25, 2013, 10:38 am

      Mmmmmmmmmm 😉

  • SG Ninna June 18, 2013, 10:00 am

    I feel like a broken record in my acknowledgements and gratitude for the Sister Goddesses, BSGs, Pleasure Team and Mama Gena…but the gratitudes are so true! I must give particular recognition to SG Dancing Dark Angel (Kay) for offering to take care of me after injuring my ankle. She not only picked me up, but dropped me off – easily an almost 2 hour round trip. We had plans for this past weekend for over a month and she didn’t let me miss one part of it. I could have easily been stuck in my 5th floor walk up apartment! Instead, she let me stay in her guest bedroom that overlooked her backyard of beautiful green trees. We cojo’d. We went out dinner with SG Amie and SG Joan Champion of Pleasure. We attended a fascinating workshop. We relaxed on lounge chairs reading magazines by the pool. While she nourished me with homemade banana chocolate oatmeal muffins, mocha, fresh salads, fish tacos, and the best guacamole, I really attribute the healing of my ankle to her loving, caring, and compassionate spirit. Our conversations and our time together with SG Amie and SG Joan Champion of Pleasure only magnified the healing. They helped fulfill my desires to be healed and to enjoy the weekend regardless of my injury. I also, want to thank my cousin, Margaux, for helping me clean and prepare my apartment for the SGs staying with me this weekend. She is a Sister Goddess. Sisterhood to the rescue, indeed!
    When the doctor tells me on Wednesday, I’m healed, I will smile and gladly tell him, “Thank you, it’s true!”

    • SG C'mere Kitty June 25, 2013, 10:36 am

      Mmmmm, what delicious buffet of gratitude!! Thank you. I look forward to feeling your “yes, it’s true!” vibe on Wednesday!

  • joan June 18, 2013, 9:39 am

    I thank all the SGs I met before I took Mastery for showing me what sisterhood could be like. These goddesses include Mary Campbell Case, Joanne Porzio, Wendy Saxe, Karen and Lauren Abrami, Jaq, Dame Lori and all the others in the Playing Ground classes. Thank you for modeling for me what is possible using the SWA tools. Now I thank all the SG I’ve met in current Mastery for their love and support, especially Kay, Amie, Ninna, Roberta, Debra, Lucy, Alexandra, and Tina, Victoria and on and on…… I want to meet more of you and spend time in pleasure together. Love to all of you sisters on the path to pleasure.

  • Cornelia June 18, 2013, 9:36 am

    How fantastic! A sister mother road trip to camp. Song-list?

    There are so many fantastic SG’s I’d write particular love letters to, where do I even begin? So I’ll simply say, to all my outrageously wonderful Sisters, thank you forever. Just knowing there are beauties like you in the world gives me peace, joy and loads and loads of rockin’ happiness and inspiration!!!

    • Court MC June 18, 2013, 1:10 pm

      You are a joy to play with, and thanks for bringing us along on your fabulous journey!

  • SG Quiksilver Sizzle Lara June 18, 2013, 9:15 am

    All my SGs, BSGs and Palace Staff : Thank you for all of you who were in that room. Thank you for reading my posts and laughing when I made jokes and for holding my hand when I needed you to.Thank you for letting me help you when you needed it and for showing me that I am bigger with you and better with you. Thank you for letting me feel important and adored and know that I need more and more of that and the fastest way to conjure and receive it is to give it back to you. I could not be on the road to the “ME” I have always dreamed of without all of you.

    • SG Ninna June 18, 2013, 9:21 am

      My sentiments exactly!

      • SG Alexandra Pearl June 18, 2013, 10:21 am

        Agreed! SGs Lauren and SG Sparkling Seraphim (Melinda) have been amazing as Pleasure Revolutionaries and I so appreciate their holding space for us and all our questions!

    • SG C'mere Kitty June 25, 2013, 10:40 am

      Me, three!

  • Hedonia June 18, 2013, 9:12 am

    Mama,

    I lovingly refer to them as My Beloved Sister Goddesses, The Miracles of 4 (our pod number, Mastery Spring 2009): Debbie, Gail, Dianne, Sigi, Kate, Mireille, Siobhan, Susan, and our Big – Jules. Mastery changed me completely and all for the better. And these women witnessed it, participated in it, and helped make it happen. Forever and for always they reside in a special place in my heart, loved and cherished. I think of them often and am filled with so much appreciation that the GPS put us together.

    With much love and appreciation.
    In pleasure,
    Hedonia

    • Susan thornton June 18, 2013, 10:44 am

      Dearest Beloved Sister Goddess Hedonia,

      Well said – as you have always been spectacular with putting thoughts and feelings into words that bring the emotions through. I am so grateful as well for the opportunity to experience Mastery & Inner Circle. For the amazing group of women who supported me and those that I continue to connect with – SG Linda, Alison, Maddy…….and so many more who have touched my life. I’m soaring and it all started back in 2009 when I signed up for Mastery. Deeply grateful to all of you……sending lots of love and light.

  • Court MC June 18, 2013, 9:00 am

    Along with the courses I took over 10 years ago, I am forever grateful for the gorgeous collection of sister goddesses who continue to grace my life with their presence, joy, support, and flavors of crazy at times. We spring clean, brag and most if all love one another for the sheer brilliance and magic that we are. Much love to Sg Maria of Hawaii, Sg Alina, Court Melodious Minx, court Succulent Sensation, Sg Mandy, Sg Monick, Sg Cornelia, Sg Astrolick, court Flame of Ecstasy, Sg Jackie, SG Linda, Sg Dorene, Court BonBon, Sg Laura, SG Marianne, and all the pussilicious women who have adorned my path

    • Cornelia June 18, 2013, 9:39 am

      Wickedly back atcha Court MC!!!! xoxoxoxo