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The Valentine’s Story You Have Been Longing For

Darlings,

Let me tell you about my mama.
As many of you know, my mama is my rock, my roots, and the loving arms wrapped around me always.
Actually, this description will ring true for every woman who has ever taken Mastery.
For the last few years, my mama has been “The Bubbe” at Mastery.
What’s a bubbe?
It is a Yiddish word for “grandmother.”
My mama came to Mastery, in the early days, and she kept asking what she could do to help.
Sitting around was not her style. She wanted to contribute to the incredible experience she was witnessing.
So I gave her a job.

She became not only my daughter’s bubbe, but the Bubbe of Mastery.
As women moved through the challenges of heart- and soul-opening transformation that they confronted in Mastery, my mama was there, to catch these women in her arms as they dissolved in tears, or needed a lap to sit on as they told their tales of woe or past trauma.

Bubbe is the grandmother you never had, the mama you need to lean on, the woman whose life experience teaches you–just by being near her–that yes, my sister, my daughter, my baby, my child, everything, yes, everything is going to be not only alright, but more than alright. You are going to get everything you want, and then some.

Life has passages.
And there is no force on earth more powerful than a woman’s desire.
That pure Bubbe force is what gets transmitted to every Mastery student, with a quick sit on her lap, or a hug in her huge, loving arms.
And now, Bubbe is proving the veracity of all she has held for thousands of women, over the years.

Bubbe has had a powerful desire.
She has longed for love and partnership and deep connection.
Bubbe desired a man.
Not just any man–but a great man.
A man she could share her life with, her dreams with, dance with, sing with, have fun with, and love deeply.
She has been a widow for 7 years, devoting herself to her work, which she loves, helping to raise her granddaughter, and supporting her daughter’s mission.

And this September, Bubbe’s desire came sailing into her harbor, sails billowing in the wind.
And his name is Ted.

Ted has been a friend of Bubbe’s for 20 years.
He lost his wife about 18 months ago.
And, as it happens in the world of the hale and healthy and hot octogenarian man, he has been mercilessly hit on by every widow in their huge apartment building, dating a different woman every night of the week and enjoying himself mightily.
Why?
Well, Ted is hot.
He is brilliant, accomplished, fun, funny, generous, loving, and loves to spoil a woman. That’s just Ted.
And something happened in September.

Bubbe decided that after the appropriate year of mourning was over, it was time for her to make her move.
Now, my mama has taught me everything I know about flirtation.
But she has spent the last 15 years honing and polishing her skills at the School of Womanly Arts.
And when she ran into Ted in the lobby, twice in one day, she told him if it happened again, he was going to have to take her to lunch.

It happened again.
And she went for it.
Bubbe hit him with the full-on practice of all of the Womanly Arts–that delicious, irresistible elixir that lets a man know exactly who you are, what you want, and how much you are enjoying every drop of his attention and presence. My mama allowed Ted to dive into her deepest yearning–and then, she would leave him just before he had enough of her, and carry on with her full and rich life.
Ted was hooked.
And so was my mama.

Now, whenever I call her, her voice has the sweet, bell-like tone of a delighted girl, the radiance of a woman, the deep gratification of a beloved who is truly, deeply met and loved.
Just last night, I called her to say hi.
What was she doing?
Ted was playing the piano, and they were singing the entire score of “The King and I” in order to practice before they went to the show the following night.
“You never know what will happen, Regena–and we need to be ready to go on,” he joked.
And I had myself a good cry.
Why?

If my mama could have invented the perfect man for her–it would be Ted.
He lives in the apartment right below her. (The GPS thinks of everything, no? :-))
He plays piano and sings show tunes.
He has a beautiful extended family that he is extremely close to.
He is a lawyer who does philanthropic work for the Jewish community.
They are together every day.
And he loves every drop of her.

So, on this Valentine’s Day, take this story, print it, fold it, place it on your altar, or press it to your heart.
Use it as a talisman to your destiny.
There is no dream too big, no desire too huge.
With perfect longing and perfect activism, everything you want is on its way towards you. As we say at Mastery, “Your timing is perfect and elegant. You are in exactly the right place, at the right time.”

Mastery is the laboratory designed to allow each and every desire, resting inside you, to elegantly unfurl. After last week’s off-the-charts Intro course (stay tuned later this week for the recap), we’ve had women enrolling in record-breaking numbers. To reserve your seat, call The Palace right away at 212-787-2411 x1 or click here to enroll online. If you wait, there may not be any spots left.

Bubbe used every single Womanly Art and every single Tool that she learned from her years at Mastery. She says they have become part of her every day, and every move, and she never could have attracted this man without them. She says that she owes this relationship to the Tools and Arts, which work flawlessly for a woman at any age.

Please pass this story along to any woman in your life who could use a reminder that she’s capable of creating anything she wants, at any age, just by virtue of being born a woman.

And give me your comments below on what Bubbe has meant to you, what this story ignited in you, and what your most deeply held Valentine’s dreams and desires are.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

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  • Allison Jensen February 25, 2012, 5:41 pm

    YEA Bubbe!!!

  • Vulvanica February 25, 2012, 4:22 pm

    This was soooo beautiful, I totally melted.
    I read it while drinking my favorite thing, warm chai — & by Goddess, this story was far better than the chai!!!
    Cheers to the Pleasure Revolution & to Beautiful Bubee!

  • Tara Dixon February 17, 2012, 9:06 pm

    LOVE is truly in the air…
    so happy for your mamma, you, Maggy and Ted and his family!
    xo t

  • Line Sander February 17, 2012, 8:28 am

    my goddess Bubbe, I am sitting here in denmark, having a good cry too, Mama Gena thank you so so much for writing and sharing this incredibly beautiful, inspiring story.
    I’ve been held by Bubbe at Mastery, and I remember her soft, clear, ever so wise eyes looking at me every time, the sweetest way, so I knew for real that everything was perfect and going to be alright.
    I am so grateful to be able to hear this story, and wish her and Ted a magical, loving, close beautiful and lasting long time together, so precious to read, thank you.
    SG Line

  • Kristen February 15, 2012, 9:14 pm

    How awesome is this! I’m ecstatic to be a part of this legacy. Thank you Bubbe. And thank you Mama G!

  • Charlene February 15, 2012, 3:46 pm

    Bebe/Bubbe is one hot mama! Thank you both for this wonderful love story. The King and I showtune scene will be perfect for “Mama Gena, The Musical”. Can’t wait to see it live.

  • Shar February 15, 2012, 2:20 pm

    there is no love story that i could be happier to read than this one — tears streaming — i love your mama so dearly and am beyond ecstatic to know that she has found a new and delicious love — and in such a goddessly and fun way, flirting into it like the feisty straight-shooting hot chick that she is! i’m picturing them singing ‘shall we dance’ as they waltz around the living room until they collapse in laughter.

    and i thank our suzi for articulating in such poetry so many of my feelings too — “Bubbe models a level of self care and style, a level of social grace and attention, and a certain kind of listening- I watch her eyes well up with tears or a smile begin on her lips and I know I am completely held by her. … Bubbe knows how to breathe in to the present moment….I LOVE BUBBE! And I want to sing with her and Ted. I love the King and I- what a great love story….Bubbe models grace to me and I am filled with gratitude for her in my life.”
    i couldn’t say these half as well, yet i feel them as much.

    thank you for the perfect val day post — joy, gratitude and driftwood! xo S

  • Prada Madonna February 14, 2012, 10:56 pm

    Blown away, Mama Gena….

  • Sister Goddess Annabel February 14, 2012, 10:09 pm

    Bubbe! How honored and privileged I was to acccompany Bubbe during Spring Mastery! She’s an inspiring Goddess, no question! And her infectious smile surely got through to this lucky beau, Ted. I think I detect a certain je ne sais quoi in his lips that probably blossom into a matching mischievous and fetching smile. I’ll be looking for the two of them on the streets of Manhattan, smiling and inspiring all who walk by! Spring has sprung! Oh goody goody!

  • Carla February 14, 2012, 7:01 pm

    Oh how gorgeous!! Singing the King and I!! Such joy! A King and a Goddess is a Divine combination! So inspired!! Happy Valentine’s Day Bubbe!! XO

  • Auroracle February 14, 2012, 6:12 pm

    This is so inspiring! I’m so happy for Bubbe & Ted! …& I’m totally taking notes on Bubbe’s brilliant conjure! Thank you sooo much for sharing this, it is the perfect Valentine sweet treat!

  • hotshot sg liz February 14, 2012, 5:41 pm

    so beautiful… i love this story, and who deserves it more than bubbe? perfect, elegant, hot!

  • Camilla Benedicte February 14, 2012, 4:53 pm

    I’m SO SO happy and thrilled for you Bubbe. I will always cherish how you were there for me during my Mastery… thank you. So much love and joy to the 2 of you
    xx SG Camilla

  • SG Ssanyu (Cheeky Lass) February 14, 2012, 4:11 pm

    Bubbe was my rock during Mastery 2009. She helped me feel centered in all my rawness and loved me where I was. I am so amazed by her strength. I mean, she’s the mama of Mama! That says so much. This story really touched me, having lost my relationship a month ago and still raw and grieving on this Valentine’s day. But I’m still brilliant since I have a date with 2 different new men today and tomorrow! Thanks for your inspiration Bubbe! I can’t wait to see you again.

  • Kate Lindsay February 14, 2012, 3:48 pm

    This story triumphs as one of the best love stories I have ever heard–in a fairytale or otherwise. It is timeless, ageless, and oh so beautiful! Thank you, Mama Gena, for sharing this with an open heart and to our Bubbe for her countless acts of anonymous good in this world for all of us sisters. You are both paving the way for so many women to awaken to the power of their desires! Thank you!

  • Nicole February 14, 2012, 3:20 pm

    Go Bebe! She was in my SG 101 class … back in the old days and she has been an inspiration for me ever since. So grounded and vibrant and beautiful. I feel warm all over and filled with happiness for her.

  • SG Foxy February 14, 2012, 3:17 pm

    Fantastic news! Congratulations, Bubbe!

  • Lena Gabrielsen February 14, 2012, 2:00 pm

    Yes!! Of course this would happen! I will never forget the gorgeous loving eyes of your mother.
    She told me she was so proud of you Regena and amazed at the sisterhood you are creating, as we graduates were putting each others’ phone numbers and email addresses into our phones, tiaras on, smiles on our faces and tears of gratitude in our eyes! LOVE~LOVE~LOVE

  • Aud February 14, 2012, 2:47 pm

    Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
    Doing a Victory Lap for Bubbe!!

  • SG Joëlle February 14, 2012, 1:15 pm

    Dreams DO come true – with the right tools fueled by our deepest desires! I am so posting this by my desk! Thanks you for sharing this great love story – there is some serious head rubbing that needs to be had. Thank you, Bubbe, for being such an inspiration to us all.
    xoxo

  • Sister Sea Goddess Christina February 14, 2012, 1:37 pm

    Yes Yes Yes to Bubbe finding her beloved.. She is my queen. Such an exquisite tale & inspiring beyond.
    i cant wait till Spring Mastery (round 3) to set sail once again out into that giant ocean of LOVE & sisterhood.

  • SGC Dame Deborah February 14, 2012, 1:04 pm

    So thrilled for you, and for Bebe! Way back in the 101 days when we became Sister Goddesses together, I saw she was wonderful. I was amazed by her willingness to open up and experience new things, and so thrilled to see you share your work with your mother. I birthed the desire to get my own mother turned on to her own fabulousness then, and I am still holding the space for the fun-lovin’ hottie inside of her. I know we will party together someday soon. I give thanks that there is someone fun there for your mother to find, who can appreciate her in all of her fabulousness, as we Goddesses deserve. There is so much love and fun to be had!! Rock on with your fabulous selves!! How wonderful to have your mother’s support and presence as you grow this community, and how wonderful for her to grow and unfold with the Sister Goddesses! Happy, Happy Valentine’s Day and every day, to you and your family. Much love,
    Debilicious

  • SG Abbey February 14, 2012, 12:29 pm

    I am full on bawling reading about Bubbe’s happiness. Her devotion to the Woman Arts is seeping through every pore of her loving body. This is a woman who IS LOVE. Bubbe – thank you for showing us all how to show up with devotion, faith and belief before what we desire appears.

    And Mama Gena, thank you for suggesting we carry this story with us because that is exactly what I’m going to do! So much LOVE!!

  • SG Lucky Girl February 14, 2012, 12:26 pm

    Woohoo Bubbe – way to rock the tools and show faith in your daughter and MANifest whaHAhat you desired – thaHAhank you for putting it into words SG Regena – a HAhaHAPPY Vday to all my SisterGoddesses today and every holyDay.

  • Nina February 14, 2012, 12:25 pm

    AAAAHHHHH!!! I am glowing just from reading this story.
    That is the testimonial of all testimonials!!!
    Mama Gena’s mama, rockin’ the tools and arts, and conjuring off the charts – YES!!!!
    What a gift from you, sharing this story with us. Thank you.
    xoxo
    N

  • Rochelle Schieck February 14, 2012, 12:22 pm

    The best Valentine’s Day story I have heard in a long time. Celebrating love for Bubbe and the love of love and you, Regena, for reminding us to love and enjoy our desires.

  • Karin February 14, 2012, 12:07 pm

    Just have the GooseBubbeBums allover! Thnx

  • SG Darline aka Fort Knox February 14, 2012, 11:55 am

    This story just thrilled me to no end! I hear so many women give up on life because they are a certain age-and often its a lot younger than Bubbe and Ted! I am so inspired by Bubbe. She had a desire and didn’t quit until she got what she wanted! If I recall from MG’s book, isn’t this the same woman that as a girl, wanted a doll and didn’t leave the store window until an unknown gentleman came by, saw her crying in desire and bought her the doll??? Yeah, that’s what I call a woman in tune with her desires and an expert in how to manifest them!! Bubbe, I wish you and Ted years of joyful songs and know that you truly inspire us all!! I just love this!

  • SG Tats February 14, 2012, 11:53 am

    I know what it’s like to be held by Bubbe. She changed my whole perspective on how I viewed my parents. This story is so big and beautiful, it hasn’t even sunk in yet! Soooo happy about the possibilities of perfect unfoldings in this world.

  • Lauren Abrami February 14, 2012, 11:42 am

    I got tears in my eyes reading this story and my heart feels like it is going to leap out of its chest with joy. Bubbe has been the rock for all of us as we journeyed through Mastery and to see her big loving soul meet it’s match in another is beyond perfect. Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Let your hearts love big and full today:)

  • S G Becky from Oregon February 14, 2012, 11:10 am

    Ah…
    So good.
    Timing, once again, prefect and elegant.

  • Lara Eisenberg February 14, 2012, 10:50 am

    I love this story! My Bubbe, who is no longer here with us, is the reason I’m going to mastery. I can’t wait to tell you the story:)

  • Song Siren Ruth February 14, 2012, 10:49 am

    I am so happy to read this on Valentines Day.
    I have full body chills.
    And of course, Bubbe knows how to receive Ted and his heart with all that she is. What a loving woman and equally bliss filled story.
    A toast to Love, to Nitric Oxide, for never giving up a desire and for Valentines Day!!!
    Love is all around,
    xoRu

  • Joanne Tombrakos February 14, 2012, 10:33 am

    So inspiring! Absolutely delicious!! And of course Ted is head over heels for Bebe….your mama is beyond irresistible!! Thanks for sharing this wonderful story!
    xxoo

  • Glitzy Cougar Karen February 14, 2012, 10:32 am

    Bubbe’s got a beau! How beautiful! And yummy. I savored the details of how she flirted, then left him wanting more, then drew him in with her desire and perfectly it has all unfolded…in her own apartment building:)

    I watch her hold space for all of the women in Mastery. I see the pride in her face as she watches her genius daughter lead women to their own unbinding. And she is living a life unbound.

    And singing the King and I together at the piano before going to see the show? What a lovely image.

    I am printing this to remind myself that my beloved is out there. And to every woman out there who is on the fence about Mastery. Do it. Do it now.

    And Bubbe…may I rub your head?

  • SG Boodacious February 14, 2012, 10:26 am

    Joyful and wonderful – the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for heart and soul! Thank you!

  • Suzi Banks Baum February 14, 2012, 10:23 am

    Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

    That’s my Bubbe! What a glorious life she creates every single day. Bubbe models a level of self care and style, a level of social grace and attention, and a certain kind of listening- I watch her eyes well up with tears or a smile begin on her lips and I know I am completely held by her.

    I celebrate Bebe and Ted.
    I stand for the power of love on this planet.
    I desire for men and women everywhere to rest in the perfection of their own timing.

    Bubbe knows how to breathe in to the present moment.
    Plus, she is an amazing artist and art lover and supporter of artists.

    I LOVE BUBBE! And I want to sing with her and Ted. I love the King and I- what a great love story.

    Bubbe models grace to me and I am filled with gratitude for her in my life.
    Always,
    and ever,
    S

  • Laju February 14, 2012, 10:20 am

    Love, love, love this! If BUBBE can suck in a hot OCTOGENARIAN then of course I can conjure my perfect Indian-HINDU man this year! Such an inspirational story!

  • Krista February 14, 2012, 10:14 am

    I can’t wait to come to Mastery next year! I am saving my money as we speak!! HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY EVERYONE!!!!

  • Luxurious Laurie February 14, 2012, 10:12 am

    Tears of joy are in my eyes.

  • Kate February 14, 2012, 10:10 am

    This story is so incredible! Yay Bebe/Bubbe! I’m so thrilled for you. This is the most beautiful conjuring story I’ve ever heard. The showtunes. The local proximity. The flirtation. The sheer perfection of it all. Thank you for sharing this Regena! I had a good cry reading it 🙂