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Will your 80’s look like this? (The Story of Bebe Weiss)

Are you looking forward to your 60’s? 70’s? 80’s? 90’s?
Or does the thought of aging scare you?
Are you afraid of losing your beauty?
Your sexuality?
Your risk taking?
Doing work you love?
Being loved?
Can you guarantee that your life will continue to get better and better and better over time?
Or is each day a day of walking closer towards ‘less’?

Last night we had a birthday dinner for my Mom. We were on Fire Island, with a houseful of friends, her fiancé, Ted, and her granddaughter.
I cannot reveal her precise age, but, safe to say, she is closer to 90 than she is 60.
Although truth be told, she looks closer to 60.
Now, let’s talk about my Mom. Many of you know her. She works with me and my team at every Mastery.
What does she do?
She is the Bubbe. The Grandmother. The Wise Woman.
Her arms and lap are available to every woman who requires them. And you know, every woman requires the capable love and eyesight of a seasoned woman to guide her on her journey in this life.
She is a rare jewel, my Mama. And she enriches Mastery beyond measure.
But today I want to take you behind the Bubbe, into the extraordinary life of Bebe Weiss, a School of Womanly Arts Graduate. This is a story of what is possible with The Womanly Arts at your fingertips.

Last month, Bebe zip lined.
Yup. You heard me.
Watch the video.

We were at Big Mountain in Whitefish, Montana, last month. And my daughter asked her to come along, and she agreed.
This is a woman who never says ‘no’ to an adventure. Who always lives a big ‘YES!’ when it comes to taking risks.
She takes more risks and goes on more adventures than most women half her age.

She has been dating the love of her life for the last year, and has been engaged since February. I have never ever seen her happier.
They sing show tunes together, nightly, as Ted plays the piano.
They go to movies, concerts, dinners, parties.
He is a remarkable man, and those of you who were in Mastery 2012 got to meet him at Men’s Night. He just published a remarkable book called “If I Am Only For Myself,” which is part memoir and part Jewish political history.
There is a flavor to love, at this time of life, that is very rich, very seasoned, very precious. The deep appreciation of each moment shared is palpable—like a living prayer.

And Bebe still works at a job she loves. Three days a week, she drives to Norristown, Pa., where she works at Hedwig House. Hedwig House, a nonprofit Psychiatric Rehabilitation agency, was begun as a residential program in 1975, which is when Bebe began working with them. In time it evolved into a “Clubhouse” program with 350 “Members” in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania.
Quietly, and with no fanfare, she is the backbone of the organization, loved by all, and has worked there longer than anyone else.

I interviewed Bebe, so you could hear her perspectives on what makes her so hot, healthy and happy.

MG: Mama, how is it you always look so gorgeous?
BB: I eat well, exercise, think positively—which was something I learned from you. Also, I am very interested in style and color—which you learned from me. And I dress appropriately for my age, but sort of sexy.
MG: What are the Arts and Tools you use on a daily basis?
BB: Gratitude, flirting, man-training, and self-care.
MG: How many kids and grandkids do you have?
BB: 3 kids, 8 grandkids.
MG: What are your big desires for the future?
BB: My greatest desire is to stay healthy and vibrant. Which is why what you teach is so important. You can’t stay healthy if you are not turned on to yourself or your life. I want to continue to enjoy my life, and travel with Ted.
MG: How did you initially feel about this work?
BB: When you began, I did not know what it was, or what you were doing, and I thought you were crazy. I did not know how to be a support to you. I did not understand your work. But as I slowly learned about it, and saw what you were up to, I began to support you more and more and feel very proud.
MG: Would you say you are a disciplined person? Is it important for a woman to be disciplined?
BB: Discipline and practice is very important in a woman’s life. It’s not just eating and exercise, but it is especially important—for a woman—to practice the discipline of pleasure. The Womanly Arts are what led me to this incredibly full and happy life, and led me to fall in love with my fiancé Ted. To tell you the truth, I flirted my way into his life! And I really use the man-training every day. I am especially good at acknowledging him, which I never knew about before. And it makes all the difference in the world, and makes our relationship so sweet and intimate. I am so grateful to have learned all this!
MG: Mama, you inspire me.

Work you love that serves and inspires.
Being adored by the love of your life.
Zip lining in Montana.
Living the adventure that is Bebe.
I am deeply proud of my Mama.
And my wish for every woman, no matter her age, is for a life this rich, this full, this outrageously fun and deeply gratifying.

In the comments below, tell me: what does Bebe inspire in you? What would it look like to live the adventure that is you? Tell me what are you going to be like when you’re 80. Take a minute to imagine into that.

I want to give you the keys to creating your own unique version of a life that gets better and better with each passing moment. Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp begins in just three days. If you’re ready to join me, enroll online here or call The Palace at 212-787-2411 x1.

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With so much love and pleasure,
Mama Gena

P.S. Want to hear more adventure stories from a handful of my grads? Watch my latest video here.

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  • Gwyn September 11, 2012, 9:53 am
  • Detox Diva Donna September 8, 2012, 1:18 pm


  • Deborah Smith September 5, 2012, 4:01 pm

    Dear mama Gena,
    I, too, love these assignments and your Bubba is AWESOME!!!
    When I envisioned myself at 80, I always see myself as a sprightly, spunky Strega Nona Bubba. Having read your blog and all the other Sister Goddess’s replies i also now realize that I will still be boogey boarding and tangoing up a storm. I will have the mate of my dreams and we will travel and dance and sing and spend lots of time snorkeling, playing with horses and< or course, boogey boarding!!
    i will be surrounded by friends and family and life will truly be better than ever.

    Thank you.

  • SG Pu-rekini Alison September 5, 2012, 4:17 am

    Thank you Mama for your tribute to your Mama. So inspiring, as always.
    As my daughter heads off to college we received a picture of me from my mama.
    I am 17, my daughter’s current age. The picture made my children laugh. They say that I look just the same as I did at 17. Well that was 38 years ago. I guess I’m doing something right.
    Love and blessings.

  • SG Lois September 4, 2012, 7:50 pm

    It is so inspiring to be living in this time when women in their 80s have the opportunity to still live joyous and passionate lives. Bebe is such a wonderful example to all women. I am 64 and feel that I am more beautiful and happy then when I was 20. My life continues to just get better and better. There are so many adventures that I still want to have and see myself enjoying these adventures when I am in my 80s and longer. I will be traveling and painting and decorating my house. I will be hiking and dancing. I want to live a life that is passionate and without boundaries. I want to live joyously and magnificently.

  • Suzi Banks Baum September 4, 2012, 7:23 pm

    Oh my Beebala! Ziplining!!!! Maggie is the best grandgirlie ever and who could resist her requests?
    Thank you for celebrating your Mom, Mama. Bebe is truly inspiring and to the world-wide audience, she is a poster SG for living a Pleasure-filled life.
    I loved your details in this post because they illuminate what I so love about Bebe. She is loyal in her loving, fierce for others seeing their value- feeling, knowing, sensing and expressing it. Bebe’s life is so well expressed in her face, her smile could light a city, in fact, I think she is one of the hidden power sources for Philly!
    Me, in my 80’s? You will find me body surfing the beaches of the world and living between Paris and the Northwoods with my love, JB. I will have smile lines like Bebe’s and supple hands like hers, still doing my art work, still caressing the sweet faces of the people I love and still lighting up cities with my own brand of light. There are some secrets to be revealed about me in my 80’s, talents I have not yet discovered, places I have not yet fallen in love with, friendships the depth of which I will plumb with grace and hilarity, and new countrysides to be captured in my artwork. I can picture my homes, filled with color and serene spaces, chaotic spaces and plenty of room for my Sisters to stay. I will always be close to water. I will always to close to nature. I will always be near by the places where my art can be shared and enjoyed by everyone. My books will have changed lives and in my 80’s I will still be leading women to discover their own creativity.
    I could go on- I love these homework assignments!
    Thank you again for paving the way for all of us to look forward to our futures. My birthday is on Saturday and it is perfect timing for me to send desires out to the GPS, for this birthday and all the ones I yet to come.
    xoxoox Love and thanks! Suzi

    • Deborah Smith September 5, 2012, 3:55 pm

      Happy Birthday a few days early Sacred Goddess Suzi. So many of your “When I am 80” visions are also mine.

  • Earth Empress September 4, 2012, 5:29 pm

    O wOw!!
    Your mom is so gorgeous, what an inspiration! You are so blessed. Thank you for sharing her.
    I lost my beloved mom when I was 16…I miss her still. She was a gorgeous blonde who literally caused fender-benders when she walked down the street!

    Xxo Shakaya

  • SG More-A September 4, 2012, 3:51 pm

    LOVE this!! Such inspiration. Today is my birthday – 50!?! With gratitude to you and the SWA, I am truly happy-not just smiling for the camera. It does just continue to get better and better and better. Can’t wait for VPBC to begin. My 73 year old mother is joining in, too! Much Love <3

  • Karen September 4, 2012, 3:32 pm

    I intend to STILL be able to cartwheel through life, I’m only 52 and my friends and family are amazed I can still do them 😉

    • Deborah Smith September 5, 2012, 3:50 pm

      NICE on the still doing cartwheels!

  • Laurie September 4, 2012, 2:09 pm

    You both give me hope and cause to be the cool older person I am becoming – the sharing was so wonderful and intimate – when I am 80 I hope to be dancing on the beach, singing lovely songs and enjoying both sunrise and sunset of each and every day. I want to be a wild and crazy no holds barred woman.

  • SGBarbarelle September 4, 2012, 1:53 pm

    Wow! Wow! Wow!

    What an amazing woman! Bebe is so full of life and love.
    Congratulations on two very stylish and impossibly gifted women.

    Love and kisses,

    • regena September 4, 2012, 3:26 pm

      hey barbarelle!! yourself included, i presume….

  • Julia September 4, 2012, 1:02 pm

    Wow, what a woman, and what an inspiration. I have been quite low today listening to other women in my ofice bemoaning getting older and making me feel that depression, Alzheimers and incontinence are all I have to look forward to! And telling me that I should not be blonde, and I should cut my hair, as it is more appropriate for my age. So I am GROWING my hair, and intend to be blonde for as long as I can lift a bleach bottle….if I wanted to be appropriate I wouldn’t be riding a bright red and yellow custom-painted 1100cc cruiser motorcycle………..

    • Deborah Smith September 5, 2012, 3:48 pm

      You GO Sacred Goddess!!!

  • Andrea September 4, 2012, 12:04 pm

    Two cool mamas! Your mom is so vibrant, colorful and a tan beauty! She’s got
    style just like you. Love that she learns from you and is so good at man training! One
    of your best tools! Love you both.

  • Donna September 4, 2012, 9:49 am

    Oh how I love this blog!
    Regena- I love experiencing your love for your Mama. And I love hearing how happy Bebe is!
    I’ll never forget your mama telling me how important it is for me to be happy, and how she held Aden while I sat in Mastery a few weeks after he was born.
    I am grateful for her and I am grateful for you.
    Wishing you all the happiness in the world Bebe- I’m so glad you found love with Ted (he’s one lucky man!)
    As for my future- I’m planning on TONS of laughter, lots of friends and family around, a man who is my best friend, lover and lover of life, a happy healthy son- who also loves life and lives deeply. I will continue to enjoy helping people living authentically through my teachings and books. I will feel the peace in my heart of having lived on purpose- and having shared my love fully, and having ENJOYED LIFE!

    • regena September 4, 2012, 11:07 am

      and so it shall be- or something even better!

  • SG RedChilli Birgit September 4, 2012, 8:38 am

    Dear Mama,
    Bebe inspires me never ever to stop evolving in the art of pleasure and never to say no to an adventure which is put in front of my nose. She is a wonderful example that we always should expect that a good life still becomes better and better when we focus on the things we love to be and have in our lives. Lets say good by to restricting believes about what is aging or other issues. Do not except limits…. there your Mom is so much she is just wow!

    • SG RedChilli Birgit September 4, 2012, 8:39 am

      self eddit: sorry for some spelling … I meant goodbye and accept…. 😀

  • Robin September 4, 2012, 8:32 am

    I have always loved your mama, especially since I lost my own a few months after I took Mastery. She was also a Bubbe and a goddess. There was no man who crossed her path that she didn’t flirt with. She adored men – having grown up with three brothers. And she worked full-time until she was 75 and then did volunteer work at a hospital well into her late 80’s.

    Your mother is a great teacher, I love that she still works and drives three days a week to Pennsylvania! I love that she found a man and they adore each other! And that she went zip-lining!

    I find that this chapter in my life is filled with so much pleasure and fun and I am sure a great deal of credit goes to what I learned from you, Regena. And I think I look better than I have in decades.

    “Joy is the best makeup.” Anne Lamott

    • regena September 4, 2012, 11:06 am

      fantastic, robin!

  • Denis September 4, 2012, 7:33 am

    Hey there MG, How inspiring to hear of women like Bebe. For the past 7 years I have feared more and more the passing of time. Wondering, what will I ever do when I’m old. My kids laugh when they hear my fear. They say I’ll dance and be silly past 100. Then in January of 2012 I met Doris. She comes to the pub that my husband plays guitar at when we are at our vacation home in Fort Myers Beach, Florida. Doris dances every Monday night. She even straps on a guitar and plays air guitar with the boys. Doris turned 100 on May 26th this year and she still makes it out every Monday. Both Bebe and Doris are now my inspiration to love my aging body. My spirit is still very young and frisky, very much loving to shock people and I guess LOVES attention. I belief that all this needed to end once I turned 40 scared me. I have now dropped this belief and will live outrageously full of JOY every day no matter my age. Screw what the ‘Jone’s” have to say.

    • regena September 4, 2012, 11:03 am

      Doris is so inspiring!! Thanks for the visual! What kind of music does she play?

  • BSG Glitzy Cougar Karen September 4, 2012, 7:20 am

    I love this, Bubbe, and need it this year! As I approach 60 on Nov. 2nd, I look in the mirror and say WTF!!! Because I feel better, truly, than I did when I was 30!

    So at 80, I will still be doing work I love, like Louise Hay, whom I met this year (one of my other heroines:), helping people wake up to the grandeur of who they are.
    I will be wildly wealthy so I still learn and study and share and live abundantly.

    I’ll be vibrantly healthy, given all the veggies I have consumed and all the walking and dancing I continue to do. I will be hanging delightfully with my juicy kids, Chris and Lauren, and I will be living deliciously with my guy, the love of my life, (probably younger:), and still wearing lots of bling, because I am, after all, Glitzy Cougar:):):)

    • regena September 4, 2012, 10:55 am

      granny glitzy! coming soon to a zipline near you…..

  • Kirsty September 4, 2012, 6:01 am

    Blessing on you Mama Gena & Bebe for you are Blessings!