Get free tips on life, love and sisterhood

Get free tips on life, love
and sisterhood

Join the Movement

Not loving your job? Here’s 7 Tips.


“How am I supposed to feel turned on and in love with my life, when I spend so much time at a job I hate?” I received this question from a reader recently, and wanted to address it today because I know this sister is not alone in her frustration.

Who amongst us hasn’t felt overworked, uninspired, or underpaid at our jobs, at some point in our career? Even if you love your job, there are those weeks when you just get stuck at your desk for far too long.

For me and my team, we love the work we do, adore each other, and have so much to be grateful for — but we get stuck, too.

During those times, it is so easy (and yet, agonizing) to just push through, nose to the grindstone, and charge towards the weekend when you can squeeze in your dose of fun, pleasure, and joy.

But, but, but! This is exactly the time you need to turn UP the volume on your turn ON.

The key to landing a job you love (or transforming the job you have), a job that truly reflects your worth, a job that makes you ecstatic, is not to sit at your desk and hate the job you have, it’s not to settle for crumbs on the weekend, and it’s not to work yourself into the ground until you crash and burn out.

The key is to party with the job you’ve got. Today, I’ve created my short list of 7 Tips to Turn On your Work Life.

Most of these take less than 10 minutes. Some take 30 seconds. All are game-changing actions.

I should tell you, everything on this list is the last thing you’ll want to do when you’re feeling depleted (and need them most). You’ll want to run in the other direction. I get it. But try it anyway. And report back.

1. Dress how you wish you felt.
When you’re feeling pressed for time, stressed, resentful, and/or exhausted — it’s so tempting to roll into the office in your mumu. If you work at home, it’s even more disastrously tempting to stay in pj’s all day. Don’t do it. Especially on your long days. Especially if you’re feeling uninspired. Especially if you need a vacation. Dress your hot self up as the woman you want to be, going to the job of her dreams. Go panty-free! Guaranteed, a better day lies ahead.

2. Pack snacks and a delicious lunch.
Nourish your gorgeous body and plan for some built-in pleasure breaks for your taste buds. If you’re short on time, spring for delivery from your favorite restaurant, or team up with a friend to cook healthful meals for the week. You can’t expect to put out your best work if you’re not putting in the nourishment you need to produce it. And whatever you are eating, please no plastic utensils. (Plastic utensils are so un-pussy.) You deserve sterling, if not stainless.

3. Get out your egg timer (or smartphone). Dance, on the hour, every hour.
Seriously, set that puppy for 55 minutes, on repeat. Every time it goes off, pull up your playlist and get down with a hot dance break. Be kinda militant with your dance breaks, ok? You are the hottest, most demanding drill sergeant I know. Oh yes you are.

4. Dress up your desk.
Make your workspace fit for your best work. Bling your stapler and phone. Put flowers on your desk. Update your desktop picture with something that inspires you. Post your desire list next to your screen. Print out pictures of the people you love the most. Buy a plant, and take care of it. Candle? Light it. Working in a beautiful space is so important!

5. Upride a coworker.
Without a doubt, by day’s end, take someone else in your office higher. That means: put your pleasurable attention on someone; give them a compliment; make them feel beautiful; tell them they are brilliant. Really praise them for their contribution to your workplace. When you take someone higher, you take yourself higher, every time.

6. Do a victory lap.
Brag your accomplishments, no matter how small, and remind yourself of the value you’re bringing. Especially when you’re staring down a to-do list eighty miles tall, it’s so critical to take pause and celebrate what you’ve done well. Bragging is like fuel for your fire. This one is hard, especially when you are the kind of girl to drive yourself like a mad dog towards a finish line. Brag right now.

7. When all else fails, play hooky.
Sometimes the best way to feel more turned on at work is to just spend less time there. Every once in awhile, the best strategy is just to bail, play hooky, tell a white lie and do something outrageous with your day! The world won’t end, I promise. : )

Okay, now I’d love to hear from you. Have you tried any of these? What’s your favorite? Better yet, tell me your personal secrets for turning on a long day at the office. Can’t wait to hear from you in the comments below!


Want more of Mama in your inbox?
Subscribe to our newsletter to get free updates.
28 Comments / Leave a Comment

Comments on this entry are closed.

  • Anu June 19, 2017, 12:45 am

    i have put flowers and butterfly on my desk but i think i need to change again to make things more alive and welcoming!

  • Bonnie May 29, 2017, 9:58 am

    Such an urban/ corporate paradigm. I don’t relate to this . Feels like another world than the one I live in! Interesting how many world’s within this world there are, and so different from one another.

  • Anonymous May 18, 2017, 11:36 am

    Making my office space beautiful with fresh flowers ALWAYS lifts me up. I just discovered a Chinese market not far from my work that has $2.50 potted gerber daisies. It’s been sitting on my desk over a week now and is still in bloom. Now I can’t use the excuse anymore that it’s too expensive for fresh flowers!

  • Alli May 17, 2017, 1:05 am

    I love this list! I notice that it is so important to get dressed first thing, whether I work from home or not. When I delay, I end up sluggishly going through my day. I also started making the bed in the morning and there is something so satisfying about seeing my bed all neat, tidy and inviting at the beginning and end of the day.

    At work, I also try to delight in the people who are there and stay connected with who we are in addition to what we do. It lights me up to build these relationships. Sharing gratitude with others is such a great observation, especially for those who have those “invisible” jobs–the people who clean or deliver the mail or service items. When these people are seen and acknowledged, it lights them up and it lights me up, too.

    Thanks so much for this list. It is a real gift.

  • adrianne May 12, 2017, 10:45 am

    I printed this and am hanging one on my bathroom mirror mirror at home and one on my computer screen at work. Great suggestions; thank you.

  • Stacy May 11, 2017, 10:20 pm

    I’ve been making more of an effort with my appearance and have been receiving compliments left and right which has reminded me the importance of praising othere. Those kind words are sometimes all I need to get through the day. I also played hookie and joined a kick boxing class, SO much fun!

  • Donna May May 11, 2017, 6:32 pm

    I found this article to be so great thank you so much mama Gena❤️😊❤️🙏❤️🙏😍😍

  • Catherine Carey May 11, 2017, 12:04 pm

    Dress how you wish you felt….doing this. I got to say yes to “lunch?” and “today?” to man because I always dress to feel fabulous. (I really enjoyed the date!)
    Pack delicious food….I get to do this more often…thanks for the reminder babe!
    Dance…each time I use the rest room…feels really good.
    Dress up your desk…my “desk” is a work station – photos, prints, and artwork make it sing, “Bold remarkable Catherine!”

  • Linda Harter DeVeau May 11, 2017, 11:16 am

    The mumu line is the best!! Here it is a rainy day and am still in pajamas working from home. No wonder, I don’t feel wonderful. I am going to take a sensuos shower with the best body soap and put on my prettiest outfit in my closet for a hair appointment and running my son around this PM.
    Thank you for the inspiration!!!

  • Susan May 11, 2017, 2:31 am

    My favorite is dressing sexy or hot (within the confines of your job; I’m in business (male dominated) environment so I wore a beautiful, non revealing professional dress with a jacket that has a pop of color). But truly, when you feel like crap on the inside and you dress up for you … it’s a wonderful turn on to see yourself in the mirror because it reminds you how sexy you are! (And that this moment you’re feeling is temporary)

    This is definitely a winner idea and it works, I promise ladies!

  • B May 10, 2017, 7:01 pm

    Today is one of those days. I’ve been crying for a couple hrs over this scenario at work.
    After 15 yrs there, I have written my resignation letter. And I have only a basic idea of what’s next.
    Anyway so the office mumu sentence made me laugh and so I thank you for it.
    From here out I am following your advice.
    I will let you know how I turn out.

  • Monique May 10, 2017, 4:22 pm

    I was feeling depleted to my core and all I could think about was needing a vacation. I started feeling better when I encouraged the team to go out to happy hour one Friday. We had a ton of work to do and I was determined to feel good. One of our coworkers had gotten a job offer and we all went out. The next Friday we threw him a goodbye party. I had bought a cake, we ordered pizza, and we took turns giving him gratitudes to boost him up before he left. I felt amazing after that. It seems that the party lifted everyone. We decided to celebrate more. Today I brought a balloon for everyone to blow up. We played with them in the office!

    Dressing up is important, too. Before I get dressed, I dance naked. Then I pick an outfit that feels sexy and comfortable. The other day I dressed up and wore my fancy gold belt. It makes me feel sparkly. I felt ready to handle the requests coming at me. I still need a vacation, but work feels really nice. I feel more settled and more able to respond to the pressures from a position of power.

  • Patricia Laws May 10, 2017, 4:06 pm

    Yes! Yes! Yes!

  • Debbie Pokornik May 10, 2017, 1:35 pm

    Excellent tips! It’s so easy to forget how much we influence every single space we’re in. Taking action to make positive change doesn’t have to be a big deal…but it can have huge results. Love the tips – awesomely simple, elegant and oh so fun!

  • Simone May 10, 2017, 1:34 pm

    What can you do if your job involves a uniform, you have no desk, get no lunch break, and could very realistically be fired for hourly dancing or playing hookey? I’d love to see a list for the type of jobs that can feel even more oppressive.

    • Susanna May 10, 2017, 4:30 pm

      Sexy underwear! It provides a totally yummy, totally secret boost!

      • Susanna May 10, 2017, 6:42 pm

        Simone, I too have been in that kind of job, so I’m holding good thoughts for you. BTW, the law may vary from state to state, but in my state at least, it’s illegal for an employer to deny workers a lunch break.

    • Alli May 17, 2017, 1:00 am

      I’m not sure where you work, but it reminds of of those who work in a medical facility or education or other kind of service industry. I know that kind of work well and I try to build in the fun when and where I can. I can shimmy down the hall or sing. I can ‘brush’ off the crud of the day when I go to the bathroom and take a few moments for deep breaths. I can look for opportunities to bring levity, humor or spunk. I can bring fresh flowers into the common spaces (unless allergies prevent that). And, when I am feeling totally burned out, I can do some radical self care at home with baths, dancing, etc. and consider if this is the right job or the right place that brings out the best in me.

      I hope that helps! I’ll be thinking of you, and all the others in positions like yours.

    • Jill June 6, 2017, 12:39 pm

      Good point. Sometimes the only place you can escape is to a bathroom stall, or a temporarily unoccupied corner. Visualization and deep breathing would be helpful here. Maybe keep a tiny vial of lavender oil and take a sniff of it occasionally (wearing essential oils could trigger someone’s allergies, so perhaps best not to). Use that bathroom stall to give yourself a quick 1-minute foot massage. If you can get to fresh air, spend 2-3 minutes outside.

  • Jamie Consolo May 10, 2017, 1:27 pm

    Love this list! At first I was like ehh.. but as soon as I started reading it lit me up. And it’s good to know we all feel this way now and then even if we like our jobs 🙂

  • Maja May 10, 2017, 12:41 pm

    I love to bring cake to work when nobody expects it. That lifts the mood for everybody! Or else I clean where nobody thinks of cleaning and then suddenly everybody is like “uuuhhhhh! We’ve got new space!”

  • Juniper May 10, 2017, 12:30 pm

    Playing hooky right now!!!
    (which I never do.)

  • Gladys May 10, 2017, 12:24 pm

    Love this list!! Playing hooky when you work at home for me!! That would be not feeling guilty doing the things that I like to do instead of the things on my to do list. Just enjoy the day being grateful, you own your time and you have decided to dedicated it to fulfill your desires this “special day” – Dressing up to work at home is also very fulfilling – wearing sexy underwear!!! Thanks for all the suggestions!! They all make my day to feel lighter and brighter. Laugh at yourself!!! It is healthy and good for you! It helps you relax and enjoy your day!!

  • Janice May 10, 2017, 11:55 am

    Hilarious! Playing hoooooky today!

    Thanks, made my day.


  • Sarah May 10, 2017, 11:46 am

    Deep gratitude for these tips – all ways to put our own positive intention into the day, and while bringing ourselves higher, also spreading the love and juicy goodness!!! Thank you Mama Gena for your **revolution**!

  • Trish May 10, 2017, 11:37 am

    Absolutley LOVE this list. You are absolutely right we all get stuck sometimes and finding a way to become excited again is sometimes all we need to feel and look spectacular.
    Thank you for sharing!
    Trish @phaze2wellness

  • Alma Dankoff May 10, 2017, 11:21 am

    Dressing up for work at home where I paint in my studio really helps me.

  • April May 10, 2017, 10:46 am

    I absolutely love this!! Yes!! Gratitude, joy, perseverance, truth!!