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Say yes to the impossible – here’s how.

Let’s dive in.
I have something I want to talk to you about. Something I am passionate about, and fierce for.

I want to talk about your magic. Your creativity. Your mark. Your way.
About how to take a dream and set it on its feet.
About how sensual magic works.
Magic that every woman has.

Every person has it, actually.

Living magic. The magic of living your life as if you were a continually creating – and recreating – work of art. The magic of taking a stand to live your dreams and desires, on this earth, in your lifetime.
Which is not an easy row to hoe.

Because what is a desire, anyway?
Certainly, it is not something you crank up, willfully, out of your imagination.
The word Desire comes from the Latin word desiderare, to “long for, wish for,” and perhaps “await what the stars will bring,” from the phrase de sidere “from the stars”.

Desire is the interface between you, and that which is greater than you.
It’s the star that reached for you at the precise moment you looked up and noticed it.
Desire contains tension, hope, expectation, action.
Desire is a divine seed planted inside you, that you, only you, can create the growing conditions for.

Or not.
You can kill a desire.
So many women, right now, run from their desires. Shy away from their desires. Bury them alive.

Buried magic is dangerous.
Without warm, human love and listening, without delicious welcome and careful attention, a desire will dim down, turn on you and extract its price.
It will eat away at your heart, body, mind, and soul. It will take away your life force. It will kill your enthusiasm. Zap your health. Dull your senses. Crucify your courage. Replace itself with anger, seething under the surface, evaporating your joy.

You see this every day. You walk down the street and see people who are alive but not living. Depression. Resignation. Substance abuse. Illness. Addictive behavior. Eating disorders.

And then, the opposite is true.
You can allow your desire to flourish within you, which will cause an extraordinary chemical chain of events, within and without you.

Living your desire is an adventure like no other.
Every day is a hairpin turn. A huge effort that leaves you winded and proud. Filled with chills and thrills at the mark you have made on the planet and its inhabitants. This world is forever changed because of your presence.
You stretch out in your bed at night, knowing you have given your all, played your hand; you have shown the f*ck up.

This world wants to be changed by you. By your desires. Your voice. Your impact. Your legend. And your current suffering can be traded in, any time, for a life of living your dreams and desires.
This is not easy.
It is a bitch, actually.
It requires courage beyond courage. It will press you and change you and force you to become your destiny. Which is never aligned with what you imagine your life will look like. It is always way better. But it might feel like shit. Yet, it is yours.

I want you to taste your destiny.
I want you to live your dreams.
I want the earth to feel the impact of you, the way your foot presses itself beautifully and perfectly into the sand, forcing the sand away, making room for the imprint of you.

Think of a desire you have. Could seem frivolous. Could seem deep.

For example, I know one desire making its way throughout this community these days, is to join me in Miami this November. (Haven’t received an invitation yet? If you desire to join us, click here and we’ll try to find you a seat.)

Hmmm. A weekend with me, and hundreds of Sister Goddesses, in Miami.
Could seem frivolous, could seem deep. It is all that and more.

For some of you, living this desire is as easy as pulling out your credit card and booking flights and hotels.
For some of you, it is tremendously more than that.

For some of you, living this desire seems impossible. It’s negotiating time off work, organizing childcare, taking the painful and essential step of asking for support. Finding a way to patch together the funds for the flight. Organizing hotel rooms to share. Trying something new. Pushing past your comfort zone.

Every woman must find her own way to say yes, when her stars light her pathway and beckon her forward into an adventure that incessantly whispers her name.

And the precise measure of the resistance is the precise measure of the gain. When we resist our desires, it’s a clear indication of the miraculous magic that awaits you on the other side of your ‘yes’.

Today, I want to invite you, implore you, and inspire you to live your desires in a very brave way. Push your edge, no matter what your desire is, to explore the many ways to say yes to something that seems impossible.

Let’s practice this in the comments below – here’s what I want you to do now:

  • First, list at least 2 or 3 desires you have.
  • Then – tell me all the reasons why they can’t happen.
  • And then, as if you were made of magic (which you are), give me one step that you are going to take, today, to leave your mark on the world and set your dream on its feet.

p.s. If one of those desires of yours is to come join me in Miami this November, and you do not yet have an invitation to join us, your one next step is easy: Click here to let us know, and we’ll see if we can find you a seat.

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  • SG Sacheen October 9, 2014, 3:11 pm

    What do I desire?

    1. Financial freedom and independence. The ability to live the life that I see in my head. To do “work” on Monday (or a few weeks a month) that supports my lifestyle and my future with free time in between.
    2. To teach, help and motivate people over 30 as a Transformational Nutrition and Life Coach (see, I have a title already set!).
    3. To walk deeper into my Goddess practice and worship and build that into my life and business.
    4. To write words that resonate and inspire others.

    Why don’t I?

    1. I have a bad money blueprint and that needs to change.
    2. I am overweight and not active anymore. I have stifled my desire and she is biting back with a vengence.
    3. I hide my goddess worship so as not to offend people around me for fear of censure and exclusion.
    4. Though I endured the rigors of getting a doctorate, the experience was brutal and I absorbed the belief that I am an imposter and not really good enough to be listened to.

    What can I do?

    1. I have started working on changing my thoughts around money and how to make it work for me by getting some professional coaching.

    2. Still working on all the rest.


  • Stacey October 4, 2014, 6:28 pm

    I’m sitting here reading this to the sound of racing cars on the TV trying to focus on 3 desires. I’m realizing the desires I have seem to be roadblocked by the same three things – money, time, and weightloss.
    …I desire a fun, sexy night with my husband. We never seem to have time or money for though. The logical thing to do would be to plan it out better but it seems like our plans get broken a lot. I would love a simple walk by the river and a thoughtful conversation but he seems to think we need to spend money or it isn’t a date.
    …. I desire a body that does’t hurt so much and is considerably smaller. I’ve had a very hard time losing weight and will be speaking with my doctor later this month. I’m not sure what else to do on that front.
    ….I would like to travel to someplace I’ve never been and spend a few days wandering about and exploring. The “can’t” comes back to time and money and I’m out of ideas.

  • Kady October 1, 2014, 9:32 am

    Morning Regena and Sister Goddesses,
    My desire are to:
    1. Heal from my traumatic childhood wounds and transform that horror to beauty, light, trust, vulnerability and creativity. To continue to encourage my creative talents in art (painting), singing and playing the piano, fashion design, gardening, flower arranging and so much more. This can’t happen because I am scared of the demons in me, scares of the vast grief and anger I feel might overwhelm me, never coming back from feeling those insane feelings.
    2. Meeting my soul mate and being in a deeply intimate, committed relationship with a man who is kind, adoring, adventurous, spiritually evolving, financially abundant, honest and trustworthy. Oh, and playful and fun! This can’t happen because there are not enough men out there for me to have just one, my own, full time adoring husband.
    3. To have my own company that is centered around flowers, the beauty of nature, art and pleasure. To launch my company KadyBloom and share all I have learned in my life. To make the company financially sound to provide a living for me and a charity for people with cancer. Fear is what gets in the way. Not knowing what to do. Not knowing how to find it. Not wanting to sacrifice my lifestyle and fail.
    4. My desire is to let go and be all of the creative force I know is in me! To give it all to the last drop! To express it all. My fears of letting go are immense. I have to be perfect, I don’t want to fail, I am all alone, no body will help me. Those are my obstacles.
    And those are my desires right now.
    Thank you for the listening and the space to put it out there.

  • Linda Koehl October 1, 2014, 7:10 am

    The one step I’m going to take today to make this happen is dress up for work and feel gorgeous, march in, sit down at my computer, and not stop until I come up with at least five billionaires to contact about this property–and talk to at least of them or their assistants!!

  • Linda Koehl October 1, 2014, 7:02 am

    1. I want to sell the largest luxury horse breeding and training facility in Texas for $153 million. I will present it to Sheik Mohammad bin Rashid al Maktoum, ruler of Dubai, and Princess Haya, his equestrienne wife, and they will be so greatful that I found it for them and buy it immediately! Her father donated the jeweled ceiling for the foyer many years ago (a coincidence that leads me to believe it is destiny for them to own it). I see and understand connections that other people don’t. I have the instinct to put this together.

    *But who am I? A dental hygienist of 36 years who became a realtor on April 1st of this year? Who am I fooling? I don’t have enough expertise or sophistication to pull this off! And how in the world am I going to show them the property–or even tell them about it?

    2. I would love to love myself! Rather than trying to make others love me to feel good about myself, it would be so great to have feeling that I am 100% fabulous without any ‘good deeds’ and ‘good girl’ behavior! I am officially making friends with my inner bitch and vixen. At 56, it’s high time that I take care of my own pleasure!

    * But who am I kidding? I am too old, 20 lbs overweight, and live in a small town with an aging husband and a 14-year old son. Why am I being so selfish? It’s not about me, it’s about them.

    • Tiiu October 8, 2014, 5:14 pm

      Musi, kallis! Of course you can sell it to them! Just trust and imagine, and the craziest things happen, coincidences that go beyond anything we thought possible!
      Just a little story…
      Imagine a … but let that be – that would be about me and not you. You, however, could write them a letter, reminding them of the beautiful ceiling they helped to create and letting them know this property is now for sale…

  • SG Smita September 30, 2014, 10:07 pm

    Well Mama! Here are mine
    1. I desire Miami 2014 and a white Christmas
    2. I desire really hot connected, climatic sex with this guy that is my magician
    3. I desire the tax office to cancel my huge tax debt

  • WD September 30, 2014, 7:57 pm

    1. Continue to move my marriage happily and mindfully in the direction of responsible, transparent, constructive non-monogamy.

    2. Give back 10 pounds of body fat.

    3. Get back to pole-fitness and aerial silks.

    4. Finish my book on personal shamanic practices.

    • Linda Koehl October 1, 2014, 6:47 am

      Oh my goodness, SG WD, we need to talk! How I would love the freedom and honesty of non-monogamy! Your goals are awesome! Mine are nearly the same–deep interest in shamanic practices. They are all around me in South Texas. Would love to chat sometime about what you’d like to accomplish. My number is (830) 591-4430.

  • SG Tahera September 30, 2014, 5:57 pm

    The way I wrote this blog is a reflection of how scramble my life is, I finally finished but it’s like a puzzle trying to put it all together. See what I mean?

  • SG Tahera September 30, 2014, 5:55 pm

    I cannot have my desires because I don’t know exactly what I want to do with my life except be a performer but I am too old, too fat and miss my chance to become famous or be an underground successful performer. Nobody knows me.
    2. I cannot have Nas because he is a celebrity who wouldn’t give me the time of day because e of a lot of the things I mentioned above. I’ve met him a couple of times and they turned out to be disastrous, I got a pic with him the first time but the guy who supposedly to the pic never did and by the time I realized, security would not let me get another one. The second time which was 2 years later, Security almost through me out of the event. So embarrassing. ..
    3. I don’t have time to organize, prepare or clean anything because I’m so busy running the my environment looks likelike a tornado ran through it. I don’t have enough space to keep my things and I will not throw them out because I do use them. I can’t seem to ever be finished doing something, I’m always multitasking. I have so many important things to do and I just don’t have the patience or the energy to keep up sometimes.

  • Eternal sunshine Ronda September 30, 2014, 3:44 pm

    I was so inspired by everyone’s comments that I knew I had to write on even though I didn’t plan on it.

    1. I desire to go to Miami and get a giant hotel room to help as many greedy sister goddesses who need a place to crash as possible.
    2. I desire to travel where ever I want, whenever I want to, with my man. To pack up my car when I’m having a bad day or tired of one city and go somewhere else.
    3. I desire to make oodles of money at my current job and in doing so, show my jackass manager that his critical “pep talks” are toxic.

    I don’t have the money for a huge hotel. The bf and I were planning on driving to Miami cause it would be cheaper. Do they even make big, multi room hotel rooms?

    These can’t happen because they seem to conflict. The last two at least. I can’t travel constantly while working as a financial advisor to my clients in Houston. My boyfriend is in school and want to be an engineer and is obsessed with this city. He won’t want to come. What will we do for money? I have to car to fit just necessary possessions In and travel the country, but will I love it while I’m doing it?

    This job is one where the first 4 years are very difficult. There is a 20% retention rate on a good day. I am almost done with me first year and have small mental break downs in my car on occasion because it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I know this is where I’m meant to be if I can hack it.

    1. I’m going to call my new friend who works in a hotel and see if she can hook me up with a discount. Then I’m going to call me plan be to see what prices they can help me with.
    2. I’m going to take 15min to get rid of things I would not pack up with me in my car.
    3. I am going to make 20 calls tonight to fill up my calendar with meetings to make me some Miami MONAAAAY!

    • Jan September 30, 2014, 3:58 pm

      Best of luck with your career and getting to Miami!!!!! You rock, and you are a goddess at booking the meetings you need! You might be able to find the big hotel of your dreams by RENTING someone else’s time share, which would give you plenty of rooms for SG’s who need a place to crash. Rock on, SG, and pursue your pleasure!!!!!

  • Jan September 30, 2014, 3:31 pm

    I am posting to brag about the wonderful life I am creating for myself, every day. I just returned from a very pleasurable trip to NH, where I was visiting some relatives. We celebrated our time together with AMAZING food, a fantastic party and a really cool trip to the dump swap shop. (Think: unmanned, donation based thrift store). I came home with a car load of goodies…. Several things that I had been working on conjuring into my life. I found a set of dishes JUST like the ones I wanted to use in my fall decorating, party plates for easy clean up when entertaining, a piece of carpet that I REALLY NEEDED for under my quilting machine, and a towel rack that I have been meaning to buy for THREE YEARS!!!!! I love my new goodies, and I invited all of them into my life with my creative juices.! I got home from my trip last night, and my husband invited me for a trip around the block in his classic car. I was THRILLED to be invited on a spontaneous 20 minute date! As I was enjoying the beautiful night, and my husband’s company after my trip, I was celebrating the goodies I had joyously attracted, we drove past a hammock that had been set on the curb for removal!!!! I have had a fantasy of laying in a hammock for the last six months, and have been trying to attract one! My wonderful hubby drove me home and we hopped in my pickup truck to go back and get my new hammock!!!!! It’s going to need a little tlc, but I wanted it, and it appeared in my life….. And my wonderful husband helped me get what I wanted, just because it made me happy!!!!! Creating the life you want is FUN, and I am thrilled and grateful to be a creating sister goddess!!!!!!

  • Lil September 30, 2014, 3:31 pm

    1. to have a wonderful business that is about my work in special needs. I want to be considered an expert, and help as many as I can with my work. I want a running website, that reaches everyone who needs it, everywhere, where I can share my expertise, make exciting games and have new ideas.
    2. a mate. wonderful, funny, with a high sex drive, that thrives to grow and has passion for his work. I desire for him to be gorgeous. I want us to have kids together. I want him to outright tell me he wants to be with me.
    reason I can’t have these two – and I have to be honest about the voices in my head – is I don’t deserve them. I’m too messed up, started too old, have waaay to much of a screwed up past. can’t believe i can be loved, by anyone. how can I be a center of such a successful business? or be chosen by anyone as a partner?
    what I’m going to do:
    1. get my financial and life stuff in order. get help with organizing.
    2. give 100% at work. go to higher and higher places.
    3. work on alternative inner voices – I am loved by my friends and community, I can be loved by a wonderful man.
    4. continue to treat myself, wear makeup, do my hair, make my house fun and pretty. make my food amazing and colorful. continue to create. I want to be happy and satisfied when he comes.

  • SG Tahera September 30, 2014, 2:52 pm

    I didn’t finish,
    3. I desire to be organized and prepared and clean when it comes to my houses, business and lifestyle.

    • Tiiu October 8, 2014, 5:06 pm

      Oh, yes! Yes, and more! May your desires come through and shine on me, too! 😉

  • SG Tahera September 30, 2014, 2:49 pm

    I have so many desires I don’t know which three to choose from. I think I will try to choose the most compelling ones in my head right now.
    1. I desire to have a job doing something I love like fitness, health and entertainment, performing songs on tour where I can travel or live in 4 different states. NY, MIA, LA and Hawaii.
    2. I desire to be with Nas who is a famous rapper. I long for him to see me and grow in love with me and

  • Annette September 30, 2014, 2:05 pm

    I desire to be a competing professional ballroom dancer with a pro partner and at least three competing students.
    Why can’t this happen? In the world of dance, at 52, I am considered OLD. I got a late start on dancing, unlike most pros, who started somewhere between ages 3 and 20. I am a female in a male-dominated industry, where talented, male teachers easily develop a roster of 10 to 20 students, with several who compete. I live in a town where there’s close to zero demand for female teachers who want to work with competing students. Heck, there’s close to zero demand for competing, male teachers here. I just quit the studio where I worked as the pay sucked, the hours sucked and the bosses were extremely disorganized — OK, that’s kind of a brag, but it also creates some fear about making my desire come true, as now my primary connection to the dance world is gone. Maybe I’m not good enough.
    Steps I can take today: Practice my own dancing by myself. Study competition videos of world-class dancers. Live and breathe and exude DANCER in everything I do. Tell the high-level amateur couple that I coach in yoga that I really want to find at least a very serious practice partner and ask if they know anyone.

    • Sister Goddess Karen September 30, 2014, 2:36 pm

      I can see you drawing in not only the partner but the students, not just because you’re fabulous at what you do but because they can’t stay away from the pull of your passion and unique gifts as a teacher and dancer…the most successful entertainers are the ones we feel drawn to, not for technical talent but for their divine essence. Great desires!

    • SGDonna October 1, 2014, 11:49 am

      Terrific desire, Annette! There are senior comps which you can participate in with a pro partner. Here is one website to check out:
      Go to the competitions link (I suggest the British Open Championships) and look for the senior comps. You will have to pay to see the whole comp, but it is worth it! I saw many senior couples competing in Blackpool and they were wonderful.
      As for finding a pro partner, asking the amateur couple you coach is a great idea.

  • rachel September 30, 2014, 1:50 pm

    alright the bunch of you!!! i’m not answering the questions!!! bragging time !! i’m 45 years old and the survivor of a 20 plus year domestic violence marriage!! i have post traumatic stress disorder from the physical,mental and emotional abuse. the piece of shit had me to the point i tried to kill myself. i spent a week in the hospital-a nice vacation from my life. i had the s.o.b arrested-best thing i have ever done! about 2-3 years later my george and his family moved in next door! romance novel brought to life ladies!!!!! george is 14 years younger than me and granted a few rough edges [which i love]and some minor training involved[no big deal either] every thing is possible!! now i’m still cleaning up bull from previous marriage cuz that piece of crap didn’t pay for divorce & wouldn’t sign papers so protection from abuse order violations came in handy!! so now after house foreclosure & car repo and misc annoying bullshit it is NOW MY TURN!!! HAHAHAHAHA!!!! DESIRE IS ONLY THE STARTING POINT!!! STOP SLACKING AND GET OFF YOUR ASS AND MAKE IT HAPPEN!!! this just came to me and i’m gonna put it on a shirt!!! put your dreams on paper -there are grants for women and other resources like furniture banks and stuff-it all can be done despite funding or situation. only you put up the walls that hold you in the current situation!! i garden, go hunting and fishing, do a lot of my own car oil changes and brakes, make my scrubs and other repairs for other people, some jewelry making, list goes on. and the female brittany is now helping me hahaha- typing & my /her boy bob is as well! love you all!

    • Tiiu October 8, 2014, 5:04 pm

      You are so gorgeous!
      I can totally relate and you are SO right! F**k this s.o.b., more power to you to go on with with your life full throttle! Yes to YOU!

  • Gina September 30, 2014, 1:34 pm

    I desire to marry a man I believe that I was to be with.
    I desire to have my own cook show on cable television to share with the world the connection between love and food.

  • SG Water Dancer September 30, 2014, 12:15 pm

    1) I desire to fully surrender into this fertile postpartum period for 5 more weeks (or until it feels like enough) and soak up all the love and support of my community. To receive deeply and ask clearly and directly for what I and my family need.
    2) I desire for my husband and I to continue deepening our intimacy, exploring each other sexually and sensually and to keep opening my heart to him no matter what, exciting, surprising, inspiring him through my nourished, sexy-divine-mama presence.
    3) I desire to do my Work in the world, supporting women in trusting and feeding their bodies during the fertile years (pre-pregnancy-postpartum). I desire to be so good at what I do that midwives and health professionals seek me out for my services with their clients.

    Why not? People are going to think in asking too much. They’ll get worn out from me asking for so much. My husband will turn on me and revert to being closed again. He will stop believing in our dream and vision as a family. I don’t have any time to do that with 3 children. There are already many people doing this and with all their shit together online.

    1) write an email to my “grandmothers” to ask for their support in watching my other two kiddos so I can restore and C can do his Work.
    2) appreciate C and continue telling him how turned on I am by him when he is doing what he is passionate about and being an amazing dad. Give him a BJ tonight!
    3) talk with U and GB about ways to work together and tell them about what I envision. Ask for their support in doing this.

    • gina g. October 16, 2014, 10:20 pm

      SG Water Dancer,
      I really enjoyed the way you worded you post.
      You said just exactly what you felt and I see that you know just what it is that you want.
      I some times “think” I know what I really want but then second guess myself. Hope to see more of your postings.
      I too am trying very hard to get control of my own life and if I keep heading like I have been lately. I should be able to FINALLY do it. At my age (63) is sure is about time. I’ve have been wanting to be a writer for about 46 years and the past 5 years have causes enough pain to make my self get on the stick and go after it.

  • Michaela September 30, 2014, 12:06 pm

    I desire to have a multi milllion dollar biz that is made up of countless turned on women and men that want to live BIG.

    I desire to help ppl to be free and know how to create great wealth and success for themselves w/ pleasure and ease.

    I doubt I can do this at times by thinking that I don’t know how to “do” my biz and that I’m not good at it.

    One thing I HAVE done is enroll in a 30 day Law of Attraction course that starts wed, that has been self proven to shift a LOT. And I can also take action and call a million people and trust that I have something magnificent and freeing and that the world wants it.

    Thank you!!! Always! oxo

  • Amy B. September 30, 2014, 11:53 am

    I Desire..
    A) To write and publish a bestselling YA fiction novel
    B) To read tarot professionally
    C) To buy a house on the beach

    I can’t write a novel because I don’t have the time, the skills, the confidence, the creativity to get it done. I can’t read tarot professionally because I already have a full time job that sucks the life out of me and most people would think it was crazy to give up my well established, high paying job to read tarot professionally. I can’t buy a house on the beach because I am underwater in my current mortgage and the new town I want to move to would give me a longer commute and the houses are way expensive!

    Today, I am going to come up with a character for my novel. I will write out her strengths and weaknesses. I will do a tarot reading for someone else just for fun. I will take $30 dollars out of my account and put it in a future house fund and look at pictures of the houses I like in the community I want to move to.

    • Sister Goddess Karen September 30, 2014, 2:32 pm

      These are really fun desires! I can already imagine your readers being drawn in by this fun sister goddess author who reads cards and lives on the beach…

      • laurie September 30, 2014, 3:51 pm

        yes yes yes sister goddess all of this sounds and feels fabulous this is amazing as are you go for it

  • Mirella Love September 30, 2014, 11:30 am

    My desire ( together with SG Jessi) is to be in the middle of the action with the sister Goddesses in Miami. Booked the flight. But Bootcamp came up, we signed up and now no more money to book one of the nice hotels. So it will be a cheap Airbnb.
    So our desire is to be invited by someone (s) to stay in one of those nice hotels.

    Why not:
    SOOO , this can’t happen, who will do such a thing? I am too afraid to ask and be so vulnerable. Had many sleepless nights on it already. the plan: making a video which I backed out in my mind many times.

    Jes and I are making a video, this week, to put on bootcamp forum and put our desire out there. Step today; breathing deeply, trust, pray and mostly have an amazing lot of fun creating the video. So today I will look at some locations where we could shoot.

    Get a fit and radiant body.

    why not:
    I have no discipline for working out. Am overeating very often. Have tried so often already. I just don’t want to do it. I’m 30 pounds overweight… where to start. No time to invest, no time to work out.

    Go dancing today in the yoga room when it’s free.

    Having a wonderful sexual and sensual relationship with my partner

    why not: Am too shy. Afraid to ask him for pleasure. Don’t even know what I want sexually. Feels like mount Everest to climb. So afraid for rejection. Too tired most of the times anyway.

    step today: some self pleasuring and have another peek at my pussy.

    SG Mirella Love

    • SG Love & Acceptance October 2, 2014, 12:54 am

      Dearest SG Mirella Love,
      I so feeeeel your desires as they are some of mine also. I desire Miami because I took Mastery this past spring & it has helped me with loving myself more (hence my sg name) but I still feel I need to shift a lot more. I feel I still allow others opinions to take my dreams away from me. I also want to be in the middle of the sg action in Miami but my fear is no one would want me around or that I wont have enough money to go. I desire soooo much to feel a part of the community and when I am around Sg or talk to them I do feel that but when I am alone I feel like I am living a lie. I have moments of pure magic as Mama Gena talks about but I cant seem to keep the momentum up. I think it is funny that you booked a flight to Miami and I booked a cheap hotel near the hotel. I am having a hard time finding a flight as I don’t know how to navigate searching and booking flights. I would be willing to share my hotel with you if you would like. If you are interested contact me on the boards, email.. or phone…. 413-523-2397. Lisa

  • anoek van praag September 30, 2014, 11:13 am

    Dear mama Gena,
    I have followed you for several years now
    please know that I think it is great what you are doing
    Every time some event comes up I realize, I cannot afford to go, I am one of those women who did not get it together to make enough money to follow joy, so I wish up all a wonderful time. I live in New York (not much longer) so not only do I pay for travel and the workshop, but also for dogcare, which is extravagant
    Thanks for your writings , they inspire me

    • Cordelia Francesca Brabbs September 30, 2014, 4:04 pm

      Anoek…try for the dog care. I’ve been sitting for people for 6 weeks – sitters do it for free. If you’re in NYC you’ll get flooded with applications and can take your pick. So that’s one thing you can cross off the list as a barrier to Miami : )

  • Donna September 30, 2014, 10:51 am

    My dreams are:
    1. To sell my current business for $50,000 so that I can pursue my real dream which is…
    2. To become an artist.
    3. One other dream I have is to live in the French countryside.
    Here are the reasons my dreams can’t happen:
    1. My business is not making money so I have not found anyone who wants to buy it. I know I want that amount of money, but I am not confidently asking for it. Since the business is “my baby” I sense I have mixed feelings about letting it go.
    2. I am afraid that I do not have the inspiration within me to create amazing works of art. I am afraid I will waste a lot of money doing my art and just end up with lots of paintings gathering dust.
    3. I cannot imagine how this dream could possibly happen. It seems like the “impossible dream”
    What I am going to do today:
    1. Today I am going to write a new blog post for my website. I set a goal today to write a post every week as a means of generating more visits to my website and (hopefully) more sales.
    2. Today I am going to spend 15 min. cleaning an area in my house so that I can put art supplies there.
    3. Today I am going to spend 15 min. improving my French language.

    • sgeileen September 30, 2014, 6:43 pm

      Well, I know how you can achieve living in the french countryside for free… if you dont mind working on an organic farm a few hours a day in exchange 🙂 And the light there is better, for your art 🙂

      • Donna October 1, 2014, 11:33 am

        Thank you, sgeileen! I never knew that!

  • Dani September 30, 2014, 10:42 am

    1. Sell millions of records world-wide. I know I can do this.
    2. I desire to be myself in every single situation. Free, fun-loving and adventurous! I feel like this is challenging because I have been in so many social situations where I have felt anxious, unloved and mute.
    3. To go on a motorcycle ride with a handsome, sexy, gorgeous to die for man. Sensitive yet Masculine. Playful, yet mature. I can see this happening but a part of me feels I don’t deserve this – but I know I do!

  • Sister goddess enthusiasm- Maria September 30, 2014, 10:33 am

    1. Have a baby
    I am single I am old I have no husband I have to go to work a lot
    With the baby no one will want to marry me I will be an unwed disrespected lady
    It will be too much work and once I have the baby I still won’t be happy?
    I won’t have enough to help to take care of the baby and every day will be a struggle
    Step for desire – go on eHarmony?
    Confirm fertility doctor appointments?
    Have sex with ex-boyfriend?
    2. Write a book about growing up in Provincetown
    I have no time to actually finish this I never finish what I start no one else really wants to read this book
    Steps for book-
    Call Abby and set up an interview time call jess and set up an interview time

    • Estela September 30, 2014, 6:14 pm

      I have 2 great stories. A girl 41, desperate to have a child, started to see
      fertility doctors. Everyone would say, get a guy!. She used a matchmaker and
      in 3 weeks her life was set with a divorced man.
      The other, 38 desperate was in the synagogue when a lady passed by with a baby. Her desire was unbearable and she prayed with every cell of her body. That month she got pregnant by a friend she was seeing. They got married because she saw this as a sign from Heaven

  • Andie September 30, 2014, 10:27 am

    1. I desire to be a NYT bestselling author of hot contemporary romance. This, I actually know, in my bones, is going to happen.
    2. I desire for one of my book boyfriends to walk off the page, be a real dude and want me. This is absolutely impossible. I’ve been single for over four years and gone on a handful of tepid dates and had another handful of one night stands in that time. I live in a city where available women outnumber available men. Men don’t want to actually date me — they seem to enjoy using me as a human fleshlight and never calling again. The vast majority of messages I get from men that I might want to date on online dating services say something like, “I’m not interested in a serious relationship right now, but I’d really like to put my penis in you.” I also get a lot of straight-up lewd messages that don’t turn me on and harassment on the streets. All the disappointment has made me really angry at men in general and withdrawn. I only occasionally even feel like flirting anymore, and that hasn’t turned out well for me in a while. Also, I’m 32. If I want to find a guy to have a baby with, my time is a’ ticking, which makes me even less attractive to men. Oh, and I’m so fucked up from my childhood that I’m repulsed by men who seem too into me — I find them kind of pathetic — and I’m all about the emotionally unavailable alpha bad boys. Thanks to therapy, I’ve stopped dating terrible lunatics, but I can’t seem to force myself into going on dates with the boring sycophants who seem interested. Today, I’m going to write a list of the reasons why I’ll never meet the guy and burn it. Then, I’m going to do yoga after work and dance while I pack for a family vacation with mom, aunts, and nieces.

    • SG Jill is MAGIC September 30, 2014, 11:15 am

      Mama, this post is so timely for me and I am so so grateful. I have fallen into a deep depression, so out of touch with my desires and my magic, falling prey to a deep despair. You are right, it is hard work to shine your light and to break lifetimes of self-negation.
      I so resonate with Andie’s comment above about men…I truly believe there aren’t any good guys out there for me and I’m like a kid pressed up against the glass when I read other goddesses’ posts about their amazing relationships – I feel like I’m living on another planet!
      It’s hard to desire things that feel impossible…an amazing desirable man who finds me amazing and desirable, who desires to help me heal and expand sexually. I don’t have a step for this one.
      I desire to have a band and to get good at guitar and song writing
      I am too old, I am not good enough, the person i want to be in my band lives across the country, it was a stupid idea
      Mainly I desire to be my happy and confidant self again, to believe in myself and to trust in my gifts and my timing. I desire to be proven wrong about men. I desire to start loving myself again.
      Some actions I can take today are: stop the negative self-talk and say something nice to myself. practice guitar. reach out to my sisters vs isolate.
      Thank you once again for being the Light XO

  • Joie September 30, 2014, 2:49 pm

    My desire is for my book Overcoming Post Childhood-Trauma Disorder: Leave the Nightmare-Live the Dream (250 pp + a workbook of 122pp) to be on the NY Times bestseller list and for entire families to use it to heal themselves and fulfill their potential for outrageous joy and total self-love and self-respect.
    That can happen and I can think of no reasons it shouldn’t. I work at this every day, currently I am creating my author platform of a website and blog (bloody complicated!). I love you to pieces Mama Gena!!! xox