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How do you navigate the body “Woman”?


LOOK at your body.
I mean, LOOK at it!

Look at it.
What do you see?

Do you see beauty?

I was having dinner with a friend in the Hamptons on Saturday night, and there was a moment when we were in her bedroom, getting ready for a party, and reviewing and comparing our thighs.
Questioning our thighs.
Criticizing our thighs.
And the thing is- both of us have really awesome thighs.

But we were not looking at the awesome.
We were flaw surfing.
Until we came to our senses.

But, the pull to criticize is so great, that you can get sucked under the giant wave before you see it coming.

With all the changes a woman’s body goes through as we grow up, develop and then ages, and society’s norms of what is beautiful, and the media, and on and on, how how how do we truly-madly-deeply love this body-right here, right now?

How do we perpetually and ongoingly fall in love with our bodies…as we change and evolve over a lifetime?

How Do You Navigate the Body “Woman”? And feel spectacularly beautiful every single day that we have the privilege of being alive? 

Let me introduce our gorgeous and fabulous panelists for this week: Rebecca, Bernadette, and Rose. In the video below, they are generous enough to share their own experiences as they navigated their ups and downs through the Womanly Art of Owning Your Beauty, and found themselves ready, willing and able to fall in love with themselves.

Stay tuned after the video, because just below, our ladies answer your direct questions! 

Now that you know have had a chance to connect with our ladies, let’s see how they have addressed some of your issues.

How do you handle growing older as a woman when you’re starting to feel invisible but are still young and pretty?


When starting to feel invisible it’s time for switch things up: Go on dates with Sister Goddesses. Get yourself a sexy dress and wear it! Take a dance class. Dance and play more and for Gods sake FLIRT!!!! With any and everyone!

How do you stay positive and motivated if something you want is taking longer than expected to obtain?


Treat yourself like a baby: I treat myself and talk to myself the way I talk to my children…. with love, tolerance and compassion. I realize that my weight is a layer of protection and I trust that at this stage of my life I still need it for a host of reasons. I have been thin in my life and I have been heavy. I will return to my ideal weight when I am internally ready to handle the protective armor I created for myself. Be gentle with yourself. Criticism and harsh words will not bring you to a happier place. Only with patience and love and pleasure will you be able to be comfortable in your own skin at any weight, and ultimately arrive at the weight you desire.

Also, Get your shit out and Spring clean! I am an emotional eater. Food is an exquisite drug. It removes discomfort instantaneously. I choose now to release negative charge and thinking by spring cleaning not eating. I reach out to sister goddess and call them. Connect with people: Isolation doesn’t serve me any more. I had a suffocating controlling boyfriend for 7 years after my ex. With each year I gained about 12 pounds ….. do the math ….that a lot of emotions not dealt with. If I had the tools and self-knowledge I possess today I wouldn’t have had to go through such physical devastation.

How do you handle aging gracefully?


It’s important to be elegant (you don’t want to be that person dressing like a 20 year old when you’re 55…but, you certainly WANT to be that woman who makes the 20 year old know that 55 can look really really good. To do this, celebrate where you are. Take care of your body. You must exercise, eat well, smile and have sex as much as possible!

How do I become happy and comfortable in my own skin?


Mirror Mirror on the wall. You become comfortable in your own skin by loving every crevice of your body. First it seems staged and artificial but just like Mama taught me, I began looking in the mirror and praising myself. Touching my body and complimenting myself. At first this was so foreign as I have spent my life at every weight and always managed my body in a very tyrannical way. Start with any area you truly love and slowly over time add on body parts. Even if it is uncomfortable, do it; and fall in love with your reflection!!!

How does one feel “juicy” when going through periodic “flooding” in the menopause time.


Oy!!! Flooding is no picnic. Really! But, being angry about it doesn’t help… trust me I know. Make up fun sayings for your flashes “I’m so HOT (as in sexy)…it’s RIDICULOUS!!! Or “This sweat has the honor of rolling down every delicious curve of my body…how lucky”. You simply have to have fun with it. Being angry and menopausal is not an attractive state for you or anyone else.

I’ve gained weight, can’t stand what I see in the mirror and none of my clothes fit. Talk about self-hatred! I’m at the gym four days a week and eating like a monk, which will hopefully work in the long run. How do I survive mentally in the meantime?


You aren’t your fat. Surround yourself with people that see your insides first. Sister Goddesses come in all shapes and sizes. They will love and support you where your at. Being honored for who you are and not by your clothing size is the most exquisite starting place to find self love and create change for yourself. This is a rare community of women. Take advantage of it.

Wasn’t that unbelievably eye-opening, helpful and seriously inspiring?  Want more?  Rebecca and Bernadette have agreed to come online for the next few days and interact with your comments!

In the comments below, please share your story, ask a follow up question, and if you’ve got tips and stories to contribute as you read others, please do so.  I can’t wait to see you on the blog!

Thank you all.  I love our community and I am so glad to be in this particular conversation with hot, sexy, gorgeous YOU.

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena


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  • Cindy August 13, 2013, 11:06 am

    Thank you for the message. I’m 52 and going through the changes of my body and really getting back into my grove and I’m appreciating what it does I”m exercising and just want to do everything to keep on going to enjoy whatever comes my way…

  • "Queen Kitty" Mandy Y. August 7, 2013, 5:51 pm

    I was, unfortunately, too chicken shit to submit my life’s deepest desiring question when given the opportunity a couple of weeks ago, so innapropriate as it may be, I am doing it now.
    I need to know how to lighten the hell up and stop letting my fear of something not being perfect keep me from doing it anyway! I am in a band with my husband and 2 other men. I am the singer, and although I have wanted my entire life to be a singer, I had to wait 31 years to be heard. I turn 37 this month and we are in the process of recording an album. My problem is I fear being heard. I take compliments like an asshole. I blush and stammer and want to crawl into a hole when someone acknowledges my talent, as if to say to them “oh no, you have it all wrong, I am nothing special”. I have written 2 songs that local women have essentially anthem-ized, which is so flattering I can barely breathe! And yet, I shy away from them. If a lyric isn’t exactly what I wanted to say, or I can’t hit a note just right, if I feel my voice is flat on a certain day when we practice a song, I will utterly diva-out and refuse to do the song ever again. It wasn’t perfect. I LOATHE practicing anything new, even in front of my husband, for fear it won’t be right the first time. What IS that?? Why do I torture myself like this? Anyway, I haven’t been able to afford to take the Mastery, but I’m hoping with my new job I will be able to. I just need a little nudge in the right direction as to how I pull my self abusive-even-with-years- of -therapy, still a bit of a f&$# up head out of my ass and enjoy being me. Embrace what I can do. Love my life the way the SG’s do!! Help me and I will not only be eternally grateful, I will also send you a copy of our album when it is finished 😉
    Many thanks in advance! Queen Kitty

    • mama gena August 9, 2013, 4:14 pm

      dear queen kitty-
      oh, girlfriend. you are funny. so cute, and so funny. if you wanted a REAL laugh- you should have seen me the first day i decided to be mama gena. i wore the same pink silk chinese pajamas i bought at a thrift shop for the first few years, and carried a pink feather fan everywhere i went. i am sure i was quite over the top. but, then, again, look at any toddler you can find, taking her first steps- and then, of course, falling on her ass. she spends more time on her ass than on her feet, i promise you. i know i did.
      give yourself toddler time.
      time to mess up.
      time to go over the top.
      time to play big, play small, just play.
      no one gets anywhere worth being, without lots of toddler time.
      and when you do take mastery- know that we have a talent show for all the students, the final weekend. i look forward to seeing you perform on the mastery stage.

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 11:04 pm

      And you can start playing with the school through online courses or joining the community. Why wait till mastery. Start NOW!

  • SG Vikki August 7, 2013, 1:05 pm

    What an awesome surprise to see Bernadette & Rebecca both of whom were in Mastery with me. You ladies, along with Rosé exude such beauty & confidence. Thank you for sharing so candidly.

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 11:01 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely upride.

  • Dr. Jan Hamilton August 7, 2013, 11:29 am

    Do you have a segment for same gender relationships.?

    • Mama Gena August 8, 2013, 12:40 pm

      Check in next week, our segment is focused on relationships of all kinds!

    • Lauren August 8, 2013, 1:48 pm

      Hi Jan,

      We don’t have specific segments on same gender relationships but we talk about them as part of the larger class sections and class conversation. So, for example, if we’re talking about communicating in relationships…we talk about it in relation to both heterosexual and same sex relationships. I’m a gay woman and I also work at the school. When I first came to Mastery as a student, I was concerned about being a gay woman in the community, but my fears quickly dissipated. It was the best thing I’ve ever done. The class helped me own every ounce of who I am as a woman, including owning my sexuality in a bigger way, and taught me how to completely rock my relationships. If you couldn’t tell, I love talking about this topic, so would love to chat with you more if you have other questions or just wanna get deeper into the conversation.
      646-682-0416. (office phone at the school). Call anytime! Or you can email me at

  • Anna August 7, 2013, 1:20 am

    About the breasts. I have had ample breasts since I was 11 or 12 and while still at primary school I had a hell of a life.Let’s just say they attracted too much attention from emotionally immature boys. I really like my breasts, even after breastfeeding my 2 kids for almost 5 years in total, yet… They seem to draw the wrong kind of attention. I’m going through a divorce and recently attracted a man (married) who confessed initially he was drawn to my chest. This relationship will not last of course but what do I do to attract a decent guy in the future, one who will care for the whole of me and not just my bosom? (is it at all possible?) I sometimes feel like covering it up completely.

    • SG Rebecca August 9, 2013, 7:58 am

      Dear Beautiful Anna
      You were born blessed with beautiful breasts. I would not cover
      anything! I would celebrate yourself and once you get in true agreement with yourself and your breasts you will attract a man that is attracted to your whole person. As woman we are taught to dim our lights and to always play small. Why not wear your breasts like trophies!!!

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:59 pm

      It’s a great gift to be blessed with beautiful breasts. I understand what you mean about attracting men who are drawn to your bosom.
      Perhaps you could explore online dating and sharing just a headshot.
      When they do meet you, they’ll be in for a nice surprise.

  • Wildcherry August 7, 2013, 12:07 am

    Mmm, Mmm, how timely as I, too, am finally experiencing the volcanic heat which my personality has been mentally and spiritually revealing for-like-ever.

    Hot flashes make me feel like I’m actually becoming well rounded 🙂 Hot in my soul, spirit, and now in my body, too. Whew, I’m one smokin’ hot sweat-heart.

    Loved this 2nd vid, Mama Gena. Way to bounce off the combined ‘hotness’ of the four of you.
    Heated fuel for my Wildly ignited self x

  • SG Alexandra Pearl August 6, 2013, 11:23 pm

    I brag that over the past few months, especially since Mastery, I have been dressing to emphasize my curves and especially my breasts. When I was growing up my mom was always trying to get me to wear turtlenecks and wool sweaters and anything that would cover up my chest! I was raised to be embarrassed for having large breasts and over time, I feel much more comfortable with my body and have developed a special love for that part of me. Much gratitude for the panelists for sharing their time and stories and gratitude for the community. xxoo

    • SG Rebecca August 9, 2013, 7:47 am

      Well bragged Alexandra!!!

  • Leelee August 6, 2013, 10:00 pm

    Hi Goddesses — I recently went on a date after my breakup of a long relationship about 2 months ago. Before the date I started doing something I have never done before. I started thinking “what if he doesn’t like me because of my weight?” I pampered and prepped and began to have more pleasure, but the thought was still in there and I really didn’t have a good time. My ex always praised my body and I think without the praise, I’m not feeling as sassy. I’ve been eating kind of random foods and not working out much. What’s a girl to do? Thank you!

    • SG Rebecca August 9, 2013, 7:28 am

      Dear Delicious Leelee
      The next time you go on a date why not send yourself reminders of your beauty on your phone at different intervals. Yes I know it is rude to be on a phone on a date but just glance at it to see your messages of love to yourself. Your date reflects how you see and feel about yourself. If you are enjoying yourself and in your pleasure your beauty will be irresistible. One of the exquisite tools that Mama teaches us always to have fun no matter what!

  • Simin Vaswani August 6, 2013, 5:26 pm

    I have seen Bernadette dance in my s-factor class and I am 37 and she definitely made her 48 look really really hot enough for me to want it!

    I do struggle with my body image and I feel like I will never be able to accept my size ever and I am learning to love myself and have pleasure in what I eat but I am really looking forward to my Mastery in 2014 to be able to love my body just the way it is. I hope I can and if I do then I hope I can save this post to read after my Mastery 🙂 🙂

    SG Simin

  • Penny B August 6, 2013, 4:21 pm

    I’m currently doing hair in a retirement community. Before I started working there I thought that as I aged/matured I would become more confident and less insecure. Being around these seniors I’m noticing they have the same insecurities about their bodies that I do! What a shock! I had really hoped the internal changes around my self image would just happen with time. These folks have shown me it’s up to me to do something about this.
    A few years ago I saw some videos on Comcast on demand of Mam Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. I’m so glad I found you online Mama Gena and that you’re still doing your thing! I signed up for your blog and found your books at my library to help me keep going on this self love journey.
    Thank you!

    PS. SG Bernadette, I’ve been in peri menopause for at least 5 years. I’m 49. I’m enjoying the hot flashes (more like simmers). I used to be cold almost all the time. Now I’m not and loving it!

  • SG Waterdancer (Kate Lindsay) August 6, 2013, 4:20 pm

    Loving the womanly body is one of my greatest passions in life (although unfortunately I was not wired as a lesbian), so this topic and video made my whole body pulse with pleasure and purpose.

    I had my second baby 9 months ago, and there is this huge feeling of self blame that has arisen this time around about my body not recovering and not being able to care for my body the way I need, having two children. I know it’s something that will pass in time. Any tips from you gorgeous goddesses about staying in your pleasure while experiencing physical exhaustion and postpartum stuff?

    With tremendous love and gratitude,

    P.S. Bernadette, I love you and you really are RIDICULOUSLY HOT!

    • SG Rebecca August 9, 2013, 7:36 am

      Beautiful SG Waterdancer
      Gratitude list is the answer. Start your day with a gratitude list. Embrace and celebrate the wonders of your body that brought life 2 times to this world. What a gorgeous miracle. Relish each gratitude as if it was a gift that you are giving yourself. In divine timing you will arrive at the weight you need to be.

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:53 pm

      Celebrate you. You not only carried your baby for months, you had 2 children.
      I’m sure with 2 children, finding time for you can be a challenge.
      It is a priority, a must.
      Even if you start with 15minutes a day.
      Remember, when a woman is happy, the whole world is blessed.

  • Kimberly August 6, 2013, 3:51 pm

    I love all that I feel from this community of courageous, beautiful, and sexy women!

    Loving me right now!
    I was one of those girls who didn’t have to worry about what I looked like. In high school, I loved my life, my friends and my family….until I had a huge break in belonging…when my best friends announced that they hated me for all the things I had and was. I lived fully by enjoying my life and playing big. Unfortunately, I kept getting those signals, that I’m too much, too loud, too active, too happy. And somewhere along the way I believed them and started hating myself too. And became a typical overweight complainer. Now, I’m 60 pounds overweight and do my best to feel sexy…and I’ve began a new relationship with my body. I’m finding it extremely difficult right now but know it’s worth the fight. (just writing this makes me cry) And every day I find one thing to love. I’m working on loving what I created and then maybe I can create something from pleasure.

    I have a huge community of beautiful women in my life, and when we are together it seems to always go back to all the things they need to change. I was at a party and decided to switch it up….and ask everyone to share one of their desires…and the first person…stopped the conversation full stop…saying I’m so sick right now…I can’t feel pleasure or desires. What do I do to redirect the conversations back to things we love?

    Thank you for creating an amazing place to be heard and felt. Its been awhile. = )

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:51 pm

      When people are not used to pleasure and desires, you have to slowly seduce them to play the game.
      Start simple.
      Ask them to name 1 thing they love or 1 thing that makes them happy.
      It’s like teaching abc’s 1st then words, then sentences and paragraphs and poetry.

  • Nathan Patmor August 6, 2013, 3:27 pm

    love this week’s post!

  • Susan August 6, 2013, 1:42 pm

    After having had a job as a singer at a theatre I had to take a pause to adjust my technique. In the meantime, I feel so guilty for taking my mother’s money, which she freely and lovingly gives. But I don’t want to do just any job, I’d like to earn money with either my voice or my other talents. But I’m looking and asking around, and I just haven’t attracted something that feels right for me, cause I don’t want to jeopardize my studies either with putting all my energy elsewhere…

    Can anyone help?

    • SG Drippinbliss August 6, 2013, 2:17 pm

      don’t look around for that job, its not “out there” until its in you…you want couture, not made in China ready to wear, right? imagine the perfect job-make a long, detailed list of exactly what you want it to be like- that will utilize your voice talent and live in it until it feels real. live in it externally by doing whatever you can that you might do if you really had that ideal job: print out business cards, go thru your clothes and make up outfits that you would wear to work, set up a new savings account for the new job, even buy a new pair of shoes or a new travel mug that you will wear/use only for work…you get the idea. giving thanks for the new job before it manifests is mandatory, but you must make it REAL to yourself so that it will appear.. also, ditch that guilt…(try making up a song about how totally guilty you feel and sing it at the top of your lungs someplace private! best way to release negative feelings is to allow them their say and let them rip- then let them subside without struggling!) concentrate on Mom and give her lots of love & kisses and thanks- send roses, take her out for drinks…get her a spa gift certificate! what would she love? and then feel absolutely flamingly flamboyantly deserving (brag about yourself a lot! then brag some MORE!!!!!) of what you desire, so that juicy perfect job can find you! woooohoooooo!

  • Andie August 6, 2013, 12:30 pm

    Mama Gena,
    This actually really works the way you say it does. As someone who struggled with an eating disorder from 12-28, I spent over a decade and a half really hating my body. I made a revolutionary change when I decided to refuse to engage in “fat talk.” Once I stopped trashing my body, I slowly started to love it and take care of it accordingly. I also refuse to engage in fat talk with anyone else (even men), and (I think) my stance about my body has been contagious among my friends. It’s been long enough that I find it uncomfortable to listen to other people rag on their bodies. I’m really not a flowery person, but once in a while, I’ll look in the mirror, give my tits a little squeeze, and say “nice rack.” Or stretch out my mile-long legs and sigh with pleasure.

    Changing my thoughts in this arena has been so successful that I’ve decided to institute a “no single talk” policy with myself. No more self-criticism in terms of what I’m doing wrong or how I’m a terrible failure in love. I’ll admit that I’m having ups and downs. Earlier today –in response to having a date I wasn’t even that excited about cancel on me — I found myself thinking, “all heterosexual men care about is maintaining their quota of blow jobs while avoiding a relationship. they are seriously all horrible people. subhuman really. whatever. my cat and my vibrator are better off alone.” But at least I’m not assuming he cancelled because there’s something wrong with my body, right?

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:44 pm

      I love your banning of fat talk to yourself and others. Brilliant move. You’ve inspired me to monitor if I do that myself and just cross it off as non-negotiable.

      Thank you for sharing a snapshot of where you are now in the arena of love. May I suggest you check out video 3 about relationships. Perhaps it may inspire you or feel free to post a question.

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:46 pm

      P.S. Careful of the thoughts you are putting out there about dating.
      Focus on what you desire more of.
      Example: to be loved and adored like a queen.
      It is all possible. You just have to believe.
      And if you don’t quite feel it, find a way to join this community and watch your relationships transform.

    • little jo August 25, 2013, 11:32 am

      I did the same! When I learned self-criticism is a life turn-off I passed a pact with myself not to ‘flaw-surf’ in front of my image any more but instead to have a look at my beautiful bits and guess what? IT WORKS! And the cherry on the cake is that the less you do it, the less you will do it — works the same with black ideas @ night: whenever I go that wrong path, I indulge myself a punishment (20 pelvic floor exercices – always good to practice hehe). Well after a few weeks I wasn’t bothered by any negative thought anymore* because the less you go there, the less it comes back… Have faith Sister, you’ll get there as we all will – isn’t it?
      * and my pc muscles are in concrete 😎

  • Sassy Divine August 6, 2013, 11:56 am

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder!
    One of the many things I have learned at SWA is to come back “home”!
    When I began using all the wonderful tools I started noticing how often I was “checked out”… And how often I would measure myself through what I thought was some one else’s perception of me! With my heightened awareness I can now bring myself home, honor myself and thoroughly love myself! It is much much easier to live a pleasurable life and be happy in my body! Xox

  • SG Quiksilver Sizzle Lara August 6, 2013, 11:32 am

    One more thing – thank you for these beautiful videos. They really help!

  • SG Quiksilver Sizzle Lara August 6, 2013, 11:31 am

    Thank you! I am twenty pounds over my comfortable ideal weight right now. I am really working on coming face to face with my body, my mind on par with my body, instead of going on the usual fear diet, a diet borne from hate and shame, instead of pleasure. I am working on being in tune with my body but dread seeing it in the mirror, O failure! O shame! Well, shame is the sorry tune that has been playing all my life except for the self-righteous one when I am “thin” which is super obnoxious, to say the least. I always knew this was not a good relationship and now for the first time my “diet” is to stop and take time to listen to her, my beautiful body, and try to give her what she has always faithfully bestowed upon me for 45 years — a safe, healthy and dependable environment. No more overriding her needs and wishes, I now give her a real say in how she is treated – what goes inside of her and letting her have a real say in the matter. Its hard to feel the failure of my expanded waistline but I am yessing that HARD and working on a time come soon when my body and I will have a REAL working relationship, not something forced into somebody’s “Diet” box or my own rigid version of discipline. I want a fertile, beautiful peri-menopausal body that recognizes the love that food brings and balances it into a gorgeous recipe that works with my mind creating a beautiful balance with my body. I could only have arrived at this place with the SWA tools. Truly this is some scary stuff, telling “Mommy” and her food/body fears no. But I am experiencing how yessing all of them lets my body know it is not alone but can be in loving, pleasurable cahoots with my mind and the world around us!

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:39 pm

      Love how you are YESing to your body just the way it is.
      Beautiful that you are listening to your body in a deeper intimate way.
      Perhaps it may enjoy some research with Nia or Sfactor.

  • SG Wild Woman Alex August 6, 2013, 10:28 am

    YES! I love this video and am sharing it with my friends. I totally agree with how the sisterhood and their loving, totally accepting arms of support was a big factor in giving me room to see myself and my body differently and lovingly. I LOVE my body and myself! Thank you Mama Gena and all the Sister Goddesses.

  • Claudia August 6, 2013, 10:15 am

    Pure genius Regena. What a great video and look forward to more!!

  • robin Kahn August 6, 2013, 9:40 am

    Love this video! Love hearing from my SG’s. I so identify with everyone. I had a terrible body image for so many years until I came to the SWA. Now I do feel more accepting and love my body more. That is a miracle!

    I felt the same way that Bernadette did about perimenopause – mine started early, at 43. Bernadette, you are truly one of the sexiest women on the planet! I wrote my play “Scrambled Eggs” to be able to laugh at the symptoms, the feelings, the cultural myths — all of it — they’re just ideas that we have about aging, not reality. We are beautiful,

    • SG Bernadette Pleasant August 7, 2013, 12:15 am

      SG Robin,

      I had the pleasure of seeing your play “Scrambled Eggs”, what fun! I tpp prefer to laugh through the symptoms. Yes, we are beautiful!

  • mia August 6, 2013, 9:29 am

    I love the stories, and can really relate to all.
    I am 36 and started doing Nia 4 years ago.. the support and the transformation on more than one level sounds so similar to what I have experienced with Nia… I think some women would really benefit by adding this as a ” workout” to their lives, as this has likeminded principles…/ support.
    Lots of love
    You can check it out at

    • SG Bernadette Pleasant August 6, 2013, 9:36 am

      Hi Mia,

      I’m a Nia Instructor… Love teaching and can attest to the benefits of moving my body (using all 52 moves). I agree it helps!!!!

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:36 pm

      another transformation through movement is
      I’m an S student and it has helped me get in touch with my inner creature that has never been allowed to come out and play.

  • Carolann August 6, 2013, 9:11 am

    What a great topic! Thank you Regena and SG’s for sharing your experiences with loving your bodies. I am struggling with this right now. I have gained a few pounds and I see it and feel it; thereby feeling not so sexy. Thank you for the reminder to use the tools and reach to SG’s for support.

    • mama gena August 6, 2013, 4:19 pm

      you are so sexy right now, carolann.

      • Carolann August 7, 2013, 7:20 am

        Muuuaaaahhhh!! Thank you Regena, you made me smile:).

    • Rose August 14, 2013, 10:34 pm

      I love your honesty about where you are. As I watched the video, I heard my inner critic commenting on my body. I have also gained a few pounds and not used to it. It’s interesting to embrace a curvier version of me. Going to the school has softened up the inner critic in me. There’s no more painful self lashing. It’s just a comment that I can choose to accept or not.
      What my body is telling me is it desires more attention and self care.
      Nothing is more important than a healthy happy body.
      If you haven’t read the book, pick it up or review it. It has lots of great ideas to have you fall in love with yourself again.

  • Ellen Levin August 6, 2013, 9:08 am

    LOVE hearing this video! inspiring………… YES! The work is all INTERNAL! and then……..external! YES YES YES
    Because of the culture/THE PATRIARCHY, I refuse all cosmetic surgeries, make up, high heels which will hurt my feet/legs (also may trip and hurt myself Ha! on new York city streets with all the cracks in the sidewalks……….) I don’t shave any hair on my body………I LOVE LOVE LOVE my underarm hair ……YEAH PATTI SMITH as she inspired me on her EASTER ALBUM with her HAIRY ARM PITS……….fucking SEXY AS HELL………… I don’t even wear jewelry. I DO FEEL LIKE A REVOLUTIONARY in this area and HOPE THAT MORE WOMEN WILL JOIN ME! (although I do like toe nail polish on men and make up on men………….dresses, too!) YES!
    I always question why I am wearing something/doing something…….. for instance, I do dye my hair………..which I hope I will stop doing someday soon……….but I realize I am “avoiding looking like my mom” HA! AND am dealing with aging issues………..for instance, when “OLD MEN” ask me out………. online dating……..I’ll think “OH THEY LOOK SO OLD” HA! THIS IS ABOUT ME ME ME feeling OLD>>>>>>>>>>MY ISSUE
    will work this one for years …………..!
    work to do

    • Ruby Red August 6, 2013, 4:01 pm

      Wow SG Ellen! You are a true radical spirit! I love your not shaving or wearing high heels, etc… awesome! Your sex appeal just flies off the screen! xo

    • little jo August 25, 2013, 11:09 am

      If I were you Sister, I’d avoid dying my hair, it’s now well proved by scientific researches that hair coloring is a cancer promoting factor…

  • CeeCee August 6, 2013, 9:08 am

    I just wanted to add my two cents to the discussion on menopausal symptoms. I suffered from all of it – hot flashes, night sweats, irritable as hell, and on and on – day after day for more than three years – until I came to Mastery. The tools and womanly arts gave me new ways to manage my stress and voila – like magic – every single symptom completely disappeared. I have not had one single hot flash or other menopausal issue for the past year and a half. Pleasure really is where its at!!!

    • Ellen Levin August 6, 2013, 9:09 am

      Great to see your/this post and DITTO! the same for me ………. even before mastery but mastery helped
      also Christine Northrup’s book………. I forgot the title
      see you on the boards!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • CeeCee August 6, 2013, 9:23 am

      Yes Ellen!! Dr. Christiane Northrup’s “The Secret Pleasures of Menopause”

    • mama gena August 6, 2013, 4:17 pm

      redefining menopause through pleasure…..i love it.
      thanks cee cee- so nice to hear from you!