Who among us has not reached for it with heart, soul, blood, and guts, and ended up trounced, trammeled, and shattered?
In this week’s Ask Mama, we meet Sister Goddess Judi on life’s ledge, that special spot reserved for women who give their all, lunge towards their dreams, rush into the unknown with abandon, trust their deepest soul’s yearnings, and shatter into a million pieces.
I did a lot of work around pleasure and trusted my pussy to change my life. I made huge leaps, but ultimately my doubts and inexperience in asking for what I want resulted in bitter failure and I feel like I am plummeting to my death in a crashing airplane. Have you had much experience messing it all up? How do I get through feeling like I lost the best stuff I could have had and there is no second chance, because I blew it?
Dear Sister Goddess Judi,
First of all, before I begin, I want to give you a standing ovation.
Any woman who has chosen to adopt the discipline of pleasure, and trust her pussy, instantly becomes the star, the heroine, of her own life’s story. She is no longer being dragged along tracks created by others, she is no longer giving in to cultural conditioning and living the design of what others expect of her. She has cut loose from the pack and is charting her own course, and living the legend she was born to become. Just reading your Q was completely enlivening and inspiring, and I am deeply thrilled for you.
As my Dad used to say, “This is livin’, kid!”
Women who never chose themselves, who never risk living their own desires, who never trust their own pussies—never feel the way you do.
They settle into the ho-hum-mundane business of a life of compromise and mediocrity, living under the radar, never reaching for the gold, and never finding any.
But when you poke your head out of the sand, and choose to figure out how to fly, guess what happens? You crash sometimes. And the higher you fly, the harder you fall.
When a woman risks living the legend of her desires, she is living large, instead of small. Why? Because living your pussy truth is not just about you anymore. A desire is the interface between you and that which is greater than you. Living your pussy truth is asking to be remade by your own destiny. It is offering yourself up to be recreated into the woman you were born to become. Your desires carve you into the work of art you were meant to become, just like Michelangelo found ‘David’ inside a hunk of marble.
So, when you feel like you are plummeting to your death, you are. The raw hunk of marble is getting chiseled away, and you are being remade—into a living, breathing work of art co-created by you, and the Great Pussy in the Sky. Does it feel good? Hell no.
But, “this is livin’, kid.”
And will you get another chance to fly even higher?
Count on it.
You get endless second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth chances.
In fact, for a woman who is living as full out as you, chances will come land in your lap, as long as you keep taking those beautiful steps in the direction of your dreams and desires.
In the School of Womanly Arts Mastery Program, we go deep inside the architecture of this incredible opportunity that you are describing, called “The Courtesan’s Journey.” (More on this in my blog, “A Peek Inside Mastery”.) Once understood, this architecture makes all the difference in the world, because then you know where you are, on the journey. It’s designed to give a woman everything she needs to know to live her most outrageous dreams and desires, and you can begin doing that right now, Judi, by posting a brag below and outrageously celebrating your biggest blunders. Every chapter of your story deserves to be commemorated. The world requires the fuel of each of our dreams, to survive, and to reinvent, as we do. (Check out the Mastery program for the full arsenal of tools and technology.)
Deep down inside, every woman wants to live the legend she was born to become.
You are doing it.
This is what it feels like.
No guts, no glory.
Sisters, tell me in the comments below about a time you took a step toward your dreams that resulted in superb failure. What Womanly Arts and Tools did you reach for, to bounce back with even more vivacity? Show Judi how a Sister Goddess locates the victory inside every pitfall.
And if you know someone who’s taken a risk toward her desires and could use some applause, please share this post.
With so much love and pleasure,
P.S. If you or any of your girlfriends live in the MA area, join me in Springfield this Thursday for the ultimate girls’ night out…
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