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Top 5 Ways Women Blow It with Men and How to Triumph

Darlings,

First and foremost, to my sisters who love sisters: read “partner” when I write “men.”
I say “men” because it feels sassier to me.  But all this stuff works both ways; you can even pass it along to your gay guy friends.

Women, we are geniuses.  Brilliant.  Glorious. Powerful.
But if you want to bring a radiant powerhouse to her knees in no time flat, put her right dead across from a guy who she has a ginormous crush on. Or sit her next to her cell phone the day after a hot flirt and watch how many thousands of times she checks for messages.

Or watch what our married, glorious, genius powerhouse does when her well-meaning husband fails to remember her birthday. Or check out her response when she comes home from work, exhausted, to a messy house, no dinner, and her husband is sacked out on the sofa.

A CEO who runs her company with one hand tied behind her back, becomes utterly tongue-tied.
A world leader twitters and swoons like a tweenager at a Justin Bieber concert.
A perfectly reasonable social worker turns into a raging, nail-spitting shrew.
And many, many, many women feel so clueless they just pull themselves out of the game and sit on the sidelines, watching the rest of us make fools of ourselves.

And what you don’t know is this:  I wrote the Womanly Arts as a way of giving myself, and all women, a method to stay grounded and centered as we navigate the world of love, sex, and partnership–with the alien.

Because as soon as we give ourselves up and try with all our might to please our partner, the whole boat sinks.

Click here to listen to my audio guide to the top five ways women blow it with men and how to triumph:

Top 5 Ways Women Blow It with Men and How to Triumph

To recap, here are the top five ways women blow it with men:

1.  They try to stuff the guy into a husband suit way too fast
2.  They don’t tell him what they want, and expect him to read their minds
3.  They do not express their gratitude
4.  They expect him to turn them on, and they stop flirting
5.  They wait, rather than act

And here’s the Pleasure Revolution solution:

1.  Finding fun, no matter what
2.  Desire list
3.  Man-training cycle
4.  Flirtation
5.  Owning and Operating Men

Wanna really have your way with the world of men? Join us in Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp.

Let me know what you thought of this audio and whether or not it was helpful. I love getting your feedback. Be sure to leave a comment below!

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

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  • Lovely Rita August 27, 2011, 7:31 am

    Such timely reminders! I’m seeing a simply adorable man, who has been super at doing so many wonderful things for and with me-and I do praise and pet him for them-but he forgets to feed me breakfast one time and I’m devasted lol. Get over it, right!!! He has so many traits I have listed for my partner on my desire list-I celebrate every one of them. It’s obvious from the look in his eyes he is gaga over me, and I love it! I notice how much my flirting turns him on-a lot!
    Challenge/project for the weekend:having fun no matter there is a hurricane outside!
    Thank you Mama Gena!

  • Nelda August 26, 2011, 4:09 pm

    Gonna get my flirt on!! Any guy!??? ; )

  • Cyd Tanimura August 24, 2011, 8:20 pm

    Thank you Mama Gena. I was in a horribly down funk after dealing with my not-soon-enough ex and listening to your tips and just hearing your cheerful voice made me laugh and start feeling delicious again. Please send us more of these types of audio messages. Thank you for all that you do.

  • Michelle Medina August 24, 2011, 5:13 pm

    Thank you Mama G!!! I needed this!!! It is hot hot hot today and I am NOT in a flirting mood, I’m in a pissy mood! Thank you for reminding me that I can find the fun and flirt even in this HEAT!!!!

  • Melissa Misener August 24, 2011, 11:02 am

    MMMM I’m buzzing now! Thank you!

  • DesireGoddess August 24, 2011, 1:50 am

    Your post inspired me to write a new desire list about my guy and our relationship. My desires got much clearer.

    And then I bragged about my relationship and suddenly, life seemed so much brighter and more amazing than it had 20 minutes earlier. I started focusing on how great my guy is.

    A serious session of desires and bragging was just what I needed. I even feel inspired to have fun cleaning!

    — Desire Goddess

  • Julie August 23, 2011, 9:47 pm

    Hi Mama,

    Thanks for the recording! My habit is to hurry, worry and complain.
    So in order to retrain myself I have to read ur books and emails often!
    My mother studied problems like your father so that has
    Become my habit too. Thank u for you consistent efforts and I appreciate
    Your blogs and books and emails.

    Julie

    Friend of Mary Virginia

  • sophie August 23, 2011, 6:59 pm

    THANK-YOU GENA,
    Great reminder..that we all like attention..,we do have to “lovingly” state what it is we desire.and as a SG we acknowledge the gift and the giver. Loved the reminder to.. Havie fun with the “everything”it is my fav “getting into the flow of life” If I’m on the sidelines ..I have made the coice to be there…BECAUSE my soul Wants to laugh, dance and to love.
    and I “ain’t gonna hold it back—No_mohr””. Watch OUT here we come….***La la la tralala oompapa Whee YES
    Thank- you Gena love and hugs,
    Sassy Sophie

  • Georgina August 23, 2011, 5:46 pm

    Hi! So, first of all, you have a very beautiful voice- I know that’s it’s not just the type of comment you expected, but when you can’t actually see someone, you focus on other traits, such as the voice!
    As for the audio, well, I agree. I mean, we get some sort of education through childhood and then we end up expecting wrong things from wrong people, living unhappy lives and feeling cheated. I mean why putting someone in the husband suit, as you say, instead of enjoying the present, for instance?
    I guess that the same happens with guys, as far as education is concerned- they definitely have their own preconceived ideas about women, life etc- but someone has to start correcting this thing- at least if we really want to feel good- or even great- instead of just OK, or even terrible.
    After all, we all deserve fun, instead of feeling trapped in boring lives and relationships!

  • SG Lori Taylor August 23, 2011, 5:27 pm

    Darling Mama,

    This was excellent! Nothing makes a girl crankier than sitting in her little tower waiting for “Mr. Everything” to come riding by and save her…that’s so last millenium! It’s much more rewarding to flirt with everybody and find some good raw material to work with. And that’s why I loved the tools that you shared today. They were everything a girl needs to stay fresh and juiced up while having a really good time shaping the experiences that she wants to have with a man. Mwah!! Kisses for you – you’re the best! 😉

  • SG Becky from Oregon August 23, 2011, 3:35 pm

    This was good Mama Gena, just the bump I needed.