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The worst news you could ever hear


That body of yours?
Yeah, her.
She has so much to say.
But do we listen?
She takes so much heat from us.
So much criticism.
Endless demands.
And sometimes—yes, sometimes—she turns up the volume so loud that we just have to pay attention.
Which always works in our favor, when we do.
I want to introduce you to a very special Sister Goddess.
Her body put her in a total headlock. Read on to see how she handled one of the most challenging situations a woman can confront…

I was 44 years old.
Trying for over a year to have a baby on my own, since I hadn’t had a boyfriend in several years, and didn’t know how or when I would find a partner.
My writing career was going nowhere.
And then I got the news that every woman dreads.
I had breast cancer.
It wasn’t so much that I feared for my life.
I feared for my femininity. For my womanhood.
After four smaller surgeries, it was time for the big one. And I did a crazy thing.
I went to the intro for MGSWA Mastery Program.
I’d seen a dear friend absolutely blossom after doing Mastery. And I was desperate to not unravel.
I went up to Mama Gena at the end of the intro, and told her my news. She put her hand on my breast, to say goodbye, and to wish me safe passage. It was such a loving and unexpected gesture, and I signed up for the course that night. Deep inside, I knew the surgery would handle my cancer, but I needed a place to process everything I’d been through, to get it OUT, to find my pleasure, and even more, to build my self-esteem, which had always been fragile at best. I didn’t yet know it, but I needed to re-create myself into the woman I was meant to become.

Deb at the Mastery Miami weekend

I know of no better place for re-creation than Mastery.
All of my fears, my grief, my sadness, my disappointments were welcomed with open arms. I learned how to feel—really feel—rather than run from feelings that I was scared would take me down. And I learned to love myself—every single inch.  Mastery drilled out those old negative beliefs I had of myself, and replaced them with radical self-love and pride in who I am. I have never felt anything more powerful than the magic that Mama Gena creates in that room. Not to mention the Sisterhood. I think all women need Sisterhood to make their dreams and desires come true. And especially to get through the crisis of self-image I was facing.

The first day of Mastery was 9 days after my surgery, and I actually stood up the very first morning of class, and said out loud, “I just had a mastectomy of my left breast.” I could not believe I was saying these words to 200 women I did not know. Mastery gave me a courage that had been waiting to emerge full-force. Mastery gave me the courage to be me. Me, unvarnished. Me, not faking it. Me, being really me, for the first time. I recall all 200 of those women standing up and clapping for me, but it’s a bit of blur. I do know that this huge self-doubt I had been living with began to fall away, replaced by sisterhood and love. Over the next months, not only was I on the learning curve of my life, because Mastery is the most incredible education on being a woman I could ever imagine, but I began to discover talents I never knew I had. There were amazing writing assignments, and I rocked ’em—even read a few out loud. There were also opportunities to perform, which I hadn’t anticipated, and I went for the talent show. Imagine this: a few months after a mastectomy, and I’m performing onstage wearing a sexy ensemble and singing out loud. And I got a standing ovation!

There were other transformations, too. I know a lot of women have body issues, feeling nervous when they go to the beach. But imagine how I felt when we all had to go to Miami for the weekend. I hadn’t dated since my surgery—and a bathing suit? Are you kidding me? But you can’t believe the support I received from the women in Mastery, who I now think of as my Sisters. They knew I was scared, so a bunch of them went out and bought me these big star-shaped pasties to cover my scar. Remembering that brings tears to my eyes. My sisters gave me the courage to go to the beach, to dance at the parties, and yes, to flirt with the cutest guy in the room. I felt sexy, and that never would have happened for me without their support.

At graduation from Mastery 2008

Mastery not only gave me my life back, it also started me on a whole new creative pathway. I found out I love to perform, so I wrote a one-woman show for myself. I’ve performed it in New York City, and next month, I take it to LA. My shows are important for women, because I can showcase my adventures of reclaiming my power, which I hope will inspire other women to reclaim theirs. I have now written and performed a total of 3 shows, and have found my creative voice. Also, I had an amazing relationship with a beautiful man after Mastery. While I am no longer with him, as we were not ultimately right for each other, I wanted to really celebrate dating him. I was able to risk myself in love, and have a committed relationship for the first time in years, because of everything I learned in Mastery. Remember, I had not had a boyfriend for a long time, before Mastery, and after the program I found myself navigating a hot and healing relationship. Quite an accomplishment.

So. Here before you, you have a woman who has more than I ever imagined. A healthy, strong body. A thriving career as a writer and performer. And a fun dating/love life. I am on the adventure of a lifetime. And when I lose my way, which all of us do now and then, I have a whole community of support and the Tools and Arts that Mama Gena created, that allow me to find myself over and over again. I’m never lost. I wish the same for every woman.

Deb (a.k.a. SG Meow Meow)

p.s. My new & improved breasts are awesome. 🙂

There you have it: an extraordinarily brave woman who used the raw material of her greatest challenge to sculpt herself into her greatest work of art. Not bad for someone once on the verge of unraveling, in the face of a life-threatening diagnosis, dontcha think? I want you to know that every woman is capable of this remarkable feat of reinvention, with the Womanly Arts and Tools at her fingertips and the Sister Goddess community at her back. If you feel your next greatest adventure tugging inside you as you read these words, join me in Mastery.

In the comments below, tell me in what way Sister Goddess Deb’s story speaks to you; what’d you see, what’d you notice, what’d you get?

And if you’d like to encourage another woman to listen to the next great adventure whispering inside her, please share this post.

With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. Mastery’s less than three weeks away—if you’ve still got questions about the program, our course graduates are lined up to give you one-on-one attention. Call us at 212-787-2411 x1 or click here to schedule a free pleasure consultation.


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  • S.G. little jo July 16, 2013, 7:07 am

    wOw wOw and wOw – on top you’re looking glorious! Another story describing the miracle of MamaGena’s method, thx for sharing lovely Sista…

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  • Liliana Sacarin February 26, 2013, 11:13 pm

    This is an amazing illustration of the miracle of the SWA training and the empowerment that Regena creates so that women can tap into and literally EMBODY their newly found feminine power like never and nowhere before!

    • mama gena February 27, 2013, 3:31 pm

      what a gorgeous thread –amazing comments and celebration of the power of WOMAN!!!!

  • Cheryl February 26, 2013, 9:29 pm

    Thank you, Deb, for sharing your story. I’ve been sitting on the side lines or shall I say stalking Mama Gena’s site and blogs for some time now. Your story has inspired me to find out more about Mastery, even the tools, for the sisterhood available to me and all women.

  • Sister Goddess Laura February 26, 2013, 3:31 pm

    Love this story. Every moment is an opportunity for growth and you are just blossoming.
    I went to my first Mama Gina event last month and I am hooked on the energy of it ALL. Signed up for Mastery that day and can’t wait to see what happens.
    Also can’t wait to give and get the support of the Sister Goddess community.

    • robin Kahn February 26, 2013, 3:59 pm

      You will be so blown away by the love and support! It truly is an amazing community. Welcome!

  • Ruby Red February 26, 2013, 1:09 pm

    Deb, you are so awesome!! Thank you! 🙂

  • Deborah Smith February 26, 2013, 1:06 pm

    Dear SG Meow Meow, aka SG Deb,
    Thank you for the oh so powerful sharing. You rock! I hope you will be having a show in NYC around one of this years Mastery weekends as I would very much like to see your art.

  • Veronyca February 26, 2013, 12:21 pm

    Hi, Deb,

    you were in my pod, and I remember how amazingly you were, and how beautiful it was to see, and understand. Will look forward to seeing your show when you’re back in New York! “Break a leg” for your performance in L.A.,

  • Abiola February 26, 2013, 11:40 am

    Thank you for having the courage to share your story with everyone, you gorgeous goddess!

  • Sherrie Huckelberry February 26, 2013, 11:15 am

    Thank You for your shareing your selflove and haveing the wisdom and courage to place yourself in the vibration of Mastery Program.

  • Crina February 26, 2013, 10:08 am

    I hate to say it…but I have to say it: cancer was the best thing that happen to me. Not my child, not my happy marriage, which all happened afterwords, after the wake-up call! Cancer was the call that I needed to get me to the next level…to get me thinking about life and what it’s meaning is, to get up and create the life I want! The reminder that we are mortal, helped me create the life I wanted. No more waiting for the right time to take care of me and my wants! And it all came together. Life is funny and wonderful, isn’t it!?!

    • S.G. little jo July 16, 2013, 7:03 am

      quite frightening too… why do we need wake-up calls? I’d wish we were living in a world where the Womanly Arts and Tools would be teached to every girls in schools…

  • Julie Clancy February 26, 2013, 10:05 am


    I met you after your first Mastery, when you were well on your way to becoming the amazing transformed goddess that you are today. After reading your story, I have even more admiration for your courage and your willingness to be transparent and take such huge risks. I have only known you as a hot and mesmerizing performer! I never imagined you otherwise! Thank Goddess for Mastery. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

    xo Julie Clancy

  • SG Kiss Me All Over Kate February 26, 2013, 9:12 am

    What a powerful post! Helps me to reconnect, inside, with the jet fuel that is Mastery – 200 sister goddesses unleashed. Returning to NYC for mastery weekends always felt like slipping back into a love bath. Ah… thank you for the reminder and for sharing such a profound and powerful story.

  • Ellen Levin February 26, 2013, 9:09 am

    BEAUTIFUL SG. This is inspiring beyond words. Reading of your transformation and the journey you are now on because of mastery gives me emotional chills. I, too, feel the same about my mastery experience. I came upon mastery 2012 through a dear friend. I had just broken off a relationship with a man I loved and was recovering from horrendous eye surgeries. Because of the tools and community, I now love and cherish every day of my life. I am loving myself (practicing radical self love as you say) and going for what I desire every day! I AM NEW! I am doing this next mastery (2013) knowing what I want from it. It feels like it will be icing on what is already a great great cake! Last year’s mastery 2012 changed my life forever and I’m doing this next mastery 2013 to go for MORE MORE MORE! and then some!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • robin Kahn February 26, 2013, 8:06 am

    Wow, SG Deb, I love your honesty and though I know you, I’ve never really heard your entire story. You really nailed what Mastery is, how it does drill out those negative beliefs. It did it for me without my even knowing it. Subconsciously, on a cellular level, we change, despite ourselves. Thank you for sharing this very inspiring story and I am so proud of your transformation! I have been privileged to watch it unfold — and I so wish we could bring in every one of our friends, right??!

  • Lovely Rita February 26, 2013, 7:21 am

    Thank you SG Deb for sharing your transformation story! You rock! I am teary eyed at your bravery and smarts and honesty. I get it-I hear it-as an 6 time orientation attendee, who finally signed up for Bootcamp-saw the rapture in Miami-and some how said yes to Mastery 2013 (gulp). Let’s get to drilling out those negative beliefs! I don’t want my body throwing me a curve ball-I want to listen to her, honor her, and enjoy a hot happy life in pleasure. Goddess I hope I can uncover a hidden talent! My job is good but I want it to be grand-or have some f-ing fantastic stuff on the side! I have an amazing guy in my life, after 15 years of singleness. I have so much, along with the nagging feeling there is so much more. Mama Gena is magic, but magic we can all do and be. I am handing myself over in March-I’ll be the one with the tissues-and alot of happy awesome holy shit she’s the bomb tears! Goddess bless all my sister goddesses!

    • Tiger Zane February 26, 2013, 11:22 am

      Congratulatons Sister Goddess Rita… what a bold and powerful jump you have taken… I KNOW you are going to LOVE it… Have fun!
      xo SG Tiger in Seattle

  • julia February 26, 2013, 7:18 am

    hello mama, i feel so alive, happy, enjoyable, touchy some point. i really admire your talks everything you send to me i printed from my computer, read again lying on my back, lough, weeping, talk to myself, questioned to myself. oh i love you so much, God bless you.

  • Genevieve Parker Hill February 26, 2013, 7:05 am

    WOW! What an amazing story. The whole thing was incredible, but the two things that really stuck out to me were 1) that S.G. Meow Meow knew intuitively that the surgery would heal her, but also that she needed support through it. And 2) that she kind of threw herself into this crazy performing situation before she was ready (she was still in shock from her mastectomy) and discovered that she had a talent for being in front of large groups.
    Okay I lied. There was one more thing that stuck out to me – the star-shaped pasties to cover her scars! I love that!!!! Why do I love it? Because it says “I’m always going to figure out a way to have fun and feel sexy… no matter what!” xoxoxoxoxooxo

  • SG MagicMirna February 26, 2013, 7:02 am

    What a GODDESS!! What shining courage and superwomanly SWA powers you have. You are such an inspiration to me. An amazing Creatrix. I am so happy to be a part of Spring Mastery 2013 and cannot wait. I would love to see one of your shows. Thank you for being such a beautiful real example of woman. XX

    • mama gena February 27, 2013, 3:29 pm

      so glad her inspiration is stretching all the way to singapore!!!!