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The Freeway to Freedom In One Well-Placed Hex


Okay, picture this:

A group of 70 women, coming to Inner Circle, ready to out-loud celebrate whatever plugs them in, the most, about themselves!

Whoo hoo!

Now, that is my kind of party!

The freeway to freedom in one well-placed hex.

And each of us gets to write our own ticket outta Dodge.

The ripples of ownership, power, love, and laughter are still rippling across Inner Circle.

We get to play deep and intimate in this small group.

In honor of Inner Circle, what is your greatest hex? (If you need some inspiration, check out the “Born This Way” episode of Glee.)

What would YOU write on your t-shirt if you were celebrating the part of yourself that shames you the most?

What would happen if you wore it loud and proud, today?

Let me know right here, right now, and let’s celebrate that side of YOU!!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

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  • Krisin October 29, 2011, 12:38 pm

    Fear that I will always be alone. Fear that I don’t really want to be with my family of origin anyway. Fear that I will be rejected and abandoned for telling the truth, for being powerful, for being too smart and too perceptive. Fear that I will never heal the wounds from the past and that they are getting in the way of me being functional and happy today. Fear that I can’t let go of possessions and things connected to my family. Fear I will be alone during the holidays. Fear that I will be alone on my birthday. Fear I will never have a healthy loving relationship. Fear I will never be the successful artist I have almost become or fear that I will be too lazy or get too freaked out or it will be too painful to step up to that line and do the work to make it happen.

  • Kelly July 26, 2011, 7:06 pm

    I guess if I were to put a word hex on my shirt it would say FEAR OF FAILURE and FEAR OF SUCCESS – wait is that an oxymoron or something?! Anyways, go sisters!

  • Ti July 25, 2011, 3:05 pm

    ALL TALK and SHALLOW would be my hex words. Hmmmm…perhaps I’ll write them on the inside of my bra, where my delicious flesh can erase them.

  • SG Ssanyu July 25, 2011, 7:24 am

    My shirt would hold “Deep Shame”. Shame for never even trying. Shame for hiding my gifts so well from the world. Shame for envying what others have created even though I haven’t been willing to do the inner or outer work to achieve the same thing. Shame for banging my head against the wall over and over again without changing.Shame for misery that I have managed to create all by myself. But most of all, shame for becoming the one thing I always hoped I wouldn’t: jaded.

  • SG Maya the Great July 24, 2011, 9:12 pm

    My greatest hex is that I will never be able to access or understand my deepest passions and talents and share them with the world. Tha part of me that shames me the most is that I am lonely in my heart of hearts. Thank you so much for sharing this. I was so curious about what this hexing was all about! Now I know…

  • Ann aka Notorious July 21, 2011, 6:18 pm

    My deepest shame is that I am so unbelievably brilliant and talented and gifted AND have received so many blessings, advantages, and privileges in my life but I’m barely skimming the surface of my potential to create, and to contribute to the world. And my greatest fear is that I will get to the end of my life and not have fulfilled my potential.

  • Kristy July 20, 2011, 2:57 pm

    I fear failing at what I love most, so I don’t try.
    I fear I don’t belong, so I hang back.
    I fear being fundamentally flawed, so I workworkwork to be perfecf.
    I fear being terminally an assholebitch, so I do too much for other people to make up for it.
    I fear relapse, so I am obsessive and tight about my recovery.
    I fear not having enough money, so I grasp at the feeling of having by spending too much.
    I fear not getting what i desire, so I either rage or feel sorry for myself and feel cut off from the flow of goodness.

    I desire to release all these obstacles of thought by seeing the sacred gifts they bring with them! Thank you, Mama, for this amazing exercise in connection through our darkness!
    xo to all my Sistahs!!
    Kristy aka Honey Rider

  • Mama Gena July 20, 2011, 11:56 am

    way to party with your fear, sisters!! i want to thank you for your courage and willingness to expose your shame, your fears, your hexes. fear often acts like an internal marker to your own magnificence. once you learn to twirl with it, you become unstoppable

  • Veronica July 20, 2011, 10:51 am

    I fear my insecurities of fitting in,

    I desire so much to just enjoy the things I enjoy and explore different things so that I may enjoy them, do things I love without worrying if other people will judge me for it.

    I just wanna have fun with this amazing being that is me

  • Katherine July 20, 2011, 10:45 am

    “you’re really pretty selfish, you know”

  • SG Rorie July 20, 2011, 10:15 am

    I fear not BEING ENOUGH.

    I desire to BE ENOUGH AND SO MUCH MORE for ME!

    And all other illusions fall away.

    Keep ROCKING IT SG’s! Thank you for your courage to post so that it nudged me to post.


    Love SG R:)

  • SG Katrina July 20, 2011, 6:27 am

    I fear that I’m living the life other expect of me. Like my mother and my friends wants to take decisions for me.
    I fear I’m not finding my life purpose and that my education and career doesn’t make me happy.
    I fear not taking a stand for my self, and telling people what I really want.
    That I pleases everyone else and not myself.
    I fear that I’m not shining or capable of giving my kids happiness and joy in life, because I’v learned that life is suppose to be hard work.
    I’m afraid of having a deep and truly relationship with a man.

    I’m glad you made me think about this issues, then I can do something to change and go true my fears.

    Love you Mamagena

  • SG Meg July 20, 2011, 1:52 am

    I fear that others will realize that I’m faking my way through the world … that I don’t know what I desire, that I don’t know what I am passionate about, that I’m truthfully just a boring, ordinary woman lost in the everyday struggle of life.
    I fear making the wrong choices.
    I fear not being good enough.
    I fear that I don’t belong.
    I fear that I’m not lovable or beautiful.

  • Michelle Medina July 20, 2011, 12:16 am

    I fear that when I finally realize the exacting toll my Tessier Cleft *birthdefect* has taken on me, the 66 surgeries, with more to come, the realization of how I’ve disconnected from my body and myself to deal with said surgeries, the fact that I desire more then anything to give birth but my child may be sentenced to not my life but one that is worse then mine *a 1/4 chance of having my birthdefect, plus being deaf and mentally disabled*, and then forcing myself to come back into my body and reconnect with myself, and not knowing if all the surgical work will hold out or if it will all fail me someday and I’ll die anyway, I fear that I can’t handle it all and if I don’t live long enough to reach my desires then what was the point of living at all. Thing is, I only know of two other people who are older, like me with my cleft. Stats say between 10-20 people have it, but are the rest dead or what? And noone knows that, so noone can tell me. With cancer they’ve done studies and can give prognoses, and the like. With me, I’m just suspended, hanging, not knowing if I’ll live to be 90 or if the surgical work will fail me and I’ll die at 40 or 30. I’m not afraid of death, I’m fine with that. I’m afraid of what my family and friends and the people I desire so ardently to help will do without me. I feel confident in where I’m going/what will happen to me. I’m only afraid for the people I’ll be leaving behind.

  • SG Sandy July 19, 2011, 11:07 pm

    I fear that I will be abandoned, alone, unloved and poor.

    I fear that I am at my core boring, will never know my true purpose and passion in life and that I will never fulfill my true calling so that my life will be a waste.

    i am afraid that I desire too little.

  • SG Tina July 19, 2011, 8:09 pm

    I fear TAKING A STAND, TAKING ACTION, SETTLING, MAKING THE WRONG CHOICE, AND MAKING A MISTAKE. thus, I do NOTHING. Oh yeah, I also fear taking responsibility and showing up as a WOMAN (not a girl). I fear confrontation and disappointing others. I fear being rejected and excluded. I fear really having what I want. I fear being vulnerable and intimate. Wow, Regena thanks for giving us the chance to get this out!!! Can’t wait to make some T shirts!!!

  • SG Lucky Girl July 19, 2011, 7:13 pm

    My tshirt would say – SCARED PUSSY
    – wow Sacred in Scared
    looking forward to finding the Sacred in Scared on the Freeway to Freedom.

  • SG Norma July 19, 2011, 6:26 pm

    I fear failure. I fear that I really don’t know what it is that I want or what will make me happy beyond belief. I fear disappointing others to the point that I often disappoint myself.

  • sg inna July 19, 2011, 5:12 pm

    i feel like there is a flaw in me that separates me from all the great people, like there is something wrong with me!

  • SG Rachel July 19, 2011, 4:07 pm

    I’m ashamed and don’t want people to know that much of the time I feel like I don’t matter.
    I’m scared and I hide.
    I hide by laying in bed a lot.
    I hide by being quiet. Sometimes I just mentally and emotionally check out.
    I hide in the relationship I’m in now and mostly ignore all other areas of my life.

    I want to stop it. I am afraid I won’t figure out how.

    My greatest fear is that I will not have the courage to build the life I want.

    SG Rachel in Oklahoma

  • Becky July 19, 2011, 2:03 pm

    I’m afraid that if I do my own thing, what ever that is,
    my family will fall away from me.
    And I’m afraid I don’t really know how to take care of
    myself. never really had to till now, and I’m afraid I’m
    Not doing it very well.
    SG Becky from Oregon

  • Barbara July 19, 2011, 12:47 pm

    As I clean out closets and my garage today, I am afraid of letting go of my past. Letting go of my family that is not supportive in the way I need. Letting go of friends that I have a long history with – but whom hold me back now. Letting go of friends who are envious of me. Letting go of my previous picture of myself, and accepting that the current and future pictures are more real and make me happier that what I thought I wanted. It would seem that there is such advantage in letting go of these things, that it wouldn’t be a struggle – but it is still so hard.

    Thanks for asking.

  • Jenna July 19, 2011, 12:28 pm

    I fear as I step out into my spotlight that I will be seen as a fraud, that I will be too vulnerable, that I will push people away, that I won’t know enough, that people will be lit up by me and then I won’t be able to follow though for them. I fear being a hypocrite. I fear being seen as greedy. I fear being judged. I fear that as I live into my dreams they are too small, that I can’t live the life I was meant to live, I fear I will freak out and bail after all the courage of working to put myself out there. I fear my big huge mistakes that I have yet to make.

    OH, that was necessary today!! Thank you!

  • Heather July 19, 2011, 12:06 pm

    I undervalue myself. i am capable and deserving of so much more in my life, both personally and professionally.

  • Melody July 19, 2011, 11:47 am

    I fear that I will not be able to hold the greatness I am given and will shatter like a vase struck by lightening.

  • Andrea July 19, 2011, 11:23 am

    I guess what I would write on a t-shirt is “push-over”. I am ashamed that I fall all over myself to please others and never can identify what I want.

  • Rasa Lila July 19, 2011, 11:14 am

    I fear working my ass off and living in poverty the rest of my life. My son will feel ashamed of me because we are so poor and I have a doctorate degree and I couldn’t figure out how to make my career work. I am lost, don’t know who I am or what I’m really good at, maybe nothing. Maybe I have no use at all in this world.
    I’m a doctor and I have health problems and that’s not sexy. I’ll be single the rest of my life.
    How’s that?
    I feel better.

  • Compass Rose July 19, 2011, 11:05 am

    I fear, I fear, I fear
    the decision.
    any decision.

    I fear, I fear, I fear
    not being loved,
    when I stand for loving myself.

    I fear, I fear, I fear
    not feeling important
    not being important
    in the lives with whom I pull breath

    I fear, I fear, I fear
    the ache,
    the dull piercing ache

  • Cristina July 19, 2011, 11:01 am

    I fear I will not have the love and life I truly desire with all my heart, soul and being. I fear of a life without passion and purpose. I fear I will not find my way out of the darkness into the light…


  • Melanie July 19, 2011, 10:45 am

    FEAR. I fear CHANGE. I fear intimacy. I fear being alone. I fear being with other people. I fear taking a risk. And NOT taking one. I fear I’ll do the wrong thing, I fear I’ll do NOthing. I fear being stuck int the same place all my life, and I fear never getting fully grounded.

    I fear doing it all wrong, and even worse, the spotlight if I do it all RIGHT.

    Talk about HEXED, Mama! What’s a girl to do?!?!?!

    I think I’m RIPE for the Inner Circle!

    Thanks for shining alight on this today– what a brilliantnthing to wake up and start the day with.


  • BSG Suzi Banks Baum July 19, 2011, 10:41 am

    My greatest fear is that if I actually had enough time to do what I desire, the result would not be good enough.
    My greatest fear is that I am not as good as I want to be, as I think I am.

    And being the big woman I am, this would all fit on my LARGE t-shirt.
    Wearing it loud and proud today.

    Love and hugs, BSG S