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Why I Became the Pleasure Queen

Darlings,

Regena in red

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Marie Curie had her radium.
Salk gave us the vaccine.
Edison, electricity.
Yo’ Mama?  The Womanly Arts.
The radical step that changes everything, for women.
And like so many radical steps, this one started with despair.

Come–have a little peek with me.

Here was my life before the Womanly Arts:
I hated my body.  I was afraid of everything.  I knew that something was terribly, terribly wrong with me no matter what anyone said.
I was scared of men.  I was scared of women.  I felt unworthy.  I felt powerless.  I had no confidence. I ran from success.  I put the blocks to love.
I knew I was not pretty or sexy.  I did not want anyone to get to know me too well because I thought they would hate what they found.
I wanted people to like me, but I was scared of letting anyone get too close.  I was financially strapped. And I was angry at myself.  And the world.

Sure sounds like a perfect recipe for despair, doesn’t it?
And despair was my middle name, first name, and last name.
It was my address and zip code.

I knew I did not know who I was as a woman.  And I knew I did not know a single woman who had charted the course.
And I knew one more thing:  this collection of ingredients was never going to lead anywhere I wanted to go.
I had to make a major sea change.  A massive detour.  I had to point my guns in a whole new direction.
I had to run headlong into what I was missing.
So, I ran, precipitously into a brand-new direction.
I became the number one student of the discipline called “pleasure,” for 22 years and counting.
Pleasure was something I knew nothing about.
And I had a deep intuition that the answers I sought resided in that neighborhood.
Taking this leap was the radical step that changed everything.
And after many years of study and research, I wrote a course for women (and myself) called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.
And I watched with astonishment as my life utterly and completely changed, as did the lives of the women who studied at the School.
Who am I now?
A gorgeous, hot, sexy, confident woman. Living the adventure of my life by the course I charted.  Financially secure. Capable of having any man I want. Spiritually grounded and alive.  Loved.  So very deeply loved.  Every cell.  In love with my own body.  And able to get anything I want.  Anything.  I know my darkness and my light.  I know how to grieve, I know how to celebrate, I know how to rage, and how to love.  I know how to appreciate every drop of the gift of life.  I live the landscape called “woman,” with gratitude and grace.

Let me show you how it works.
Back in the pre-pleasure days, when I woke up, I would feel like crap.  Tired, overworked, overwhelmed.   I would not know what to do to make myself feel good.  I had no idea where to start.
I would try lots of things, but there was no roadmap to finding my way.
Now, things are utterly different.
I still sometimes wake up and feel like crap.
Don’t we all?
But I have a boatload, a battery, an army of Tools and Arts from which to draw, to redesign my internal landscape.  Not to mention a whole Sister Goddess community of support.
I start every day with spring cleaning—an exercise to release my charge.  Then, I do a brag, a gratitude, and a desire.  And a dance break.
I have tuned my instrument, and I am ready for what the day may bring!

In the comments below, I would love to know what you do in the morning to redesign your internal landscape and launch into your day.

I wonder what my life would have been like if my mom had known about the Womanly Arts.  And had been able to teach me.
I could have had everything I wanted, a lot sooner.
You don’t have to wait any longer.
You can start getting yours, right here, right now.
I want that for you more than I can say.

Move over Marie, Jonas, Thomas.
Yo’ Mama has discovered and perfected the radical step that changes everything. And I’m teaching the ins and outs of it LIVE in NYC, on February 9th

This event already happened. Check out The Experience.

With so much love and pleasure,

Mama Gena

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  • mama gena January 12, 2012, 2:44 pm

    hey jenny-
    the place to start that incredible, courageous journey is right here, at the school of womanly arts. come to the intro night february 9th. yes, it is sooo worth the plane ride!! you deserve to take a radical step that will change everything!!!
    xo
    mg

  • Jenny January 8, 2012, 10:34 am

    Hi Lovelies!

    So reading all of this makes me realize how I use each day to hurt myself. I don’t know what makes me feel good. In fact, I only feel “right” in the world when I feel badly about myself. When I feel bloated, tired, ugly, savage, in need of medical attention.

    My life is pleasureless. I feel unworthy. I start my day by running away from myself.

    But I want more for myself. I want love, freedom, success, happiness, pleasure….I want power in the self-constitutional sense.

    How do you begin?

    I dream of starting my own pleasure school in Canada, a place where women can heal, find their inner strength and go out into the world and boost it above average just by being themselves.

    Where do you begin?

    Thanks for your help!

  • laureen January 7, 2012, 2:39 am

    I made my mornings great by quitting my job, going back to school to study my passion, and now making a new career out of my passion. A great side benefit of it is that the sunshine wakes me each day — not the other way around. Love ya, Mama G.!

  • fiona January 6, 2012, 1:21 pm

    I started my morning with my lover massaging the kinks and aches out of my body before sliding down to lick and pleasure me to climax before a BFO (big f#ckin orgasm), a yummy mochacinno while I lounged in my tub and then slathered my body with organic sesame oil….
    Before I met Mama, I didn’t know that I was a Courtesan although I knew I definitely was different from my upbringing. Now I love and am grateful my BIG FAT JUICY life and my beaus know me as my true self and for the Goddess that I am.

  • Lena Rogue January 5, 2012, 8:52 pm

    I have a recipe for lifelong happiness. Besides having a smart, handsome, funny and wonderful Mr Fixit husband of 25 years—and two great kids. My secret is that I have always had another passion of some type to motivate me and feed my soul. For years it was work. Then, when I quit to stay home with kids it was tennis. Now I live for horse riding/jumping. No matter how my day goes otherwise, I always have that to look forward to, to excite and energize me. Those moments of ‘flow’ when I don’t think about anything else but riding and my horse. I wouldn’t trade my stable time for anything! I tease my husband and tell him I’m going to see my other man. But his warm hearted acceptance of my need to be happy is just another reason I love him. But even if I lived alone, I would still need some great activity or a passion in my life. I feel very lucky to have found more than one ( first tennis, then riding). In summary, keep searching til you find your heart’s greatest desire or passion. Then pursue it!!

  • Cheryl January 5, 2012, 8:39 pm

    I rarely wake up in a foul mood even when I’ve had a sleepless night. I make sure I touch my man, I do deep detox breathing, focus on my kids and man so we can share the morning meal together, then I take some time to prepare a smoothie or juice and I physically move my body after everyone is off to where they need to be. Before 10am is “me” time to walk, run, yoga, journal and bathe. Then I let the world in.

  • Linda January 5, 2012, 8:07 pm

    You make me want to jump on board and go for it. Something I’ve always wanted to know is how to be the woman I want to be, with whom I am in perfect harmony. Wouldn’t you have it, I was basically raised in an all woman home. When will you be in Sacramento, CA? I want to break dance in the mornings too…

  • Sandy January 5, 2012, 7:40 pm

    Mama Gena we neeeeeeed you to come to Australia……pleeeease!!! I saw you at RHHLive in NY last October and will never forget Goddess you being carried on the shoulders of some very excited men.

    You are such a delicious and inspirational dish!!!!

    Your blog is so perfect for where I am and what I’ve experienced already today!!!

    I woke this morning, did my meditation to help me start the day with a fresh perspective and recognise that this new day brings endless and exciting possibilities.

    Then something miraculous happened, for the first time in my life I could say with a genuine sincerity, “Sandy you are a truly beautiful woman” and I really felt it in my body and believed it in my heart. Wow, that’s never happened with such deep knowing before!!

    I also thought I would call my journal “Grateful and Graceful ” and then to read your blog I see ‘gratitude and grace’.

    You have given me extra pizazz to make this day magnificent…..hugs and kisses

    Sandy xxxx 🙂

  • UpNorth January 5, 2012, 6:10 pm

    I’m a day person.
    When I op en my eyes, I’m awake. Zero to hundred in a flash of second.
    I make coffee, cause I love to drink it and the smell is so good.
    And when I’m a t the sink I see the most awesome view there is to be seen and it makes me feel grateful for where I am. Geographically and mentally.

    I undress and admire my slim body in the mirror.
    Dang, I look good today! Again 🙂
    Who said men look better when they age?
    All natural radiance, confidence, energy.
    Take a shower (I don’t just look good, I feel good too).

    I do my hair, put clothes on, drink coffee, orange juice, eat bread.

    Another day of giving and learning.
    Of laughing and supporting
    Of setting boundaries
    Another day of owning me!
    Another day to enjoy.
    Watch me: here I come.

  • Gypsy January 5, 2012, 4:30 pm

    I have been the WORST morning person all my life so to revolutionize my AM approach, I started waking up very slooooooowly. Instead of forcing myself to jump into the shower right away, I instead have begun drinking my coffee exactly the way I like it, eating something fantastic for breakfast (I’m always starving first thing!), reading blogs I love, letting my puppy outside, throwing in a load of laundry, prepping last minute touches for the days outfit and basically doing most of the things I would have done AFTER my shower in the past. This gives me plenty of time to gradually wake up and makes the whole process of showering, drying and styling hair and make up application somehow much more tolerable at that early hour! I had a dimmer switch installed in the bathroom and keep the lights dim which is so much easier for me to take when I first wake up. I also started using peppermint body wash which really helps me wake up and have begun planning really beautiful and more elaborate work outfits to enhance the pleasure of getting ready for the day. It’s amazing what a little change in routine can do for my morning mood!

  • Glitzy Cougar Karen January 5, 2012, 2:49 pm

    Your story knocks me out every time I hear it and I am inspired everytime because you have inspired me!
    With pleasure born out of your despair, you have changed my life (and my adorable daughter’s, Storm Lauren).

    As for morning rituals? Well, lately it’s been answering all the emails I am getting on okCupid…from hot guys, and is directly resulting from all I have learned here.
    Mostly, I move slowly out of bed, put on some sensuous music and writhe and stretch on the floor to wake up my body…say my gratitudes, journal, meditate…then go sing and get about my day…
    It’s good to be a Goddess! And I am a rockin’ one (thanks, sista:)

  • Earth Empress January 5, 2012, 2:19 pm

    Ahhh, morning rituals are magical…mine keep me slim, sensuous and radiant!
    I am awakened naturally with morning light and kisses from my man and our kids- that’s my alarm clock.

    I don’t even get out of bed until I am in alignment with myself through deep gratitude. Then my system 7 Sacred Rivers to keep a Women in her Flow: Release, Receive, Reflect, Reconnect, Relax, Renew, Revel.

    Fire Water. Skin Brushing and Coconut Butter ALL over. Feline stretching and early morning barefoot in the forest. Music, essential oils and beauty scent my mornings and is the energy I bring with me before beginning my work day which connects me with women around the world, which I LOVE.

    Thank you for transforming despair into the aroma of Pleasure for yourself and the world, Darling Mama!
    I look forward to sharing my sacred beauty rituals with you and Sister Goddesses everywhere, anytime:)

  • KatPE January 5, 2012, 2:17 pm

    Actually… Tommy Edison really didn’t give us electricity. Look up Nikola Tesla, and the War Of The Currents. The AC power we use every day, as well as radio, is the genius of a man who died a pauper, was cheated by edison, when he solved an “unsolvable” problem (to edison) and Tommy refused to pay… and who most americans don’t even know about.

    He also wanted to give us free worldwide power, and developed it on Long Island.., but when JP Morgan realized there was no place to put a meter to bill the public, he pulled the plug on the funding.

  • Kathleen January 5, 2012, 2:06 pm

    I used to not be a morning person, but now I am. I am because I remind myself that I have lived to see another day. I often remind myself of the things I am glad to have and I remind myself that I am capable of having more if I choose to do the work.